Ask us anything part 3

[Giselle Montreal]

I went many times, but even if it was « smoother » back then, it was still very stressful. Now with the political situation, I won’t even try or even take a flight with a stop in the US.

We talked about it often on this board, but it’s probably mixed with other topics.

 

[Vardhan945]

I went many times, but even if it was « smoother » back then, it was still very stressful. Now with the political situation, I won’t even try or even take a flight with a stop in the US.

Fair im not trying to convince anyone to do anything they dont feel comfortable doing...but the political situation is overblown. Canadians come here millions of times a year.
My office has Canadians who fly back and forth regularly with 0 issues throughout 2025.

 

[rightime1]

its so hard to feel good about spending any non-essential time in the USA. for work yes, see family, ok, but other than that, seriously, FUCK OFF.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Fair im not trying to convince anyone to do anything they dont feel comfortable doing...but the political situation is overblown. Canadians come here millions of times a year.
My office has Canadians who fly back and forth regularly with 0 issues throughout 2025.

I think you forget we don’t work in offices? That we can’t work in the US especially not as a SP? My employer is not sending me to a conference in Las Vegas every three months darling.

 

[LC18]

I searched "usa" in this thread didnt see an explanation like Giselle just provided.
So its not really in the room, metaphorically speaking

Even without it being explicitly written here. You should know it’s illegal to do sex work in the US and you should know that the situation there right now is less than ideal

 

[rightime1]

and yeah, wishing for everyone here in MTL to be safe in their work and leisure activities

 

[Frozen]

..but the political situation is overblown.

I don't ordinarily comment on such things and not to pile on here but you're kidding right? I can't tell if you're being intentionally understated or being reductive about the current political climate.

 

[Vardhan945]

I don't think anyone wants a drawn-out political thread, but I'll say my final piece here:

MAGA is full of hot air and theatrical rhetoric. Most of the outlandish stuff they say doesn't pan out to anything materially impactful for most people - in this case, I'm skeptical that Trump's harsh rhetoric and trade war shenanigans will mean a whole lot Canadians crossing the border.

With that being said, another poster here informed me of harsh scrutiny and interrogations faced by SPs coming to the US, so fair enough. I was ignorant of the issues SPs faced specifically.

There are countries the U.S. has serious longstanding tensions or is almost at war with - Iran, China, Belarus.
I've traveled to both Iran and China. Transiting to and back from both countries was mostly fine (got held up and questioned for 2 hours coming back from Iran but it was more annoying than traumatic & I kinda expected it).

I guess I have a much higher risk threshold for changing what I do based on international political tensions.
The shit between the U.S./Canada is child's play compared to that...even though it may be making the news in Canada even most political people here barely think about it.

Hope that clears things up as to why my appraisal of the current political situation is different from everyone elses. Admittedly, I was dead wrong on expecting SPs to come here.

 

[Johnny test]

There is a political section here https://merb.cc/xenforo/forums/politics-religion-international-affairs.79/ just went there and had to wash my eyes.
the reason why there is one is we don't want/allow political discussions elsewhere

 

[LC18]

Regular people with regular jobs have been questioned at the borders and detained. It’s no longer a “suspicious travellers” thing

 

[urquell]

I don't think anyone wants a drawn-out political thread, but I'll say my final piece here:

MAGA is full of hot air and theatrical rhetoric. Most of the outlandish stuff they say doesn't pan out to anything materially impactful for most people - in this case, I'm skeptical that Trump's harsh rhetoric and trade war shenanigans will mean a whole lot Canadians crossing the border.

With that being said, another poster here informed me of harsh scrutiny and interrogations faced by SPs coming to the US, so fair enough. I was ignorant of the issues SPs faced specifically.

There are countries the U.S. has serious longstanding tensions or is almost at war with - Iran, China, Belarus.
I've traveled to both Iran and China. Transiting to and back from both countries was mostly fine (got held up and questioned for 2 hours coming back from Iran but it was more annoying than traumatic & I kinda expected it).

I guess I have a much higher risk threshold for changing what I do based on international political tensions.
The shit between the U.S./Canada is child's play compared to that...even though it may be making the news in Canada even most political people here barely think about it.

Hope that clears things up as to why my appraisal of the current political situation is different from everyone elses. Admittedly, I was dead wrong on expecting SPs to come here.

You keep referring to the risk, but what you're glossing over is the desire to go to the US. A vast number of Canadians simply don't want to go given the current climate, whether there would be any border issues or not. People are more angry than fearful, but yes, there's a segment of people that have understandable fears about crossing the border too, be it for work or anything else. It's probably a bear that doesn't need more poking here.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

If it was super easy to cross the border, I doubt any girl would work in Montreal. We would go to the USA every two weeks and we wouldn’t bother advertising in Montreal.

