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This is the only "seeking" thread I could find on MERB.
I decided to sign up again - just to take a look as a few years ago I had a successful arrangement that lasted almost a year. I'm extremely busy so we didn't meet that much but managed to fit in some neat dates, some private time and a few months in an overseas trip!
It was quiet fun while it lasted but quite a time commitment. Anyways, not too expensive to sign up for a month, so thought I'd check it out again and wow.. I don't know if things have changed but.. Every single lady I've spoken to appears to be ghosting on me despite general politeness. They all abruptly stop messaging mid conversation or favourite me but still don't respond and leave me hanging. It's an odd feeling as I don't remember it being like this last time I was on the site.
I haven't even gotten responses to "I'd be interested in what you're looking for.." with a monetary response, just silence, so strange! Anyways, enough of a break, busy season so back to work..
I decided to sign up again - just to take a look as a few years ago I had a successful arrangement that lasted almost a year. I'm extremely busy so we didn't meet that much but managed to fit in some neat dates, some private time and a few months in an overseas trip!
It was quiet fun while it lasted but quite a time commitment. Anyways, not too expensive to sign up for a month, so thought I'd check it out again and wow.. I don't know if things have changed but.. Every single lady I've spoken to appears to be ghosting on me despite general politeness. They all abruptly stop messaging mid conversation or favourite me but still don't respond and leave me hanging. It's an odd feeling as I don't remember it being like this last time I was on the site.
I haven't even gotten responses to "I'd be interested in what you're looking for.." with a monetary response, just silence, so strange! Anyways, enough of a break, busy season so back to work..
My involvement with seeking is mostly about looking at pictures and gaining access to a ladies private photos. Last week a girl Favorited me and sent me several messages. In her bio (whatever you call the first few lines) she actually put her cell and asked guys to text her. She is a NSA/FWB girl. She looks like she is hooking to me. It's so obvious and being from the USA I worry A.) she's law enforcement or B.) shes an opiate addict.
Hungry,
It’s unusual for a girl to provide a cellphone # on SA without first messaging, and your concerns are valid. It’s more likely that she is a pro than LE, but I would have the same concerns as you.
That being said, there are lots of NSA/FWB girls on there who will give out their cell# after messaging you. Most are very discreet and will not talk about what they are open to unless they meet you in person, which is a prudent policy for both parties to follow. Be very careful about what you text a girl. Save transactional discussion for when you meet in person.
It’s unusual for a girl to provide a cellphone # on SA without first messaging, and your concerns are valid. It’s more likely that she is a pro than LE, but I would have the same concerns as you.
That being said, there are lots of NSA/FWB girls on there who will give out their cell# after messaging you. Most are very discreet and will not talk about what they are open to unless they meet you in person, which is a prudent policy for both parties to follow. Be very careful about what you text a girl. Save transactional discussion for when you meet in person.
I'm having quite a few too, to the point of being surprised when someone replies reliably :/
Also had some start responding again "normally" a while later, or even weeks, to go results!
My guess is that:
- some are not sure, or not there too seriously, just testing the waters, and get distracted
- some start multiple conversations, then only follow the most interesting lead (but may come back to you at a later time) I must plead guilty to the same type of behaviour sometimes...
- don't forget that (at least in Montreal) you're dealing with young women who may have a lot going in their life, probably a subset with more chaotic lives than the average, and you may not be priority #1!
So I just don't care and go with the flow!
More sugar babies for those who can afford them. I wonder if membership is free on Seeking for male college and university students.
https://www.cbc.ca/passionateeye/episodes/secrets-of-sugar-baby-dating
https://www.cbc.ca/passionateeye/fe...erful-lure-for-cash-strapped-college-students
"Sugar dating websites aim to connect attractive young people known as ‘sugar babies’ with older, wealthy men known as ‘sugar daddies’ (or women known as ‘sugar mommas’). The websites claim sugar babies can receive thousands of dollars in cash each month, as well as luxury gifts; and the right sugar daddy can even introduce them to a world of business and networking opportunities."
