How important is mental stimulation to you?

[General Gonad]

Is it just me, or do you guys have problems getting into it with dumb ladies too?

One huge turn-off for me - and I mean HUGE - is when a lady is totally stupid. It has happened to me on some occasions and I usually try to get drunk to listen to their silly rants.

I am not looking for a rocket scientist, but it's so much better when I can converse with a lady prior to engaging in sex. In fact, mental stimulation is an absolute precondition for me to enjoy great sex.

Feel free to discuss. I'll be back later today.

GG

 

[Tracy]

I agree with that on the flip side. If the guy is unintelligent, usually I have a very hard time getting into it. I think you are not alone on that GG.

 

[General Gonad]

I agree with that on the flip side. If the guy is unintelligent, usually I have a very hard time getting into it. I think you are not alone on that GG.

Tracy,

There is a myth that all SPs treat every client the same and clients treat every SP the same. I am sure that SPs have their favorite clients just like clients their favorite SPs because you click more with some people than others. That is just normal.

When Karma first came onto the boards, she got me really curious through her writing. She was playing me in a way, but she also enjoyed the exchanges (at least that is what she told me a long time after I stopped seeing her as a client).

When I say "mental stimulation," it doesn't mean I want to converse about Hegel, Marx and Foucault, it simply means that she is engaging and stimulating.

There is nothing like sharing a drink with a lady that you can converse with. Some idiots on this board think this is a waste of time. I hear that some guys pop Viagra before a session, take out the timer and greet the ladies naked.

Real class acts.

As for me, I am extremely mellow and relaxed (sometimes too relaxed) in my sessions. It is absolutely essential that she feels totally comfortable being with me. We share a drink, talk a little and then one kiss leads to another and off we go.

I am at an age where sex starts in my brain. She can be the hottest thing on earth but if she is dumb as nails, then I'd rather stay home and relieve myself.

GG

 

[MakeIt]

Is it just me, or do you guys have problems getting into it with dumb ladies too?

One huge turn-off for me - and I mean HUGE - is when a lady is totally stupid. It has happened to me on some occasions and I usually try to get drunk to listen to their silly rants.

I am not looking for a rocket scientist, but it's so much better when I can converse with a lady prior to engaging in sex. In fact, mental stimulation is an absolute precondition for me to enjoy great sex.

Feel free to discuss. I'll be back later today.

GG

GG

I look at it from the other side of the coin - a great encounter ALWAYS includes stimulating conversation - it doesn't need to be a discussion about politics or relativity - it just needs to be stimulating in a positive way. Even of the girl is a few candles short of a birthday cake, she can still make me laugh and sometimes silly conversations can be fun as well.

What does annoy me however are girls who start ranting about politics (had that one, no fun) ex-boyfriends, their agency or something else that is basically pissing them off and they feel the need to share this with me. This is neither stimulating nor fun - it just ruins the date.

The other behavior that bothers me is the girl who basically doesn't want to or can't converse at all except for short answers to any question. Usually, I run into this with debutant who are not quite ready for this and won't ever get there. I remember when I saw Maxi her second night at Eleganza. Hot looking girl with decent service but she couldn't converse to save her life. From what I saw in subsequent reviews, she did not improve.

Best topic I've seen on the board in a while GG, and welcome back.

Makeit

 

[General Gonad]

The art of mental teasing

Very important a "challenging conversation" is a mental tease..

Most memorable sex seem to be the one's that were preceed by a great stimulating conversation

Bingo! You want to know something, even though I am paying an escort to be with me, I love the ones that tease me and challenge me.

I will share something with all of you. When Karma and I were exchange about a hundred PMs a day (maybe not a hundred but too many to count), she was teasing me. It was eating me up inside that she was refusing to meet me or tell me where she was working. Again, she played me well.

I then found out she was working at Eleganza. She told me, however, to wait to see her as an indy. I couldn't wait another minute so I booked her on a Friday night even though I had booked her for a lunch the following Tuesday as an indy.

She came in my room and she was pissed. "I told you to wait to see me." She was disappointed that I did not wait until she became an indy. She wanted me to meet Karma the indy, not Helene of Eleganza.

Anyways, we moved to the couch where she sat down and I lied down with my head on her knees. We talked and she teased me. I so wanted to kiss her, but she refused! "How could you refuse me? I am GG!"

She stuck to her guns until the hour ended. Then right at the end, she plopped this amazing kiss on me. I will never forget that kiss. It was like a tornado hit me and I lost my barrings.

My sweet Karma hooked me real good. She is the only lady that got me to dish up major coin for a suite at the Omni where we dined and enjoyed a great session the following Tuesday.

The art of teasing, especially mental teasing, is so rare nowadays. It's all fast food GFE junk, but when you run across a gem, you have to seize the moment.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

I prefer to remember the shivers that she made me feel, than the sight of her performing a sexual act. I will probably lose the visual memory, but I may never forget the way I felt.

