Asking an escort to go out?

[YouVantOption]

that describes a good portion of MOST human beings, not just SP's, like i said, were all human, we all have faults and that will never change, what it comes down to is a SP is a person just like you and i, and just like you and i, there not perfect, and i for one would not expect them to be, just like i would not expect anyone else to be either

let me ask you this - how many SPs have you been close to, and for how long?

 

[happyguy]

ok i have kept quiet on this subject since it was started, mainly because i just dont wanna get involved, but this last post made me wanna say to the original poster that, well, its prob true alot of the time, but im here to say thats not always the case, i have NOT seen many sp's in my short time in this "hobby", but, i have been asked out a few times,(please spare me the nonsense, yes i was asked out, big deal) and it can lead to a good friendship not based just on sex, but based on being a good friend when the sp needs "just" a friend...... sex? sure but with me it's not based on sex, but whats on the inside, just like with any of my other friends......

like the one poster said before, just dont fall in Love, if she says yes to a friendship "outside" her job, then have fun, SP's are human beings just like any other woman you meet

i agree. just they work in different industry, doesnt mean they are not good human being.

if she agrees to go out, i will just cherish the moment and enjoy the time being with her.

Dont want to leave any regret.

 

[happyguy]

that describes a good portion of MOST human beings, not just SP's, like i said, were all human, we all have faults and that will never change, what it comes down to is a SP is a person just like you and i, and just like you and i, there not perfect, and i for one would not expect them to be, just like i would not expect anyone else to be either

i agree. but perhaps my experience shouldnt be the norm, as i have only been with two SP and i am fairly new to this hobby...

 

[lgna69xxx]

thats like asking me how many gf's i have had, and how long i dated each, what they were like in bed, what color panties they wore (if they wore any at all )....... so on and so forth, and to that i would say none of your's or anyone elses business, thats why i dont post much about encounters or personal stuff, because of people wanting to no things they dont have any right to no about, becasue it's my choice to not disclose personal things, if someone needs help or wants an opinon, then i have no problem offering mine, or trying to help them, but my personal business is MINE...... and if that makes me not credible in your mind on this subject, well then so be it. i have no reason to lie and if you knew me, you would no i have no time for liars and fakes, but you dont so you come to your own conclusions the way you see fit, it really doesnt matter to me one way or another

now with that said, going back to your question, its like me asking you, how many WOMEN have you ever been close to and for how long? Was every woman you ever dated perfect without faults? course not, i have been involved with sp's outside of work and some of them are far more normal and fun than some ex gf's in my past by a HUGE margin.....

let me ask you this - how many SPs have you been close to, and for how long?

 

[lgna69xxx]

Yes Happyguy, there are good and bad people everywhere, sometimes people have to do things they dont want to , to survive, and it doesnt make them a bad person if it's something they dont like, how many people hate their jobs? does that make them a bad person? nope

i agree. just they work in different industry, doesnt mean they are not good human being.

if she agrees to go out, i will just cherish the moment and enjoy the time being with her.

Dont want to leave any regret.

 

[YouVantOption]

thats like asking me how many gf's i have had, and how long i dated each, what they were like in bed, what color panties they wore (if they wore any at all )....... so on and so forth,

It is nothing at all like that.

now with that said, going back to your question, its like me asking you, how many WOMEN have you ever been close to and for how long?

Nor is it anything at all like this, either.

i have been involved with sp's outside of work and some of them are far more normal and fun than some ex gf's in my past by a HUGE margin.....

then your experience differs from mine, vastly.

 

[lgna69xxx]

sure it is , its personal info i dont wish to divulge....., i just offered happy guy a different side to his question, to say it's not always the way most people think, maybe its not the norm, with most, i am only speaking from my experiences , thats all

It is nothing at all like that.



Nor is it anything at all like this, either.



then your experience differs from mine, vastly.

