The Power of Reviews

[Sylar]

Also, a lot of people here seem to be suspicious of positive reviews, which is also weird. I saw someone comment that ''some girls get positive reviews from their regulars and those shouldn't be taken into consideration because the client is biased'' or something along those lines and I find that super strange. If the client is a SP's regular that means he obviously enjoys her services and I don't understand why a review like this can't be taken seriously.

I have met some of my colleagues in person and I know for a fact certain things that were written about them on here were false. (like saying the person looks heavier or older in person than on photos or that she smells bad)

Reviews become suspicious when there is a negative one followed by 5 overly good reviews written by new accounts. I've seen in quite often and of course it raises some red flags.

As for false reviews, we can't rule them out. But I will also play the devil's advocate :Maybe they were heavier when the review was written. Maybe there was body odor due to a bad day / diet. And of course there is also the matter of perception. What one person considers "heavier" or "older" might not apply to someone else. In fact, after a bad week of sleep most of us probably look 10 years older compared to coming fresh from a vacation.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Reviews become suspicious when there is a negative one followed by 5 overly good reviews written by new accounts. I've seen in quite often and of course it raises some red flags.

As for false reviews, we can't rule them out. But I will also play the devil's advocate :Maybe they were heavier when the review was written. Maybe there was body odor due to a bad day / diet. And of course there is also the matter of perception. What one person considers "heavier" or "older" might not apply to someone else. In fact, after a bad week of sleep most of us probably look 10 years older compared to coming fresh from a vacation.

I believe it is possible to write a negative review in a respectful manner that does not undermine the service provider's confidence. Many service providers actively read their reviews, so constructive feedback is important. For example, if there is an unpleasant smell, one might say, "I noticed a slight odor, which could be due she just finished her menstrual cycle ." Similarly, if a service provider is overweight, it could be framed as, "I typically prefer a slimmer physique." The goal is to communicate feedback in a gentlemanly way that does not hurt anyone's feelings. This approach can aid service providers in making necessary adjustments. It's essential to remember that behind each review, there is a human being who might take comments personally, potentially affecting their work and self-esteem. We should aim to express ourselves honestly but kindly.

 

[dext]

I believe it is possible to write a negative review in a respectful manner that does not undermine the service provider's confidence. Many service providers actively read their reviews, so constructive feedback is important. For example, if there is an unpleasant smell, one might say, "I noticed a slight odor, which could be due she just finished her menstrual cycle ." Similarly, if a service provider is overweight, it could be framed as, "I typically prefer a slimmer physique." The goal is to communicate feedback in a gentlemanly way that does not hurt anyone's feelings. This approach can aid service providers in making necessary adjustments. It's essential to remember that behind each review, there is a human being who might take comments personally, potentially affecting their work and self-esteem. We should aim to express ourselves honestly but kindly.

Constructive criticism is a type of feedback that offers specific and actionable advice to help providers to improve. It should be clear and direct and include the practical steps to help the service provider to move forward and optimize the services , we are consumers and we want to have a good experiences. saying the truth in a constructive way is always helpful for everyone! thank you for thoes wise words!

 

[dext]

Why not give the provider constructive feedback directly?

I agree with you though, it's possible to write something negative in a more respectful way!

However, sometimes I wonder what's the point of commenting on certain things. If you already know someone is overweight and you're not into that, why are you seeing them? If you know that the person's smell could be affected by her menstrual cycle, why comment on it at all?

You have to understand that this isn't like going to a restaurant or buying a video game. Yes you are a client, of course we need to provide a good experience, but the context is completely different from other types of customer service experiences. SP's are always at risk of experiencing violence or harassment, and most of us already have experienced these things, and it seems like many of you forget about this.

It's also a lot more subjective than most customer service experiences. Clients of SP's all have different needs and different tastes, chemistry and compatibility are large factors that will affect a booking, etc.

what you sais is really true unfortunately.... studies have shown that younger SP's tend to experience more client violence than their older SP's
that’s the sad part of the service providing risks..
dealing with different tastes is also very complicated and it can create many problems like misunderstanding ext..

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I would like to emphasize some important points regarding why top notch service providers often take time to accumulate positive reviews, and why we may not see immediate validation after a good review is posted. For those who are not well versed in this forum, it's common to wait for a second member to corroborate a review before feeling confident to act on it. This dynamic can lead to the service provider not being fully booked, which may benefit certain members or the circle of friends within the forum.

To illustrate my point, consider this: when you browse a thread about a highly regarded service provider, you will often notice members who have visited the provider but have not posted a review or validated another member’s review. These members frequently emerge once the secret is out and start to reveal their experiences, stating, “Oh, I saw her a couple of months ago, and she was amazing.” But why wait so long to share that information? This reluctance to speak up earlier is exactly what I’m referring to. If a reliable source provides high praise, don’t hesitate for a second opinion before making your booking. Delaying could result in missing out on a wonderful opportunity to meet a true gem, especially if the secret is out and she becomes fully booked or decides to leave the industry.

