Ahhh bull shit. I guarantee that these boys will become local celebs at home and then when they go onto the college campus. I would be getting high-fives from kids I had never spoke with. This would open so many doors at frat houses. As for the ruined families....yes they would have to play that game in order to cash in through the courts.
My objection to this thread is that it blithely mixes reality and fantasy. I've participated on fantasy boards and I say go for it: let it rip with all the kinky, taboo, inappropriate, embarrassing fantasies. (This board is actually VERY tame when it comes to talking about alternative sexualities and hidden desires. I'm not sure why but, metaphorically, it's all missionary out here.)
We all look back and remember our teenage desires, the crushes and lusts we had for older women; and we naively think that we could have handled an affair with a teacher just fine. Having known some people who did it, I can say that it worked out fine for some, not so fine for others.
In the end, though, when we talk about real teachers who had sex with their students, we're crossing a line that I find offensive. Call me old-fashioned, but I'm not a fan of adults in positions of authority sleeping with minors--underage students and children.
So, yup, when teachers sleep with underage students, it's not uncommon for families to be devastated and lives ruined. To think that it's all just wink-wink, high-five fun is to display--how else to put this?--total ignorance of reality.
So, for example: the teacher (female or male) loses their job, their certifications, their licensure, their incomes, their social status, their careers; many are prosecuted and some jailed; some end up classified as sex offenders.
The other teachers are inevitably upset and often angry, and their reputation and status in the community is tarnished because trust in their profession is diminished.
The school is embarrassed and the community upset.
The families of both the teacher and the student are dismayed, humiliated, and often ostracized. To suggest that they see this as a chance to make money is repugnant.
As for the students: some are fine, some are scarred, some we don't know. Can a 15 year old boy or girl have a healthy physical relationship with an adult? Sure, depending on the boy or girl. Is it more complicated when that person has a position of trust and power (teacher, boss, etc)? Of course.
Now if we want to have a conversation about the age of consent, great. If we think (as some apparently do) that it's okay for 15 year old boys to sleep with adults but not 15 year old girls, let's talk about that. If we think that all 14 years olds are mature enough to make the decision for themselves--okay, let's talk about that.
And, to repeat what I've said before, if we want to hang out and imagine what it would have been like when we were younger--as many in this thread are--then that's fine with me. I have the feeling--based only on the kinds of discussion on this board--that I'm actually far more "open minded" than many out here. But I find it offensive when we celebrate adults sleeping with children.