 

[nicebeast]

Interesting thread. Sometimes SPs like a particular client, like not love, and they are nicer to them than usual, but that does not mean a serious relationship is going to be formed. Recently I booked a high end young SP for 2 hrs and she ended up spending 6 hrs at her own cost. After that she asked me if I was available a week later (as a client) and let me drop her to her apartment. I liked her and would repeat her, but it is still about business.

 

[Jean Kulasec]

The only way it can work :

- you stop being a client AND STOP having the client's behavior.

- SHE is looking for you, SHE wants to be part of your life.

What you feel for her has no part of her interest in you btw.

 

[kaydee1968]

I saw a girl back in the summer, who was very attractive, and had a rockin' body. After we were done, she told me that I was her last appointment, and asked me if I wanted to go out with her. She said "don't worry, I'll be dressed conservatively, so I won't look like I do what I do....." And she then said she would love to go get a room somewhere. I told her I had something to do immediately after the appointment, so she gave me her personal cell number and told me to call her if I wanted to get together later.

It was incredibly tempting, I will say, because she was so hot. But I got to thinking that the whole reason why I am in the hobby is because of the discretion, and the anonymity. What would happen if I bumped into anyone that I know.........it would raise a lot of questions, seeing as I am not single.....so, I never called her. Now if I was a single man, I would have done it in a heartbeat.

 

[tigerwood]

Rule number 1 when hobbying:
NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH A SP! N

 

[Merlot]

After 20 months of dating, only met her mother once in public. So i was a bit concerned about her real feelings about me . I decide to check her text messages for a few months whyle she was asleep................

I discoverd that she was still sleeping with around 30 guys for $. She was lying to all of them and even talking about me to some of her clients friends. Even texting them during our pause after sex at my place. She finally met a Young good looking drug dealer that drives fancy cars.

I am in such pain right now that i even think of suicide.

Hello TW,

Your distrust and the revelation that she was being very shady and manipulative proves you were mistaken about a situation that never existed. You are experiencing emotional shock and need a lot of time to adjust to what you now know is the truth. Being alone to think about it too much would be the worse thing. Go out with friends, be around people, find a way to put some time between this episode while avoiding dwelling on it as much as possible. It wasn't real, and that fact means it's not worth doing anything drastic. Be with a friend you can trust and keep your mind open to getting and honestly listening to helpful advice.

On the subject, if she is not letting you into her personal life and avoiding introducing you to family over a long period, you have to know something is not right. Avoid. GOOD LUCK!

What you feel for her has no part of her interest in you btw.

Good advice JK. building up a fantasy and accidentally or purposely imposing that as the reality of what is happening is a big mistake. For myself, I make every effort to avoid letting myself get carried away with fantasies involving relationships outside the hobby. A few ladies proposed relaxing off the clock beyond the sex business and I took it in stride for what it was worth. One lady I saw off and on over 7 years and we had fun, but we never got into sharing our personal lives and contacts, though we did expand to meeting with other hobbyists.

As I said, if she is telling you about all of her issues and needs it's not the same as letting you into her real life with friends and family. Be careful to know the difference.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[lgna69xxx]

TW,

I think you need to get off here immediately and go talk to a professional. No girl or anyone for that matter is worth suicide.

 

[Doc Holliday]

Tiger, maybe you should download the last episode of Game of Thrones & pay close attention to Tywin Lannister's words to his son in the last 5-10 minutes of the episode. I don't necessarily agree with his choice of words, but maybe they can be of some help to you at this time.

A few years ago, a good friend of mine was in somewhat of a similar situation as yours when he was struggling with his relationship to an sp, and I unfortunately had to play the part of Tywin Lannister with him in order to assist him in putting his life/relationship into perspective. At the time, he hated me for it, swore at me & it nearly ended our friendship. However, he was my friend and I cared for him dearly. He was unhappy & I had to say things he didn't want to hear in order to help him out.

Today, he continues to thank me for what I said to him back then & realizes why I did it. Some things needed to be said & were said, even though I knew that they would likely be hurtful at the time. But a man's got to do what a man's got to do!

 

[BookerL]

TW,

I think you need to get off here immediately and go talk to a professional. No girl or anyone for that matter is worth suicide.

