Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

I get it but i feel like us men are programmed to think moaning means enjoying and silence means shes just not turned on. Maybe its porn to blame or maybe the guys who think that way had a ex girlfriend who was a fantastic actress.

It's definitely porn. I also think if men see a lot of SP and not a lot of civilian women particularly if they ask for certain types of experiences and develop unrealistic expectations. But that doesn't mean everyone is faking if they're loud.

There is a big difference between friendship and being on friendly terms with your service provider.

Hypothetically, If my favorite service provider, whom I've been on friendly terms with for years, retires, and still calls me for coffee, then yes it's friendship because there's no sex or money involved anymore.

Yes, you can have fondness between the two as a client and a provider. We are humans and we want that connection.

In the interim, it's friendly terms between client and provider. It might look the same, but it's not. It shouldn't be confused as such.

There's genuine friendship and positive feelings between many of my clients and I. I would describe it as a situational friendship. I can't tell my clients about a lot of things, so there are limits. I have offered friendship to clients before, but the condition would be as you're saying, that we don't see each other as client and provider anymore. I remained good friends with 2 ex clients to this day. They don't live in Canada so the stakes aren't as high.

Otherwise I regret having made that offer because the clients either felt rejected, or we started having conflicts about our views of the industry among other things... And honestly, remaining friends while they still booked providers seemed risky for reasons of privacy. So, in the last year or two, I decided to remove that possibility entirely.

Even if a client doesn't have bad intentions, he could still reveal compromising information to another person.. I've told some personal things to clients I liked and I know it was repeated to others. Maybe when I am close to retiring or semi retired, this will change. But I don't think I could ever become real friends with someone who sees himself as a hobbyist, for the sake of colleagues who are still active and new SP. Nothing against those guys but I know information I share could be misused

 

[Nachoy]

How someone experiences pleasure and how they choose to express it. Those aren’t always the same.

Some people do orgasm and barely make a sound—it’s not uncommon. Others are naturally more vocal.

Sometimes SPs are aware there are guest in the next hotel room can hear whats going on So maybe the Sp feels good during sex and wants to loudly moan but don’t and It’s less about rejecting you and more about her not feeling fully relaxed in the environment.

So the way forward isn’t trying to decode signals during sex
Just ask her.
That opens the door for her to say what she actually feels—maybe she is orgasming but just isn’t vocal, or maybe something’s holding her back.

The goal isn’t to make her louder or make yourself quieter. It’s getting to a place where neither of you feels like you have to perform or suppress anything important.

I’m certainly more expressive when I’m comfortable in a private setting
While some might like risky sex and expose themselves to unwanted attention.

 

[Nachoy]

[Partnered people]

Why do you cheat?

I wasn’t always proud of how I handled my needs.

Before I got married, sex was easy for me. If I wanted it, I knew where to go. There was no waiting, no negotiation, no vulnerability. It was simple, controlled, and always available. At the time, it felt like freedom.

When I got married, I told myself things would change. And in some ways, they did. I wasn’t living that same life anymore. I wasn’t out there as much, and I tried to settle into what I thought a committed relationship should look like.

But the truth is, something in me didn’t just switch off.

I still had a strong sex drive. I still wanted things—certain experiences, certain sexual acts—that I wasn’t getting at home. And instead of really facing that, instead of fully opening up about it or working through it, I took the easier path sometimes. Not as much as before, but enough that I can’t sit here and pretend I was a saint.

Part of it wasn’t just about sex. It was the simplicity of it. The certainty. The fact that I didn’t have to explain myself, didn’t have to risk rejection, didn’t have to feel exposed. I could just get what I wanted and leave.


Because while I was looking for fulfillment in those moments, I was also creating distance in the place that actually mattered—my marriage. Instead of building something deeper, I was avoiding the harder conversations, the uncomfortable truths.

Looking back, I can see that it wasn’t just about desire. It was about how I chose to deal with it. I wanted connection, but I also wanted control. And those two things don’t always live in the same place.

Now I’m left having to be honest—with myself more than anyone else—about what I’ve done, what I’ve avoided, and what kind of man I actually want to be going forward.

 

[LC18]

This website is entertaining

 

[Giselle Montreal]

* popcorn *

edit: no popcorn

 

[mtlspacial]

For clients, 2 questions..

1. If you don't book providers anymore or intend to stop doing so, or if you have an ATF or a few you see and feel satisfied with it, why are you still on this forum? What are you getting out of it that you won't get anywhere else?

2. If you don't intent to book a specific provider, why are you watching her review thread like a hawk? why are some of you waiting for somebody to get a negative comment to pop up even if you never had the intention to book her in the first place, since that doesn't concern you?

