Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

[Everyone]

When you see someone interacting on the boards (merb, terb, perb), do you assume they’re acting/talking the same in person?

I tend to think so. Who someone is under anonymity is often more their true self than someone who is face out and can be called on their actions. I think people are often presenting the sides of themselves they hide from others in their living life when they show these parts of themselves.
I just assume who someone is in person, is the character they pretend to be, to be accepted by those around them.

 

[OverIce]

Yes some. I feel like it's not a super relevant question to ask, tho. I don't give special favours to clients I think are cute.

Are there times where you give special favours? Apart from tip$?

 

[Fradi]

Not necessarily... what is traditionally good looking, can also often be more entitled attitudes, narcissistic, and have little regard for the person serving them. Serving traditionally good looking people can also be draining because they are demanding, and someone who rides threw life on their looks, and has it easy, often has no reguard to others difficulties and struggles.
Personality matters so much more than looks when it comes to being able to give good service.

I agree with what you are saying but that wasn’t my point.
Good looking people have an advantage everywhere, they get noticed, they get preferential treatment they have it easier in life.
Yes they are often ruin it completely by being entitled, have lousy attitudes and think they are owed to be served because of their looks.
Good looking people don’t necessarily have to have lousy attitudes. I have met some amazingly gorgeous young ladies who are down to earth total sweethearts and are a pleasure to be with anywhere you go with them.

 

[Fradi]

Indeed, the conventionally good-looking guys who booked me have never been my best clients!

Pretty sure you are getting booked because of your looks quite an advantage lol.
This was my point.
Repeats will obviously only happen if the attitude matches the looks.

 

[Rebaynia]

I agree with what you are saying but that wasn’t my point.
Good looking people have an advantage everywhere, they get noticed, they get preferential treatment they have it easier in life.
Yes they are often ruin it completely by being entitled, have lousy attitudes and think they are owed to be served because of their looks.
Good looking people don’t necessarily have to have lousy attitudes. I have met some amazingly gorgeous young ladies who are down to earth total sweethearts and are a pleasure to be with anywhere you go with them.

No stereotype, or generalization goes for everyone. It is why I don't make my point out to say "all" of them. It is very much a case by case situation. I have met some good looking sweeties too, but the majority of good looking clients I have seen had poor personalities. Not all of course, thankfully. And I can attest to someone with a poor personality does not get better service, in fact they get reduced service and I avoid rewarding bad behavior.
But my good looking sweeties get the same treatment that my non-traditionally attractive sweeties get. It is who they are, and how they treat me that will dictate how well a visit goes. Not how good they look. I have my man, I'm not looking to fill that void, and have lived long enough, and been threw enough crap in my life as an SP, and a civi woman, to tell you never judge a book by it's cover.
My master will let me call him sexy, because he is to me. But if I try to tell him he is handsome, he is to me, but he knows he isn't traditionally handsome, so will stop me and deny the compliment. (LoL, and yet I get in trouble when he tells me I am beautiful and I sneer at the compliment, but I digress.) And he gets better, and more of me than any client ever will, reguardless of looks.

 

[Fradi]

No stereotype, or generalization goes for everyone. It is why I don't make my point out to say "all" of them. It is very much a case by case situation. I have met some good looking sweeties too, but the majority of good looking clients I have seen had poor personalities. Not all of course, thankfully. And I can attest to someone with a poor personality does not get better service, in fact they get reduced service and I avoid rewarding bad behavior.
But my good looking sweeties get the same treatment that my non-traditionally attractive sweeties get. It is who they are, and how they treat me that will dictate how well a visit goes. Not how good they look. I have my man, I'm not looking to fill that void, and have lived long enough, and been threw enough crap in my life as an SP, and a civi woman, to tell you never judge a book by it's cover.
My master will let me call him sexy, because he is to me. But if I try to tell him he is handsome, he is to me, but he knows he isn't traditionally handsome, so will stop me and deny the compliment. (LoL, and yet I get in trouble when he tells me I am beautiful and I sneer at the compliment, but I digress.) And he gets better, and more of me than any client ever will, reguardless of looks.

This is not about attitudes and personalities, obviously someone with a bad attitude who is rude etc.. it will overshadow his looks.
My point is simply that good looking people have an advantage.
Pretty sure most escorts get booked for their looks and the most popular ones are the ones that are drop dead gorgeous and have a good personality.

It happens in job interviews as well men being men they will subconsciously always look preferentially on an attractive lady, unless of course he is married and hiring a personal assistant in those rare cases his life expectancy and survival instinct might overrule his little brain.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Are there times where you give special favours? Apart from tip$?

What do you even mean by special favours? lol

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Also, generalizations are pointless. I don't give a discount to attractive clients, I'm not the one booking them, they're booking me. Some clients I think are attractive have had a good attitude and are sweet, some think they can get away with certain things because they are attractive, and I'm not cool with that.

Yes, we know that clients book us for our looks. It's not news to anybody here.

 

[OverIce]

I guess I’m asking, is there something a client can do that would make you go the extra mile during a session??

What do you even mean by special favours? lol

 

[Fradi]

Also, generalizations are pointless. I don't give a discount to attractive clients, I'm not the one booking them, they're booking me. Some clients I think are attractive have had a good attitude and are sweet, some think they can get away with certain things because they are attractive, and I'm not cool with that.

Yes, we know that clients book us for our looks. It's not news to anybody here.

These are not generalizations these are realities of life, quite a distinction.
Unfortunately it is not something that is earned but something you are born with if you are lucky.
Maintaining it is another subject all together.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I guess I’m asking, is there something a client can do that would make you go the extra mile during a session??

