How do you stop this?

[michaelduni]

If the need to stop is purely financial, then putting together a plan based on your current income, expenses, savings necessary to invest for retirement, and then coming up with a budget would help. De-prioritizing other discretionary expenses such as expensive homes, cars, restaurants, vacations etc. can give you the budget needed for the hobby. Ideally, acquiring the skills for a high income profession will help make this planning easier.

If the concern is emotional or the inability to form real world relationships, then learning to compartmentalize could help. There is great joy in real relationships as an employee/employer, parent/child, sibling, friend, gf/bf etc. and keeping them while enjoying the hobby is possible.

And the best way to navigate and balance all of this is to have a healthy body and mind. So, as has already been said, eating healthy, exercise, meditation, and sleep will help.

This hobby addiction though does seem different from substance abuse addictions in that you can generally be more in control. And I am grateful to have met some amazing women that make me smile a lot more, and have enhanced my life significantly.

 

[ihooo]

I see SPs 1 to 2 times a week. It's not even a budget at this point.

huh?! where are the reviews lol?

 

[Hemme]

As my salary threw, the “quality” of women got better. It got safer. Now I can “afford” 250-500; a weeky. I don’t really have any disposable income but I’m very comfortable. I can spend as much I want when it comes to shopping and restaurants with my credit cards..

I’ve been trying to save money for a down payment for a property for the longest time. One of my goals is to be very tatted.. but I can’t save.

But I’m somewhat responsible, I know rent and bills come before escorts. Whatever is left over is my escort money. The only way I save is by giving it to my mom or trusted friends.

I hope this answers your question

Can i be your trusted feiend

 

[Anong]

Been trying to stop for the last 23 years. still trying

Keep trying to stop another 53 years, I believe you will succeed.

 

[vanhamm]

Julia, have I ever told you how much I love you? I love the way you throw words around and in such a way that, how can people possibly get offended.

offended by what exactly lol people like her make me laugh even more of course i kind of touch her job, she makes her money like this while i restrain, she is just like any other SP offers a dream and lies etc. Nothing new here. She could just not read my comment but i guess its too much for her.

 

[Like_It_Hot]

more than 80 percent of canadian are living on credit lol. Just keep paying the minimum and dont realize how fked they will
Be down the line. And over 60 are living paycheque to paycheque. And by the way things arent getting any cheaper financially and not getting any easier.

Don't know where you got your numbers from but in fact...

Fewer than half of adult credit cardholders (47%) carried a balance on a credit card for at least one month in the past year, according to a May 2024 Federal Reserve study. Job No. 1 for anyone with a credit card is to pay off that balance in full at the end of each month.
Meaning 55% pays the total amount each month in USA

As credit cards are the most popular form of payment in Canada, it's not surprising that as of May 2023, the total credit card debt in Canada was $96.9 billion, and 42% of Canadians have credit card debts that are not paid off.
Meaning 58% pays the total amount each month in Canada.

I know it is common those days to claim the situation is dark and darker but it doesn't reflect realty.

Paying for sex industry is not more dommageable than paying for a luxury house or a big car that one can't afford. As long as the bills fit the money income, not much problems. To each to decide where it is best to spend his money.

Some have extra money after paying the bills and saving for the future and spend little or not at all on SP. Other have no savings, hardly pay their bills accumulating debt and are still spending too much on SP. For those, big problems will come for sure.

 

[Mod21]

Everyone,

Time to return to a respectful discussion of the original question which started this thread:

For those whos done this hobby for a while, how do you tell yourself to stop when you have to? I decided to come to a stop but my nang nang down there tells me it just wants more..

Thanks for your collaboration

 

[Petit prince]

How about going on dates with civilians girl)! And if you find someone that’s great than it should help you to stop?!

Also there is libertin parties

This is sort of replacing SPs

 

[Toto beefcake]

Don't know where you got your numbers from but in fact...

Fewer than half of adult credit cardholders (47%) carried a balance on a credit card for at least one month in the past year, according to a May 2024 Federal Reserve study. Job No. 1 for anyone with a credit card is to pay off that balance in full at the end of each month.
Meaning 55% pays the total amount each month in USA

As credit cards are the most popular form of payment in Canada, it's not surprising that as of May 2023, the total credit card debt in Canada was $96.9 billion, and 42% of Canadians have credit card debts that are not paid off.
Meaning 58% pays the total amount each month in Canada.

I know it is common those days to claim the situation is dark and darker but it doesn't reflect realty.

Paying for sex industry is not more dommageable than paying for a luxury house or a big car that one can't afford. As long as the bills fit the money income, not much problems. To each to decide where it is best to spend his money.