Furthermore, when I mention a "circle of friends," I'm alluding to a network within some members from MERB community, where certain members are active and share information about exceptional providers across more underground platforms. However, this network has no affiliation with the Merb platform. It essentially consists of a group of 30 to 50 Merb members who recruit other members from Merb and invite them to their underground platform. Here, they gain exclusive access to top-notch service providers and other details that I cannot disclose here . I know this for a fact because, back in 2007, I was invited to join such a platform after being recruited from MERB due to my active engagement with service providers and my reviews. This may explain why I have garnered some critics on this forum. By exposing top-notch service providers, those in the circle of friends often resent me for slowing down their ability to book these providers for their own benefit after my positive review.

This forum exists to share information about service providers, and if honest members come here to share their positive or negative experiences, it is disheartening not to receive any reciprocation from other members. Such behavior is unfair to those who take the time to provide feedback. I recognize that this may lead to more critics of my stance, but my goal is to promote transparency and break the cycle of concealing valuable information about outstanding service providers.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I would like to emphasize some important points regarding why top notch service providers often take time to accumulate positive reviews, and why we may not see immediate validation after a good review is posted. For those who are not well versed in this forum, it's common to wait for a second member to corroborate a review before feeling confident to act on it. This dynamic can lead to the service provider not being fully booked, which may benefit certain members or the circle of friends within the forum.

To illustrate my point, consider this: when you browse a thread about a highly regarded service provider, you will often notice members who have visited the provider but have not posted a review or validated another member’s review. These members frequently emerge once the secret is out and start to reveal their experiences, stating, “Oh, I saw her a couple of months ago, and she was amazing.” But why wait so long to share that information? This reluctance to speak up earlier is exactly what I’m referring to. If a reliable source provides high praise, don’t hesitate for a second opinion before making your booking. Delaying could result in missing out on a wonderful opportunity to meet a true gem, especially if the secret is out and she becomes fully booked or decides to leave the industry.

Furthermore, when I mention a "circle of friends," I'm alluding to a network within some members from MERB community, where certain members are active and share information about exceptional providers across more underground platforms. However, this network has no affiliation with the Merb platform. It essentially consists of a group of 30 to 50 Merb members who recruit other members from Merb and invite them to their underground platform. Here, they gain exclusive access to top-notch service providers and other details that I cannot disclose here . I know this for a fact because, back in 2007, I was invited to join such a platform after being recruited from MERB due to my active engagement with service providers and my reviews. This may explain why I have garnered some critics on this forum. By exposing top-notch service providers, those in the circle of friends often resent me for slowing down their ability to book these providers for their own benefit after my positive review.

This forum exists to share information about service providers, and if honest members come here to share their positive or negative experiences, it is disheartening not to receive any reciprocation from other members. Such behavior is unfair to those who take the time to provide feedback. I recognize that this may lead to more critics of my stance, but my goal is to promote transparency and break the cycle of concealing valuable information about outstanding service providers.

Thank you for sharing this information with us. Very informative and explains a lot.

 

[Lexus3]

Furthermore, when I mention a "circle of friends," I'm alluding to a network within some members from MERB community, where certain members are active and share information about exceptional providers across more underground platforms. However, this network has no affiliation with the Merb platform. It essentially consists of a group of 30 to 50 Merb members who recruit other members from Merb and invite them to their underground platform.

Quite true. One I know of is much much smaller than 30, like minded golf buddies who sometimes travel together for a few rounds/games and who share the same 2 hobbies.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Quite true. One I know of is much much smaller than 30, like minded golf buddies who sometimes travel together for a few rounds/games and who share the same 2 hobbies.

Long time ago, the group comprised between 25 to 35 individuals and featured a highly encrypted structured and well organized platform. If you were aware of the details within that platform, you would be truly amazed. It's much more than just friends playing golf and talking about service providers. I won’t elaborate further or disclose any specifics of what I just mentioned; I merely wanted to emphasize the significance of why I often refer to circles of friends.

 

[Lexus3]

Long time ago, the group comprised between 25 to 35 individuals and featured a highly encrypted structured and well organized platform. If you were aware of the details within that platform, you would be truly amazed. It's much more than just friends playing golf and talking about service providers. I won’t elaborate further or disclose any specifics of what I just mentioned; I merely wanted to emphasize the significance of why I often refer to circles of friends.

