What is the secret to a successful ménage à trois?

[Fat Happy Buddha]

Has anybody got any experience with threesomes involving a goodfriend or wife? What are the do's and don'ts?

Also, what is the cost structure for outcalls for a couple? I get the impression that it's often a lot more expensive. Strange, I thought it would be cheaper, since the SP will have some help

 

[Porter]

Hi,

This one of the most exciting sexual encounters you will ever live.

We have done this quite a few times and if I may, at first I made some mistakes..

First, make sure you do not forget about your GF or wife. For her this is a vulnerable moment and you must pay particular attention to her.

Let me start,

If both of you have agreed to such an encounter, first let her choose the woman, she has to feel comfortable and also aroused . Do your research of SP in question, ask the operator if the SP has done couples, not just duos. It is not the same.. PM for some of our favorites

Once your GF/Wife has made a choice, book for a at least 3 hours.. The women will need time to get comfortable with each other.

Also if you are a local, I would suggest a hotel. Your GF or wife might feel more comfortable in an annonymous surronding.

Have a shower with your GF or wife before, this helps alleviate any tension.

Once the SP arrives, let your GF or wife answer the door, do not jump all over the SP, your turn will come

If you can sit the SP and GF/Wife side by side, offer up the wine, serve them each in turn , starting with the GF/Wife (important), also a nice little kiss for the GF/Wife will help (no tongue yet). Play suave, and relaxed!

Most likely the SP will initate the conversation of if this is the first time and so on, let your GF/Wife answer, and be truthful. The SP will get her clues and know what to do..

Give the women time to connect, let them talk, this is were a good SP who has done couples will be worth her weight in gold. The SP will know how and when to initiate contact. It will be soft, sensual and highly erotic. No its your cue to strip and assualt the SP, wait be patient..

Let the women kiss, now get a little closer, but do not distrub the kiss. Let the passion build. Your GF/Wife might look at you and want you to join in. Resist ! Let your GF/Wife know that she can let go, that she can truly enjoy, without and shame or recrimmination. You can accomplish this by gently encourgaing for them to continue kissing. Here I mean gently, do not slam their heads together.

After the third glass of wine, you might notice that some clothes have left the building. No this is not a sign for you to strip and dive in.. Wait....

But hold back on the wine a bit By now the women should be entwined in each other, again gently encourage your GF/Wife, but you start to be a bit active.. Gently stroke their hair, backs, shoulders, not too softly , but just enough so that they can feel your passion increasing, this should help fuel the session.

The party should be heading towards the bed, let the women explore each other freely and encourage your GF/Wife, with some sensual kissing, then kissing the SP..

The SP will start to turn your attention towards you, let her take the initiative, for sure your GF/Wife will join in, maybe rather aggresively, but do not let them strip you down.

Now, you can start to play with SP and your GF/Wife, always remembering to make sure the SP pays attention to your GF/Wife.. The more they play the better it will be.

From this point on let it happen, you will be in for the treat of your life.. After your GF/Wife first orgasm , break for some wine.

Repeat until time is up or wine is finished.

Ohh never sneak off with SP

Hope this helps

Porter

 

[deschjr]

Porter
I really appreciated your response, very informative and thoughtfull. I can tell that you are truly a pro at this. I will follow your advice. My GF is sending me signals that she would like to try but she has yet to really commit to the threesome, what do you think is she sending me signals to take some initiative here or should I wait for her to warm up to the idea further

 

[CaptRenault]

...My GF is sending me signals that she would like to try but she has yet to really commit to the threesome, what do you think is she sending me signals to take some initiative here or should I wait for her to warm up to the idea further

Reminds me of the ménage à trois episode of Seinfeld...

George: So what happened?
Jerry: She's into it.
George: Into what?
Jerry: The menage. And not only that. She just called me and said she talked to the roommate and the roommate's into the menage too.
George: That's unbelievable.
Jerry: Oh, it's a scene man.
George: Do you ever just get down on your knees and thank god that you know me and have access to my dementia?
Jerry: What are you talking about? I'm not goin' to do it.
George: You're not goin to do it? What do you mean, You're not goin to do it?
Jerry: I can't. I'm not an orgy guy.
George: Are you crazy? This is like discovering Plutonium ... by accident.
Jerry: Don't you know what it means to become an orgy guy? It changes everything. I'd have to dress different. I'd have to act different. I'd have to grow a moustache and get all kinds of robes and lotions and I'd need a new bedspread and new curtains I'd have to get thick carpeting and weirdo lighting. I'd have to get new friends. I'd have to get orgy friends. ... No, I'm not ready for it.
George: If only something like that could happen to me.
Jerry: Oh, shut up you couldn't do it either.
George: I know.