""According to Seeking Arrangement, the University of Toronto, York University, University of Waterloo, McGill University and Carleton University are the top 5 ‘fastest growing sugar baby schools of 2019’"
https://www.cbc.ca/passionateeye/episodes/secrets-of-sugar-baby-dating
https://www.cbc.ca/passionateeye/fe...erful-lure-for-cash-strapped-college-students
"Sugar dating websites aim to connect attractive young people known as ‘sugar babies’ with older, wealthy men known as ‘sugar daddies’ (or women known as ‘sugar mommas’). The websites claim sugar babies can receive thousands of dollars in cash each month, as well as luxury gifts; and the right sugar daddy can even introduce them to a world of business and networking opportunities."
""According to Seeking Arrangement, the University of Toronto, York University, University of Waterloo, McGill University and Carleton University are the top 5 ‘fastest growing sugar baby schools of 2019’"
Membership fees are not determined by sex, but rather by Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby status and the type of membership purchased. Sugar Daddies have to pay to message Sugar Babies. Sugar Babies can have a free membership or an upgraded paid membership which enables more guaranteed profile hits from SDs.
Male college students seeking Sugar Mamas or Sugar Daddies can certainly sign up for free. But as Sugar Babies, seeking Sugar Daddies or Sugar Mamas. You can register an account for free as a Sugar Daddy- what you pay for is messaging. And you really can't get any dates if you can't message. Sugar Babies can message with a free account. But they will only see and be able to older Sugar Daddies and Mommies, not hot young college babes. Sugar Babies cannot communicate with or see each other. Nor can SDs.
Oh, so university or college sugar babies, who register with their school email address, still have to pay to message?
No. Sugar Babies with a free account do NOT pay to message, as I said in my prior post. Being in college does not get you a discount on something that is already free. They do have the option to buy an upgraded membership which puts their profile at the top of the page and gets them more profile hits/looks and, if they are attractive, more messages. There is no distinction between college and non college sugar babies or male and female sugar babies in the basic memberships. It does not go by sex or college status. However, in the profile they are required to indicate whether they are in college or not but that has nothing to do with the membership status or payment. Also, I do not believe the upgraded membership, which simply guarantees more hits, is discounted except by length of the membership. If you buy more time/longer membership, you get a discount. Same with SDs.
Since my last report about my experiences on Seeking, I have renewed my membership a few times for one month at a time. The first two times, I struck out completely and did not manage to make any new arrangements.
But I didn't mind that much, because I made a few trips to Montreal this year and I also had kept up two relationships that I had previously established. One was with the half-Filipina single mom that I met last winter and one was with a latina single mom escort that I have known for several years. My relationship with the latina had evolved into something like a sugar relationship, meaning that she spent extra time with me off the clock and we started doing some social things together. It was a great relationship though she wasn't always available to see me when I wanted to see her, because of her parenting responsibilities. Unfortunately, she recently gave up escorting and I haven't seen her lately. I tried to get together with the Filipina last week, but she cancelled on me at the last minute. I'll give her another chance but I decided to try Seeking for another month.
During my first several days of searching, messaging and exchanging photos, I failed to make much progress. I did set up one get-to-know-you meeting with a cute latina, but she cancelled on me at the last minute.
Then today I suddenly received a text from an attractive, young (25) blonde with whom I had exchanged a brief message (including my mobile number) yesterday. I was a bit surprised to hear from her because I just had a feeling that I didn't have much chance with her. I have had the best luck with the single moms in an age range of 28-34 and I like the women in that demographic.
But my text conversation with the blonde went amazingly well. She gave me access to her private photos and sent me an additional photo. In her texts, she seemed intelligent, flirty, self-confident and eager to do business without being too aggressive or demanding. Her looks and attitude would qualify her to be a successful indy girl in Montreal. When we got to the point of discussing a financial arrangement, she accepted my offer of paying for each encounter ($250) rather than asking for an allowance.
Considering all these factors, i suspect that she is more like a traditional escort than a traditional sugar baby. But I don't care. I only care about her looks, her attitude and service and the price. If she is good in all those parameters, who cares whether she uses Seeking to find clients rather than Eros or P411. It suits me just fine. I would rather find women like her on Seeking than on some of the awful escort ad sites (like skipthegames, etc.) that have sprung up since the downfall of TER and other more reliable sites. I also think that she likes Seeking because she gets to pick her own clients.
So we set up a first encounter at my home for a few days from now. I'm optimistic that it will go well, but I'll see if she matches my favorable impressions when we meet in the flesh.
