Is this a joke or are there really instances where guys are disgusted at having sex? Then why bother with paying for an SP? Perhaps the tinge of sadness that that the session has ended is being misinterpreted. In my case it is always POE (Post-Orgasm Exhilaration).
New Abbreviation: POD
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I think the sadness comes from beeing stuck with someone you dont want to be with after sex...like she (he) wants to sleep over after the sex....and cuddle but all you think about is...''.how the fuck to i get out of this , in a classy way ??? '' Sound familiar anyone?'Robin said:
Interestingly enough... when I first started having sex, after my orgasm I would feel absolutely disgusting... or was it disgusted? Anyway I would be overwhelmed with massive anxiety, guilt, disgust, self-consciousness, shame... you name it. It took me a long time to get over that.
It used to happen with SPs because I felt so guilty over having spent the money. After a while I got used to it. But such feelings are virtually non-existent now. Occasionally I get a little tinge of something, some kind of throwback to my youth... but it doesn't take very long for me to pinpoint the source of my malaise. It's usually some trivial thing... some kind of anomaly that briefly invades my consciousness.
I'm guessing those of you who experience POD are feeling some kind of guilt associated with the idea of spending good money on sex. Or maybe it just has to do with the environment... who knows? I suppose it wouldn't hurt to self-analyze and self examine... that way you can transform POD into POE
It used to happen with SPs because I felt so guilty over having spent the money. After a while I got used to it. But such feelings are virtually non-existent now. Occasionally I get a little tinge of something, some kind of throwback to my youth... but it doesn't take very long for me to pinpoint the source of my malaise. It's usually some trivial thing... some kind of anomaly that briefly invades my consciousness.
I'm guessing those of you who experience POD are feeling some kind of guilt associated with the idea of spending good money on sex. Or maybe it just has to do with the environment... who knows? I suppose it wouldn't hurt to self-analyze and self examine... that way you can transform POD into POE
WOw , i could have writen this ( piece of work)" Well said!The Woodworker said:Interestingly enough... when I first started having sex, after my orgasm I would feel absolutely disgusting... or was it disgusted? Anyway I would be overwhelmed with massive anxiety, guilt, disgust, self-consciousness, shame... you name it. It took me a long time to get over that.
It used to happen with SPs because I felt so guilty over having spent the money. After a while I got used to it. But such feelings are virtually non-existent now. Occasionally I get a little tinge of something, some kind of throwback to my youth... but it doesn't take very long for me to pinpoint the source of my malaise. It's usually some trivial thing... some kind of anomaly that briefly invades my consciousness.
I'm guessing those of you who experience POD are feeling some kind of guilt associated with the idea of spending good money on sex. Or maybe it just has to do with the environment... who knows? I suppose it wouldn't hurt to self-analyze and self examine... that way you can transform POD into POE
But , may i add that i felt those feelings because of money and marital status ( i was married then , and boy i felt guilty)
and now...i see someone and once in a while I see an SP...
different kind of sex....that is now part of my sex life....and i feel little guilt now!
funny how the mind works for a hobbiest
you will make tons of research ,shop around , try to bargain...wait for a sale to save 20 % all this on something that cost 100$
then wonder if you just waisted your money...
but wont blink an eye for a SP....40$ extra for tc......no problemo!
you will make tons of research ,shop around , try to bargain...wait for a sale to save 20 % all this on something that cost 100$
then wonder if you just waisted your money...
but wont blink an eye for a SP....40$ extra for tc......no problemo!
This is perfectly natural
My guess would be that this is perfectly natural and part of life in having an adult male body.
Your body has been producing testosterone/sperm/hormones all day, your libido is at full blast, and the longer this goes on, the more desperate you are to bang the next available thing in a skirt. You have to be very careful here, because you may end up settling for an SP that doesn't meet your usual standards. She's female and she's available; so be it at this point.
So after you've released, it's all gone: the hormones, libido, etc. Now you just want to talk about politics and the economy, watch sports, play video games, anything but sex. This is why pillow talk tends to be very intense, especially if the lady is a good and intelligent conversationalist.
If the lady is physically attractive or someone you're very familiar with, that may slow the loss in libido. If she is not very attractive or someone you just don't like, then you will be wondering why you ever touched her in the first place.