 

[Porter]

I really appreciated your response, very informative and thoughtfull. I can tell that you are truly a pro at this. I will follow your advice. My GF is sending me signals that she would like to try but she has yet to really commit to the threesome, what do you think is she sending me signals to take some initiative here or should I wait for her to warm up to the idea further

This is a delicate subject with the women, you have to be patient. Your GF will not commit to anything, before she is sure into what she is getting into.

Depending on the signals, I would approach the subject, after a nice meal, while sipping some wine. Focus on her needs, understand her passions. Ask her how she would imagine such a fantasy of two women together. Stimulate her imagination on the subject. Do not push the commitement part yet.

Always remember that your GF must be the center of your attention, in her mind she is courting with fire. But play on her imagination, but if she senses you are pushing for this, she will back off.

Mind you this is my own opinion, and by no means claim to be all knowledgable. Each woman is a mystery in its own.

However the most erogenous organ in a female body is her mind. So!

Porter

 

[Fat Happy Buddha]

Porter, thank you for the excellent reply. You did a good job of highlighting how a sensitive touch is needed in this kind of encounter. I'm going to print out your reply and keep it for future reference.

I have a couple of follow-up questions for you or the general community:

First, you made clear that it is important to keep the focus on the GF/wife. I want to ask if the comparative beauty of the SP is ever an issue. For example, if the wife is 40+ and the SP is 20+, there is going to be an obvious difference in their external beauty. How does the male handle that?

Second, are there ever any "off-limit" activities? For example, I can imagine that I might feel fine engaging in DATY and BJ with an SP while the wife was present, but might not feel comfortable (at least initially) with coitus.

Thirdly, are there any obvious advantages to having a threesome with an SP instead of a friend?

 

[Porter]

First, you made clear that it is important to keep the focus on the GF/wife. I want to ask if the comparative beauty of the SP is ever an issue. For example, if the wife is 40+ and the SP is 20+, there is going to be an obvious difference in their external beauty. How does the male handle that?

I understand this very well First an overly young SP is probably not the ticket here. Remember the SP and the GF/Wife must be able to interact. Therefore the SP must have some maturity.

That is why your GF/Wife needs to pick the SP, for one she will find the SP pleasing in appearance and have a sense that she can make a connection.

I view this as looking at a piece of art, beautiful , but each seeing something unique. Do not go gaga on the SP , do not compliment the SP on her breast, butt and or any part of her anatomy.

You are on the right track with your questions, this will be a delicate time for your GF/Wife. Thats is why at first you tend to be more in the background, so that your GF/Wife will have a chance to be comfortable and not to percieve the SP as a threat.

Second, are there ever any "off-limit" activities? For example, I can imagine that I might feel fine engaging in DATY and BJ with an SP while the wife was present, but might not feel comfortable (at least initially) with coitus.

First try not to have the one on one engagement. While a little is good, remember this is a threesome. So if possible either participate while the GF/Wife is getting DATY and see if GF/Wife will participate in "your" activities. Though do whatever makes "both" of you comfortable. As for off-limits, this is whatever you feel is appropriate. And yes the first time around, not going for FS can be a good move on your part.

Our first time was a bit timid, at first, letting the SP have fun with the wife .. Things livend up when I joined in, and as the passion built you soon forgot who's mouth was on what or what your mouth was on. The session blended into a torrid night of lust and debauchery

And no I did not participate in coitus.. But let me tell you that having two women after your body with a vengeance was a moment of pure bliss.

Again , never do what you or your GF/Wife feel uncomfortable in doing..

Thirdly, are there any obvious advantages to having a threesome with an SP instead of a friend?

First the emotional baggage that this entails with a friend is quite overwhelming. Let alone the issues of jealousy, shame and eventually loss of friendship. With an SP, once she leaves the issue is closed. No ackward moments at a gathering , no uneasy feelings.. plus this will make your GF/Wife feel more at ease in doing the threesome.

Your GF/Wife will have some emotional reaction the following day, so be prepared to talk and discuss and show affection. Now if a friend is involve imagine the reprecussion of such an event.

Good luck and take your time

Porter

 

[Canadian Joe 652]

My 10 cents

Having had the pleasure to expirience this with a wonderfull lady I would like to share some of my expirience, it all starts and stops with your GF.

First, you have to make sure she is in fact cool with it, in so many cases the girl migth not be ready, migth be forced or simply not be interested in doing this and if she agrees only to make you happy, this is a mistake. Make sure she does want to go along for the ride cause eventualy it will ruin the meeting and could endager your couple.

Secondly, I agree full hardly with Porter, it should all be about her and making her feel comfortable, it is very important that you make sure the vibe is: We will be sharing this evening together with another and not we will be fucking another.

