Ask us anything part 3

[twenty4seven]

Is it a thing?

Also are clitoral and vaginal orgasma different in sensations?

I've been with women for whom direct clitoral stimulation has been described as too intense, too sharp, to enjoy and they have to rub above or over-the-hood only and sparingly, so I can imagine there are others who dislike it altogether.

What I've always been curious about is: Is there a discernible difference between A-spot and G-spot orgasms (ie. Can you achieve them individually or does it all mix together like previously mentioned clitoral+vaginal O's)?

 

[LeDodo]

Uhhhmm. To answer your second question first... for me, clitoral and vaginal orgasms feel different but almost always it's a bit of both instead of purely just one. It's kind of like different notes in a chord.

For your first question in regards to MCTJ's comment (I tried to tag but doesn't look like he's active anymore...@LeDodo you were reaching deep in the archive lol)... There is no blanket statement that could apply reasonably for this imo. Women are not monoliths and there are a million reasons why someone would like or dislike clitoral stimulation, or any other stimulation for that matter.

Personally, there are certain things that feel too vulnerable for me in a work sitation, but orgasming is not one of them. I've never met an SP who avoids orgasming because of emotional vulnerability, but per not being a monolith, I'm sure they are out there.

I didn't dig the post on purpose but saw it in another thread lol

Found the question interesting as sharing such intimacy with someone is personal. You can have plenty of reasons to protect yourself. I'm not looking for a blanket answer though. Just wanted to hear some feedbacks

As for the clitoral and vaginal orgasms, I had an idea. But for obvious reasons I cannot dissociate them lol
I somehow feel like clitoral orgasm easier to induce than vaginal ... Thought it would be nice for a woman to experience both instead of one.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Okay I'm going to answer this after all. Yes, they feel different.

For a lot of women, it's really hard to have a vaginal orgasm. A lot of women don't like either types of orgasms because it feels either too intense physically or intimate, it can bring back post traumatic feelings for some, not gonna get into why but I'm sure some of you can imagine.

I've only had vaginal orgasms a few times, with people I was really in love with and felt really safe with. That connection to me is impossible to have with a client, even if I'm really good at developing relationships with those I see on a regular basis, and new encounters are often filled with joy.

I also fully understand why escorts don't want to orgasm with their clients, it's a deeply intimate thing.. With this line of work, I already have to give almost all of myself, particularly intimately. The only things I still refuse doing is anal, bareback sex and really rough play. Of course, that is my personal choice, but I recognize that if I didn't do sacrifices for this job and give so much of myself, I wouldn't be so popular. I'm happy to do so, but there's a limit.

Sometimes clients want to watch me climax, I've been able to do it with certain people in the past particularly using a vibrator but it's become harder and harder precisely because the more I move forward in this industry, the more is asked of me and the more I feel exposed in many ways. So I want to keep something to myself, and I think it's possible I might stop doing that eventually with new clients. Something can feel good physically but not feel good emotionally. I just want to keep something to myself.. I also understand personally why some escorts don't want to do DFK, for a similar reason.

 

[interferon]

Okay I'm going to answer this after all. Yes, they feel different.

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Thanks so much for sharing all this with us. Grateful for the insights.

 

[Johnny test]

Best topic/question in quite a while, makes me rethink a few assumptions

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's very difficult to answer questions in all honesty here because really often sincere answers are interpreted as attacks by some people or as "fantasy killers" (I don't know how else to word that) so it's nice to hear that occasionally some ppl appreciate our responses

 

[Johnny test]

Don't want to generalize too much (even if we do a lot of that here ) but i was taught to think about my partner's pleasure first and, i think, for some of us at least we put some pressure on ourselves because of that.
Meeting with you ladies is a different paradigm because yes, there's a notion of service, client oriented; but there's also a chemistry involved considering the intimacy of said "service" (really not a fan of the word.)
I mean you can dislike your dentist but if he's good you don't give a damn about connection, but if there's no connection with an SP or a client there's a good chance there won't be a second session.

That being said, being in this state of mind, i tend to try to think about my partner first but for many reasons mentioned before it may or may not be possible and it shouldn't be a problem.

That's what i need to take into account in my future encounters and, of course, it's not a rule as it can depend on many things.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I also want to note something you guys might not like hearing..

While yes, some SP do orgasm during bookings, many also see it as part of their job and part of the performance to fake orgasms. I have never faked an orgasm but I can perfectly see why some would.. if you don't have an orgasm a client can take it personally, it can hurt his ego.

