Can a girl look at a guy the same way after being in the biz

[TheDon]

Can a girl look at a guy the same way after working in the biz as she did before.

After working in the biz and experiencing all of our twisted fantasies and horney demands, a girl must look at us guys in a totallly different light.

 

[lgna69xxx]

Can you look at women not in the business the same after being with Sp's? Everyone has their own answer. I have been with some Sp's that were more "twisted" aka WILD (not a bad thing) than I could of imagined. It all depends on each individual as far as the ? you ask.

 

[Merlot]

Hello TD,

Have you heard the stuff in the news about politicians, clergy, businessmen, teachers, doctors, sports figures, otherwise "normal people" in general in the last 20 years. Is the real world less "twisted". It's just more common in this business because fantasy is what the hobby is meant to fulfill...including the "twisted".

The clients are probably just as likely to have a changed outlook as the SPs, but it's got to be a little harder on the ladies as they have so many more encounters.

really,

Merlot

 

[mixfight]

I don't know about girls. But I can speak for myself, I look at girls differently now. Why? I think the answer is more or less obvious...at some point in our life we all see a beautiful woman walking down the street and one thing goes trough your mind at this point "I bet it would awesome to have sex with her" ... I think that's what most of us would tell themselves. But after seeing a couple escorts that are probably hotter than the woman you saw walking down the street you realise that you were making a "too big deal" out of it. I always wanted to have a relation with the hottest girl around, often it worked but now I realise that what we should be looking for is someone who understands you and is good looking (a great chemistry). Basically what I'm saying is that woman can hardly manipulate me now because I don't care if I get them or not, I can always go see an SP that I get along with and the experience will be twenty times better and easier for me. I speak for myself though as I said. It's great to know if something doesn't work out you always have an alternative, this way you don't put too much pressure on yourself. On another note, when I see some escorts I realise that they are more "twisted" than me so I'm not sure about how they look at guys after being in the business but it's probably a case by case, like every person?

 

[santa-fe]

Excellent point Mixfight… this is also the reason why women (escorts including) are negative about hobbyists as we are more immune to trickery and manipulation. Though it comes with a price as we are in general a bunch of cynics…

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

I don't know, I've never been a girl? Why are you asking this question of a bunch of guys?

 

[mixfight]

Well, Santa-Fe, as someone said (I don't remember who exactly) - it is cheaper to spend 200$ to 400$ on an escort than waste hundreds or thousands? of dollars on a girlfriend. Yes they say buying gifts to your girl isn't the right thing to do, that means she's only with you because you buy her stuff but a real gentleman will always buy gifts to his girlfriend I believe.

 

[Merlot]

Hello all,

Rumps...I thought you were into role-play...lol.

Though it comes with a price as we are in general a bunch of cynics…

True...it's got to be the most common denominator on both sides. Sure, some come just for the fantasy, or diversion. Ladies may come to fund education or a business goal. But there has been so much said on sex boards about how women equate men with money, and how clients have become cynical because of failed or broken relationships that cynicism has to be the most common reason for joining this "hobby". Funny that using the hobby for relief usually makes the cynicism worse.

...after seeing a couple escorts that are probably hotter than the woman you saw walking down the street you realise that you were making a "too big deal" out of it.

...we should be looking for is someone who understands you and is good looking (a great chemistry).

Yes. I doubt that most of us were hooking up with the fantasy girls before coming to this hobby, and surely the big attraction was finally having the real beauty. That experience was supposed to be as great as it gets. Sometimes it worked out that way. But usually I've found that being with the most beautiful women was short, and sometimes far short, of that fantasy ideal. It's amazing how much better it is when compatibility and connection are the priority...not looks. That's one of the positive lessons about this experience...guaranteed sex on demand aside of course.

Good luck,

Merlot

 

[daydreamer41]

Hello all,

Rumps...I thought you were into role-play...lol.


Good luck,

Merlot

I nominate this as the Quote of the Year.

Priceless. :lol:

 

[Siocnarf]

Even if I was a girl, I would be a lesbian. So I really can't say either.

 

[LilyChen]

Some girls can do that, but sometimes they also get awkward to men after the biz even if it is only a job.

 

[cloudsurf]

Several years ago while waiting for my flight back to Mtl. from T.O., I bumped into a popular Mtl. sp who recognized me and wanted to chat over a bottle of wine.
So told me something that I remember to this day.
Being a popular companion gave her tons of confidence. She adored many of her clients
Back in her high school years guys didn`t look at her twice....then when she became one of the most popular high end escorts in Montreal....they paid thousands to spend a few hours with her. She loved the irony.