What do you mean by going an extra mile? I always try to give my best during sessions, considering the circumstances.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

These are not generalizations these are realities of life, quite a distinction.
Unfortunately it is not something that is earned but something you are born with if you are lucky.
Maintaining it is another subject all together.

They are a reality but you asked if we are attracted to some of our clients, and I said yes but I don't give them special treatment, and you seem to not want to take that answer as truth. I don't really know what to say more.

 

[LC18]

I guess I’m asking, is there something a client can do that would make you go the extra mile during a session??

Yes,
Being respectful, not haggling rates, not being pushy and just being a good client overall.

I will go the extra mile

 

[Fradi]

They are a reality but you asked if we are attracted to some of our clients, and I said yes but I don't give them special treatment, and you seem to not want to take that answer as truth. I don't really know what to say more.

No I did not ask that anywhere, you are mistaken.
I said that attractive people have an advantage in life going in, it can always be overshadowed by being an entitled idiot for sure.
SP are in it for the $$$ it is a business they are selling a service. A shop keeper will also sell you whatever you are willing to buy regardless of your looks, but an attractive person is much more likely to get a favourable interview given that all other qualifications are equal.
Attractive actors are the ones that make the most money and get the best roles. You are right it is time to move on.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

No I did not ask that anywhere, you are mistaken.
I said that attractive people have an advantage in life going in, it can always be overshadowed by being an entitled idiot for sure.
SP are in it for the $$$ it is a business they are selling a service. A shop keeper will also sell you whatever you are willing to buy regardless of your looks, but an attractive person is much more likely to get a favourable interview given that all other qualifications are equal.
Attractive actors are the ones that make the most money and get the best roles. You are right it is time to move on.

You're right, it's not you who asked that but someone else, and I answered his question.

 

[RockytheSnail]

For the providers out there- do you ever take it personally when a guy doesn’t come at the end of a session? I’m low key embarrassed to say that even though I’m only in my late 20s, it isn’t always easy to pop multiple times in a row bc of my glans being ultra sensitive (too used to rubbing it out with foreskin unretracted as a kid ). Add to that the “time limit/running clock” aspect and I do end up having to finish myself a lot. Tbf this is never a problem for me if I’ve gonna without busting a few days, but if it’s one after the other without at least a few hrs rest it’s unfortunately a common issue.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

For the providers out there- do you ever take it personally when a guy doesn’t come at the end of a session? I’m low key embarrassed to say that even though I’m only in my late 20s, it isn’t always easy to pop multiple times in a row bc of my glans being ultra sensitive (too used to rubbing it out with foreskin unretracted as a kid ). Add to that the “time limit/running clock” aspect and I do end up having to finish myself a lot. Tbf this is never a problem for me if I’ve gonna without busting a few days, but if it’s one after the other without at least a few hrs rest it’s unfortunately a common issue.

Do you mean if someone doesn't come at all, or doesn't come twice (or more)? Not all clients come twice, far from that! About not coming at all, I never take this personally. Stress, fatigue, being nervous, medications are all things that can prevent someone from coming. If we had fun together and all the sensations and caresses fulfilled your body and mind, then it was probably a good session!

 

[LC18]

For the providers out there- do you ever take it personally when a guy doesn’t come at the end of a session? I’m low key embarrassed to say that even though I’m only in my late 20s, it isn’t always easy to pop multiple times in a row bc of my glans being ultra sensitive (too used to rubbing it out with foreskin unretracted as a kid ). Add to that the “time limit/running clock” aspect and I do end up having to finish myself a lot. Tbf this is never a problem for me if I’ve gonna without busting a few days, but if it’s one after the other without at least a few hrs rest it’s unfortunately a common issue.

I don’t take it personal if a man cannot get hard or cannot cum. It happens to the best of us.

There’s a lot of pressure that comes with meeting someone for the first time and being time restricted.

 

[Rebaynia]

No I did not ask that anywhere, you are mistaken.
I said that attractive people have an advantage in life going in, it can always be overshadowed by being an entitled idiot for sure.
SP are in it for the $$$ it is a business they are selling a service. A shop keeper will also sell you whatever you are willing to buy regardless of your looks, but an attractive person is much more likely to get a favourable interview given that all other qualifications are equal.
Attractive actors are the ones that make the most money and get the best roles. You are right it is time to move on.

Yes I see what you are saying there have even been documentaries on the topic. People are more trusting of others who are conventionally attractive, and yes SPs are makeing a living on their attractiveness, but people keep coming back when our personalities are as inviting as our looks are.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

For the providers out there- do you ever take it personally when a guy doesn’t come at the end of a session? I’m low key embarrassed to say that even though I’m only in my late 20s, it isn’t always easy to pop multiple times in a row bc of my glans being ultra sensitive (too used to rubbing it out with foreskin unretracted as a kid ). Add to that the “time limit/running clock” aspect and I do end up having to finish myself a lot. Tbf this is never a problem for me if I’ve gonna without busting a few days, but if it’s one after the other without at least a few hrs rest it’s unfortunately a common issue.

No. There are many reasons why that can happen, and some of them are psychological and have nothing to do with me and my skills as a provider.
Also, not every client has a focus on having an orgasm. A lot of clients want intimacy above everything else, some of them don't want penetrative sex. Not everyone is obsessed with MSOG etc. Also, a SP's role isn't to judge you based on ''performance'', it's to provide space for you to explore sexuality and intimacy and affection and conversation in many different forms.