How do you manage it if (big if, I know3rd best financial advice, totally related to this hobby: Set yourself a reasonable budget for hobbying and don't go over.
How do you manage it if (big if, I know3rd best financial advice, totally related to this hobby: Set yourself a reasonable budget for hobbying and don't go over.
I don’t think anybody could have written a better or more intelligent explanation and advice.I'm not a sex addict personally and many escorts I know are not..
I've struggled with addiction in the past and while I think there is nothing wrong with booking escorts and I even encourage it (lol) or I wouldn't have business, I think certain behaviours we have may be compulsive and unhealthy, particularly when it leads to the following issues : mental health disturbances, inability to think about other things, physical health problems, financial issues, problems with relationships, problems with work etc. I agree with Julia said. You can love sex and not be a sex addict. You can be a wine connaisseur and not be an alcoholic. You can work retail and not have a spending addiction. Something becomes an addiction when it interferes in your life very negatively
I think there is a way to get out of an addictive pattern no matter what the addiction is. I've had friends who recovered from being heroin addicts, so it's possible to recover from this as well. There's a reason wh people become addicted to something.. It's because we have struggles and we experienced difficult things. We try to numb emotions that are difficult to face such as loneliness, trauma, heartbreak, etc. The more you try to numb it the worse you feel because the good chemicals that you get from indulging in your addiction are temporary, and the shame that you get from engaging in these behaviours and the issues that your addiction cause in your life make everything worse and worse and it becomes a cycle.
I recommend to invest in healthy relationships, different hobbies and learning new skills. Harm reduction takes time, and you may need therapy for this. Giving yourself small goals, identifying triggers (such as : what are some emotions or situations or things that trigger me to indulge in my addiction?) and trying to avoid them, having empathy for yourself, developing empathy for people generally, and slowly replacing harmful actions with positive ones that nourish your soul are some ways to heal from this.. Developing healthy habits as well, like sleeping well, meditating, enjoying nature, eating well, exercising etc. You kinda have to rewire your brain. And I know it sucks but you have to face these painful feelings and try to deal with them in a healthier way.. like confiding in someone, spirituality, therapy, writing, making art etc
It's completely different to see escorts because you enjoy it instead of feeling resentful and having a compulsive need to see as many escorts as possible and complain that they didn't give you the rush of dopamine you needed (which requires more and more hardcore stuff and people who fit more and more unattainable standards at a very cheap rate).. For me the issue was alcohol and now I can have one drink or a few and stop and I enjoy them and I can go several days without drinking and I don't think about it.I don’t think anybody could have written a better or more intelligent explanation and advice.
You say you have struggled with addiction yourself, I hope you are now happy and content with your life and resolved your issues.
Personally I was addicted to smoking cigarettes even though I started smoking late as I did not smoke while I was playing sports.
In the end I guess you can do anything you put your mind to. One day I decided that it was time to stop, threw the half pack I had in my pocket in the garbage and haven’t smoked since. First 2 weeks were a nightmare and then it started to get easier and easier that was 14 years ago.
I am not addicted to seeing escorts or sex, when my wife passed away I didn’t have sex for 5 years.
I could stop if I wanted to but seeing as I enjoy seeing the ladies I am seeing, there is no reason to and I am not interested in dating.
The ladies I am seeing are friends, I have known them for many years, they are gorgeous, kind and amazing to be with, if they ever become unavailable I will stop seeing escorts.
Julia, have I ever told you how much I love you? I love the way you throw words around and in such a way that, how can people possibly get offended.How many times are you going to log on here to let us know you're relieved you stopped seeing your regular SP and you think she's evil and stupid?
If you don't want to be a part of this "demimonde" anymore may I suggest spending more time at the gym or something and less time on merb complaining about her?
more than 80 percent of canadian are living on credit lol. Just keep paying the minimum and dont realize how fked they willAlso reading this says it all:
We should put on our credit card only what we can spend, credit is to be reimbursed fully at the end of the month. Using credits any other way is setting yourself up for failure.
How dare you Julia? Please speak only for yourself. Personally, I am disappointed that he did not mention the AI rap song which he made for her to listen.How many times are you going to log on here to let us know you're relieved you stopped seeing your regular SP and you think she's evil and stupid?
If you don't want to be a part of this "demimonde" anymore may I suggest spending more time at the gym or something and less time on merb complaining about her?
Most of all, don't come to this forum asking for advice about that. It's like an alcoholic walking into a dive bar seeking advice on how to quit drinking.For those whos done this hobby for a while, how do you tell yourself to stop when you have to? I decided to come to a stop but my nang nang down there tells me it just wants more..
huh?! where are the reviews lol?I see SPs 1 to 2 times a week. It's not even a budget at this point.
Can i be your trusted feiendAs my salary threw, the “quality” of women got better. It got safer. Now I can “afford” 250-500; a weeky. I don’t really have any disposable income but I’m very comfortable. I can spend as much I want when it comes to shopping and restaurants with my credit cards..
I’ve been trying to save money for a down payment for a property for the longest time. One of my goals is to be very tatted.. but I can’t save.
But I’m somewhat responsible, I know rent and bills come before escorts. Whatever is left over is my escort money. The only way I save is by giving it to my mom or trusted friends.
I hope this answers your question
Keep trying to stop another 53 years, I believe you will succeed.Been trying to stop for the last 23 years. still trying
offended by what exactly lol people like her make me laugh even more of course i kind of touch her job, she makes her money like this while i restrain, she is just like any other SP offers a dream and lies etc. Nothing new here. She could just not read my comment but i guess its too much for her.Julia, have I ever told you how much I love you? I love the way you throw words around and in such a way that, how can people possibly get offended.![]()
Don't know where you got your numbers from but in fact...more than 80 percent of canadian are living on credit lol. Just keep paying the minimum and dont realize how fked they will
Be down the line. And over 60 are living paycheque to paycheque. And by the way things arent getting any cheaper financially and not getting any easier.
For those whos done this hobby for a while, how do you tell yourself to stop when you have to? I decided to come to a stop but my nang nang down there tells me it just wants more..
Like your last two paragraphs.Don't know where you got your numbers from but in fact...
Fewer than half of adult credit cardholders (47%) carried a balance on a credit card for at least one month in the past year, according to a May 2024 Federal Reserve study. Job No. 1 for anyone with a credit card is to pay off that balance in full at the end of each month.
Meaning 55% pays the total amount each month in USA
As credit cards are the most popular form of payment in Canada, it's not surprising that as of May 2023, the total credit card debt in Canada was $96.9 billion, and 42% of Canadians have credit card debts that are not paid off.
Meaning 58% pays the total amount each month in Canada.
I know it is common those days to claim the situation is dark and darker but it doesn't reflect realty.
Paying for sex industry is not more dommageable than paying for a luxury house or a big car that one can't afford. As long as the bills fit the money income, not much problems. To each to decide where it is best to spend his money.
Some have extra money after paying the bills and saving for the future and spend little or not at all on SP. Other have no savings, hardly pay their bills accumulating debt and are still spending too much on SP. For those, big problems will come for sure.