Providers Reaching Out “Off the Clock”
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I have had some experience in this area. These women are not made of stone so it happens from time to time. I say go for it and see where it leads. However if you start dating her be prepared to come crashing down to earth a bit as you may soon realize that she will not always be the horny sex kitten whose company you enjoy for an hour at a time but a real world woman with human flaws. To some degree these SPs are playing a "role" that caters to your fantasies. You may have fallen in lust with an alter ego, named "Candy" let´s say, but you will actually be dating her real world counterpart, named "Linda" let´s say. You may find that while you still have the hots for "Candy" unfortunately "Linda" is kind of a whiny pain in the ass. This is of course not always the case but based on my experience its a likely scenario. Who knows things can go the other way as well. I say go for it since you have nothing lose but keep your expectations on a realistic scale.
If she talks to you outside of paid dates then she enjoys your company. It might be a marketing strategy to get you to book more or it might be because she just likes your personality or it might be a combination of both. As others have said, she is a person.
I have a montreal escort that I text with regularly and who i see socially without paying in addition to paid sex. She has even come to visit me in Boston. We are friends and I also employ her as an escort - because that is what she does. Neither of us thinks it is a dating relationship and I respect her boundaries.
I have a montreal escort that I text with regularly and who i see socially without paying in addition to paid sex. She has even come to visit me in Boston. We are friends and I also employ her as an escort - because that is what she does. Neither of us thinks it is a dating relationship and I respect her boundaries.
Most of time its just to keep up a client relationship or to get their dose of attention. However if she contacts you a lot, and you've seen her several times and things get better, there is no harm in asking her out but be prepared for rejection while being cool about it because you don't want rejection to ruin your relationship.
I've had many girls contact me as well, I even had girls ask me out. One girl in particular, im sure she knows herself if she reads this, we were both very into each other, but I chickened out because I had previously gotten out of a relationship and I couldn't see myself sharing my gf. (sorry AR i still think of you)
something to realize. When you are in this hobby you are paying for your fantasy, and the rule of this hobby is to NOT "fall into the fantasy" completely. If you're asking an SP out, keep both hands on reality because she is. By this I mean, dating an SP is not what most people think.
I constantly see people in a never ending cycle of them thinking they are special and unique in this hobby. Yeah no... most probably not.
good luck
I've had many girls contact me as well, I even had girls ask me out. One girl in particular, im sure she knows herself if she reads this, we were both very into each other, but I chickened out because I had previously gotten out of a relationship and I couldn't see myself sharing my gf. (sorry AR i still think of you)
something to realize. When you are in this hobby you are paying for your fantasy, and the rule of this hobby is to NOT "fall into the fantasy" completely. If you're asking an SP out, keep both hands on reality because she is. By this I mean, dating an SP is not what most people think.
I constantly see people in a never ending cycle of them thinking they are special and unique in this hobby. Yeah no... most probably not.
good luck
Ouch!! You just ruined my day! haha Kidding...
I see this a bit differently then you Chow because I am near 50. I do off the clock social time as much as I can because I perfectly know with age difference none of us will fall for each other. So it's then quite easy not to cross any line.
And what I wrote previously remains. Having a session with a girl that you know well is so much better!
Cheers,
Jali - I'm with you. In the past, I was always warned not to fall in love with my escort. I think I even wrote a few reviews about Irma La Douce and how I felt like the main character. I was always warning myself and others not to get caught in the wheels of the sex industry. Now, due to age and the huge dose of reality that has set in, my heart has grown callous. I sometimes wish I could trick myself into falling in love again and experience those intense feelings but I am too practical. Anyway, I don't lose my head over a meeting off the clock with a WAG anymore...even if she throws in a rare freebie.
Escort marketing would be the same as most industries. When I was a job supervisor I took clients out for dinners, check to see if they needed anything when I went to town, handed out jackets to other contractors, when I was the client rep I was getting the same, it is a part of the business. Here escorts give you their number, let you take them out to dinner, perhaps a nude selfie. You are probably not the only one getting this treatment either. I am like Hungry101 and reality set in.
and like you Sol Tee, I had some really nice friendly relationships over a career that has spanned over 3 decades. Most of them were people I enjoyed spending time with. I'm very gregarious. However, I see none of the people that I no longer do business with. I occasionally get an e-mail or a contact by social media. One guy invites me hunting every year but I have yet to get a permit. I would think the girls that are good at this are the same.
And Kef - Yes, I agree. The girls are not made of stone. I think there is always the possibility of having something deeper. For me that ship probably has sailed.
And Kef - Yes, I agree. The girls are not made of stone. I think there is always the possibility of having something deeper. For me that ship probably has sailed.
IDK JTF2...Just about all the non-pro women in my life are medicated and I can tell when they are off their meds. Thank God for Lexapro.
Do female escorts have more mental health issues than female non-escorts of the same age group? I'm not talking about SWs addicted to opiates in a place where sex workers are constantly harassed like the USA. I would like to see this study done in a place like Montreal or Sao Paulo. My guess is that the data would not be much different than the civilian community.
Do female escorts have more mental health issues than female non-escorts of the same age group? I'm not talking about SWs addicted to opiates in a place where sex workers are constantly harassed like the USA. I would like to see this study done in a place like Montreal or Sao Paulo. My guess is that the data would not be much different than the civilian community.
A provider friend zoned you, lol. This has to be a first. Tell you what, if you want to get rid of her, call another provider and tell the friendzoned SP that she can hang out in the living room while you have sex with the other woman in your bedroom. She'll get the message, get up, leave and never come back.
So she comes over once in a while, doesn't really feel in the mood but doesn't want to go back to a SP-client type of relationship because she has a boyfriend...I'm confused. What is she looking for? What does she wants?
Now that's a odd situation, maybe she doesn't feel safe at home and feels safer with you. Who knows
I have a similar relationship with someone who works occasionally as an SP. In our case, it is entirely platonic and she doesn't ask to visit nearly as often. She comes over when she has a fight with her bf, is lonely or needs someone to discuss matters relating to her work. She doesn't have many SPs as friends as she doesn't want her activities to become public and, of course, has to be furtive with people outside the business.
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