Strangely in my personal life I've never experienced that much pressure from any partner at all to climax .. I think it's because a lot of clients are themselves really orgasm focused and they want to forget that they are paying by making sure there is "chemistry" or "a connection" which in their minds leads to an explosive orgasm... Lol... If you reach out to any sexologist you'll know that for most women it can be more complicated to reach orgasm, for many factors, including cultural ones.

Don't want to generalize too much (even if we do a lot of that here ) but i was taught to think about my partner's pleasure first and, i think, for some of us at least we put some pressure on ourselves because of that.
Meeting with you ladies is a different paradigm because yes, there's a notion of service, client oriented; but there's also a chemistry involved considering the intimacy of said "service" (really not a fan of the word.)
I mean you can dislike your dentist but if he's good you don't give a damn about connection, but if there's no connection with an SP or a client there's a good chance there won't be a second session.

That being said, being in this state of mind, i tend to try to think about my partner first but for many reasons mentioned before it may or may not be possible and it shouldn't be a problem.

That's what i need to take into account in my future encounters and, of course, it's not a rule as it can depend on many things.

Sure it's a different paradigm but it's not because the lady doesn't cum that she doesn't like you and doesn't get along with you. I've had surprise orgasms with clients I actually felt really uncomfortable with. (Don't worry this doesn't involve anyone who is reading this) You can have an orgasm or feel physical pleasure while getting sexually assaulted or even molested as a child. It's complex. Meanwhile a lot of people have really fulfilling sexualities and aren't obsessed with reaching orgasm..

The truth is that the way you experience sexuality is just different depending on your gender, what's in between your legs, your sexual orientation, your personality type etc

 

[Johnny test]

Bon je vais écrire en Français parce que j'ai envie d'une part et que ça permet de mieux nuancer mes propos dans ma langue maternelle.
Effectivement l'orgasme peut être simulé, je n'ai aucune illusion là dessus, c'est aussi potentiellement valable pour les hommes d'ailleurs éjaculation ne signifiant pas systématiquement orgasme.
En ce qui me concerne en tout cas, je ne fais aucun lien d'aucune nature entre la chimie et l'orgasme, ce que j'entends par chimie seraient plutôt les affinités; en bref pouvoir avoir des échanges d'idées sans que la session soit remplie de silences génants.
Donc il s'agit plus de synergie intellectuelle que de performance physique; c'est un peu plus difficile à simuler.
De plus, dans la même logique, je ne fais pas de relations entre ladite synergie et l'orgasme puisqu'elle ne sont pas de même nature.

En fait l'élément de réflexion que je ressortais mais qui est très perso et ne concerne peut être que moi est que je ne devrais pas avoir les mêmes attentes des différentes rencontres que je fais pour de multiples paramètres, ce n'est pas la révélation du siècle j'en conviens, disons que je pensais à voix haute

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Bon je vais écrire en Français parce que j'ai envie d'une part et que ça permet de mieux nuancer mes propos dans ma langue maternelle.
Effectivement l'orgasme peut être simulé, je n'ai aucune illusion là dessus, c'est aussi potentiellement valable pour les hommes d'ailleurs éjaculation ne signifiant pas systématiquement orgasme.
En ce qui me concerne en tout cas, je ne fais aucun lien d'aucune nature entre la chimie et l'orgasme, ce que j'entends par chimie seraient plutôt les affinités; en bref pouvoir avoir des échanges d'idées sans que la session soit remplie de silences génants.
Donc il s'agit plus de synergie intellectuelle que de performance physique; c'est un peu plus difficile à simuler.
De plus, dans la même logique, je ne fais pas de relations entre ladite synergie et l'orgasme puisqu'elle ne sont pas de même nature.

En fait l'élément de réflexion que je ressortais mais qui est très perso et ne concerne peut être que moi est que je ne devrais pas avoir les mêmes attentes des différentes rencontres que je fais pour de multiples paramètres, ce n'est pas la révélation du siècle j'en conviens, disons que je pensais à voix haute

Non effectivement c'est tout à fait normal de vouloir établir une connexion avec une TDS.

Je réfléchis beaucoup à ces sujets là dernièrement et j'en ai beaucoup à dire, mais pour plusieurs raisons je préférerais le faire en message privé... ( Ou en personne )