...When it comes to these long-term arrangements, “Careful, boys, you play with fire”. You are talking about the possibility of rapidly changing power dynamics, potentially unlimited spending, absolute misery, and even violence/death. This is a lot different than the hooker/John relationship where each of them has a lot of other sources of revenue and sex, even if they both primarily enjoy seeing regulars for sessions of greater length with occasional social activities.
I agree. That’s why I and several other merbites have not entered into true long-term arrangements that involve weekly or monthly allowances. We treat SA like an advertising site for “amateur” escorts. We make initial contacts on the site, and exchange some messages
without touching on financial details.
Then we meet the woman at a coffee shop or restaurant and if we both click, then we negotiate a
per-
encounter rate for each meeting. There is an unspoken understanding that the arrangement might continue as long as both parties remain satisfied with the deal.
My arrangements have lasted varying numbers of encounters: 1 time, 2 times, 13 times and 2 times. Yes, it takes time to research, exchange messages, meet offline and negotiate a deal. It’s not like calling an agency or walking into a massage parlor and getting almost immediate satisfaction.
But given how much the moral panic about paid sex has negatively impacted the commercial sex business in most of the U.S, SA is a worthwhile and sometimes very rewarding alternative for guys.