Ask us anything part 3

[EastWind]

If you have a new client and he just wasn’t really into you after meeting for the first time and cannot get sexual excited after 5-10 mins of trying , and wants to leave
Do you give a partial refund ?
Do you keep the money and ask to come back when he’s in the mood ?
Tell him it is his loss not mine.
Or something else ?

“if you want to catch fish don’t ask the fish but ask the fisherman.” The SP is going to tip toe in answering this which makes sense.

As a hobbyist first and for most in its foundation a person. Someone who knows what will turn him on. I mean you know within a few minutes if not seconds you want to get naked with her. You give her the envelope if you want to bust that nut. If not you give her $20 to $40 let her go nicely you don’t waste your time and hers. Giving her the envelope and not sure you want to carry things through you are asking for disaster. Once you hand her the money it is her money not yours anymore and a real pain to negotiate lol.

 

[Nachoy]

What was the most unhygienic thing you encounter with a client that made think ….ewww I can’t service this guy.

 

[Julia Sky]

What was the most unhygienic thing you encounter with a client that made think ….ewww I can’t service this guy.

This is such a weird and useless question. Please stop asking escorts about the worst things they go through it's weird and unwelcomed. "Please relive your most disgusting or traumatic day at work to satisfy my curiosity"

 

[Julia Sky]

“if you want to catch fish don’t ask the fish but ask the fisherman.” The SP is going to tip toe in answering this which makes sense.

As a hobbyist first and for most in its foundation a person. Someone who knows what will turn him on. I mean you know within a few minutes if not seconds you want to get naked with her. You give her the envelope if you want to bust that nut. If not you give her $20 to $40 let her go nicely you don’t waste your time and hers. Giving her the envelope and not sure you want to carry things through you are asking for disaster. Once you hand her the money it is her money not yours anymore and a real pain to negotiate lol.

20-40$ is less than many people's cancelation fee so I suggest looking at people's cancelation policy before booking so you don't end up being that person

 

[Nachoy]

This is such a weird and useless question. Please stop asking escorts about the worst things they go through it's weird and unwelcomed. "Please relive your most disgusting or traumatic day at work to satisfy my curiosity"

You are misunderstanding my question Im asking for unhygienic things in clients that turns you off Not the most disgusting traumatic events that happen to you as an escort. which you can keep private.
I was expecting answers like client leaving skid marks in the bedsheets from his ass
or has cheese in the dick after showering.
If there is disgusting things you rather share with other SPs that is up to you
This is MERB and how can services work better for all of us ?
Why do escort join a review forum and refuses to share any guidance or explanation.about what specific unhygienic qualities clients have ?

 

[Julia Sky]

You are misunderstanding my question Im asking for unhygienic things in clients that turns you off Not the most disgusting traumatic events that happen to you as an escort. which you can keep private.
I was expecting answers like client leaving skid marks in the bedsheets from his ass
or has cheese in the dick after showering.
If there is disgusting things you rather share with other SPs that is up to you
This is MERB and how can services work better for all of us ?
Why do escort join a review forum and refuses to share any guidance or explanation.about what specific unhygienic qualities clients have ?

I didn't say "disgusting and traumatic" I said "disgusting or traumatic". The word "or" has a meaning. Disgusting might not be traumatic but it's still a very unpleasant thing and a very unpleasant question to be asked. You really don't need to ask this question to figure out that hygiene is vital. If you need "skid marks are disgusting" spelled out for you in order to become a better client perhaps you aren't anyone's target clientele in the first place.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

20-40$ is less than many people's cancelation fee so I suggest looking at people's cancelation policy before booking so you don't end up being that person

I also suggest just.. not doing this at all. The provider got ready for the booking, adjusted her schedule around this etc. I understand that in some cases the client really wants to leave like if the place is unsanitary, the provider looks like she's not all there, the photos were fake, there's something threatening etc otherwise there's no excuse to just book, show up and leave.

However I would prefer if a client decided to leave upon arrival (this has never happened to me in over 3 years) over him starting the service and asking for his money back because he can't get hard. Clients know themselves.. some clients have told me they often can't cum or get hard with providers but they still try. There are older men who can't get it up at all but they still book providers because they want to feel feminine warmth. Why would I have to give the money back?