As I've noted several times before, Seeking is not for everyone. It takes work, research, patience and a certain tolerance for and enjoyment of the hunting process. But in these difficult times of the Great American Sex Panic of the 21st Century, it can be worth the effort. I will report further after our first meeting.
It's DEFINITELY worth the effort! I met many women on seeking so far, sometimes it was great, sometimes less than great. But in the end, I can't complain. I still meet a few of the best ones every once in a while.
By the way, I know it's obvious, but I recently came across a woman it was very nice chatting with, chatty, friendly, etc. We started to get closer to reach an agreement and meet, when she asked me if I could send money up front...
My "Bullshit Detector" went off, it went haywire! LOL
Her: im kinda in a bind for the last of my rent due todayis there anyway u could help me out and I could make it up to u when we get together
Me: Sorry. but I can’t do that
Me: Once we meet and get to know each other for a while maybe, but not at this point
Her: im jsut excited for things with u and it would really help me out
Her: my sister was in a really bad accidetn and I had to support her al ot more than I could and it really set me back
Her: im short 198$
Me: I understand. But I can’t
Her: Oh
Me: Don’t take it personal, but I’ve been played like that before, and I promised myself I’ll never do that again
Her: I hate hearing that
Her: ive only had a good experience so hate hearing otherwise
Her: my mom died this summer so it honestly just sucks
I reported her, but just in case, her handle was "lizzzznewgal" and her phone number was in the 647 area code, ending with 7685
Be careful guys!
CA
CA, you've shattered my illusions about women. I used to think they never lied to or manipulated men. Now I know better! :doh:
I guess you had your illusions shattered a number of years ago. I remember that story.
Glad to see you stop by. Please share another sugar baby story with us. You are a man with a great depth of experience.
Good luck with this new young lady, Louie. Maybe this could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
I have had some good success with Secret Benefits.
Definitely takes more time than calling up an agency or booking an indy, but it's a different kind of fun.
My first experience was with a Latin American mom in her early thirties. From the pictures she shared I could tell that she was quite cute, with a devilish smile. We had originally planned to have coffee to check compatibility and discuss $. But we first chatted on the phone and we both felt super comfortable with each other, so we settled on $300 per meeting (that was what she had gotten from her previous SD) and made a date to meet at a hotel. We really hit it off, even though she was a little nervous at first. We talked about our previous relationships and she expressed that, after many years of faithful marriage, now was her chance to explore herself sexually. She has a good job, so I got the sense that the money was a nice perk but a little bit secondary. She was eager to please with a lot of eye contact and DT during BBBJ. After the first SOG, we ate some sushi, chatted a bit and then some more playtime, with quite a bit of Greek (she had told me that she liked it). It was awesome to have her telling me in Spanish how much she loved having my cock in her ass and begging me to keep giving it to her. We both came hard and were completely exhausted. I saw her a second time two months later and it was just a much fun. She got a steady SD in between time, but she definitely was excited to see me again. We have not seen each other since, mostly because of our schedules, but I'm sure that we will reconnect at some point.
My second experience was with a Caribbean girl, late-twenties. When I first asked her what her financial expectations were, she wrote "let's see what kind of game you bring". We met for coffee and she was super cute in her summer dress. We clicked and took a cab to a hotel. She wanted no money. And for over two hours we enjoyed each other's naked company. She was not on the pill, so her only request was that I not not come in the condom inside her. After many positions, during doggy (in front of a mirror) I withdrew and came all over her beautiful black butt cheeks. We never saw each other again though. She had a boyfriend who live out of town and she was just experimenting. She sent ma a nice message a few days later saying that she was "out of the game" and she removed her profile from the site.
I have a few other experiences that I will relate later...
Definitely takes more time than calling up an agency or booking an indy, but it's a different kind of fun.
