One thing to realize, Pablo, is that you're asking advice to a bunch of guys who haven't been able to stop, or simply just won't stop. Fortunately, mommy Lena is here to speak the truth and help you make sense of this insanity.
As advice, please don't propose him a 3some with mummyOne thing to realize, Pablo, is that you're asking advice to a bunch of guys who haven't been able to stop, or simply just won't stop. Fortunately, mommy Lena is here to speak the truth and help you make sense of this insanity.
One thing to realize, Pablo, is that you're asking advice to a bunch of guys who haven't been able to stop, or simply just won't stop. Fortunately, mommy Lena is here to speak the truth and help you make sense of this insanity.
Ah, missionary!@LC18 is right. Instead of coming here or LL etc ... join a bible group
Right.Truth… change of thoughts and scenery make the difference
Based on my thread it may work, but creates so many other issues. It is an addiction and you need a really strong motivation …How you stop ? By finding someone who does it all for you, but for free.
Very well said, I’d sign under every word.Basically, I can only stop when it's in sacrifice for someone else. Otherwise, I just let myself indulge because I deserve it. Don't we all deserve a little fun?
Even us SPs are sex addicts ourselves, or we wouldn't be able to enjoy, or keep up with what we do.
Maybe not fully stop but you might slow down.....eventually. I use to come up every 5-6 weeks stay 3 nights and appointments every night. Nowadays I'm in town every 3 months and maybe just 1 or 2 appointments. As I get older, the urge is not as strong. That coupled with talent pool being not as great as it used to be helps with me staying away.For those whos done this hobby for a while, how do you tell yourself to stop when you have to? I decided to come to a stop but my nang nang down there tells me it just wants more..
I'm not a sex addict personally and many escorts I know are not..Lol... asking a bunch of sex addicts how to stop being a sex addict.... Even us SPs are sex addicts ourselves, or we wouldn't be able to enjoy, or keep up with what we do.
Only thing I can think of was religion that filled a void for a while, but eventually the draw to sex was always too strong... damn even went into depression for a period of my life in relationships because of a bad sex life.
If your wanting to stop to get into finding a relationship, or something more fulfilling, then look for your someone, and quit when you find your relationship.
If it's for money reasons, stop looking at LL when your wanking, and switch to pornhub. At least there what your seeing isn't a click and a few messages away from showing up at your door.
One of my faves before flash games became a thing of the pastwas newgrounds adult only games. Boy did that ever open my eyes to a lot of intriguing fetishes and desires yet to try lol.
Agree 100% but not easy regardless…I'm not a sex addict personally and many escorts I know are not..
I've struggled with addiction in the past and while I think there is nothing wrong with booking escorts and I even encourage it (lol) or I wouldn't have business, I think certain behaviours we have may be compulsive and unhealthy, particularly when it leads to the following issues : mental health disturbances, inability to think about other things, physical health problems, financial issues, problems with relationships, problems with work etc. I agree with Julia said. You can love sex and not be a sex addict. You can be a wine connaisseur and not be an alcoholic. You can work retail and not have a spending addiction. Something becomes an addiction when it interferes in your life very negatively
I think there is a way to get out of an addictive pattern no matter what the addiction is. I've had friends who recovered from being heroin addicts, so it's possible to recover from this as well. There's a reason wh people become addicted to something.. It's because we have struggles and we experienced difficult things. We try to numb emotions that are difficult to face such as loneliness, trauma, heartbreak, etc. The more you try to numb it the worse you feel because the good chemicals that you get from indulging in your addiction are temporary, and the shame that you get from engaging in these behaviours and the issues that your addiction cause in your life make everything worse and worse and it becomes a cycle.
I recommend to invest in healthy relationships, different hobbies and learning new skills. Harm reduction takes time, and you may need therapy for this. Giving yourself small goals, identifying triggers (such as : what are some emotions or situations or things that trigger me to indulge in my addiction?) and trying to avoid them, having empathy for yourself, developing empathy for people generally, and slowly replacing harmful actions with positive ones that nourish your soul are some ways to heal from this.. Developing healthy habits as well, like sleeping well, meditating, enjoying nature, eating well, exercising etc. You kinda have to rewire your brain. And I know it sucks but you have to face these painful feelings and try to deal with them in a healthier way.. like confiding in someone, spirituality, therapy, writing, making art etc
No, it's definitely not easy.. healing from traumatic experiences and emotional wounds is really hard and takes a long time and you have to have empathy for yourself.. it's a one day at a time type deal. When you have an unhealthy relationship to something nothing can satisfy you anymore, over time you always need more and more and you feel disgusted with yourself and with what satisfies the craving. I think there are many good and healthy reasons for seeing escortsAgree 100% but not easy regardless…
i disagree about the talent pool not being as good. I have been an active hobbyest for almost 30 years in this city and we have never had so much choice! We tend to compare every new experience to our best past experiences. Like a drug. We want this 'hit' to match or even better our last best hit... Over time it gets harder (no pun intended) to get that hit in this hobby, at the prices we perceive we used to pay, as our sexual brains become desensitized.Maybe not fully stop but you might slow down.....eventually. I use to come up every 5-6 weeks stay 3 nights and appointments every night. Nowadays I'm in town every 3 months and maybe just 1 or 2 appointments. As I get older, the urge is not as strong. That coupled with talent pool being not as great as it used to be helps with me staying away.
I wish more hobbyists would understand this!We tend to compare every new experience to our best past experiences. Like a drug. We want this 'hit' to match or even better our last best hit... Over time it gets harder (no pun intended) to get that hit in this hobby, at the prices we perceive we used to pay, as our sexual brains become desensitized.
I’m gonna sound a bit dramatic lol but I’m actually fine.. things could be worst and I’m working on this addiction everyday. Some days are really hard and some days I forgot that I have this addiction. Read my entire post, I got some good tips.No, it's definitely not easy.. healing from traumatic experiences and emotional wounds is really hard and takes a long time and you have to have empathy for yourself.. it's a one day at a time type deal. When you have an unhealthy relationship to something nothing can satisfy you anymore, over time you always need more and more and you feel disgusted with yourself and with what satisfies the craving. I think there are many good and healthy reasons for seeing escortsbut I think everyone should benefit in questioning themselves..