Some have extra money after paying the bills and saving for the future and spend little or not at all on SP. Other have no savings, hardly pay their bills accumulating debt and are still spending too much on SP. For those, big problems will come for sure.

Like your last two paragraphs.

Also its not common , for darker and dark. Its paying to attention to the world and not just financially .

Also yes so about 50 percent are living paycheque to paycheque, only 30 percent are debt free, 65 and older account for about 57 percent of that .

Also credit card debt is 55 percent up from 43 %last year. So my numbers were off but thank you for your clarification. What explains the rise is basically everything is getting more pricey.

But agains like you said in your last two paragraphs everyone decides what they do with their money .

 

[Pablo1234]

Ummm.. my question has been answered? my forums always get big.. I guess it's interesting stuff..

 

[malboro_man]

As my salary threw, the “quality” of women got better. It got safer. Now I can “afford” 250-500; a weeky. I don’t really have any disposable income but I’m very comfortable. I can spend as much I want when it comes to shopping and restaurants with my credit cards..

250/week is 13k per year. 500/week is 26k per year. So, you can spend 13-26 k on the hobby. Perhaps, you can spend 13k on the hobby and save 13k. Cut down on the shopping (buy used) and eating out (cook for yourself). You could easily save 30k or more.

 

[vanhamm]

How about going on dates with civilians girl)! And if you find someone that’s great than it should help you to stop?!

Also there is libertin parties

This is sort of replacing SPs

I have been off the dating market for a while now 8 or 9 years, but in the last 2 months 2 women showed interest a dental hygienist asked me out for drinks and my neighbor girlfriend friend also wanted to meet me. The thing is when you been single for so long its more confusing to get back in a relationship. If you combine past life experience losing houses and more and the fact that most relationships never last.

I was talking to my mother the other night and she told me i should go out more, i said mom i am 52 where do you want me to go my clubbing days have been over for a very long time, and where to meet women theses days because most i met during my time online dating and been introduce where not serious at all.

 

[vanhamm]

Of course the decision to stop seeing my SP was also money related, at 140$ a shot, sometimes twice per week, that was between 800-1000$ per month which is insane. If you have the budget for this good for you, but me i don't.

I made some changes with my financial adviser and plan to retire before 60, also my SP wanted to raise her fees so another reason to stop, yes i miss sex but for now i need to control myself.

 

[11:11]

Of course the decision to stop seeing my SP was also money related, at 140$ a shot, sometimes twice per week, that was between 800-1000$ per month which is insane. If you have the budget for this good for you, but me i don't.

I made some changes with my financial adviser and plan to retire before 60, also my SP wanted to raise her fees so another reason to stop, yes i miss sex but for now i need to control myself.

Mind sharing the $140 SPs name? Sounds like a deal..,

 

[vanhamm]

Mind sharing the $140 SPs name? Sounds like a deal..,

She aint that price anymore hahahah, she does not advertise anymore and she keeps her regulars, she as a full time job so she does SP on the side and she is pushing 40 so on her last leg i guess.

 

[11:11]

She aint that price anymore hahahah, she does not advertise anymore and she keeps her regulars, she as a full time job so she does SP on the side and she is pushing 40 so on her last leg i guess.

I understand…

 

[What's My Name]

I know but my wank wank consists of seeing the pics on LL, writing to the SP and asking her services. But after that wank wank, my shticksel still wants more

Squeeze harder lol

 

[Petit prince]

Invest in your health first. Engage in any sports. You’ll feel good about yourself and look better too. In some activities, you might meet nice ladies. Dancing classes are great, as are tennis and other sports. There's no need to go to clubs.

Invest in your wealth too. Learn new things. Network.

Eventually, you’ll become attractive enough to meet someone special.

Which girl doesn’t want a healthy individual who isn’t broke?

That’s the minimum.

If you want to attract someone you desire, you need to reflect in yourself first what you are attracted to.

 

[envelopes]

I found that the best way to beat this addiction is to have no money

 

[E666]

I think it depends.. I can see it being a massive addition

It’s definitely an addiction for me when I’m not doing good. I could easily spend 1k in a week because I am going through something.
But when I get a nice routine with gym and hobbies ..I control myself way better.

I have couple of friends that are happily married have their regulars.. It’s best way of cheating without getting emotional involved.

I personally want and working towards making more money so I can comfortably have a weekly regular. Not interested in dating. I just wanna spend more time working on my projects.

So it really depends on you.. if you want to stop, just get busier and spend more time with people. Get new hobbies!