Speaking for myself, I never had a confirmation problem or a no show with an HDH. That only ever happened with an agency. That being said, most of the high end indies/HDH I see require verification of identity and/or a copy of the hotel confirmation email and/or references. Over the years I have been told they come across many people who do not want to provide these but still assume appointments will be honored. I understand verification is not the norm in Montreal, but it is in many places and I know a few providers that will absolutely not compromise on it. Not saying thats the issue here but something I heard about frequently in reference to the same topic
Yes, it is like that with many indies.... but I have to tell something that exist from many years equally with
agencies and indies, when we are visiting (outcall), everybody that I know used to call back the gentleman directly to his room to confirm that he is really where he is saying he is, so yes, we need a name to ask for yourself because most of receptions of hotels are verifying to whom you want to speak before transfer the call just to be sure to transfer it adequately with no mistake. I feel very secure to meet someone in his hotel room then.
If I am receiving someone, it is imperative that I need to know that I am not meeting an eventual psychopath to avoid any kind of problems and most of all, to have a possible nice encounter together...
So the idea behind to have some few real infos about someone is that 100% of people not fearing to give few infos
aren't maliciously intended. That's a fact. That's an exchange of trust, would I be able to trust someone to be sane and safe to be alone with more if he showed me some trust at first? Yes. And we are not talking here about a complete CV, quand même.
This said, I have been in agency long time ago, and I can tell that I saw the most twisted and less respectuous individuals during that time. Oh yes! I met beautiful nice people as well, but I can tell, the best weirdos (not in the good sense) as well.... but well, you get the picture. The "worst clientèle" is hiding behind anonymity, that's sad for you all guys who want the 100% anonymity, but you must try to understand that part, and ok, I understand your need, so clearly, what is your solution then to be able to satisfy both part? How would you like to be able to calm the fear to meet an eventual psycho when you want to meet together? The best thing being an Indy is to be able to choose and avoid to be alone and in presence of malicious psychos.