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How do you stop this?
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As my salary threw, the “quality” of women got better. It got safer. Now I can “afford” 250-500; a weeky. I don’t really have any disposable income but I’m very comfortable. I can spend as much I want when it comes to shopping and restaurants with my credit cards..
I’ve been trying to save money for a down payment for a property for the longest time. One of my goals is to be very tatted.. but I can’t save.
But I’m somewhat responsible, I know rent and bills come before escorts. Whatever is left over is my escort money. The only way I save is by giving it to my mom or trusted friends.
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Rude as hell lol, she shouldn't have had to pay (as in, lose income and time getting ready) because you have a problem. Next time I suggest saying the phrase before you even contact an escort, or suck it up and pay up tbh.
No you can't. Because...
I really hate to break it to you, but you're setting yourself up for major financial and emotional problems. Just wait till you hit 40 and start reevaluating your choices in life.
Earning 150K per year in your early 30s is great, but you're throwing it all away. You have to find a way to put a good chunk of that money aside.
Thanks for sharing and good luck!
Also reading this says it all:
We should put on our credit card only what we can spend, credit is to be reimbursed fully at the end of the month. Using credits any other way is setting yourself up for failure.
Best financial advice for anyone who wishes to start taking control of their money.
Second best financial advice:
Once you have cleared your credit cards debts and learnt to reimburse fully each month, start putting a percentage of your earnings aside AS SOON AS THE PAYCHECK COMES IN.
So let's say you earn 6000$ every 2 weeks, right away put 1000$ aside (RRSP for example) and learn to live with 5000$ every 2 weeks. It's not as hard as one might think. You just get used to it.
Once you have cleared your credit cards debts and learnt to reimburse fully each month, start putting a percentage of your earnings aside AS SOON AS THE PAYCHECK COMES IN.
So let's say you earn 6000$ every 2 weeks, right away put 1000$ aside (RRSP for example) and learn to live with 5000$ every 2 weeks. It's not as hard as one might think. You just get used to it.
This makes no sense at all, I moved back with my mother 2 years ago she is 81 and she is unable to do simple things around the house, i have a family home to take care off, i also give her 500$ per month rent, and i pay groceries, we also have 4 cats so i pay for cat food vet etc.
When i had my condo i gave into this addiction and my credit card blew up to 7000$, this whole ordeal along with my mortgage and lifes issue car breaking down, vet etc, took me about 10 months to clear. I learn my lecon, this was back in the days SP at agencies cost 220$ with the GFE service (that most of the time never offered).
I am 52 and still have high libido, but i decided to take a break i been seeing my SP for the last 5 years at 1-2 times per week, 120$ per shot, and i did the math, i am a single worker i make less than 70k per year now, my car is fully paid, i have no debt because the family home as been paid for such a long time.
This is called responsibilities and priorities, for me spending 500$ on an SP is a no go, a rather watch internet porn and be satisfied with this. I started to invest money in mutual funds, RRSP and celi a long time ago, and recently stop ordering junk food, so i can save even more, but with what i have to pay per month i could go nuts and get the high end escorts even the ones at 300$ per hour. But since i have a goal to retire before 60 i rater work toward that goal then spend my money on sex. And believe me in the last 30 years i been booking SP on and off i did spend a lot of money on this hobby.
For me what did it is that to be honest right now at least for me there is nothing interesting that is affordable, my regular sp of 5 years was too much now, texting everyday, giving me compliments that are simply not true etc, I guess i went cold turkey, she wanted to have sex during her period i got mad that was not the first time she did stupidities like this, and we just both stop texting each other, to be honest its been about one month now and i feel great, this was getting toxic.
With the price of houses so high you need to reevaluate your priorities, do you want to save money and buy a house, condo, semi detach or spend all your money on sex wake up older and realize you have nothing in front of you.
3rd best financial advice, totally related to this hobby: Set yourself a reasonable budget for hobbying and don't go over.
I've always been transparent about this. My budget is 1000$ per month. This month, I blew it early on my birthday fuck fest. Since then, even though I'm fucking horny, I refuse to book another SP. Mental toughness ostie....
I have better things to do with my money.
I've always been transparent about this. My budget is 1000$ per month. This month, I blew it early on my birthday fuck fest. Since then, even though I'm fucking horny, I refuse to book another SP. Mental toughness ostie....
I have better things to do with my money.
1000$ per month this is exactly why i stop seeing my regular SP, she wanted to boost her price, 120$ twice per week we are at 960$ per month, which is insane when you think about it for what 1h of sex per week, 4h sex per month. How much grocery can you buy with that amount of money or save.
