Ditto to last two posts. Your game is u. Bring yourself, bring your game. Love yourself (in a healthy non narcissistic way of course) others will love u, why wouldn’t they, lol!
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Controlled narcissism does work well within the contours of playing the game. Women want to hear about things that make you special and worthy of their love, but it's all in how you communicate it- whether there is humility in the delivery, if not the substance of the content being delivered.
I’m not sure I would call that narcissism or even controlled narcissism luv, it’s just having a healthy view of yourself and who you are. If one don’t love themselves beav how do they expect others to luv them. I think broadly both men and women alike feed off of anyone generating a good vibe.
Controlled narcissism works well, maybe at the very beginning, because her partner hasn't noticed it yet, but about a year later, they split up, with the partner no longer able to support a man who think only of him, the world turns around in his person.
In the family we have a neuro-psychologist, and she explained to us what a narcissist is, (like Trump) and it's like impossible for him to control himself.
I don’t think you need to over analyze things, just be cool, act like you would with a friend.
Chances are she is just as anxious as you are and will be relieved if she sees you are not over reacting and trying to come up with all kinds of sleazy lines to impress her.
If it doesn’t work out screw it, move on to the next gorgeous girl that you are attracted to.
Just be comfortable with who you are, putting on an act and shtick won‘t last too long, besides it must be a real pain in the ass trying to remember the last lie or exaggeration you told her.
Women want to hear how gorgeous they are and how much you are in to them and mostly they want to feel comfortable and at ease around you. They want someone who is a good listener, they will always be better at talking than you.
Chances are she is just as anxious as you are and will be relieved if she sees you are not over reacting and trying to come up with all kinds of sleazy lines to impress her.
If it doesn’t work out screw it, move on to the next gorgeous girl that you are attracted to.
Just be comfortable with who you are, putting on an act and shtick won‘t last too long, besides it must be a real pain in the ass trying to remember the last lie or exaggeration you told her.
Women want to hear how gorgeous they are and how much you are in to them and mostly they want to feel comfortable and at ease around you. They want someone who is a good listener, they will always be better at talking than you.
Depends on what you're after.
If you just want to pump & dump a random girl off the street or from the club, it doesn't really matter what you tell her as long as you achieve your goal and then ghost her.
If you're interested in actually dating a girl, then yeah, truth and honesty reign supreme. If she doesn't like what she's hearing, or you don't like what you're hearing for that matter, then it's simply not a good mutual match and you shouldn't be dating each other. Typical 'let's just be friends'
scenario if it doesn't work out from one side, or maybe FWB if there is only strong, mutual physical attraction and nothing else.
If you just want to pump & dump a random girl off the street or from the club, it doesn't really matter what you tell her as long as you achieve your goal and then ghost her.
If you're interested in actually dating a girl, then yeah, truth and honesty reign supreme. If she doesn't like what she's hearing, or you don't like what you're hearing for that matter, then it's simply not a good mutual match and you shouldn't be dating each other. Typical 'let's just be friends'
scenario if it doesn't work out from one side, or maybe FWB if there is only strong, mutual physical attraction and nothing else.Very good points by bamjay. The OP's objective isn't really clear and whether it's pure gaming or he is on a girlfriend hunt.
some of us, grew up with too much goody-too-shoes values, which kind of makes us timid because we are too concerned about pleasing others... something I had to learn the hard way.
You were probably brought up with more backbone than I did.
Being taught to be nice in a "mean" or "crude" world, is a tough road to live on.
What you described is literally the biggest ingredient to the "game", confidence. Not all of us, have it. I would almost say, most of us here, don't. Why would we be here?
Took me a while to learn the keys to confidence. I do much better now, but im not there completely.
Why do you hobby?
I don't mean to speak for Fradi, but I think a lot of guys on here are just old and past their primes, yet retain confidence of their younger days. I think from his prior posts that is also the case with Fradi, he was probably an athlete and studly in his younger days, but when you grow old, Chowzilla, not so easy to bang girls 18-22 unless you pay. My game is awesome with women my own age, but I don't want to fuck women my own age even if I can for free, so here I am. Ditto for many others on here.
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I think it’s tougher to impress older chics. 24 and up. They have seen a lot more and experienced a lot more. Less likely to be impressed by things a 19 yo would be
I wasn't thinking when I asked that question.
I was just on the train of thought of "its not that easy bro!"