There's a similar term for this: "coyote ugly" - when you wake up sober the following morning, and can't believe you just slept with the person next to you.
My guess would be that this is perfectly natural and part of life in having an adult male body.
Your body has been producing testosterone/sperm/hormones all day, your libido is at full blast, and the longer this goes on, the more desperate you are to bang the next available thing in a skirt. You have to be very careful here, because you may end up settling for an SP that doesn't meet your usual standards. She's female and she's available; so be it at this point.
So after you've released, it's all gone: the hormones, libido, etc. Now you just want to talk about politics and the economy, watch sports, play video games, anything but sex. This is why pillow talk tends to be very intense, especially if the lady is a good and intelligent conversationalist.
If the lady is physically attractive or someone you're very familiar with, that may slow the loss in libido. If she is not very attractive or someone you just don't like, then you will be wondering why you ever touched her in the first place.
There's a similar term for this: "coyote ugly" - when you wake up sober the following morning, and can't believe you just slept with the person next to you.
dudemtl said:
I have had this happen, but it is Post-HIS-Orgasm Disgust...
This is going to sound pretty weird, but this has been my experience. Yes, I am an SP, and have some terrific gentlemen clients who are just like dates (only better - read on), they treat me with respect, and I am always pleasantly amazed at how many of you CARE if I cum or not. Recently, I started dating dating... and well, I decided to give it up one evening after a few dates - 4 dates. All I can say is, P(H)OD - he was done in less than 3 minutes... didn't seem to give a poo-poo about whether or not I enjoyed myself (I didn't - not even close) and made no attempts to try to please me. After 5 minutes of lying there in absolute incredulousness, I asked him to leave (yep - just like that). He actually asked if he could come and see me the next night - I told him point blank that things would not work out between he and I. He told my friend (who set us up I might add) that I was so sweet and then changed after sex - DUH!?
What is really odd to me, is that this is not the first time I noticed this. By far, I would have to say that the best orgasms I have had, have been with clients! Now, not all clients manage this feat, but I cannot think of one that didn't put in the effort!
Melanie
Pomousc
Melanie, that's why I always Put Off My Orgasm Until She Comes. It's always best to please one's partner first, unless of course, she tells me to just forget about it because it's just not going to happen. Even then I try a little longer, just to be sure. Sometimes it just takes a little break or a change of pace... or even, get this, a little conversation!
Hmmm... are you free tonight? It's the perfect night for unbridled passion... and lazy lovemaking.
Did I just write that? I swear it wasn't me...
Melanie, that's why I always Put Off My Orgasm Until She Comes. It's always best to please one's partner first, unless of course, she tells me to just forget about it because it's just not going to happen. Even then I try a little longer, just to be sure. Sometimes it just takes a little break or a change of pace... or even, get this, a little conversation!
Hmmm... are you free tonight? It's the perfect night for unbridled passion... and lazy lovemaking.
Did I just write that? I swear it wasn't me...
The term has existed for a while, pick up the movie Sol-goode someday, it pretty much starts off with POD
dudemtl said:Yeah, I definetly find that girls or women generally don't get POD.
I definetly think it's a guy thing.
That's why girls can come a bunch of times and guys generally can't or have absolutely no desire to.
I can tell you this: If I meet someone and I fuck her right away,
I usually get POD.
If it's someone I've been dreaming about for awhile,
then I generally don't.
But sometimes I do! I don't think I'll ever get married.
I used to get this, and I thought it was a woman thing. I thought it might have something to do with that double standard, good girl/bad girl thing. Then I learned to accept I was bad sometimes and that everyone has a vulgar side. When I accepted this, I could see more beauty in everyone. I know it may sound corny, but I really do try and see beauty in everyone. However, sometimes, some people make it harder than others.
I really believe that in order to appreciate myself, I have to appreciate others also. I am not perfect at executing this ideal, but I do it attempt to perceive life in this manner.
To sum it up, now I don't get P.O.D.
Now that I am done preaching, who'd like to go into the confession booth? I shall put on my collar...
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When I was yound and stupid, I used to do drugs and abuse alcool and I often would experience POD. Now that I am older and less stupid, it happend less often
MySP_love>>> I also found that the gents I meet working generally treat me much better than the ones I had met on the dating scene.
Guys>>> any ideas on this???