So yes, in my book it is the MOST important aspect of the encounter. Unfortunately not many think this way, not by the PMs I received after my reviews of Miss Samantha and Karoline

Forget what these idiots tell you on the boards. I have enjoyed many sessions where I did not have any sex at all.

What? No sex? How can you possible enjoy a sexless session? Isn`t the only reason to be with a lady to perform all sorts of alphabet soup sex acts like TCIMWS?

Don`t get me wrong, I am hornier than all Merb members put together, but the same old bullshit encounter just doesn`t cut it for me any longer.

A long time ago, I realized that if you really want to have a great session, you, the client, has to put the effort to make sure the SP leaves with a smile on her face.

This seems counter intuitive to many of the wannabe porn stars on this board, but the true gentlemen know exactly what I am talking about. How can a lady - any lady - perform intimate sexual acts with you if she is made to be felt like a cheap whore?

I had one guy PM me earlier today to tell me he wasn`t happy with Venus of XXXtase because she didn`t provide him with two services in an hour. OMG! I can just imagine her reaction. He told her he wasn`t happy and she was probably thinking ``I hope you never call for me again``.

I will repeat this again: the secret to a great session starts with the client, not the SP. You, the client, needs to work hard to make sure the lady is totally comfortable with you. It goes way beyond proper grooming. That is just basic hygienic bullshit (even an idiot can take a shower and smell fresh for a lady).

When I say prepare for an encounter, I mean offer her a drink, take the time to converse, be thoughtful and enjoy the art of sensuality. If sex ensues, so be it and if it doesn`t so what? Enjoy the moment.

There is nothing better than seeing an SP leave my room with a huge smile on her face. I have had many tell me that they really enjoyed being with me and that two hours just blows by too fast.

Sometimes I get cynical and say: ``Come on, you say that to every client.`` But then they look at me with this puzzled look and reply: ``no darling, if I do not like a client, I say nothing.``

GG

 

[Agrippa]

Proper grammar is hot; an elaborate vocabulary is hot; manners are hot...

All mental... all stimultating!

 

[Agrippa]

[...]

Anyways, we moved to the couch where she sat down and I lied down with my head on her knees. We talked and she teased me. I so wanted to kiss her, but she refused! "How could you refuse me? I am GG!"

She stuck to her guns until the hour ended. Then right at the end, she plopped this amazing kiss on me. I will never forget that kiss. It was like a tornado hit me and I lost my barrings.

My sweet Karma hooked me real good. [...]

So you paid her $180 (or whatever Eleganza charged in those days) to rest your head on her lap. And then you got a kiss?

Don't go starting more threads about how SC patrons are silly! She didn't tease you, she played you, sucker.

 

[General Gonad]

Don't tell me she pulled that old trick on you too!

LOL, I guess I am a SUCKER for head games.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

Did she get you to spend on her for reading notes from the ceiling?

Damn brother, I told you to print those notes. I couldn't read your chicken scribble on the ceiling so I mixed up my throbbing heart with my throbbing cock.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

The other behavior that bothers me is the girl who basically doesn't want to or can't converse at all except for short answers to any question. Usually, I run into this with debutant who are not quite ready for this and won't ever get there. I remember when I saw Maxi her second night at Eleganza. Hot looking girl with decent service but she couldn't converse to save her life. From what I saw in subsequent reviews, she did not improve.

MakeIt,

I once had this drugged out SP come into my room, kiss me and go straight for my dick saying "oui bébé, je vais te soucer".

I was so turned off that I gave her the money for two hours and asked her to leave. I then called the agency owner and gave him hell for sending me garbage.

That was a nightmare session with a drugged out whore with no class.

Then, I have had explosive orgasms with chics that are boring or dumb as nails. One in particular was torturing me with personal stories of her white trash family and her ex-boyfriends in jail.

Thank God I was tipsy that afternoon. She was the best doggy I ever had in my hobbying career. I still get excited thinking about how she turned her head towards me, screaming "yeah baby, fuck my ass!!!"

GG

 

[General Gonad]

Well that's you. Me I engaged in so much oral sex with her that I've developed a Swedish accent. What's the subject again?

We are discussing Swedish meatballs.

Seriously, it is time to remember the old Swedish proverb:

Seriousness and pleasure should thrive together.
- Allvar och gamman trives gärna samman.

I believe this sums up the gist of this thread.

GG

 

[korbel]

Don't go starting more threads about how SC patrons are silly! She didn't tease you, she played you, sucker.

Hello Agrippa,

It's staggering to think of the strange contortions in logic and ethics in a persons psychology that someone who rails against the hobby so often and so harshly, and tells everyone they're all suckers being used by greedy SPs doing all they can to take our money, would pay just to chat with and be comforted by them.

whew,

Korbel

 

[Possum Trot]

The more intelligent a woman, the greater likelihood she resents men. The best experiences with a SP are with the young, hot, low IQ, dazzle me with your sex skills and not your knowledge form a Women’s Studies degree.

