Random thoughts (*rises from the dead*)

[AnthonyAnderson]

Laundry mistakes

• Using cheap/off-brand detergents (they really don't work well)
• Using too much detergent (read the label)
• Closing the door of your front-loading washing machine after running a load. The inside stays damp, favouring bacterial/mold growth and the appearance of bad odors
• Never cleaning the machine itself with the appropriate commercial product (once every 3 months is fine.)

 

[bodick7]

You're never too old to learn something new. Thank you @LeDodo and @Cap’tain Fantastic for contributing to that.

 

[LeDodo]

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Hard as a rock: horny

 

[LookAlike]

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That’s an old one.

 

[bodick7]

That’s an old one.

Yes I know. It still a good one ha!Ha!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I want to share an anecdote because I think comparing this to booking a SP is interesting. Since both experiences are, in my opinion, luxuries and not necessities.

Yesterday, before I took the bus on my way home to Montreal, I wanted to have a nice lunch in a fancy restaurant in Ottawa. The restaurant had good reviews, but it was pricey. If I didn't have enough disposable income at that time, I would not have chosen to have this experience. I would just have grabbed a sandwich somewhere and that's all. The food was not good, in my opinion. I was disappointed and couldn't finish it. Did I bitch about it online and leave a bad review? No. There are probably people who think this restaurant is really good, but it was just not to my taste. At the end of the day I just left with less money, but I didn't let it ruin my day, because I made a choice depending on how much money I had at the time.

There was a moment in my life when I couldn't even afford a metro pass, and having to pay for that meal would have robbed me of the possibility of having food for the next 2 weeks. I would never have eaten at that restaurant. During other moments of my life, I went several days and sometimes weeks without eating a real meal.

In the last 2 years I have occasionally spent even larger amounts of money at other restaurants for friends birthdays, and the food and experience were admittedly amazing, but it was absolutely not necessary to spend that much. I just chose to splurge. I could have been a Karen about it and complained about how loud some places were and how long it took to get the food, just to find something to be upset about.. but no, I just have a good memory of this place, with a slight tinge of guilt for having spent that much money over a meal. We only live once. If I choose to have pay for a luxury, it's on me.

 

[LeDodo]

I want to share an anecdote because I think comparing this to booking a SP is interesting. Since both experiences are, in my opinion, luxuries and not necessities.

Yesterday, before I took the bus on my way home to Montreal, I wanted to have a nice lunch in a fancy restaurant in Ottawa. The restaurant had good reviews, but it was pricey. If I didn't have enough disposable income at that time, I would not have chosen to have this experience. I would just have grabbed a sandwich somewhere and that's all. The food was not good, in my opinion. I was disappointed and couldn't finish it. Did I bitch about it online and leave a bad review? No. There are probably people who think this restaurant is really good, but it was just not to my taste. At the end of the day I just left with less money, but I didn't let it ruin my day, because I made a choice depending on how much money I had at the time.

There was a moment in my life when I couldn't even afford a metro pass, and having to pay for that meal would have robbed me of the possibility of having food for the next 2 weeks. I would never have eaten at that restaurant. During other moments of my life, I went several days and sometimes weeks without eating a real meal.

In the last 2 years I have occasionally spent even larger amounts of money at other restaurants for friends birthdays, and the food and experience were admittedly amazing, but it was absolutely not necessary to spend that much. I just chose to splurge. I could have been a Karen about it and complained about how loud some places were and how long it took to get the food, just to find something to be upset about.. but no, I just have a good memory of this place, with a slight tinge of guilt for having spent that much money over a meal. We only live once. If I choose to have pay for a luxury, it's on me.

I agree. The Google maps reviews of restaurant is a good example to illustrate the value of reviews in general.

To start with, generally speaking it's a good indicator of the experience and the trustworthiness of the business.
However both extremely good reviews and bad reviews must be taken with care.
You need to read beyond the score.