Ronnie,
Naughtylady
MySP_love>>> I also found that the gents I meet working generally treat me much better than the ones I had met on the dating scene.
Guys>>> any ideas on this???
Ronnie,
Naughtylady
Dating and objectives.
I would think that guys, in dating, generally have one objective... to get laid. Not all guys, of course. If they are not blown away by the girl they are with, the sex will be mediocre, at best. There will be less incentive to "do right by her". Sex for the sake of sex.
I would imagine that when one pays for it, the perspective changes somewhat. Money is being spent, therefore why not make the best of it? Also, when paying for it, chances are that at least some research has benn done and there is a strong attraction, hence the better treatment.
I certainly would rather see the girl I am with to orgasm as much as possible. It will make her all the more likely and receptive to making sure I am as satisfied as possible. If I'm not interested in taking the time to get her off, then I probably shouldn't be with her. Sometimes we end up in bed despite ourselves and just want to get it over with... hardly a desirable situation.
Some guys just don't want to make the effort. Sometimes the chemistry is off. It's proven that guys usually want to sleep once they ejaculate. Since I know this about myself, I try to pleasure my partner as much as possible first.
Of course, nothing beats that dreamy sleepy state one falls into when both partners are satisfied, combined with a strong attraction and great affection, falling asleep together only to wake up and do it all over again.
I would think that guys, in dating, generally have one objective... to get laid. Not all guys, of course. If they are not blown away by the girl they are with, the sex will be mediocre, at best. There will be less incentive to "do right by her". Sex for the sake of sex.
I would imagine that when one pays for it, the perspective changes somewhat. Money is being spent, therefore why not make the best of it? Also, when paying for it, chances are that at least some research has benn done and there is a strong attraction, hence the better treatment.
I certainly would rather see the girl I am with to orgasm as much as possible. It will make her all the more likely and receptive to making sure I am as satisfied as possible. If I'm not interested in taking the time to get her off, then I probably shouldn't be with her. Sometimes we end up in bed despite ourselves and just want to get it over with... hardly a desirable situation.
Some guys just don't want to make the effort. Sometimes the chemistry is off. It's proven that guys usually want to sleep once they ejaculate. Since I know this about myself, I try to pleasure my partner as much as possible first.
Of course, nothing beats that dreamy sleepy state one falls into when both partners are satisfied, combined with a strong attraction and great affection, falling asleep together only to wake up and do it all over again.
I just read a very similar acronym on a fetish site: MMRS
Meaning: MONDAY MORNING REBOUND SYNDROME
Maybe it only applies on a Monday, though!
Meaning: MONDAY MORNING REBOUND SYNDROME
Maybe it only applies on a Monday, though!
post coitum omne animal triste....
A qutote attributed to Aristole, Ovid or Galen
"Post coïtum omne animal triste est, praeter mulierem gallumque"
which translates to
After sex every animal is sad, except the women and the cock.. (The rooster, that is!)
and which tends to demonstrate that this is a "natural" state for many of us.
It is how the young novice Adso describes his feelings after being seduced by the beautiful peasant girl in the novel The Name of the Rose by Umberto Eco.
I quote http://english.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=31808
"Human beings since the dawn of time have experienced, in one form or another, this "post-coital sadness" (read: Depression) that Hecht writes about. Perhaps you and your sweetie are about to be parted by several hundred, maybe thousands of miles, due to whatever forces are at work to separate you… maybe she's going away to college, perhaps he's in the Armed Forces and is being sent overseas. Your last sexual encounter with each other will be bittersweet, with an overwhelming sadness for both of you. For weeks you pine away for your lover, not knowing when the two of you will meet again.
Or perhaps you're in the midst of a passionate affair. It's my belief that most cases of post-coital depression arise from affairs of lust and obsession, not from long distance love. Perhaps you're married; maybe you're 20 years older than your lover is. But for whatever reason, this is an affair that both of you know is doomed to tragedy from the beginning. Both of you understand that nothing good can come of the affair, but still you are drawn to each other like moths to flame. "
A french film has been made about it ...
SEE http://imdb.com/title/tt0119923/
I think it is best treated by behavioral therapy, by reason and sense
Why the hell should I ruin a perfectly good fuck on remorse and guilt !!!