My first experience was with a Latin American mom in her early thirties. From the pictures she shared I could tell that she was quite cute, with a devilish smile. We had originally planned to have coffee to check compatibility and discuss $. But we first chatted on the phone and we both felt super comfortable with each other, so we settled on $300 per meeting (that was what she had gotten from her previous SD) and made a date to meet at a hotel. We really hit it off, even though she was a little nervous at first. We talked about our previous relationships and she expressed that, after many years of faithful marriage, now was her chance to explore herself sexually. She has a good job, so I got the sense that the money was a nice perk but a little bit secondary. She was eager to please with a lot of eye contact and DT during BBBJ. After the first SOG, we ate some sushi, chatted a bit and then some more playtime, with quite a bit of Greek (she had told me that she liked it). It was awesome to have her telling me in Spanish how much she loved having my cock in her ass and begging me to keep giving it to her. We both came hard and were completely exhausted. I saw her a second time two months later and it was just a much fun. She got a steady SD in between time, but she definitely was excited to see me again. We have not seen each other since, mostly because of our schedules, but I'm sure that we will reconnect at some point.
My second experience was with a Caribbean girl, late-twenties. When I first asked her what her financial expectations were, she wrote "let's see what kind of game you bring". We met for coffee and she was super cute in her summer dress. We clicked and took a cab to a hotel. She wanted no money. And for over two hours we enjoyed each other's naked company. She was not on the pill, so her only request was that I not not come in the condom inside her. After many positions, during doggy (in front of a mirror) I withdrew and came all over her beautiful black butt cheeks. We never saw each other again though. She had a boyfriend who live out of town and she was just experimenting. She sent ma a nice message a few days later saying that she was "out of the game" and she removed her profile from the site.
I have a few other experiences that I will relate later...
Well, my initial optimism about the new girl (described below), proved to be unfounded. She texted me on the day of the scheduled first meeting and asked me to postpone. She gave a weak excuse and since then she has not followed up with me. Serves me right for being overly optimistic about her before having met her in person. I don't know what went wrong-maybe she decided my offer of $250 was too low.
But I did manage to schedule a last-minute meeting with the half-Filipina lady that I had already met a few times and that went well. Also, during the weekend I received an unexpected text from my Latina single mom escort friend, asking to renew our acquaintance. She is still in the game, but only seeing a small number of familiar clients. So I will see her again soon.
I have a few weeks left on my current one-month membership. I will keep seeking, but I may focus more on the demographic that I have had the most success with in previous experiences. Furthermore, I will insist on an initial get-to-know-you meeting with any prospective partners.
But I did manage to schedule a last-minute meeting with the half-Filipina lady that I had already met a few times and that went well. Also, during the weekend I received an unexpected text from my Latina single mom escort friend, asking to renew our acquaintance. She is still in the game, but only seeing a small number of familiar clients. So I will see her again soon.
I have a few weeks left on my current one-month membership. I will keep seeking, but I may focus more on the demographic that I have had the most success with in previous experiences. Furthermore, I will insist on an initial get-to-know-you meeting with any prospective partners.
CR,
None of these girls put all of their eggs in one basket. SA is a competitive market and a bid driven market, and you have to make your bid and expect to sometimes lose, either to another SD, an ex BF suddenly returning to the scene, a new BF material suddenly showing interest, or any of other innumerable potential personal dramas in her life over which you have absolutely no control. I have had the same happen to me multiple times- sometimes you get outbid and you just have to take it and move on.
I also had some girls agree to my terms, and then back out, and I suspect that either they had better offers or, perhaps, second thoughts/cold feet, which happens a lot with the ones newer to SA. I recall one in particular who had written and the last text I got from her was an enthusiastic "really looking forward to it", and then the day of the meeting I show up at a restaurant 30 minutes from where I live, in her area, get no text from her and never heard from her. Ate dinner alone, never heard from her again, have no idea what happened - an enthusiastic text, and then radio silence with no intervening communications. Girls in the 18-24 age group are frequently unreliable and have various dramas or perceived dramas in their lives, any of which can lead to an unsuspected, sudden breaking of the deal.
To play the game effectively you have to condition yourself to believe the opposite- not get hopes up on one girl and always have a backup plan. I have actually put out 3 or 4 offers thinking at most 1 will be accepted AND the girl will show, and usually I am right, it's 1 or 0.
None of these girls put all of their eggs in one basket. SA is a competitive market and a bid driven market, and you have to make your bid and expect to sometimes lose, either to another SD, an ex BF suddenly returning to the scene, a new BF material suddenly showing interest, or any of other innumerable potential personal dramas in her life over which you have absolutely no control. I have had the same happen to me multiple times- sometimes you get outbid and you just have to take it and move on.