Something similar still present with private reviews etc apparently

 

[Flyingby]

long love letters are as bad as short nothings
It has been said many times before
Eventually merbites ask the menu
If you want to keep your atf to yourself
Just write
No dfk. No cim. And cbj
Then you can book her everyday 24/7
Or. Help the community and post her offerings and her restrictions. At a minimum. Post her restrictions.
Anything else is useless word porn meant for the writer. Not the reader

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Long time ago, the group comprised between 25 to 35 individuals and featured a highly encrypted structured and well organized platform. If you were aware of the details within that platform, you would be truly amazed. It's much more than just friends playing golf and talking about service providers. I won’t elaborate further or disclose any specifics of what I just mentioned; I merely wanted to emphasize the significance of why I often refer to circles of friends.

long love letters are as bad as short nothings
It has been said many times before
Eventually merbites ask the menu
If you want to keep your atf to yourself
Just write
No dfk. No cim. And cbj
Then you can book her everyday 24/7
Or. Help the community and post her offerings and her restrictions. At a minimum. Post her restrictions.
Anything else is useless word porn meant for the writer. Not the reader

If you are aware of my reviews, you'll notice that I don't have high demands of service providers; I typically focus on BBJ, and occasionally enjoy DFK and penetration. No one obligate you to read my reviews; they reflect my personal experiences rather than your own standards. My reviews are based on my encounters and provide insight into what to expect in terms of attitude, body type, appearance, and some specific services I mention. Additionally, if I'm aware of any extra services, I will include that information. To date, my reviews have been beneficial to many members of the community, and I received 5 to 10 private messages on daily basis from members appreciating my reviews and sharing how their own experiences have gone wonderfully thanks to my reviews.This feedback suggests that I'm contributing positively to the community.

 

[Flyingby]

If you are aware of my reviews, you'll notice that I don't have high demands of service providers; I typically focus on BBJ, and occasionally enjoy DFK and penetration. No one obligate you to read my reviews; they reflect my personal experiences rather than your own standards. My reviews are based on my encounters and provide insight into what to expect in terms of attitude, body type, appearance, and some specific services I mention. Additionally, if I'm aware of any extra services, I will include that information. To date, my reviews have been beneficial to many members of the community, and I received 5 to 10 private messages on daily basis from members appreciating my reviews and sharing how their own experiences have gone wonderfully thanks to my reviews.This feedback suggests that I'm contributing positively to the community.

I don’t read your reviews. They bore the boner out of me.
But.
Thread 'The Power of Reviews'
https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/the-power-of-reviews.226990/
From YOUR own question on post 1. What catches my eye?
I answered your question
Yet again. You attack anyone with a different viewpoint then yours.

 

[WC3000]

It essentially consists of a group of 30 to 50 Merb members who recruit other members from Merb and invite them to their underground platform. Here, they gain exclusive access to top-notch service providers and other details that I cannot disclose here .

Damn. One more list I didn't make.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Félicitation à toi obvio pour ton désir de continuer à faire de nouvelle découverte
Moi si la demoiselle n'a pas de review je ne suis pu intéresser de faire des rencontres
Si elle a déjà des bons review j'ai pas envie d'en rajouter
Si j'ai rencontré la travailleuse du sexe et qu'un merbiste exagère dans sa description je vais intervenir pour donner mon opinion personnelle
Depuis longtemps certains membres ne veulent pas partager leur expérience personnelle c'est pas nouveau
J'ai beaucoup diminué mes rencontres l'attrait de faire des découvertes c'est terminé pour moi je préfère revoir mes favorites
Je remercie les courageux qui continuent de contribuer à nous faire decouvrir des escortes magnifiques

Tout d'abord, je tiens à te remercier sincèrement pour tes belles paroles à mon sujet. J'apprécie beaucoup ta perspective et les points importants que tu as soulevés. Je pense également que je vais me concentrer sur ma répétition, mais seulement avec Bianca. Je vais suivre tes conseils et faire une pause avec les reviews, car il semble que plus tu partages de review , plus certains membres développent de l'animosité à ton égard. Bien entendu, je ne parle pas de toute la communauté, mais seulement de quelques individus. En dehors de cela, j'apprécie énormément le soutien de tous les autres membres de la communauté , comme toi, qui me soutiennent et m'apprécient.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Damn. One more list I didn't make.

Trust me, you definitely don’t want to find yourself on that list. The individuals included are selfish; they come here solely to obtain information about service providers without offering anything in return, and they tend to recruit the community's most valuable contributors for their own benefits and their own platform.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Maybe a bit off topic but if I could describe the power of review I would say: killing the mood. Or drying up vaginas.

I will always remember one client I had that would clearly be measuring my body. Saying things like: what size are your boobs again? D? Or : can we switch to this position? And this one? What about this one?

Each time he would loose a bit of erection so I finally asked: Are you doing all that to put in your review?
And he said: yes! Its part of the fun!