But usually the bad reviews are the one that are the most interesting. Why? Because sometimes the experience is ruined because the service was slow. And you know, when you are impatient any minute feels like an eternity. But then it might make you feel like it's not worth more than 1 star. Was the food bad? Was the place neatly maintained? Was the waiter polite? We might never know as the focus as only be on one thing.

The interesting part usually comes the feedback from the restaurant. Because the review is one sided and it's not the full story, so when they begin to share more of the story you quickly realize how blindsided the bad review was.

Having said that, there are good bad reviews to avoid bad places obviously.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I agree. The Google maps reviews of restaurant is a good example to illustrate the value of reviews in general.

To start with, generally speaking it's a good indicator of the experience and the trustworthiness of the business.
However both extremely good reviews and bad reviews must be taken with care.
You need to read beyond the score.

But usually the bad reviews are the one that are the most interesting. Why? Because sometimes the experience is ruined because the service was slow. And you know, when you are impatient any minute feels like an eternity. But then it might make you feel like it's not worth more than 1 star. Was the food bad? Was the place neatly maintained? Was the waiter polite? We might never know as the focus as only be on one thing.

The interesting part usually comes the feedback from the restaurant. Because the review is one sided and it's not the full story, so when they begin to share more of the story you quickly realize how blindsided the bad review was.

Having said that, there are good bad reviews to avoid bad places obviously.

Another example : somebody makes the conscious choice to go to a highly rated but expensive Italian resto. The service is slow and the layout of the restaurant is uncomfortable but the food is genuinely good. Memories of great food in Italy and in a restaurant he was really fond of that doesn't exist anymore taint his enjoyment of the food. He is rude to the waiters and things get awkward.

This person proceeds to write a negative review, saying you could get as good or better food in Italy or at that resto that closed in 1996 for a fraction of the price, in much more comfortable settings. Because he is so angry about having spent so much he adds "I bet there are cockroaches in the kitchen!"

Except we're not in Italy. And that restaurant he loves doesn't exist anymore. And even if it still did maybe he would go back and decide the food wasn't that great there after all. He was young back then and more easily impressed.

 

[Skym]

Random thought but how does everyone deal with fake people in their personal lives?

I feel lately I've been encountering a lot of fake ppl in my personal life. I've been trying out different activities & events to meet new people and I just find it's hard to find "real" people, down to earth humans.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

Random thought but how does everyone deal with fake people in their personal lives?

I feel lately I've been encountering a lot of fake ppl in my personal life. I've been trying out different activities & events to meet new people and I just find it's hard to find "real" people, down to earth humans.

I think the further away you move from big cities, the more "real" people you will encounter. Food for thought...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think the pandemic has really changed how people interact with others. People are more wary of connecting with strangers. I've definitely noticed a big difference.. I think it also depends what type of events and what ''scene'' you're in. I quit the nightlife scene specifically because it was full of fake people who seemed cool on the outside but were actually judgemental social climbers. I have met really genuine people in the last few years and slowly rebuilt a social circle.

 

[Hy5]

I miss LC18 in the lounge! Ah, good old days...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Eventually I think I will rent an art studio. All my art stuff takes up too much space in my apartment.

 

[LikesCats]

Eventually I think I will rent an art studio. All my art stuff takes up too much space in my apartment.

Good luck with that, creative spaces are becoming the '"Tasmanian Tiger" of this city.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Good luck with that, creative spaces are becoming the '"Tasmanian Tiger" of this city.

Some people have shared spaces but it may not be super comfortable...

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

I think the pandemic has really changed how people interact with others. People are more wary of connecting with strangers. I've definitely noticed a big difference.. I think it also depends what type of events and what ''scene'' you're in. I quit the nightlife scene specifically because it was full of fake people who seemed cool on the outside but were actually judgemental social climbers. I have met really genuine people in the last few years and slowly rebuilt a social circle.

