I usually reach out by email to an sp, so it would not bother me if you message me by email as well.
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Thanks for a candid answer. I find it, in some cases, hard to tell real from fake. Some just blow me away totally… others leave me flat (no pun intended).
I don’t think that question is appropriate. SPs are not gonna come here and give you ammunition to go around their screening or lie your way to them
Not an SP, but here's my take on read flags in general.
The thing about red flags is that they are built from experience as a protection layer against unwanted encounter. You look for behaviors that are potential signs of danger. Exposing them is like having a mine field with every mine clearly marked. Or using the best security system but with the blueprint on the front door. Giving the red flags away, is giving an opportunity to a predator to avoid scrutiny.
PS: damn, LC wrote an excellent answer while I was writing mine.
Some pointers I look for quickly, since I don't mind sharing, minor pointers, and comes even before other verifications.
-People who talk in complete sentences. I want to see people I can communicate comfortably with, if it feels like a chore to get them to share I have no interest, it will be just as hard to communicate in person.
People who are looking for an expierience beyond just the cold basics.
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Some people are dyslexic and have a hard time typing or expressing themselves through text, but this is a different issue. In person they could be completely fine. If someone is speaking in short sentences.. ''hey babe'' ''available'' etc it shows they are putting 0 effort into communicating, it's disrespectful.
I don't want to give away red flags or whatever ''yellow flags'' are.
But here are my green flags: the gentleman is polite and introduces himself fully, he accepts screening, he tells me exactly when he wants to see me or offers different options, he gives me his expectations, he doesn't ask for anything that isn't offered, he doesn't ask for questions he can answer himself by looking at my ads and website...
I don't want to give away red flags or whatever ''yellow flags'' are.
But here are my green flags: the gentleman is polite and introduces himself fully, he accepts screening, he tells me exactly when he wants to see me or offers different options, he gives me his expectations, he doesn't ask for anything that isn't offered, he doesn't ask for questions he can answer himself by looking at my ads and website...
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For incalls, does it matter what clients wear when showing up? I usually dress like I'm going out with friends since most of my appointments are early afternoon and I usually do go wander around after the rdv.
Also I've never been asked to shower for all my incalls, is that normal?
Also I've never been asked to shower for all my incalls, is that normal?
I am expecting a 3 pieces suit and a monocle for all of my clients sorry!
As long as your clothes are clean, come as you are and please freshen up if asked. Don’t argue, don’t try to convince the person that you’re clean. If no one asks you to shower then it’s all good
No it doesn't matter what clients wear, at least not to me.
I usually ask clients to shower before the booking or upon arrival, but some people are extremely polite and concerned with doing the right thing, so I assume they have already showered.. particularly if they booked me for over an hour. Maybe it's naive of me.
When I used to receive from home or when I worked from spas, I absolutely didn't trust my clients to shower so I reminded them or had them shower right away. It's very very rare that a client came with bad hygiene, which is great news.
It also depends on the weather honestly. If it's hot or humid outside even if I trust my client that he showered at home, I'm going to insist..
fair point about the humidity, I would probably even insist myselfNo it doesn't matter what clients wear, at least not to me.
I usually ask clients to shower before the booking or upon arrival, but some people are extremely polite and concerned with doing the right thing, so I assume they have already showered.. particularly if they booked me for over an hour. Maybe it's naive of me.
When I used to receive from home or when I worked from spas, I absolutely didn't trust my clients to shower so I reminded them or had them shower right away. It's very very rare that a client came with bad hygiene, which is great news.
It also depends on the weather honestly. If it's hot or humid outside even if I trust my client that he showered at home, I'm going to insist..
When clients book under an hour, and sometimes even an hour they are "stopping by", it's not the same as a client who has carefully planned the meeting and got ready for it.
In any case showering before entering the bedroom should be something clients think of automatically. A lot of clients don't understand that the shower is part of the time they booked, which can lead to annoying situations, particularly with short bookings...
Not worried that your neighbours will wonder why so many Monopoly guy are going in and out the building every week ?
It would be foolish not to but I can understand that some of my peers might not be in a position to do it
I don't make enough for either. Still working on making enough to survive, and support others. I don't have just myself to support.
Yes absolutely. I save, and I invest in myself, my mental and physical health, my loved ones and my creative projects. I'm very lucky to be in this position and I'm extremely grateful for it
Yes to sushi. Whenever someone contacts me for a dinner date and says they have made a reso at a seafood place, I get already wet
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