What the fuck hahaha imagine not being in the present and only thinking about sharing your sexual proesses with your buddies. Just kiss eachothers already haha

 

[bodick7]

Maybe a bit off topic but if I could describe the power of review I would say: killing the mood. Or drying up vaginas.

I will always remember one client I had that would clearly be measuring my body. Saying things like: what size are your boobs again? D? Or : can we switch to this position? And this one? What about this one?

Each time he would loose a bit of erection so I finally asked: Are you doing all that to put in your review?
And he said: yes! Its part of the fun!

What the fuck hahaha imagine not being in the present and only thinking about sharing your sexual proesses with your buddies. Just kiss eachothers already haha

It's like somebody who film a show with his cell instead of enjoying it...

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

It's like somebody who film a show with his cell instead of enjoying it...

Could not have said it better!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Maybe a bit off topic but if I could describe the power of review I would say: killing the mood. Or drying up vaginas.

I will always remember one client I had that would clearly be measuring my body. Saying things like: what size are your boobs again? D? Or : can we switch to this position? And this one? What about this one?

Each time he would loose a bit of erection so I finally asked: Are you doing all that to put in your review?
And he said: yes! Its part of the fun!

What the fuck hahaha imagine not being in the present and only thinking about sharing your sexual proesses with your buddies. Just kiss eachothers already haha

I love your intervention here! Specially after the very disturbing admission that people here mess with our business by withholding reviews or writing reviews strategically, on purpose.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

There will always be a category of guys with malicious intentions. Wouldn't be a first to find out some guys try to convince girls into trading positive reviews and "influence" on the board in exchange of xyz - this is exploitation. There has been plenty of such stories and public drama over the years (voiced by SPs).

But I don't think the "lack of" in a strategic purpose is the norm. I don't really see it as even being the main problem but more of a symptom of how certain changes over time have affected participation on the board. I'll say it again it really isn't the "community" it once was. And it will never be.

I used to enjoy sharing with a smaller group of people that truly shared the same interests. There was motivation in finding new girls, TOFTM was the norm because there were no pictures just a small block of text in some paper. So the importance of sharing back then was crucial. And from there you got to know some guys, and topics of interest multiplied to plenty of non-sw topics... again, a true community.

Now, I don't even bother writing reviews anymore. The most I'll do is react to an existing post (if even). For myself, the reason is simple, I never did it to help the girls. I always did it to help the guys (but was happy if it helped the girls as well). I used to love writing reviews, especially after meeting with a girl nobody had ever mentionned (I've since deleted most of those threads). But the moment some decided to criticize the style in writing (too long, too whatever), as if their opinions should have any bearing on how one should write was the final straw. I'm not going to be told what to do because someone who thinks has influence said so. Someone doesn't like something... they can seriously GFT.

The point I'm trying to make, is that the lack of reviews and activity isn't just due to a minority holding back. There just isn't any motivation for some of us to do so anymore. Why would anyone invest their time writing something which has already been said more than once? If it was just to help boost a girl, isn't that what shilling is? And with the influx of users over the years, I can't even say I relate to most of the reviews anymore. Clearly my personal tastes are no longer aligned with what I read.

Why do I bother returning? Schedules, restaurant tips, tv show / movie reviews, sports and politics.

(sorry for the long post, I did not have the time to write a short one).

You articulated your thoughts very well, and I fully agree with everything you said. I particularly resonate with your point about some members judging your reviews based on your writing style, length, and craft. I find this highly disrespectful, especially considering the effort you put into your reviews. It’s disheartening to be judge by individuals who contribute nothing positive to the forum and merely spread negativity.

Personally, I write reviews for newcomers to provide them with a clearer understanding of what to expect. I aim to help them avoid platforms like Leolist and to focus on service providers with established reviews. It’s disappointing that some members feel entitled to critique your writing style. I have great respect for those who take the time to write reviews, as they do so for the benefit of the community, despite having little personal interest in it.

I can understand your decision to stop writing reviews, which makes perfect sense. You’re not the only one who has raised this concern. Additionally, I agree that Merb is very different from what it used to be, largely due to the influx of negative voices from those who seem miserable and use negativity as a means to boost their own egos. In my view, that behavior is quite low, especially given that it’s done from behind a computer screen.

The disrespect isn’t limited to fellow members; it extends to service providers as well. While it’s possible to express negative review but as long as it done respectfully, many choose instead to demean them without any compassion and respect . Sadly, it’s often the same individuals with low self-esteem who act out behind the anonymity of their screens. You would be surprised at how many service providers come here to read their reviews, only to feel heartbroken and diminished after encountering hurtful comments from these individuals.

Many fail to understand that their comments can have long-lasting effects on a service provider’s confidence and their overall service. I wish more members would show greater respect and compassion for service providers on this forum.