I read an article recently with some startling data from the US regarding adults aged 23-29. When we compare the periods before and after pandemic restrictions, the most socially active young adults (top 25%) have pretty much returned to their usual habits, as measured by time spent with other people on an average day. The picture is different for the least socially active (bottom 10%). For them, their level of time spent with other people has crashed to near zero levels and has not recovered since the pandemic lockdowns. One in ten spends zero minute interacting with someone else on an average day (it was 1 in 25 before the lockdowns!). This is data from the American Time Use Survey, a highly reliable source.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I read an article recently with some startling data from the US regarding adults aged 23-29. When we compare the periods before and after pandemic restrictions, the most socially active young adults (top 25%) have pretty much returned to their usual habits, as measured by time spent with other people on an average day. The picture is different for the least socially active (bottom 10%). For them, their level of time spent with other people has crashed to near zero levels and has not recovered since the pandemic lockdowns. One in ten spends zero minute interacting with someone else on an average day (it was 1 in 25 before the lockdowns!). This is data from the American Time Use Survey, a highly reliable source.

I'm thinking about people I know who are very very extroverted and spend 2 or 3 days a week going to various parties and have a ton of friends and acquaintances everywhere in the city and in different cities as well. People like this still have maintained the same habits, but this is very extreme and most people do not belong to that category, myself included. Some people I know made efforts to remain sociable during the pandemic but now they mostly are around their partner and definitely don't go out or reach out as much. That's not mentioning people who's mental health has took an extreme plunge in the past few years. I've noticed people who's situations have deteriorated in major ways, and it's really really sad. There is a collapse of social structures, less and less help for people who are impoverished or ill, etc. Almost everyone I'm close to have had a friend die in the recent years, either by suicide or overdose.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Random thought of the day : consent matters with clients too.

On some threads here, I've seen some guys write that they enjoy a SP jumping on them upon arrival, or doing things that weren't expected, sometimes pretty extreme stuff. I've always thought that was pretty weird, but I didn't question it.

However I was just reading a thread on Perb after posting my ad, about SP calling their clients ''daddy''. Many guys replied that they found it unsettling, and a turn-off.. and frankly I can understand why. I also remember clients telling me anecdotes about some SP who did things they really weren't expecting and really disliked like being overtly sexual in public places, or something in session that wasn't discussed and might not be the safest or something kinky they definitely disliked.

For me, the notion of consent comes pretty naturally, and I think it applies to everyone.. why would I rush something and potentially intimidate or turn off somebody who is here for a pleasant moment? idk

 

[mtlspacial]

Random thought of the day : consent matters with clients too.

On some threads here, I've seen some guys write that they enjoy a SP jumping on them upon arrival, or doing things that weren't expected, sometimes pretty extreme stuff. I've always thought that was pretty weird, but I didn't question it.

However I was just reading a thread on Perb after posting my ad, about SP calling their clients ''daddy''. Many guys replied that they found it unsettling, and a turn-off.. and frankly I can understand why. I also remember clients telling me anecdotes about some SP who did things they really weren't expecting and really disliked like being overtly sexual in public places, or something in session that wasn't discussed and might not be the safest or something kinky they definitely disliked.

For me, the notion of consent comes pretty naturally, and I think it applies to everyone.. why would I rush something and potentially intimidate or turn off somebody who is here for a pleasant moment? idk

Definitely a turn off when someone you haven't met immediately calls you baby or daddy right right away in text messages. Maybe I'm too formal.

I also dislike when I clearly stated what service I was looking for and SP changes it to something else (usually GFE) when we finally meet. I don't withhold consent, but I end up disappointed.

 

[twenty4seven]

On some threads here, I've seen some guys write that they enjoy a SP jumping on them upon arrival, or doing things that weren't expected, sometimes pretty extreme stuff. I've always thought that was pretty weird, but I didn't question it.

I've only ever been 'attacked' upon door open once, by an agency girl, and it really threw me off tbh bc it felt forced. Turns out that is her style and we ended up having a great time but yeah...