Hi all Hi TW
Very good advice! from the other vets as well !
I have been involve myself with adult entertainement bombshells trophy type women since I was myself in the business I KNEW the risk what I can say it was fun and stimulating while it lasted many outrageous s..x parties !!
As adult we need to understand the difference between fantasy,phantasm and true realm.
Between role play ,make believe,and true life feelings.
One of my close friend a ex booker is in a relationship with a ex SP she abadone
Her career of SPing in your case she continued it was risky,risky!
Professionnal advice would be better!
Take care of yourself
BookerL

 

[Lily from Montreal]

Happy: don't try to mix real life with funlife...

Now if you were in your 40's meeting a 30 something sp..ok...but in your 20's?...please ,get a life...real life ...yes she likes you but trust me it takes a very special man to be so sure of his identity to be unaffected by the hobby...I am not saying it is not possible,but at 20 something there is no way you could have that kind of maturity...

Same applies to Tiger,really ? a 20 something?I am sorry but this is fantasyland...

Rule of thumb,if in real life ,putting aside the work, would you two being friends is in the realm of possible? Then maybe ,but if it sounds like a remake for Pretty woman,it is a dream...

 

[BookerL]

Now if you were in your 40's meeting a 30 something sp..ok...but in your 20's?...please ,get a life...real life ...yes she likes you but trust me it takes a very special man to be so sure of his identity to be unaffected by the hobby...I am not saying it is not possible,but at 20 something there is no way you could have that kind of maturity...

Same applies to Tiger,really ? a 20 something?I am sorry but this is fantasyland...

Rule of thumb,if in real life ,putting aside the work, would you two being friends is in the realm of possible? Then maybe ,but if it sounds like a remake for Pretty woman,it is a dream...

Hi all
Hi Lily
A few questions on your posting comes to mind?
What are you advocating for ?
Real life relationship are impossible because of age differences ?
A few examples !
Hugh Heffner playboy Mogul is close to 60 years older than is current wife a playboy centerfold !
René Angélil, 72 years old married to Celine Dion
James Doohan famous for is role of "Scotty " in Star Trek original got married to a 18 year old or so when he was 53 of age !
Ex very Honorable Prime Minister of Canada Pierre Elliot Trudeau was close to 30 years older than the mother of Kids Marguerite St-Claire is first son Justin is the current leader of the liberal Party of Canada
Anthony Quinn was also close to 60 years older than is wife !
The list goes on and on !!!!!
Sadly many other factors are relevant not only the age !!!!
Dating a SP is risky ?

 

[Siocnarf]

Hugh Heffner... René Angélil, ... James Doohan ... Pierre Elliot Trudeau ...

Life is a bit different when you are rich and famous. It's much easier to live a fantasy, for one thing. I think Lily is not saying anything against age difference. Just that at 20 years old it's much more difficult to tell fantasy from reality and to have reasonable expectations about why or why not a woman is interested in your company. All the example you name are OLD men, not young idealistic men. When you're young it can be hard enough making sense of a regular girlfriend. Throw in an escort/client relationship and all bets are off.

 

[BookerL]

Life is a bit different when you are rich and famous. It's much easier to live a fantasy, for one thing. I think Lily is not saying anything against age difference. Just that at 20 years old it's much more difficult to tell fantasy from reality and to have reasonable expectations about why or why not a woman is interested in your company. All the example you name are OLD men, not young idealistic men. When you're young it can be hard enough making sense of a regular girlfriend. Throw in an escort/client relationship and all bets are off.

Hi Siocnarf
Exactly what I am saying
Quote "Sadly many other factors are relevant not only the age !!!!
Dating a SP is risky ?"
So what about rich a famous and dating a SP?
Would that work ?
Regards
BookerL

 

[gurgeh85]

I've known three guys who have killed themselves over women and one guy who killed himself over a man. You'd just end up hurting the people who actually care for you. That said, I think suicide is ultimately a selfish act. Take some time away before you make any decisions and try to remember what is really important...