I also had some girls agree to my terms, and then back out, and I suspect that either they had better offers or, perhaps, second thoughts/cold feet, which happens a lot with the ones newer to SA. I recall one in particular who had written and the last text I got from her was an enthusiastic "really looking forward to it", and then the day of the meeting I show up at a restaurant 30 minutes from where I live, in her area, get no text from her and never heard from her. Ate dinner alone, never heard from her again, have no idea what happened - an enthusiastic text, and then radio silence with no intervening communications. Girls in the 18-24 age group are frequently unreliable and have various dramas or perceived dramas in their lives, any of which can lead to an unsuspected, sudden breaking of the deal.
To play the game effectively you have to condition yourself to believe the opposite- not get hopes up on one girl and always have a backup plan. I have actually put out 3 or 4 offers thinking at most 1 will be accepted AND the girl will show, and usually I am right, it's 1 or 0.
Here is something else, I know a lot of you guys have racial restrictions and only look at a certain type of woman. I have no racial restrictions, and I generally believe that there are an equal number of attractive women by each race and nationality, and a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. That being said, and I have mentioned this before, my success rate in getting dates with black, hispanic, and mixed racial women is dramatically higher than with white women of my own race. I do not believe it's because black or minority women find me more attractive. I think that socially they are less in demand due to racial prejudices of others, and their economic situations are more unfortunate than their Caucasian counterparts. So in the last 2 years, as a result, I have dated far more black women than ever before in my life, and all of them were terrific companions, with one exception, a 29 year old half black half Puerto Rican who was a sexual dynamo but an absolute nutcase and controlling freak whom I had to cut loose after a few intimate dates, and maybe 4 or 5 overall.
So I would encourage you guys to purge prejudicial notions from your hearts and open yourselves to interracial dating opportunities, because I have found some real gems out there and my sense is that these women were "under hunted" compared to what they should have been, and the result was that I gained from the oversights of others. I actually have at times felt it was way too easy to get dates with certain extremely hot, young black women. I was wondering where the competition was on them. And in most cases, reasonable offers were accepted and one even told me I did not need to give her money every time we were intimate. They all seemed interested in keeping me interested and in keeping it going, as opposed to becoming aggressively and increasingly money hungry and looking for tuition/rent etc. The half black half Puerto Rican one asked me to co-sign on a condo lease with her, to which I flatly told her no, and that was before we ever got intimate, which should have told me where things were headed with her. Sometimes red flags get ignored with hot women who make you horny, and she was a good example of that.
So I would encourage you guys to purge prejudicial notions from your hearts and open yourselves to interracial dating opportunities, because I have found some real gems out there and my sense is that these women were "under hunted" compared to what they should have been, and the result was that I gained from the oversights of others. I actually have at times felt it was way too easy to get dates with certain extremely hot, young black women. I was wondering where the competition was on them. And in most cases, reasonable offers were accepted and one even told me I did not need to give her money every time we were intimate. They all seemed interested in keeping me interested and in keeping it going, as opposed to becoming aggressively and increasingly money hungry and looking for tuition/rent etc. The half black half Puerto Rican one asked me to co-sign on a condo lease with her, to which I flatly told her no, and that was before we ever got intimate, which should have told me where things were headed with her. Sometimes red flags get ignored with hot women who make you horny, and she was a good example of that.
Found this on a Terb thread. 1 of 10 canadian college girl is suggar baby...!
https://curve.carleton.ca/system/fi...sugarbabiesandsugardaddiesanexplorationof.pdf
Impressed by the numbers.... No wonder small shops and restaurant are lacking part time worker... They are all fornicating with old daddy. Why work 20 hours in a week when you can get the same amount of money in 2h pretending to enjoy your "companion".
https://curve.carleton.ca/system/fi...sugarbabiesandsugardaddiesanexplorationof.pdf
Impressed by the numbers.... No wonder small shops and restaurant are lacking part time worker... They are all fornicating with old daddy. Why work 20 hours in a week when you can get the same amount of money in 2h pretending to enjoy your "companion".
I thought like many it seems on this thread that only escorts were pretending and SB were the real deal.
You had to go and ruin it.
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