1. My thinking is that the board is the only place where you can share thoughts and discussions with others anonymously, who share with you this particular aspect of their lives, meeting sex workers. I wouldn't share my sexuality, and the fact that escorts have been part of it, with friends and family. I wouldn't even tell my best friend this private aspect of my life. This forum is a place to discuss.

However, the board has obviously a sesspool of very misogynistic and disrespectful members. But, If you can can tune out the negative, you might still find an outlet to reflect on your actions, beliefs, and attitudes with people in the same boat.

2. I don't have an answer for this. Entertainment? Possibly envy (watching the thread of a provider you won't be able to afford). Sometimes you live vicariously through the reviews of others. Some just like to peep.

 

[LeDodo]

For clients, 2 questions..

1. If you don't book providers anymore or intend to stop doing so, or if you have an ATF or a few you see and feel satisfied with it, why are you still on this forum? What are you getting out of it that you won't get anywhere else?

2. If you don't intent to book a specific provider, why are you watching her review thread like a hawk? why are some of you waiting for somebody to get a negative comment to pop up even if you never had the intention to book her in the first place, since that doesn't concern you?

1. I'm chronically online. In my case, I was an introvert with not much friends and was staying mostly at home in my early age. Since the apparition of Internet in the late 1990s, it was life changing for me and it became my world up until now. I've grown up with all forms of online platforms like emails, IRC, MSN, ICQ, online forums, personal online pages.
2. Not applicable in my case

 

[LeDodo]

* popcorn *

edit: no popcorn

Btw the movie is good

 

[Lunaseraphim]

1. My thinking is that the board is the only place where you can share thoughts and discussions with others anonymously, who share with you this particular aspect of their lives, meeting sex workers. I wouldn't share my sexuality, and the fact that escorts have been part of it, with friends and family. I wouldn't even tell my best friend this private aspect of my life. This forum is a place to discuss.

That actually makes total sense tbh. My question was not meant to be judgemental btw, just genuine curiosity and trying to understand. But I think this answer is good enough. Let's move on to the next question.

 

[LeDodo]

is it? i'm hesitant to watch it.

Yes! As a kid the only album I was able to listen was either Celine Dion or Michael Jackson lol
It has a huge part of my childhood.
The "bad" or controversial part of his story has been tone down.
It's a full of joy MJ who is being portrayed.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yes! As a kid the only album I was able to listen was either Celine Dion or Michael Jackson lol
It has a huge part of my childhood.
The "bad" or controversial part of his story has been tone down.
It's a full of joy MJ who is being portrayed.

I don't want to talk about my opinion of the ''controversy'' lol because it might not please everyone, including yourself.. but i am curious about the movie still.

 

[LeDodo]

I don't want to talk about my opinion of the ''controversy'' lol because it might not please everyone, including yourself.. but i am curious about the movie still.

Best is to watch the movie!

 

[mtlspacial]

That actually makes total sense tbh. My question was not meant to be judgemental btw, just genuine curiosity and trying to understand. But I think this answer is good enough. Let's move on to the next question.

I didn't think it was judgemental. I was having the same question myself for about a week now. If I don't need to look anymore, why I'm I still here?

 

[Rebaynia]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

Great for cuddling with in the afterglow.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

Can you name all the Teletubbies (without checking)?

 

[99oilersdoc]

Can you name all the Teletubbies (without checking)?

Can’t name any!

 

[Hmmm…]

Has gas prices or the economy affected the bookings? On one hand this is a completely discretionary spending where people spend if they have extra cash, but on the other hand it MTL prices aren't that egregious and it could be a form of escapism. You know they say that strip club spending is first to see if consumer spending is going down. If gas prices doubled? I've seen some bookings at the big agencies appear not to fill up with the available times obviously not taken, expire, and get labeled as booked. I wonder if that is a trend.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Has gas prices or the economy affected the bookings? On one hand this is a completely discretionary spending where people spend if they have extra cash, but on the other hand it MTL prices aren't that egregious and it could be a form of escapism. You know they say that strip club spending is first to see if consumer spending is going down. If gas prices doubled?

I can't tell but I want to add that it's also tax season (or it just ended for most) so it might be hard at the moment to asses the effect of gas price.

 

[Vardhan945]

I just think it's weird to book an escort and want to be her first client of the day at all cost unless you have hygiene concerns.. indies are probably less likely to see several clients in a row and have plenty of time to wash properly, I know if I see more than one client in a day I try to make sure I have 1 hour to clean and recuperate between the sessions..

When I put it in her orifice, I want a greater degree of separation from another man's junk. Ideally 24 hours.

Even if its completely clean, i like to mentally distance from it.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

When I put it in her orifice, I want a greater degree of separation from another man's junk. Ideally 24 hours.

Even if its completely clean, i like to mentally distance from it.

Get a gf, its much simpler