Patron the only thing is with that is that with the married guys I would take to Montreal for escort parties, the "committed relationship sex" had gone stale and lost its allure. These guys loved their wives, but they were sexually bored. You ever heard the expression "the honeymoon is over?" It has multiple meanings and one such meaning is that the hot sex of the honeymoon has faded into disinterest. Wives get old, in some cases get fat, and new blood is needed in the bedroom.
For me transactional sex - escorts for 15 years, then mostly SA for the last 5- worked best with my single, childless professional lifestyle. Much to my amazement, I started dating a lady on SA 3 years ago and she has become my companion. We don't live with each other, but have an intimate and regular typical relationship which isn't compensated except for the paying of meals and gifts as one does for a girlfriend. She is very independent and Career-driven and doesn't want kids or a husband and so she has the exact same outlook on things as I do.
I must admit that I have seen other SA girls and paid them for transactional sex while seeing this lady who has become my partner. Although the sex with my regular girl is great and hasn't lost its allure at all, I have a sexual curiousity that needs to have satisfaction. That's all there is to it. I am, inherently, non-monogamous and don't want monogamy even though I have a wonderful relationship with her. We are fuck friends, and if the fuck part ever runs out she will be my friend always, and that's why we have lasted as long as we have. She has seniority over all other women in my life at 3.3 years. 90% of the time I have spent with her in the past year was platonic activities, including a trip to Maine after Covid tests which featured kissing but no sex due to the monthly visit.