Story of a white agency owner's car.

[CoolAmadeus]

As I said to a few people in PMs, I don't care much anymore. My last contact with the "SPB" was a bit more than 18 months ago. But even though I figured what she was all about and cut contact, the 4 years lease contract for the car was still going...

Thank you all for the support but for those who may wonder, I moved on a while ago. It's irrelevant to say how being used felt at the time, but I learned a lot from this "experience". I don't feel like a victim. At this point I just don't care. I wrote this post a bit out of frustration after seeing in how bad a condition the car was when I recently decided to bring it back on the road. But the woman has always been a mess, I should have expected that! LOL

If posting this story opens the eyes of anyone who may be considering this woman as a "friend" or whatever else, and saves this person the trouble, then this thread served its purpose.

Thanks gta for bringing another side of the whole picture.

Korbel, sometimes the clues are just so clear and obvious we just tell ourself "nah, can't be" and we let go. It hits a lot harder in the long run. I'm not the only one who got screwed (and not how you would think), and she's not the only one to do this either. Some guys just prefer to be blind and tell themselves they are "special". Yeah right! In this business if you have to shell out money in any way shape or form and it's only going in one direction, the person you are dealing with is NOT a "friend". Period. She's USING you.

Dee raises good points: How about suing her... I did, won, and she can be sure I won't forget. I'm very patient and I don't need the money now anyway. One day she'll have a bank account with money in it...and pouf! I just hope other nice guys who lost way more than me can eventually recover some of it too.

There's so much more I'd like to add, but it would not serve any more purpose so I'll shut up (for now).

CA

 

[CoolAmadeus]

In short, the question that everyone has in mind but are too polite to ask is: ‘what were you all thinking?’

Of course, you know best what you’re getting back out of venting your misfortunes but...

As I said above: If posting this story opens the eyes of anyone who may be considering this woman as a "friend" or whatever else, and saves this person the trouble, then this thread served its purpose.

As far as the young lady goes, her chances for a better life stand much better than her ex boss’ to ever be happy. Make no mistake: through the partnership shenanigans and money channelling, the said young woman lost more than she actually gained. The allegations pointing to her shady dealings with the lady pimp were circumstantial and hardly show, if at all, on the larger scheme of events. Anyone who knows the details will confirm that while the usual gossip wonders and trolls will point to alternate, much darker, scenarios – that’s how theatrically this tale is being narrated through the back channels.

The woman you are talking about is not who you think it was, but someone else. Regardless, I can't comment on stories I only heard about from others. As soon as facts start being told about, they have the tendency to get distorted, willingly or not. Someone told her, who told you, you tell him, who tells me, etc... Bottom line, One may only get 20% facts and 80% fiction! My posts here are about facts, either I got directly involved in them or I witnessed them myself.

Thanks for the vinegar idea, but I prefer Febreeze! In fact, I had the interior deep washed, full carpet, ceiling, leather and everything, and her perfume came back after just 1 week! Damn it! LOL

CA

 

[gtadick]

Friend vs Friendly

A girl can be friendly but if there is money involved she is not your friend.

Somehow many guys just don't want to understand the difference.

 

[sapman99]

A proven method to get rid of old perfume scent

Poison, by Dior?

 

[korbel]

Well all,

While we all know that any witness will inevitably color a story a bit to serve their interests that doesn't mean the basic facts aren't true and that the testimony should be suspect. Of course there is also at least some element of payback in exposing such events, but how and where else can any of us to get a helpful warning that could protect others from being exploited in the same way? Are we saying that because such exposure isn't perfectly pure and devoid of any self-interest that it should not be told? Despite the natural inherent faults of human testimony we all should get the chance to use our judgment to evaluate what is told and weigh the credibility of the witness and the story.

The victim should not just take it on the chin and let fate deal with the culprit. That only gives willful exploiters more opportunity, and I for one am grateful to Coolamadeus for bringing out this embarrassing episode so that others may be forewarned. It can't be easy, and despite what he is getting out of making this thread, it's a service to all of us. As for others who suffer some embarrassment, it certainly is not the goal to make things worse for any innocent victims. But silence about abuses is the best protection for cheats and criminals...not victims. If anyone thinks Cool should not have made this thread then that would be protecting the abuser, not the victims.

Cheers,

Korbel

 

[korbel]

i
i met the lady in question and read her up pretty fast.but to be honest she was always good to me..she got me back on merb after i got banned.
something about haveing a mod and fred wrapped around her little finger

oliver

Hello OK,

Doesn't this work as a sort of indictment of all three...or is it just considered an accepted part of the normal "good ole boy"
system?

Careful,

Korbel

 

[Techman]

Oliver...did either a mod or Fred tell you directly that she got you back on the board? It's really easy to take credit for something when you don't have to prove it. I also met her a number of times and that's exactly the kind of thing I would expect from her. And while she may very well have been a hot poa when she was younger, she is well past the point where she could wrap someone around her finger. Why is it that you automatically believe anything anyone tells you? People lie. Often. Especially to people they know who like them and will believe them.

And of course she didn't try to get anything from you. Or from me for that matter, or many other people who dealt with her. We were not her clients and we simply didn't have anything she wanted. Definitely not the kind of money she would have found attractive.

