I cringed lol. Older, wiser and can mentor? Do you regularly mentor your friends? This is so infantilizing, why would I want to hang out on my free time with a guy who thinks he gets to teach me how to live my life because he's older? When I hang out with people it's generally to have a good time together, not to mentor anyone or position myself as some kind of authority over them lol.
Their time is valuable as well indeed and they probably have their own friends and family members to spend time with. Just because a professional service provider doesn't spend time with their customers outside of work doesn't mean they think the customer's time is worthless... Everyone's time is valuable but we don't use that as a justification to ask our bank tellers out to dinner, ask our lawyer out to a chalet weekend or the mechanic to a spa day.
And like. Even I have hung out with some clients off the clock but they are very few and far between and it was never something they expected or asked for out of the blue. It's also not something I would do with someone who has expressed a hint of romantic feelings towards me as I am not trying to blur any lines. I think the offer to hang out off the clock should never be expected and should always come from the service provider, with clear communication and set boundaries so there's no misunderstanding on either end. Some providers will never do that and that's perfectly okay, just like most service providers in most industries don't hang out with customers on the weekend lol.