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Even the (ancient) greeks and the romans knew about this phenomenon,dudemtl said:
A qutote attributed to Aristole, Ovid or Galen
"Post coïtum omne animal triste est, praeter mulierem gallumque"
which translates to
After sex every animal is sad, except the women and the cock.. (The rooster, that is!)
and which tends to demonstrate that this is a "natural" state for many of us.
It is how the young novice Adso describes his feelings after being seduced by the beautiful peasant girl in the novel The Name of the Rose by Umberto Eco.
I quote http://english.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=31808
"Human beings since the dawn of time have experienced, in one form or another, this "post-coital sadness" (read: Depression) that Hecht writes about. Perhaps you and your sweetie are about to be parted by several hundred, maybe thousands of miles, due to whatever forces are at work to separate you… maybe she's going away to college, perhaps he's in the Armed Forces and is being sent overseas. Your last sexual encounter with each other will be bittersweet, with an overwhelming sadness for both of you. For weeks you pine away for your lover, not knowing when the two of you will meet again.
Or perhaps you're in the midst of a passionate affair. It's my belief that most cases of post-coital depression arise from affairs of lust and obsession, not from long distance love. Perhaps you're married; maybe you're 20 years older than your lover is. But for whatever reason, this is an affair that both of you know is doomed to tragedy from the beginning. Both of you understand that nothing good can come of the affair, but still you are drawn to each other like moths to flame. "
A french film has been made about it ...
SEE http://imdb.com/title/tt0119923/
I think it is best treated by behavioral therapy, by reason and sense
Why the hell should I ruin a perfectly good fuck on remorse and guilt !!!
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I can understand bittersweet feelings, pining sadness or even depression, but "disgust" is a whole different reaction.
Robin
In my case, it was all of the above along with a little bit of guilt and shame. Not so much disgust... well disgust with myself in some way, but mostly shame and sadness.
In my case, it was all of the above along with a little bit of guilt and shame. Not so much disgust... well disgust with myself in some way, but mostly shame and sadness.
Me
I can only come once. I've always been wondering how the other women do it. I usually come once and after that I'm satisfied for hours.. days.. sometimes weeks.
90% of the time I get POD after the first time with a man. And sometimes they wonder why there isn't a second time. There is never a second time with me if I experience POD.
Judging from this discussion it seems like younger people tend to get POD and then they get over it with age. So it gives me some hope.
Before I got my first boyfriend I thought every man experiences POD. I was really amused and even told my friends that he doesn't seem to be disgusted after having sex with me and I found it very weird.
Now I think it is normal for both men and women not to experience POD if there is sufficient attraction between them.
I actually know a trick that works perfectly for me if I don't want to experience POD. I have to be drunk out of my brain. I have to ingest at least 2 litres of beer and after that the person becomes 'more attractive' in my eyes. After sex I fall asleep immediately and next morning I either wake up when the person is gone or I don't remember sufficiently enough to be disgusted. And I usually wake up still drunk so all I care about is to get the hell away from that person before I get completely sober.. Sad but true!
But I do agree there is a difference between men and women. While men mostly experience disgust after orgasm it is common for women to experience it when the man takes of his pants or when he invades our body or sometimes when he just came.
Carla
I can only come once. I've always been wondering how the other women do it. I usually come once and after that I'm satisfied for hours.. days.. sometimes weeks.
90% of the time I get POD after the first time with a man. And sometimes they wonder why there isn't a second time. There is never a second time with me if I experience POD.
Judging from this discussion it seems like younger people tend to get POD and then they get over it with age. So it gives me some hope.
Before I got my first boyfriend I thought every man experiences POD. I was really amused and even told my friends that he doesn't seem to be disgusted after having sex with me and I found it very weird.
Now I think it is normal for both men and women not to experience POD if there is sufficient attraction between them.
I actually know a trick that works perfectly for me if I don't want to experience POD. I have to be drunk out of my brain. I have to ingest at least 2 litres of beer and after that the person becomes 'more attractive' in my eyes. After sex I fall asleep immediately and next morning I either wake up when the person is gone or I don't remember sufficiently enough to be disgusted. And I usually wake up still drunk so all I care about is to get the hell away from that person before I get completely sober.. Sad but true!
But I do agree there is a difference between men and women. While men mostly experience disgust after orgasm it is common for women to experience it when the man takes of his pants or when he invades our body or sometimes when he just came.
Carla
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