Techman

 

[vasco]

Any pics

Does anyone here have a recent pic or description of this piece of art everyone is talking about?

 

[eastender]

"Good Ole Boy"

Hello OK,

Doesn't this work as a sort of indictment of all three...or is it just considered an accepted part of the normal "good ole boy"
system?

Careful,

Korbel

Korbie,

You mean she was actually a boy . Like second floor at Cleo's type boy Fooled people in more ways than we could have imagined!!!!!!!

 

[korbel]

Hello all,

When I met her one thing stood out in my memory. She had obviously bitter views of the ladies and the clients. The one thing she kept insisting on was all escorts seek to exploit their clients as much as possible. Now that's hypocrisy.

Cheers,

Korbel

 

[eastender]

Please Explain

Hello all,

When I met her one thing stood out in my memory. She had obviously bitter views of the ladies and the clients. The one thing she kept insisting on was all escorts seek to exploit their clients as much as possible. Now that's hypocrisy.

Cheers,

Korbel

Korbel,

You make a potentially interesting point. The third sentence above. Is that in the context of an observation that she made, a mission statement for her agency or just your interpretation of the general tone of her contribution to a discussion.

 

[korbel]

Korbel,

You make a potentially interesting point. The third sentence above. Is that in the context of an observation that she made, a mission statement for her agency or just your interpretation of the general tone of her contribution to a discussion.

Hello Eastender,

I was there with her, Coolamadeus, and my best friend. I tried to tell her about a great lady I had seen many times and what a wonderful experience it had been thus far. I told her about some off the clock time with the lady and that I had bought her an extra inexpensive item or two. She kept insisting I was just being used and that all escorts used clients as much as they could get away with. No matter what the rest of us said, she painted all escorts in a very devious light. Having learned more about human nature since then, I should have realized she was projecting herself and her own vices onto the lady and been better warned. She is a very jaded woman.

Bitter indeed,

Korbel

 

[eastender]

Thank You.

Hello Eastender,

I was there with her, Coolamadeus, and my best friend. I tried to tell her about a great lady I had seen many times and what a wonderful experience it had been thus far. I told her about some off the clock time with the lady and that I had bought her an extra inexpensive item or two. She kept insisting I was just being used and that all escorts used clients as much as they could get away with. No matter what the rest of us said, she painted all escorts in a very devious light. Having learned more about human nature since then, I should have realized she was projecting herself and her own vices onto the lady and been better warned. She is a very jaded woman.

Bitter indeed,

Korbel

Thank you for providing context.

From the conversation you had, do you think she was simply projecting onto other escorts or did she also have the ability to influence other escorts?

 

[korbel]

Thank you for providing context.

From the conversation you had, do you think she was simply projecting onto other escorts or did she also have the ability to influence other escorts?

Hello E,

I think this thread shows how she has the ability to influence, so some of both.

Bonne soiree,

Korbel

 

[korbel]

Well Korbel,

It's not that some of the 'victims' have not been warned beforehand and yet... If one is naive enough to lend money to pimps, let alone one with a bad credit, and without the protection of a IOU or a promissory note, there is no warning that could stop him from doing so.

Hello 10-19,

Yes, we all have to take adult responsibility for our adult choices. That was a given, and I am sure Cool was never side-stepping that.

Cheers,

Korbel

 

[Salmacis]

Quite the story CA, I've been through a similar situation like yours many years ago.
I'm sure we won't make the same mistake again.
Live, learn and trust no one.
Having only met her once or twice superficially, it's news to me.

 

[eastender]

Museum

So....how does the story end?

The name of this thread is "Story of a white agency owner's car." Is the car white, or is the agency white? Only white girls? No sistas??? Damn!!!

So how does the story of the car end? Does it wind up being put out of its misery at the scrapyard?

Becomes a museum piece like some of the Caddies driven by Elvis.

 

[Doc Holliday]

Take the term hobbyist, where do we think that term came from. Do we think some poor John was hauled into court and called a john who was paying for sex and the judge stood up and said hold on now thats a little rough, he looks like a clean cut respectable person so from this day forward in my court he shall be called a hobbyist or is it possible that the term came from a John who wanted to put a different label on himself.

How about we change the term to "boobyist" instead?

There is a well known board member who used to go by the handle Justajohn.....

Hey, i think i remember this guy!!

 

[CoolAmadeus]

Before anyone wonders where the thread has been and accuse the Mods of being this or that, please note as the thread starter I will probably delete it myself in the next few hours.

I'll go back to where I have been in the last 18+ months, namely in my real life. I'm not a hobbyist anymore, and as such my place is no more on MERB.

Regards (to all who deserve them)

CA

PS to those who want to quit the hobby (I was recently asked): It's the same as stop smoking. 1) You have to really want to quit. 2) You have to find a replacement for what you want to quit. 3) Read my point #1 again.

 

[Dee]

To Daringly and Doc, add Dee...

I don't hobby when I'm home... 1) I don't want to get caught... I'm of course known better there and 2) I have to limit myself...

In Montreal I just can't limit myself... I'm ever so happy that I've been able to resist the temptation where I live...

I was strongly thinking of moving to Montreal for other reasons ... but they pretty well fell through... would have been interesting to see if I could have developed an ability to resist...