The So Called Double Standard by Women

[SylvainP]

Faux lol ,la taille n'augmente ni la force ,ni l'agilité ou les reflex ,sinon les joueur de basket auront fait de la boxe ,Si les femme pense vraiment ça :doh:

Je le sais, kilwa, mais c'est la perception de beaucoup de femmes et certaines y tiennent absolument à cette grandeur minimum, à cette impression de sécurité. La perception est souvent plus forte, plus puissante que la vérité.
Les clichés ont la vie dure, surtout dans les relations homme-femme. Et on dirait, autant chez les hommes que chez les femmes, beaucoup trop y tiennent et veulent en faire des vérités absolues.

 

[Splotch]

As a ecortorph

Don't you mean "ectomorph"?
Which I am too: gaining muscle mass as always been a problem. I was raised on a farm, did lots of hard work, and never really build mass over time. Even when I was working in a shop where I was lifting thousands of 45 kg bags of soya beans all day! My muscles just became...very very hard, but not bigger!

Wait...wasn't this thread about ladies not liking shorter dudes?
(An observation: the guys that I know that have the biggest muscles... are short men! Probably overcompensating for their shortness by developping a great physique! And I have to say that I admire their resolve!)

 

[Maria Divina]

ound:

First:

I saw, many years ago on dating site, men asking for women of that "between and between height" combine to that "between and between" weight and combine to that beauty and combine to that minimum annual earning" ound:

Some people are just plenty dreaming they just have to ask it on a profile to have everything they could't often give themselves at the end.
I read a lady in one of those site stating in French with humor : "Quand tu es équipé pour chasser l'écureuil, n'essaie pas t'attraper un chevreuil" ound:

*and those personal profiles are also written often with pink glasses, often people describe themselves the way they WOULD LIKE to believe to be. Ego is a so bad advisor sometimes.


Second:

Not a very well kept secret but a man, with good humour, engaging personality, active, cool and generous of himself will always be a winner with ladies.
In other words, to be positive and have make peace with his own past.
To be a kind of a good worker and of an hedonist are also very good bonus. AND I could have simply said: INTELLIGENT mixed with being good hearted.

And do you know? That's also what men are waiting about women. So, we're a just so identical in our desires.

Anyway, to be able to live a deep real love, each part of the couple should be able to be very proud of his/her companion of life for something else that his/her body, but to desire his/her own partner is a must also.
But the need to be in a couple could be so motivated by few different factors than love, we know that. Anyway, we could debate about this days.

 

[smuler]

Not a very well kept secret but a man, with good humour, engaging personality, active, cool and generous of himself will always be a winner with ladies

Very well said Maria :high5:

Best Regards
Smuler

 

[EagerBeaver]

Point is the short man gets no love or respect.

I am a short guy and I used to believe this when I was a younger man but I no longer do. Yeah, when I was 18 girls that were 5'10" and up didn't generally see me as boyfriend material, but my first girlfriend (when I was 16) and actually my first BBBJ came from a 5'8" girlfriend who actually is still pretty hot although now middle aged. I see lots of short guys with taller attractive women all the time, including dudes shorter than I am.

I think you need to adjust your attitude on this. Height is something you can't change. You can change weight and you can control how you use what you have. Focus on the things you can control, dress well, act like a gentleman, show manners, treat women like the princesses and queens many of them are, and you will see these problems vanish. Trust me on this as I have the experience and have walked in a short man's shoes my whole life.

