It seems she has better things to go that are more important to her. You are clearly not a priority to her. The whys are irrelevant. Just move onto the next one.
Continuos SP Cancellations and Your Time
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No not that many. I just stopped it after 3rd times. I think OP is very patient, or the girl must be very hot. About 10 years ago, I tried to connect a girl but she kept changing the meeting. After the third time, she sent me her real pictures for an excuse, but I thought she was playing, so said bye.
I have never had any situation as bad as the first post, but I will say that despite the fact that SPs are always saying to book in advance, book in advance, every time I have done that it has involved 1-3 re-schedules on their part before we finally meet. Every time I book an SP same-day, I have no issues.
That's some secret decoder ring stuff right there.
Do you think you were getting bumped in favor of clients that were booking at the new rate or was it really some elaborate plan to burn you out as a client?
Holy sh*t guys, come on. No matter what the reason is the base line is it's her fkn choice, be it personnel, financial or whatever.
Just suck it up and move on to another provider, end of story
That is a good question, and I guess I will never know the answer to it.
With all due respect, Douman, my time is just as important as the SP.
If she does not want to see me for any reason, you are right the choice is hers, but she should have the decency to tell me flat out, and not play around with my time, I am a grown man and will move on.
Having said that the choice was mine, I am reminded of this by this expression; "If someone treats you like an option, leave them like a choice". Thanks to a friend for sharing that one.
Yes, I've been that guy a few times who was priortized. I would find ouit at theend of the meeting and many times the SP say the client was a real jerk.
Luna, this the post that has ended this whole thread because you've single handedly answered this question.. All that was said is true. I never obsess over an SP because Montrteal has a shit ton of choices, so oobsessing on 1 is stupid. What does it ttake to get the point? She's cancelled you 3 or more times and still you keep trying, seriously WAKE UP.I have no problem against OP and anyone participating in this conversation (I'm particularly grateful for my colleagues Julia & Giselle & Michelle here and their comments), but this type of thread is one of the reasons why I try to avoid participating in this forum now... I notice this trend that consists in someone complaining about a situation that feels outrageous to some but there is missing information and something important that everyone is avoiding.
To be fair it seem to come from her to offer grandfathered rates. Now should he had propose to pay her current rate after 2 cancellations? Maybe... I can't say. On one hand i can totally understand she prefer making more money with new clients that pay new rates, but then why offer grandfathered rates to begin with? She didn't had to.
And one other point i want to touch upon mention by @Lunaseraphim , i can't speak for everyone but for me honesty is key. I would rather have an indy SP (or a booker) tell me the truth on why a meeting is cancel rather than some excuses that sometimes are so creatives that im thinking i should go by a 6/49 (well in that case its the opposite, im very unlucky, but you get that analogy i hope). And if for any reason i did something that may make someone uncomfortable, just tell me, i will avoid redoing it. If i don't know, how can i avoid doing it?
And one other point i want to touch upon mention by @Lunaseraphim , i can't speak for everyone but for me honesty is key. I would rather have an indy SP (or a booker) tell me the truth on why a meeting is cancel rather than some excuses that sometimes are so creatives that im thinking i should go by a 6/49 (well in that case its the opposite, im very unlucky, but you get that analogy i hope). And if for any reason i did something that may make someone uncomfortable, just tell me, i will avoid redoing it. If i don't know, how can i avoid doing it?
Thanks for the input.
I have confirmed by PM that this SP has done this to several members here, not just me. I am not alone.
I never did anything to this woman to warrant this type of behaviour, and it leads me to believe that she has emotional issues.
I can understand that, seeing she has been in the business for a few decades. While at first I was upset by this behaviour, I now realize that it is her and not me.
I wish her the best and hope that she can resolve her problems.
You should stop speculating to try to find all the possible ways to blame him instead of her really.
Well... Loosing him as client? . If what he did bothered you and you give him a chance to correct his behaviors and he choose not to than good riddance ?
Im just telling you how i see it. Even if im not the bigger client volume wise i did saw some super lame excuses in my years and they always give us a very sour taste. No matter what.
Stuff like "your car broke down on the highway and you had to wait for the toewing" ... In summer...Like sure there is a very ....very little chance it could be true...but cmon... Im not believing this. Thats a legit excuse i got in the past btw...
If we lose him, fine, it's one thing. But our clients know where to find us and we never know who can become a stalker or have a violent reaction. Sometimes the fear of possible consequences is enough to keep us from taking any chances. But, I am not saying it's always the case, mostly answering to your comment in general "i can't speak for everyone but for me honesty is key. I would rather have an indy SP (or a booker) tell me the truth on why a meeting is cancel"
Ok well yes some peoples are weird/dangerous. I can only speak for myself there
I really see two sides to this the first being, why does she agree to see him if she doesn’t intend to.
She could simply say I don’t want to see you or not respond at all if she doesn’t want to get into any kind of confrontation.
Playing games and cancelling all the time is just plain stupid behaviour, there is nothing that could be said in favour of someone who does this.
Rates whatever are irrelevant.
The other is after she does this to you on 3 separate times, why bother trying again.
Plenty of other young ladies in Montreal that will be happy to see you or should I say happy to take your money.
She could simply say I don’t want to see you or not respond at all if she doesn’t want to get into any kind of confrontation.
Playing games and cancelling all the time is just plain stupid behaviour, there is nothing that could be said in favour of someone who does this.
Rates whatever are irrelevant.
The other is after she does this to you on 3 separate times, why bother trying again.
Plenty of other young ladies in Montreal that will be happy to see you or should I say happy to take your money.
As i said the psycho clients i can't relate ...
But you shouldn't be afraid to loose a client if you confront him and he chose to not see you after. It mean what he did made you uncomfortable but for him maybe that thing is part of what he like and is acceptable for another SP. So you were not a match for him any more... He respected you not booking you anymore. Just my way of seeing it.
As for not finding her professional well let me judge ...lol. It then will be up to me if i try again...
Maybe im just too honest of a person for this business lol
I find that an SP's tenure is generally negatively correlated with quality of service. In my opinion, as time goes by, SP's generally get jaded, too comfortable, and care less about punctuality and appearance, etc. In this instance, OP clearly stipulated that he made multiple appointments ahead of time that were all cancelled by the SP in question. While I understand the inherent risk associated with the profession and acknowledge the precautions that you and your colleagues take, why are you flipping the blame on the OP?
The other issue is customers are too tolerant to these behaviors and keep giving business to the SPs that are not professional, and respectful of customer's time. While I respect OP's persistence, I would have moved on after the second cancellation.
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