It's my job to turn on someone, sure, but if someone is not in the right state to be turned on either mentally or physically, that isn't my problem. I'm being paid for my time. Men who are 70+ often don't care that they don't get hard, they just want to play around a bit and make out and feel cared for in that way. There are guys who are too nervous to perform once in a while too, even if that is rare. I try really hard to make them feel comfortable, but they are not sure about the whole experience.. Usually it works out in the end, but I feel like I almost have to make them go through it and I can tell they are hesitant because of moral ideas and guilt..

 

[Lunaseraphim]

You are misunderstanding my question Im asking for unhygienic things in clients that turns you off Not the most disgusting traumatic events that happen to you as an escort. which you can keep private.
I was expecting answers like client leaving skid marks in the bedsheets from his ass
or has cheese in the dick after showering.
If there is disgusting things you rather share with other SPs that is up to you
This is MERB and how can services work better for all of us ?
Why do escort join a review forum and refuses to share any guidance or explanation.about what specific unhygienic qualities clients have ?

Those events can actually be traumatic tho. Like I've explained before how I've had clients who didn't wash their ass when I worked at MP's and when I was massaging their back I could smell shit. I've found shit in showers at a massage parlor I worked at, after a client came by. I had a client who was morbidly obese who had a bunch of paper towels between folds of his skins because he was sweating and it was hot outside and removed them when he was in bed with me. That stuff kinda stays burned in your mind for a while. It's also that when we complain about clients here, everyone feels targeted..

But yeah most clients I have know how to shower and wash their mouth properly at this point lol I make sure to let them know they have to be clean, and I am also very clean. I am really lucky and privileged at this point because I am able to get clients who are respectful and take care of themselves before coming to see me. At some point as a provider you can demand that kind of respect from your clients and avoid bad behavior. That is also why I am so outspoken online, even if I know it rubs people the wrong way (and I understand why).. It's a strategy because if I'm very honest there are less chances of me attracting clients who are disrespectful, most of the time.

I also think that I think men who really enjoy seeing escorts and truly appreciate us know what to do to have an enjoyable session with us, they know that they have to show up clean and that they have to be polite. They know the etiquette and they understand consent

 

[Enjoying life]

Those events can actually be traumatic tho. Like I've explained before how I've had clients who didn't wash their ass when I worked at MP's and when I was massaging their back I could smell shit. I've found shit in showers at a massage parlor I worked at, after a client came by. I had a client who was morbidly obese who had a bunch of paper towels between folds of his skins because he was sweating and it was hot outside and removed them when he was in bed with me. That stuff kinda stays burned in your mind for a while. It's also that when we complain about clients here, everyone feels targeted..

But yeah most clients I have know how to shower and brush their mouth properly at this point lol I make sure to let them know they have to be clean, and I am also very clean. I am really lucky and privileged at this point because I am able to get clients who are respectful and take care of themselves before coming to see me. At some point as a provider you can demand that kind of respect from your clients and avoid bad behavior. That is also why I am so outspoken online, even if I know it rubs people the wrong way (and I understand why).. It's a strategy because if I'm very honest there are less chances of me attracting clients who are disrespectful, most of the time.

I also think that I think men who really enjoy seeing escorts and truly appreciate us know what to do to have an enjoyable session with us, they know that they have to show up clean and that they have to be polite. They know the etiquette and they understand consent

Yes! Shower look your best even working out like I have for years and being a gentleman is what an sp does feel very comfortable with as it really works!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yes! Shower look your best even working out like I have for years and being a gentleman is what an sp does feel very comfortable with as it really works!

Clients don't have to work out to see me, I'm just asking for good hygiene, kindness and respect.

 

[Nachoy]

Clients don't have to work out to see me, I'm just asking for good hygiene, kindness and respect.

Thanks for your contributions to this thread. I like your open and honest replies. You have been my favorite SP to engage with here

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Thanks for your contributions to this thread. I like your open and honest replies. You have been my favorite SP to engage with here

Thank you

 

[Nachoy]

Notice that many ads have minimum age acceptance for clients
What is your minimum age requirement?
If the clients is 18-24 year old is that doable for you ?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Notice that many ads have minimum age acceptance for clients
What is your minimum age requirement?
If the clients is 18-24 year old is that doable for you ?

