Years ago, I remembering seeing an article in a magazine providing suggestions on how to manipulate a man. I was surprised that one of the recommendations was to stand him up! Some young women told me that women try such tricks only with older men as younger men (who presumably regard themselves as equally attractive) never call again.
I cannot know what the situation is in your area, but in Montreal there is such a plethora of available SBs, that I don't ever even consider another meeting after a no show. Once you have confirmed that you are her toilet, you are guaranteed of more shit.
I've made the mistake of giving second chances after being stood up. Not once has it ended well.
Do you even know if she exists and is not a teenage boy pranking you? Did you see her live on an app?
If you absolutely must see her, insist that the next encounter be very close to your office or home and don't leave for the meeting until she texts you a picture of herself in front of the restaurant. Also, since she has a job and should be willing to invest for a possible repeated income and she owes you for billable hours, she pays for the first meal.
AV- I appreciate your post and want to respond to some of your comments:
"Once you have confirmed that you are her toilet, you are guaranteed of more shit."
I agree, but in the past I approached these situations with a slightly different mindset. In one case, a girl begged me for a second chance. After thoroughly shaming her with how she had wasted a colossal amount of my time and also left money on the table, I suggested to her she would get a second date if she did something to make up for the no show. She asked what she could do, and I asked her for au gratis sexy pics. She actually sent them to me, and then got a second date, although ultimately I did not pursue further dates with her, for reasons having nothing to do with the second date and more because of another opportunity presented.
I have to be satisfied with the explanation and the contrition for there to be a second date. Lame excuses will not cut it. I believe that I posted that I was no showed by some girl up in Middletown after she agreed to meet me at a local high end Italian restaurant there, which I had been to on previous SA dates with other women who lived in that area. After she no showed, she sent me a stream of apologetic texts, and came up with some seemingly plausible excuse for her no show. I was impressed with her contrition and effort to get a second date. So I agreed to a second date, this time for breakfast (at her request!) at another upscale and well reviewed place in Middletown. She no showed AGAIN. No text, no nothing, a ton of time wasted driving there and back and eating breakfast alone. Then, around 6:00pm that day, fully 8 hours after we had agreed to meet for breakfast, she again sends me a stream of apologetic texts. But this time she comes up with some lame excuse having to do with her hair. I texted her back that after two no shows, it did not matter how hot or beautiful she was, because she was not reliable, had not texted me prior to either no show to say she could not make it, and that I just could not trust that she would appear. She politely accepted my admonishment, to her credit, and again apologized. I think I posted this story earlier in this thread and I reposted it here because your toilet analogy really fits with that one. She, from her pics, was a very attractive looking mid 20s black woman, but I really feel sorry for the actual men in her life because they are just just turds floating around in her toilet waiting to be flushed.
"I've made the mistake of giving second chances after being stood up. Not once has it ended well."
In my case, I am very reluctant to give second chances, and the 2 who who asked for and got second dates are noted above. My batting average was .500 in that very small sample size of 2. As indicated both expressed the necessary contrition with words, gave proper excuses after standup #1, and the first one gave me something in return (sexy pics). The one who stood me up last night, has not yet texted me back beyond the exchange I posted above in post #1,106. If she does and asks for a second chance, she can send me some sexy pics or videos to make up for the time-wasting, or a second date is not happening.
"Do you even know if she exists and is not a teenage boy pranking you? Did you see her live on an app?"
Very good questions to which I do not know the answer. We had a bit of dialogue on SA and did not exchange phone numbers, so our communications and booking was exclusively through the app. I was very straight and to the point with her because her pics were very nice and wanted to meet her. I asked her what food she liked and she said seafood, but she also said she did not like seafood and pasta dishes when I suggested she order the Shrimp Fra Diavolo with linguine at the restaurant we were to meet at, because it is the best I ever had. She said she liked her seafood with veggies. Beyond that, and beyond that she supposedly lives fairly close to where I do (next town over), I did not know much about her beyond what is in her SA profile.
It did occur to me that my offer got beat and she just forgot to get back to me. She came up with a "got caught up at work" excuse (see post 1,106) which sounded contrived. So I suspect I will never hear from her again.
"If you absolutely must see her, insist that the next encounter be very close to your office or home and don't leave for the meeting until she texts you a picture of herself in front of the restaurant. Also, since she has a job and should be willing to invest for a possible repeated income and she owes you for billable hours, she pays for the first meal."
The restaurant we agreed to meet at is only around a 12 minute drive from home, although from my office after work, it was even a shorter drive than that. So it was not as big a time waste as the two Middletown dates I mentioned above, which are quite a drive from where I live. However, in the unlikely event I hear from her, I am going to ask for sexy pics, or no second date. She is not getting off free on the no show. But on the other hand, sexy pics will not cost her anything. Just some of her time, like the time she took from me.
