As I said to a few people in PMs, I don't care much anymore. My last contact with the "SPB" was a bit more than 18 months ago. But even though I figured what she was all about and cut contact, the 4 years lease contract for the car was still going...
Thank you all for the support but for those who may wonder, I moved on a while ago. It's irrelevant to say how being used felt at the time, but I learned a lot from this "experience". I don't feel like a victim. At this point I just don't care. I wrote this post a bit out of frustration after seeing in how bad a condition the car was when I recently decided to bring it back on the road. But the woman has always been a mess, I should have expected that! LOL
If posting this story opens the eyes of anyone who may be considering this woman as a "friend" or whatever else, and saves this person the trouble, then this thread served its purpose.
Thanks gta for bringing another side of the whole picture.
Korbel, sometimes the clues are just so clear and obvious we just tell ourself "nah, can't be" and we let go. It hits a lot harder in the long run. I'm not the only one who got screwed (and not how you would think), and she's not the only one to do this either. Some guys just prefer to be blind and tell themselves they are "special". Yeah right! In this business if you have to shell out money in any way shape or form and it's only going in one direction, the person you are dealing with is NOT a "friend". Period. She's USING you.
Dee raises good points: How about suing her... I did, won, and she can be sure I won't forget. I'm very patient and I don't need the money now anyway. One day she'll have a bank account with money in it...and pouf! I just hope other nice guys who lost way more than me can eventually recover some of it too.
There's so much more I'd like to add, but it would not serve any more purpose so I'll shut up (for now).
CA
Thank you all for the support but for those who may wonder, I moved on a while ago. It's irrelevant to say how being used felt at the time, but I learned a lot from this "experience". I don't feel like a victim. At this point I just don't care. I wrote this post a bit out of frustration after seeing in how bad a condition the car was when I recently decided to bring it back on the road. But the woman has always been a mess, I should have expected that! LOL
If posting this story opens the eyes of anyone who may be considering this woman as a "friend" or whatever else, and saves this person the trouble, then this thread served its purpose.
Thanks gta for bringing another side of the whole picture.
Korbel, sometimes the clues are just so clear and obvious we just tell ourself "nah, can't be" and we let go. It hits a lot harder in the long run. I'm not the only one who got screwed (and not how you would think), and she's not the only one to do this either. Some guys just prefer to be blind and tell themselves they are "special". Yeah right! In this business if you have to shell out money in any way shape or form and it's only going in one direction, the person you are dealing with is NOT a "friend". Period. She's USING you.
Dee raises good points: How about suing her... I did, won, and she can be sure I won't forget. I'm very patient and I don't need the money now anyway. One day she'll have a bank account with money in it...and pouf! I just hope other nice guys who lost way more than me can eventually recover some of it too.
There's so much more I'd like to add, but it would not serve any more purpose so I'll shut up (for now).
CA