I could think of potentially two ways. First one is the finacial one - either you can no longer afford it, or start thinking the money could have a better use, etc. Second - and that's for me personally - i would stop if i had a girlfriend thats both hot and trustworthy. Hot - for me to constantly enjoy every inch of her body over and over again. Trustworthy - to know that shes my person, and i am hers - no matter what happens in life.
I don’t think anybody could have written a better or more intelligent explanation and advice.
You say you have struggled with addiction yourself, I hope you are now happy and content with your life and resolved your issues.
Personally I was addicted to smoking cigarettes even though I started smoking late as I did not smoke while I was playing sports.
In the end I guess you can do anything you put your mind to. One day I decided that it was time to stop, threw the half pack I had in my pocket in the garbage and haven’t smoked since. First 2 weeks were a nightmare and then it started to get easier and easier that was 14 years ago.
I am not addicted to seeing escorts or sex, when my wife passed away I didn’t have sex for 5 years.
I could stop if I wanted to but seeing as I enjoy seeing the ladies I am seeing, there is no reason to and I am not interested in dating.
The ladies I am seeing are friends, I have known them for many years, they are gorgeous, kind and amazing to be with, if they ever become unavailable I will stop seeing escorts.
It's completely different to see escorts because you enjoy it instead of feeling resentful and having a compulsive need to see as many escorts as possible and complain that they didn't give you the rush of dopamine you needed (which requires more and more hardcore stuff and people who fit more and more unattainable standards at a very cheap rate).. For me the issue was alcohol and now I can have one drink or a few and stop and I enjoy them and I can go several days without drinking and I don't think about it.
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It as now been 1 month since i stop seeing my regular SP, and to be honest its a relief, how hard was it, not hard at all when i realize all her game, and the bullshit lies she was telling me about my looks, and more. She said she lied to all her regulars I was the only one she was honest with. And sometimes she made it sound like she wanted to be my girlfriend, you are the only one of my regular that don't cheat on his wife you are a great man.
Then she started to talk about the cost of life and how pushing 40 she wants to raise her price. She is so stupid because the conversation after sex were always the same, how many times did you masturbate this week, do you masturbate at your job some of my clients do and stupidities like that. She once talk to me about zelda tears of the kingdom because one of her clients told her its an incredible game, but other then that she has nothing. You can't talk with her about anything she is so stupid she doesn't even know that London is the capital of England.
Now the other thing is looking at all the money I been putting into sex since 2013 makes no sense at all, and looking at the current SP and there insane price vary from 300$-500$ or the leftovers at motel chez nous who also boosted there price at 200$, i rather stay home save money and watch internet porn which honest for the past month have not been so bad.
Getting fit losing weight and i might try to see if i can meet someone in this fucked up world we live in, but so far i realize how screwed up this SP world is and for some odd reason I don't want to be part of it anymore.
Then she started to talk about the cost of life and how pushing 40 she wants to raise her price. She is so stupid because the conversation after sex were always the same, how many times did you masturbate this week, do you masturbate at your job some of my clients do and stupidities like that. She once talk to me about zelda tears of the kingdom because one of her clients told her its an incredible game, but other then that she has nothing. You can't talk with her about anything she is so stupid she doesn't even know that London is the capital of England.
Now the other thing is looking at all the money I been putting into sex since 2013 makes no sense at all, and looking at the current SP and there insane price vary from 300$-500$ or the leftovers at motel chez nous who also boosted there price at 200$, i rather stay home save money and watch internet porn which honest for the past month have not been so bad.
Getting fit losing weight and i might try to see if i can meet someone in this fucked up world we live in, but so far i realize how screwed up this SP world is and for some odd reason I don't want to be part of it anymore.
How many times are you going to log on here to let us know you're relieved you stopped seeing your regular SP and you think she's evil and stupid?
If you don't want to be a part of this "demimonde" anymore may I suggest spending more time at the gym or something and less time on merb complaining about her?
If you don't want to be a part of this "demimonde" anymore may I suggest spending more time at the gym or something and less time on merb complaining about her?
For me cutting back on the hobbying was pretty easy, the return on investment is just not there anymore. Pre covid I had a couple girls a used to see , prices were reasonable and service was great now if you want decent service the price is way higher than five years ago so while I still see girls from time to time I’m way less active than I was and I kinda like it this way.
Julia, have I ever told you how much I love you? I love the way you throw words around and in such a way that, how can people possibly get offended.
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more than 80 percent of canadian are living on credit lol. Just keep paying the minimum and dont realize how fked they will
Be down the line. And over 60 are living paycheque to paycheque. And by the way things arent getting any cheaper financially and not getting any easier.
Most of all, don't come to this forum asking for advice about that. It's like an alcoholic walking into a dive bar seeking advice on how to quit drinking.