I only see 30 and over. I don't get along with those younger than that usually, I would do them a disservice accepting their booking request.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Notice that many ads have minimum age acceptance for clients
What is your minimum age requirement?
If the clients is 18-24 year old is that doable for you ?

21 years old is my minimum age requirement because younger than that just feels creepy to me. I recently had a client who was 22 and I was surprised by how mature and smart he was. It isn't my personal preference to see much younger people tho. But if a client of that age wants to book me and doesn't feel weird about me being in my 30's, that's okay, as long as he's educated and respectful

 

[Nachoy]

I only see 30 and over. I don't get along with those younger than that usually, I would do them a disservice accepting their booking request.

Do prefer not to see under 30 for personal or leisure sex as well ?

 

[Rebaynia]

Notice that many ads have minimum age acceptance for clients
What is your minimum age requirement?
If the clients is 18-24 year old is that doable for you ?

I have seen as young as 18. I don't really find it creepy as it isn't people I have had any previous connection with, and I'm not actively looking for them, but they find me because they are actively looking for who I am. I get off on being someone's taboo fantasy.

He's a guy who has had to wait till he was 18 to expierience his fantasy, a woman 40+. He's likely had a thing for older women all along, and while some the 18 goal is alcohol, cigarettes or weed, his was a woman more than twice his age.

I'm in it to have fun, with consenting adults of any age who I believe I will enjoy my time with. It's no different than seeing a man in his 60's or 80's, why not see younger than I would seriously date, if I am also seeing older than I would seriously date. I'm not the one hunting them down, so I don't see why I should feel inappropriate for it.

I've had a few who like the step-mom fantasy, and been called mom & mommy by a few guys older then me aswell, including platinic non-sexual friends. It doesn't trigger me either as even my co-workers at my civi job call me mama. I just relate it to a vibe or kind of tenderness I seem to give off.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Q: I had a longtime girlfriend who got me into the habit talking dirty to her during sex. Though she wasn't a talker herself, she loved being called "slut", "bitch", "c***", and (her absolute favourite) "whore".
The girlfriend is long gone but the habit remains. I always ask a new SP if dirty talk is ok with them, and that nothing I might say should be taken personally. I do however refrain from using the "W" word; but on occasion I've had to really bite my tongue to keep myself from uttering it when things get really hot.
So the question: Is the use of the "W" word acceptable to a SP in the context of dirty talk, or should I continue to just do my best to keep that one to myself.
Thanks for your understanding on this one.

It depends on the person.. personally I don't think dirty talking is the same as humiliating someone. It can mean different things. I say no to dirty talking because usually what guys mean by that is they want to call you a bitch or a whore and it's fine if both parties are into it but if it's not consensual it's really degrading and unpleasant.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Thanks, yes that's why I always clear it with a SP first, and that I'm by no means to be taken seriously and that the talk is for entertainment purposes only (and after years of normalizing the practice with my ex it's as much a reflex as anything else). So far the few I've engaged with have happily gotten on board with it, seem to have fun with it, and say that dirty talk is something they too enjoy.
It's just the use of the "W" word that seems problematic in this context. So I'll be keeping a lid on that one.
Appreciate your input. Merry Xmas!!

I don't think it's just necessarily that word, at least for me... I think some SP enjoy it, but not all of us do. I don't think I'm a prude for not wanting to be called a bitch and other things like this during sex.. I don't like that in my personal life either.

I think a lot of practices are normalized because of porn but are on the kinky and dominant side of things, like very very rough sex, hair pulling or choking or slapping people's ass really hard, even face slaps or spitting or non consensual anal play. I don't think these acts are bad, I just think it's not everyone's cup of tea and it's better to ask before.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yeah, I'm pretty vanilla as all that goes. Don't quite get the nasty domination business (and spitting is just simply gross).
But the terms I use seem to be effectively disarmed by broaching the topic beforehand and letting them know it's all said with absolute respect and are generally modified by adjectives like "sweet", "hot" or "beautiful".
But hey, blame it on my ex.

I mean, if you're into something and you find someone who also is into it, that's cool. I just think there's a minimum of decency and we need to ask for what we want.