You have to give her (your GF) her place, make sure that the actions are started by her, follow on her lead. Check for the boundaries and the speed at which she (your GF) is comfortable.

Letting the girls connect between each other for a while is the best to make sure that this vulnerable period for your GF passes.

Make the evening sensual, it is all about the touching, the caressing, the sligth incitation, this is not suposse to be a porno film, not the first time, maybe not ever.

Thinking that you are going to get a porno style rumping migth be one of the biggest mistakes you make, you are going to get so much more but it takes time and moves at the spped of the girls in the picture.

Importantly, you are sharing this with your GF, the center of this expirience should be you two, the SP is there to enhance the sexual expirience you 2 are having enjoying each other. If you make it into enjoying the SP it will ruin the evening and you honestly can do that without her (your GF).

Make sure she drives the selection of the girl (very important) set up the mood and the way things will go and then spice it a little.

Recently I was discussing a particular scenario, one that involves me not even being present in the room for the first hour or so of the encounter. The idea is to let the girls play on their own for a while.

To me this is a great idea!, can you imagine? I`m at the bar of the hotel having a drink, visualizing the scene taking place in the room, the movement of bodies against each other, the mutual discovery, Hummmm!

All the while I`m at the bar, knowing what is comming, looking at the people at the bar having their drinks, imagining what is going on upstairs, aching with anticipation to join in, smiling at the fact that all of those at the bar have no idea of the heaven awaiting for me above.

The fact that I`m not in the room frees me to imagine the scenario to the best of my fantasy, the fact that I`m not there will allow her to discover the other without the preassure to perform that I migth bring to the equation.

And still I wait at the bar, the hour has passed, I pay for my drink and go upstairs, open the room door to find the present of a lifetime and dig in........ OH Boy!



P.S. You asked also for recomendations, here is mine: Bianka Davila, a great woman, a wonderfull companion and a great third party to a couple session. You can find her through her banner on this site, here is a review on her with couples:

https://merb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=20255&highlight=Bianka

Enjoy

 

[Just-ass-weet]

Porter and CJ make some very good points

The most important one is that a 3-some becomes something that your GF/wife is doing because it has become HER fantasy as well. I like that you both understand that the focus is to be directed at you GF/Wife, that she is the center of this kind of experience. A 3-some with SPs and FBs is entirely different, usually then, the man is the center, this is not the case when it is the GF/Wife.

I agree with the alone time, for the SP and the GF/Wife, but turning things sexual for some, might be a challenge. I like to meet up at the bar with the lady alone, we have a drink and talk a bit, slowly turning the conversation sexual, then have the husband join us, taking things upstairs (depending, out of town, we can get a bit more wild!), elevators are the best, it is a nice way to introduce a more sexual feeling, because it is a short ride.

With each lady though, there are probably only a few ways to get everything right, I am imagining there are probably a thousand ways to screw it up! lol!

xoxox
Anik

 

[Canadian Joe 652]

Agree

With each lady though, there are probably only a few ways to get everything right, I am imagining there are probably a thousand ways to screw it up! lol!

xoxox
Anik

Truer words never being spoken

I also Agree with you Anik on the one on one time, actually my suggestion was for an encounter where the girls have met before.

I agree that first meetings should start with introductions, usually over a drink to relax the atmosphere. Your GF will be nerveous, you will be nerveous and maybe even the SP will be at bit anxy so a drink to get to know each other talk a bit and establish a bond is always a good thing.

Allowing for that personal connection should make the following flow smoother.

One important thing, specially if this is the first time you are going to try this, it is important that your girl knows and feels like she can walk away from this is she does not feel comfortable and it is your job to make her feel that way.

Asking, making sure she does want to go through with it and making her feel that if she changes her mind it will be cool with you, will go along way in making her feel more secure.

You do not want to end up a long term relationship becaues you did not wanted to waste the $$$ you spent on the SP.

 

[Porter]

A samll note to the MODS !!!

Given the delicate nature of a menage a trois, and coupled with the fact that there is no centralized pool of information either be it in the form of reviews , comments and general How to's it would be a worthwhile endeavour to create a seperate section.

The normal reviews from male does not really apply, since the dimension of the encounter includes a 3rd party. The review would reflect the level of comfort, interaction and overall dynamics in between the SP and the Wife or GF.

Though I do not argue the point very well, I am sure that a Menage a Trois section would be beneficial to all members and highly regarded as a visionary step.

Porter

 

[Canadian Joe 652]

I totally agree

I think it will make it easier for people to find info on the ressources available and get a chance to read reviews of people that have done it and can share some insigth.

I know, I would love to read more about the subject.