 

[LeDodo]

Here's one thing a lady told me recently that I found very enlightening. I'm not sure if it's true, but I think it is: it's almost impossible for a woman to "not like" clitoral stimulation. The reason some say they don't like it–and in my experience it's a minority–is because they do not want to experience an orgasm with someone they don't have an emotional connection with.

Is it a thing?

Also are clitoral and vaginal orgasma different in sensations?

 

[ChloeCoeur]

Is it a thing?

Also are clitoral and vaginal orgasma different in sensations?

Uhhhmm. To answer your second question first... for me, clitoral and vaginal orgasms feel different but almost always it's a bit of both instead of purely just one. It's kind of like different notes in a chord.

For your first question in regards to MCTJ's comment (I tried to tag but doesn't look like he's active anymore...@LeDodo you were reaching deep in the archive lol)... There is no blanket statement that could apply reasonably for this imo. Women are not monoliths and there are a million reasons why someone would like or dislike clitoral stimulation, or any other stimulation for that matter.

Personally, there are certain things that feel too vulnerable for me in a work sitation, but orgasming is not one of them. I've never met an SP who avoids orgasming because of emotional vulnerability, but per not being a monolith, I'm sure they are out there.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

This is something really interesting that I'm feeling inclined to address, but not publicly..

 

[twenty4seven]

Is it a thing?

Also are clitoral and vaginal orgasma different in sensations?

I've been with women for whom direct clitoral stimulation has been described as too intense, too sharp, to enjoy and they have to rub above or over-the-hood only and sparingly, so I can imagine there are others who dislike it altogether.

What I've always been curious about is: Is there a discernible difference between A-spot and G-spot orgasms (ie. Can you achieve them individually or does it all mix together like previously mentioned clitoral+vaginal O's)?

 

[LeDodo]

Uhhhmm. To answer your second question first... for me, clitoral and vaginal orgasms feel different but almost always it's a bit of both instead of purely just one. It's kind of like different notes in a chord.

For your first question in regards to MCTJ's comment (I tried to tag but doesn't look like he's active anymore...@LeDodo you were reaching deep in the archive lol)... There is no blanket statement that could apply reasonably for this imo. Women are not monoliths and there are a million reasons why someone would like or dislike clitoral stimulation, or any other stimulation for that matter.

Personally, there are certain things that feel too vulnerable for me in a work sitation, but orgasming is not one of them. I've never met an SP who avoids orgasming because of emotional vulnerability, but per not being a monolith, I'm sure they are out there.

I didn't dig the post on purpose but saw it in another thread lol

Found the question interesting as sharing such intimacy with someone is personal. You can have plenty of reasons to protect yourself. I'm not looking for a blanket answer though. Just wanted to hear some feedbacks

As for the clitoral and vaginal orgasms, I had an idea. But for obvious reasons I cannot dissociate them lol
I somehow feel like clitoral orgasm easier to induce than vaginal ... Thought it would be nice for a woman to experience both instead of one.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Okay I'm going to answer this after all. Yes, they feel different.

For a lot of women, it's really hard to have a vaginal orgasm. A lot of women don't like either types of orgasms because it feels either too intense physically or intimate, it can bring back post traumatic feelings for some, not gonna get into why but I'm sure some of you can imagine.

I've only had vaginal orgasms a few times, with people I was really in love with and felt really safe with. That connection to me is impossible to have with a client, even if I'm really good at developing relationships with those I see on a regular basis, and new encounters are often filled with joy.

I also fully understand why escorts don't want to orgasm with their clients, it's a deeply intimate thing.. With this line of work, I already have to give almost all of myself, particularly intimately. The only things I still refuse doing is anal, bareback sex and really rough play. Of course, that is my personal choice, but I recognize that if I didn't do sacrifices for this job and give so much of myself, I wouldn't be so popular. I'm happy to do so, but there's a limit.

Sometimes clients want to watch me climax, I've been able to do it with certain people in the past particularly using a vibrator but it's become harder and harder precisely because the more I move forward in this industry, the more is asked of me and the more I feel exposed in many ways. So I want to keep something to myself, and I think it's possible I might stop doing that eventually with new clients. Something can feel good physically but not feel good emotionally. I just want to keep something to myself.. I also understand personally why some escorts don't want to do DFK, for a similar reason.

 

[interferon]

Okay I'm going to answer this after all. Yes, they feel different.

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Thanks so much for sharing all this with us. Grateful for the insights.

 

[Johnny test]

Best topic/question in quite a while, makes me rethink a few assumptions