 

[paladindanse]

the only kind of guy who need almost nothing to get the hottest girls is the tall handsome man. he does not need to be smart, does not need to be rich and does not need to be a good person at all. this guy always gets them all. if he happens to be rich, it becomes ridiculously easy for him to get all the girls, and if he is a gentleman, all the woman are after him. someone like Daniel craig is that kind of guy. rich,gentleman, tall and handsome. he's got it all.

the unluckiest dude ever is the short, not handsome man, who is not smart, not rich, and has unpleasant personality. this dude is gonna masturbate for the rest of his life.

even if you are rich, women will not give you their heart fully. that is why it sucks not being handsome. that is what attracts women the most. being handsome. in reality the only thing you need to be in life to attract all womens nowadays is being young, healthy and handsome.

my nephew is 26 years old policeman, is 6 foot 3 inches , has blond hair and blue eyes. and is very muscular. girls look at him like he is a piece of triple AAA steak. all the money in the world is not gonna help you against him. I can guarantee you that even if you are billionaire, your young wife is gonna betray you with a young handsome man like that. old billionaires are living in a world of lies. their young wifes d'ont give a rat ass about them.

 

[clark_larson]

A woman will consider it yes, again perform calculations in her head is this man worth losing my french villa and lamborghini? Meeehh maybe not. A woman has more to lose. A man can just disapear and say here keep your children, I'm out.

 

[hungry101]

Excellent video and I agree with the point you are making. But what are you going to do? You aren't going to guilt women into dating you. You need to embrace the suck and move on. You make up for your short comings (no pun intended) with other attributes. Your fun and semi-good looking and you can be sensitive and caring when appropriate (no one wants to date a Alan Alda). Where those nice men's dress boots that are like hiking boots...you know the ones with the thick soles....Then embrace the suck and move on.

There are double standards and all we can do is learn to cope.

 

[Splotch]

that is what attracts women the most. being handsome. in reality the only thing you need to be in life to attract all womens nowadays is being young, healthy and handsome.

On that note, a bit of humour coming from Jim Jefferies! (starts at 1min10sec approx)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7zoyC9Ohe8

 

[paladindanse]

On that note, a bit of humour coming from Jim Jefferies! (starts at 1min10sec approx)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7zoyC9Ohe8

that is funny, I am exactly like this guy ah ah.

 

[AmberRose]

^What she said

Also, where the heck are you looking at dating profiles that list a certain height as a requirement? I've never seen that on any dating site..

 

[paladindanse]

sorry but my friend who is 6 foot 1, younger than me and more hansome too always gets the hottest girls. I am 5 foot 9, I have a nice personality and I have money, but he is taller and more handsome and he will always gets the girls. I d'ont care about your fantasy world. the reality is there. and the reality is that the tall, young and handsome man always win. the end.

 

[SylvainP]

Amber Rose, I saw that on some women's profile, and in a forum too.

What I like in the first video is that the guy said that it's OK for women to ask men questiions about their height but it is not OK for men to ask women questions abour their weight, the size of their tits or ass. It should be OK for men and women or not at all.

 

[paladindanse]

a woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy.
- Friedrich Nietzsche-

 

[Splotch]

... Maybe a Québécois proverb could be relevant here: "À chaque torchon, sa guenille!"
( Each dirty cloth finds it's rag!)

 

[hungry101]

sorry but my friend who is 6 foot 1, younger than me and more hansome too always gets the hottest girls. I am 5 foot 9, I have a nice personality and I have money, but he is taller and more handsome and he will always gets the girls. I d'ont care about your fantasy world. the reality is there. and the reality is that the tall, young and handsome man always win. the end.

Jesus!!! I didn't realize that growing to 6' was such a blessing. This is a bad attitude. Funny thing, when you walk into a room thinking and feeling this way it shows thorough as a lack of confidence.
You can't hide it. Short guys get the girl. Look at Hollywood heart throbs Tom Cruise and John Claude Van Dam? Ok. So woman are superficial. The good news is that woman are impressed by power, money, confidence. Patron explained good looks for woman as a form of currency. This is ingenious. You just have to find another form of currency like power or my favorite...U.S. currency. You just start liberally flashing around those dead US historical figures and, as I once heard a black woman say, "He short but he got potential."