 

[Numerati]

I don't know about girls. But I can speak for myself, I look at girls differently now. Why? I think the answer is more or less obvious...at some point in our life we all see a beautiful woman walking down the street and one thing goes trough your mind at this point "I bet it would awesome to have sex with her" ... I think that's what most of us would tell themselves. But after seeing a couple escorts that are probably hotter than the woman you saw walking down the street you realise that you were making a "too big deal" out of it. I always wanted to have a relation with the hottest girl around, often it worked but now I realise that what we should be looking for is someone who understands you and is good looking (a great chemistry). Basically what I'm saying is that woman can hardly manipulate me now because I don't care if I get them or not, I can always go see an SP that I get along with and the experience will be twenty times better and easier for me. I speak for myself though as I said. It's great to know if something doesn't work out you always have an alternative, this way you don't put too much pressure on yourself. On another note, when I see some escorts I realise that they are more "twisted" than me so I'm not sure about how they look at guys after being in the business but it's probably a case by case, like every person?

Great point. Ditto. I can say you are not the only one as many that hobbies/hobbied I have talked to share the same thought and feeling.

 

[fb1807]

Hi

Many non-hookers are looking for a rich guy to support them, and after 3 divorces you realize that hookers just tell you the price in advance.

Sex and its desires is something few can control and is varied like the taste in foods and often influenced by culture. Freud focused on sex so much because he realized that your fantasies reveal a lot about yourself and is a topic that is hard to fake, since a turn-on always shows through to an acute observer.

I think most hookers simply get tired of sex, after having too much of it and not necessarily in the way that turns them on.

Most hobbyists on the other hand probably realize that women are not necessarily as hot as they look, and most of them have a price which makes them less intimidating and more reachable.

A nurse taking care of old people with incontinence has a worse physical job with strangers than a hooker having sex with other strangers and the nurse gets paid less, go figure.

I have had the best and worst sex with both non-hookers and hookers - its all about chemistry and matching desires and only Lady Luck can control that.

 

[Maria Divina]

For my part,

I am just more picky now, in my private life. (and I am not talking about physical tastes)

I had the chance to meet different kinds of men, with different backgrounds, and my tastes had evolute, in a positive way.

But I am having the strong impression that the best are all taken...

Oh! well, it's life.

:angel:

 

[suikoden_45]

Cannot speak for the ladies but this is something I mull over ever so often, how do escorts view their client? In a negative or positive respect?

My experience with Montreal escorts relative to everywhere else is that I have traveled and especially relative to the US is that Montreal escorts are more genuine, friendly, and sexual. Why? I cannot say. Perhaps the absence of LE pursuing them changes the dynamics. Some Montreal escorts are just not worth seeing however the majority I thank and somewhat admire for them giving great pleasure. All in all I look at Montreal women in higher esteem due to their escort counterparts.

 

[jeff jones]

Cannot speak for the ladies but this is something I mull over ever so often, how do escorts view their client? In a negative or positive respect?

Allow me to answer this. They really,really,really like us. They think we are charming, intelligent, witty, funny and great lovers. It has nothing to do with the money. There is nowhere else that these 18 to 20 year old young ladies would rather be then locked in a room with us 40 to 70 year olds with beer bellies and shriveled up wrinkled butts.

 

[pat98]

@Jeff Jones: well said lolllll
Girls does that for business so wondering what they think of guys... come on... they are working, no more no less! it's obvious most of the time !

@fb1087: Can't say it better... chemistry happens and that is so good
(even with belly and being twice or more their age and so on ... loll)
I think that a girls needs to be a real nympho to be able to last at least more than 3 months...
And yup agree 100% those girls not hookers thinking they are hot... after having had some real sex-hookers-tornado then you realize they are all fake and mostly certainly not as good as they think sexually speaking ! :lol:

 

[suikoden_45]

Allow me to answer this. They really,really,really like us. They think we are charming, intelligent, witty, funny and great lovers. It has nothing to do with the money. There is nowhere else that these 18 to 20 year old young ladies would rather be then locked in a room with us 40 to 70 year olds with beer bellies and shriveled up wrinkled butts.

Cynical but most likely true...I wish I could bring home some of these girls.

 

[evillethings]

Can a girl look at a guy the same way after working in the biz as she did before.
After working in the biz and experiencing all of our twisted fantasies and horney demands, a girl must look at us guys in a totallly different light.

i think iggy touched on it, depends on the person and what their starting point was before starting in the biz.

-if the girl came from 1 extreme... f_cked up background, poverty, no parents, abuse, drugs, etc, then the guys she meets in this biz must be angels ... twisted fantasies or not.
-if she came from a strict upbringing and wants to cut loose + explore sexuality... match made in heaven
-but if she comes from an ``avg home + upbringing`` and just wanted to experiment, then it would just confirm what she probably already knew about guys. at that pt she should either (a) quit (b) change agencies / go indy to look for different clientele or c) elevate her game to companion status.

but let`s not pretend women aren`t freaks like guys when it comes to sex.