The problem I have is not getting women in their 40s and 50s but wanting them, even if they are attractive and fuckable, of which there are a few. My experience is they are divorced, damaged by past relationships, and jaded. However, once they hear you are a professional- attorney, doctor, engineer, etc.- and if they are looking for good times and companionships it's not really that hard. I just had a few too many conversations with such women where I heard about their child custody issues, the mental scars left by their exes, it makes my skin crawl in some way, partly because I see them as pathetic and pitiable yet burdened with baggage. I just had too many conversations where I said to myself, "she is damaged and jaded and I just don't want any part of it." There is a freshness factor to single, childless women in their 20s that you guys do not even realize, until you have been with a few that could be their mothers in the bar scene.
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Couldn't you say older women are more mature and more humble who can appreciate a good guy? Rather than being a chizzled homeboi full of tats.
U did a pretty good job Chowzy, lol. I think a 19 yo can be humble and level headed. I just think those extra years of life experiences brings more, and with that, it’s another ball game. A tougher one I think when it comes to “game”. Maybe I’m wrong?
EB,
Yes, with more life experiences some of those can be traumatizing and painful. I guess you gotta figure out if you wanna take the bad with the good
EB,
Yes, with more life experiences some of those can be traumatizing and painful. I guess you gotta figure out if you wanna take the bad with the good
That is easy to answer.
My wife passed away from cancer more than 6 years ago.
She was totally gorgeous and the most amazing woman I will ever know I was with her a lifetime.
At this stage of my life I am not interested in a new relationship and it would always be an unfair comparison anyway.
Hobbying suits me but I guess even here I look at it different I have an ATF who is a total angel to me who I see most times, occasionally I will see other escorts I have a few that I like that I keep repeating with although now with this covid I am back to one.
I still would not have a problem attracting women in my own age bracket actually I had to show one of my friends a photo of my ATF to finally end them feeling sorry for me and constantly trying to introduce me to their wives friends or ex work colleagues.
Now unfortunately I have been spoiled and it would be very difficult to get me interested in a woman even 10 years younger than me.
The other issue is like EB has mentioned women in my age bracket usually come with so much baggage that I am not interested in hearing any of it or being their financial benefactor.
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I don't consider myself to be extremely attractive but used to hang out and seen them in action.
Of course those 5-10% have free hookups. It's not like ALL girls will get on their knees and beg him to pull IT out. But yes, some will just come up and start mingling ... and there he goes away with her.
I saw girls just hand out their phone # in a paper. He told me he text her the next day and he was already in her apartment.
So yes, those handsome men can get it easy ... it's just the rules of attraction.
I will say this tho:
The same guys I used to hanged out are also paying to be part of a gang bang. Men will pay for his fantasy, at a certain limit.
To get freebies, it's easy. I've met people I consider average look but can also get freebies. They are just comfortable and not shy. Good confidence in him and voila.
Here's a question for you: why do you question about the look of other men?
Of course those 5-10% have free hookups. It's not like ALL girls will get on their knees and beg him to pull IT out. But yes, some will just come up and start mingling ... and there he goes away with her.
I saw girls just hand out their phone # in a paper. He told me he text her the next day and he was already in her apartment.
So yes, those handsome men can get it easy ... it's just the rules of attraction.
I will say this tho:
The same guys I used to hanged out are also paying to be part of a gang bang. Men will pay for his fantasy, at a certain limit.
To get freebies, it's easy. I've met people I consider average look but can also get freebies. They are just comfortable and not shy. Good confidence in him and voila.
Here's a question for you: why do you question about the look of other men?
Years ago, a friend of mine finished work at 1am, below average looking super confidence, his best pickup line ( so he says ). Its 2am, I may not be the best looking but here I am..... Guy got laid a lot.
Note: This is a long time ago.
Note: This is a long time ago.
Here’s a question: do you think that women are into looks to the same extent men are? I don’t think so. It is just one important factor for women. For example, we saw that Hugh Hefner had 3 girlfriends when he was in his PJ’s drooling in his late 80’s. We see young women all over the world on the web that would be willing to merry or have a relationship with men 50 years their senior if the man has the means to change their station in life. How many of us would go down on an 80 year old woman if she were a multi millionaire or even a billionaire? I sure as hell know I wouldn’t do it even when I was back flipping pizza. Also, I never gave a rats ass about a woman being in a position of power or what kind of car she drives etc. The primary driver for me was always looks and then, of course there is personality and other items are way down the list. I don’t think this is the same for women.
i think it’s primal. We’re attracted to fertile women. Again, it’s nature’s dirty little secret fucking with you. You know, the little devil on your shoulder trying to convince you to spread your seed? Instinctively, men want to plant their seed in the most fertile women and we can father children into our twilight.
i think it’s primal. We’re attracted to fertile women. Again, it’s nature’s dirty little secret fucking with you. You know, the little devil on your shoulder trying to convince you to spread your seed? Instinctively, men want to plant their seed in the most fertile women and we can father children into our twilight.
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