I guess you can put me down for the exact opposite of the above. The SP with the greatest sex skills also had the most degrees . Man she was a dirty dirty girl

 

[korbel]

I guess you can put me down for the exact opposite of the above. The SP with the greatest sex skills also had the most degrees . Man she was a dirty dirty girl

Hello Possum Trot,

Yes, the most intelligent ladies are often the most naughtily creative. However, the young sexually ravenous hottie with little going for her than her red hot libido is a very special adventure too.

Ummmm,

Korbie

 

[General Gonad]

Before this thread degenerates into another "GG's contortions thread", I want to step in here and bring to your attention an article on how to achieve a fulfilling sexual relationship.

These are the parts that I agree with:

"Unhealthy sexual behaviors generally involve recurrent intense fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving nonhuman objects, children or nonconsenting partners, or lead to suffering or humiliation. Some people can't become aroused unless they imagine or act out such fantasies. In these situations, consulting a health care professional is strongly advised.

Infidelity also may lead to very difficult psychological stresses and, often, a shattering of valued relationships. And sexual activities that result in a sexually transmitted disease have a direct impact on physical health."

And especially this one:

"For a person to become sexually aroused and to function normally, he or she needs to have a feeling of self-confidence, freedom from anxiety, the presence of arousing mental and physical stimulation, and the ability to focus attention on sexually arousing thoughts or behavior. Anything that interferes with these conditions can disrupt a sexual encounter. If one or more of these conditions is routinely absent, an inability to perform can become a lasting problem.

Self-confidence includes a belief that you'll be able to perform sexually, a belief that the partner finds you attractive, and a feeling that the partner has good intentions. If one of the partners routinely belittles or threatens the other, such confidence can be undermined.

Any type of anxiety can lead to an episode of sexual failure. The most common type of anxiety is performance anxiety, in which the person is afraid that he or she won't be able to become aroused and function normally. This fear of failure is self-perpetuating because the anxiety interferes with arousal. The inability to become aroused then increases the anxiety.

In order to become aroused, people generally need the mental stimulation of a partner they love or find attractive, combined with appropriate physical stimulation. The need for direct physical stimulation increases with age.

In order for stimulation to be arousing, it is necessary for a person to be able to pay attention to it. If someone is distracted by thoughts of possible failure or a lack of self-confidence or has concerns about how the partner is reacting, this will distract from the arousing sexual activity."

GG

 

[korbel]

Hello all,

Intelligent women are incredibly stimulating in every way. Is that the problem with escorts of this type? This is a business right, not a dating service with a love match as the goal. If you seek out and find the best, you may be so stimulated that you fall for someone who in the end is conducting a business and must leave. Isn't finding the best and not being able to have something with her the perfect fruitless torture. So what do you do...just accept the business situation and put aside all the best possibilities. Torture indeed.

Damn,

Korbel

 

[General Gonad]

So what do you do...just accept the business situation and put aside all the best possibilities. Torture indeed.

Korbie,

There is the irony in all of this. If you meet an SP that you really click with on all levels, intellectual, sexual, and emotional, then it truly is torture.

I do not try to think about it and having had experience in real relationships, I know how women are in real life...ball busters! That goes for all women, but love them or hate them, we all need them.

I know I am hitting uncharted territory because I am becoming pickier with the ladies I meet. When I meet a rare jewel, I savor the moment, knowing full well that repeating with her is not recommended because it leads me to experience mixed emotions.

Remember what I wrote a while back, the slippery slope between reality and fantasy is indeed very slippery, especially when you meet someone who you really feel you could easily get along with.

GG

 

[korbel]

A question came in my mind: " Is someone who is average intelligent (and less), and not well educated will be really interested to meet an intelligent and educated lady???....

Yes baby.

ME...ME...ME...like when I met YOU. By the way...I'm "less" and you are MORE!

Warm Kisses,

Korbie-kins

PS

Yeah, everyone. I know I'm flirting. It's grrrrrrrrrrrrreeeeaaat!

 

[General Gonad]

A question came in my mind: " Is someone who is average intelligent (and less), and not well educated will be really interested to meet an intelligent and educated lady???....

Good question and I will answer this honestly. I know lots of women who are well educated - doctors, lawyers, accountants, whatever - but are boring as hell.

Mental stimulation comes from being able to share your life experiences, not from a diploma.

One of the most interesting SPs I ever met was the oldest one: the great Lily Love. She is not university educated but she is by far one of the most interesting people I ever met in this biz.

The funny thing with her is that she shocked me. Her sexual libido is unparalleled - at 52 years old, she is a sexual phenomena.

But when we conversed about life, I was struck by her humanity and generosity. She talked to me about her failed relationship, her daughter and a whole host of other issues.

Most men here would never see an older SP. Too bad, they do not know what they are missing.

GG

P.S. Another older SP that I highly recommend is Diva from Montreal Mature Escorts. When she walked out with those stockings and chain around her waist, I got an instant boner that never went away. She stimulated senses that I didn't even know I had.