You should reformulate this, because you cannot be "dumb" and "technically smart" at the same time. I'm interested in the distinct sub-categories that you mix up here.
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Well you can be work smart but street dumb lol
Very true! Know someone who was desperate to get married did not want to be alone! She knew he was bringing in the bucks and her life would completely change! She now controls his money and his parents are rich as it is! Speaking of dumb!
Have you ever had a client who you know from other parts of your life?
Eg. old classmate's dad, boyfriend's coworker, friend's husband, dad's friend.
Eg. old classmate's dad, boyfriend's coworker, friend's husband, dad's friend.
People on the spectrum (like Aspergers) can be incredibly smart, but sound dumb because they lack social skills and have difficulties with small talk. Gifted people as well, very high IQ, but have difficulty explaining their chain of thought (and appear dumb). Also, some with ADHD because their mind is always drifting from one thing to the next and cannot focus.
Just FYI aspergers is an outdated, inaccurate and problematic Dx. It was removed from the DSM in like 2013
So much. There's work that's always being done, like answering messages, posting on social media, posting my ads, all the time.. trying to stay healthy, taking care of my skin and hair, nails and lashes. doing general self care things to be my best self around clients.SPs how much work do you put in both before and after a session that is essentially invisible? Like, hair, nails and makeup but also client/potential client communications and admin and incall tasks, parking/transport etc etc.
Personally, when I start to think about it, and what my hourly rate actually is, it makes me not want to think about it anymore.
Before a booking : going to my incall by metro, creating an atmosphere, making the space smell good and feel inviting, create lighting, shower, shave, lotion, makeup, doing my hair, cleaning the incall, doing dishes, doing laundry, shopping for things I have at my incall for clients (san pellegrinos, sparkling water & chocolates) and other supplies that are missing like candles, detergent, various cleaning products, wet wipes, condoms etc
A lot of people I know have ADHD or are on the spectrum and are actually the best conversationalists. They know how to talk about a lot of different things and have varied interests and life experiences. I usually enjoy meeting people like this. There are people who have no social skills yes but I don't know if it's a huge percentage of clients. I think everyone's different and some people are awkward in certain respects but fun to be around in others.
What I think creates the most communication problems is either having very different opinions, or someone who has very little to no friends and very little experience with civilian women. I know people who have conditions like autism or ADHD who have a LOT of friends and are very curious about others, and they are way less ''dumb sounding'' and awkward than some people who are just not interested in taking care of themselves and developing real connections with people and have no such diagnosis
The term asperger was problematic because Dr Asperger was a nazi. This was "fixed" in the DSM by regrouping them with people with level 1 autism. This was an error (in my opinion), as it put people with different symptoms and difficulties in the same group. It will probably be revised in the next version of the DSM.
People I know prefer to be called aspergers (or aspergirl if a woman, like my daughter) than people with level 1 autism.
Idk! Most people I know do not like this term, it has negative connotations for some reason, and autism is not a spectrum that you can explain by saying ''this person is more autistic than that person'' exactly. It's not linear like that. A lot of people can hide that they're autistic very well in social contexts, but they burn out really easily. Some are socially awkward but super high energy and can handle a lot of sensory input that would be too overwhelming for another autistic person. I think it's a negative stereotype that autistic people have nothing to talk about and are off putting in social situations, and that they ''are dumb about certain things''
No, but I've been contacted by people who knew me from social media years before I became a SP.. it was really awkward. Most of us don't want to have encounters like these. At least I don't. Once I am pretty sure I saw a guy who used to be an acquaintance of my brother's at a massage parlor, and I was so uncomfortable. I'm pretty sure he remembered who I was too, and just acted annoying about it. I also saw someone who was known by a friend of mine in a certain artistic industry.
I weirdly recognize myself in most part of this description ... Lol
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I don't know. I don't visit people who, I can't evaluate if we are able to communicate together before a visit happens. It's one of the criteria. We can talk to eachother as equal human beings.
I don't know how to handle uncomfortable silence. Appointments like your describing make me uncomfortable, I avoid repeating them.
We don't need to talk about everything. I'm not good with conversations we aren't compatible on unless a healthy debate to agree to disagree is a pleasure, just to try and understand someone elses view. But it helps to see what topics we stumble upon that we share commonalities with.
I've had a past FF support my work fee since I became available. I won't muddy personal relationships with people I know by betraying trusted relationships.
Those in relationships, it would be the relationship I would see. I also won't disrespect the relationships with those I see as couples, by seeing him on the side. I couldn't hurt someone I am in direct contact with that way. Not on purpose. I would need her approval if it were to happen, but not how they tend to go.
I need to be sure men I knew previously are actually single if I accept them as a client, because I don't want, need, or anything to do with drama in my personal life.
LoL I'm a slut who decided to make a living off of what she used to give away for free. If I F*ed them back then, why not now too. They already know I'm worth paying for. LoL I can say there isn't many crushes in my lifetime I didn't have my way with. LoL. The biggest issue becomes are they willing to view themselves as a client. It's hard for some to accept that they want sex with a specific person enough once again to be willing to pay for it, because they see being a client as a degrading thing.
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OK... so I've seen you eaten out for your comments here.
I would actually say, It was threw someone explaining to me asburgers symptoms and that it now classified under autism to understand what branch of brain and social functioning dysphoria I had been dealing with threwout my life. Asburgers symptoms are still being ruled out in old dr's ASD testing.
Next comment on this is feeling called out so much.
I can try to express myself eloquently in writing, it's when I have time to slow my thoughts down to put words down. But when I speak, after every conversation I second guess every word I have said in my spontaneous outbursts. (I keep topics away from other people for this reason, I will try to only talk positively about colleges and clients I see, and to a bare minimum, and change topic asap, because no one wants to be talked about, and I'mnot there for gossip.) But oh the second guessing social interactions, and doubting people will still like you all the time because you might stupidly say something to offend, or miss they were bored while you were deep into the conversation.
I can't small talk. I can have big emotions with lots to express or be completely detached. What's the weather like? Open the door and step out, lets expierience it together. Communication is very much a hit or miss for me. And I'm in constant anxiety that it is always a miss, so I overexplain myself to rediculous measures.
It's not that I hate French, it's that I know as intelligent as I can appear in English, I am effectively "Dumb" in French. And it's triggering to feel so incapable. It's not about learning it either. It isn't like I haven't tried hard to apply myself, I did so much that it reached anxiety levels that I still just can't get it.
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