I have read all your comments and I am not sure if you do understand that racism and xenophobia is not as open in Canada like in the US it is subtle and yes it is there.You don't have to believe anything and I have no intention of convincing you either.
rbrown1000, i think YOU need to understand that refusing seeing a client of a different color is NOT racism or xenophobia. Even IF the reason was your color, no matter how dark chocolate black or milk chocolate brown you can be, or even Obama Light Brown (lol), the reality is when it comes to THIS service its not about being racist. Racism is HATING on different races for no valid reason. If i was a cook and you come to my restaurant and i would refuse to serve you food, yes that would be racism, your money is as good as anybody and i cook the food the same way. Here its a matter of engaging in intimacy. Total different thing. I seen provider say "no young men" as well, i sometimes wonder am i too young for them or not (31) , do i qualify as "young man" ? Does it mean 30+ or 40+ or even 50+? If i end up wanting to see that SP i would have to disclose my age to avoid problems at the door. Im sure she has her reason for not wanting young men, and if she can substain her business with old men, then good for her.
I am not an homophobe, i couldn't care less who a dude sleep with. I wouldn't have problem having gay friend. But i have no interest to engage in oiled wrestling with another man. Be it for a challenge or truth or dare... etc. Intimacy is different...
when my ATF left the business and found a boyfriend and would not work any more, it was a total bummer, just as much a bummer as rbrown1000's situation because I could not see a girl I wanted to see because she would not let me. However, I was compelled to move on and did move on and did not cry about it (okay maybe a little, but I did it in private). Life is too short and there is too much to be enjoyed.
ditto! I second that2 of the reasons i heard the most is
1) She have a black boyfriend, and the black community is smaller, could be a guy that know a guy that know her boyfriend....
2) Risk of the guy being a pimp trying to recruit her
In third it may be general security issues too
I'm genuinely curious about how people explain the fact that many SPs don't see black men...
So, are there demographic reasons in Montreal that make black men more statistically dangerous? Or harder to deal with? Or bad tippers? ...there must be *some reason* that a number of SPs discriminate (which is a fair word and doesn't imply racism)...I don't know Montreal well enough. What makes the category "black men" bad clients for many SPs?
Have to agree.
The girl doesn't need a reason - it's to her discretion - rational or not her preference should be respected.
I discriminate which women I see all the time...
thanks CaptRenault!
??? Where do you read "white clients are treating escorts with respect all the time" in Maggie's blog post ???Enough BS. This article by Maggie is more BS painting a brush exclusively on Black men, as though white clients are treating escorts with respect all the time. Give me a fucking break.
I agree... about integrity!????
The excerpt for justification of why Sp exclude blacks that you quoted in your post was that they have a different attitude towards prostitues. If poor attitude of clients was a reason to excluded them, she should exclude everyone because white, Asian, indian, female, and everyone e else can and do make poor clients. Any individual can. It horse shit to pick on o e and pretemd you're not. The exclusion is only ok because in the end it doesn't effect the Green being made. You know the truth. Let's not pretend here. Refuse to see black clients ts if you want. It won't change their day. But most of the time one is doing so because they're e prejudice/ racist. Sometimes you're not...small community, or wtv other reasons....not complicated. No integrity in the former. Reasons matter.
I wonder if it would get out of hand if we the clients explain why we don't see women of certain races.
Like EagerBeaver mentioned, there were many ethnic minorities at the recent XO party we had.
I'm genuinely curious about how people explain the fact that many SPs don't see black men. I'm not being argumentative and I'm not disputing their right to see whom they want. Nor am I asking SPs to explain themselves. But since it's obviously fairly commonplace, *why* do many SPs decline to see men of color? (As I've said before, it's very obviously not about attraction or "intimacy"; they see all kinds of men whom they don't find attractive; I trust we're not so naive as to think that sex work is about intimacy and attraction.)
So, are there demographic reasons in Montreal that make black men more statistically dangerous? Or harder to deal with? Or bad tippers? I'm being totally serious. I don't blame people if they don't want to speculate, but it's not very insightful to say "it's their decision." I grant that. But there must be *some reason* that a number of SPs discriminate (which is a fair word and doesn't imply racism). We don't see "no jews" or "no muslims," etc. I don't know Montreal well enough. What makes the category "black men" bad clients for many SPs?