You point out what makes this hobby so magical and wonderful: With money, manners, and acceptable hygiene you can get anything you want in a hobby local like Montreal. I was once a young good looking guy. But the years have not been all that kind to me. The pressure and stress that I accepted a long time ago and that will eventually kill me, have left me as I am today. But here is the good news. Instead of ending up combing the singles bars for meaningless sex and most nights ending up in a Denny's at 2 am - shit faced, ordering the Grand Slam breakfast, I now save my pennies and make routine trips to hobbyland. Yes, I pay for meaningless sex and I am successful every time.

 

[paladindanse]

Jesus!!! I didn't realize that growing to 6' was such a blessing. This is a bad attitude. Funny thing, when you walk into a room thinking and feeling this way it shows thorough as a lack of confidence.
You can't hide it. Short guys get the girl. Look at Hollywood heart throbs Tom Cruise and John Claude Van Dam? Ok. So woman are superficial. The good news is that woman are impressed by power, money, confidence. Patron explained good looks for woman as a form of currency. This is ingenious. You just have to find another form of currency like power or my favorite...U.S. currency. You just start liberally flashing around those dead US historical figures and, as I once heard a black woman say, "He short but he got potential."

You point out what makes this hobby so magical and wonderful: With money, manners, and acceptable hygiene you can get anything you want in a hobby local like Montreal. I was once a young good looking guy. But the years have not been all that kind to me. The pressure and stress that I accepted a long time ago and that will eventually kill me, have left me as I am today. But here is the good news. Instead of ending up combing the singles bars for meaningless sex and most nights ending up in a Denny's at 2 am - shit faced, ordering the Grand Slam breakfast, I now save my pennies and make routine trips to hobbyland. Yes, I pay for meaningless sex and I am successful every time.

my best friends are all 10 years younger than me. it is not that I lack confidence. it is that they are younger, taller and more handsome. I can get the same girls as them, but not as quickly. but I know my strength and I have plenty of blessings at my advantage too. I have talent. I play drums in a band and I am an active mucisian in my area. being a drummer in a band is a cool thing. you d'ont need to be famous. if you have talent in something, girls like this a lot. I am also smart, I have traveled all around the world, I have money. I have good conversation abilities, I am well manerred. I have plenty of tools at my disposal. but my friend is a pretty boy toy. and he is smart too. it will depend where we are. if we are in a bar, he will win most of the time. if we are in a private party or a more quiet place, we can play on a level field. when I play with my band, his chances are diminished.

personality and intelligence can get you far with women definitely. but the guy who is handsome young and fit will always have it much easier. my intelligence and my personality have gotten me girls way outta my league a lot of times. I have confidence too. but I am a realist and I know my strengths and my weaknesses. a younger more handsome and more muscular man than me will have it easier than me most of the time.

it is just the reality.

 

[hungry101]

It is not your fault.

That is just the way it is. But honestly, the sex workers are way better today than 20 years ago. So if you can't find a hot wife of girlfriend, just buy some good sex and be happy.

I think it is more fun to rent.

 

[A12B]

I do see a lot of profiles on Tinder ... 'I'm 5'10'', so you need to be 6ft and over. At my height, I just swipe left' .. lol !! It's the attitude how to perceive this message. I just ignore it, swipe left and move on to the next. But YES, you can hook up easily if you're thin, built and 6' and above. Think about it ... you send 2 guys in a bar, both well dressed, cute guys and clean cut shaved etc .. . One is short and skinny and the other tall 6' and above with big hands and well built. Who do you think will turn more heads among the women ? But hey, I'm short so I shoot for the girls that are willing to listen to me and that can see my generosity. Throwing me in a crowded bar, for sure I will go home empty handed. That's the reality and my personal experience as well.

 

[SylvainP]

Si les critères physiques (grandeur, poids,...) sont ce qui importent à certaines femmes et que nous ne répondons pas à ces critères, voulons-nous vraiment avoir ce genre de femme comme amoureuse? Il y a ou aura attirance physique, mais la connexion sera-t-elle possible? Voulez-vous être en couple avec un trophée ou une femme avec qui vous pouvez échanger?