What's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

[SamAttak]

who was your first SP?

Haha that's a good question, I have no idea as it was in Europe and not Mtl. That was the plan, I wanted to get rid of it and move on with my life without someone knowing they ''popped my cherry''.

I guess I didn't use my best wording when I said ''every guy pays for it one way or another''. The truth is that there's a lot of variables and sure some guys get it completely for free but if we could sit down for a long conversation free of emotions, I'm sure I would convince you my point of view isn't ''bullshit'' as you say.

 

[CoolSin000]

Curiosity is what brought me to you fuckers. They say curiosity killed the cat(pussy). Not this time, curiosity improved his DATY game, maybe a little....maybe not???

I love women. I really, really love women. Especially beautiful women. Even more, women who are beautiful inside and out.

I don’t agree with the “ur paying for it one way or another” bullshit, but I digress.....

Haha that's a good question, I have no idea as it was in Europe and not Mtl. That was the plan, I wanted to get rid of it and move on with my life without someone knowing they ''popped my cherry''.

I guess I didn't use my best wording when I said ''every guy pays for it one way or another''. The truth is that there's a lot of variables and sure some guys get it completely for free but if we could sit down for a long conversation free of emotions, I'm sure I would convince you my point of view isn't ''bullshit'' as you say.

I honestly agree with SamAttak's assessment, "every guy pays for it one way or another", rather it is money or time (such as emotional development/trust), either way, every connections you make - it takes something from you.

 

[Fradi]

I honestly agree with SamAttak's assessment, "every guy pays for it one way or another", rather it is money or time (such as emotional development/trust), either way, every connections you make - it takes something from you.

I totally disagree.
The relationships I have had didn’t take anything from me quite the opposite
It provided me with a lifetime partner, a family, children, grandchildren, a lifetime of memories that are worth more than any amount of money. How do you measure being in love with money, better still why do you.
Even now the ladies I am seeing, one in particular, yes I am a paying customer but in return I am seeing totally gorgeous young women who go out of their way to please me some of them have become friends, these things really cannot be measured in $$ at least I don’t look at it that way.
What good is money to you anyway if you don’t use it to enjoy life and all its pleasures, and the SP that I see certainly fit well into that.

 

[sene5hos]

Hello Gentlemen,

I've been a member for MERB since Oct 2019 - I was curious to see what's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

I started this hobby after my separation.

I went to see erotic masseuses, I needed to feel the body of a woman, of tenderness, of caresses and to satisfy my need for sensuality with beautiful naked women.
I didn't have a lot of money for the hobby because after paying for everything and the alimony I couldn't come across often.

But I considered the money invested to be worth its weight in gold.

It has allowed me to meet extraordinary women, it's been several years and in all these years I have met women who have allowed me to live almost normally.

 

[EagerBeaver]

Patron the only thing is with that is that with the married guys I would take to Montreal for escort parties, the "committed relationship sex" had gone stale and lost its allure. These guys loved their wives, but they were sexually bored. You ever heard the expression "the honeymoon is over?" It has multiple meanings and one such meaning is that the hot sex of the honeymoon has faded into disinterest. Wives get old, in some cases get fat, and new blood is needed in the bedroom.

For me transactional sex - escorts for 15 years, then mostly SA for the last 5- worked best with my single, childless professional lifestyle. Much to my amazement, I started dating a lady on SA 3 years ago and she has become my companion. We don't live with each other, but have an intimate and regular typical relationship which isn't compensated except for the paying of meals and gifts as one does for a girlfriend. She is very independent and Career-driven and doesn't want kids or a husband and so she has the exact same outlook on things as I do.

I must admit that I have seen other SA girls and paid them for transactional sex while seeing this lady who has become my partner. Although the sex with my regular girl is great and hasn't lost its allure at all, I have a sexual curiousity that needs to have satisfaction. That's all there is to it. I am, inherently, non-monogamous and don't want monogamy even though I have a wonderful relationship with her. We are fuck friends, and if the fuck part ever runs out she will be my friend always, and that's why we have lasted as long as we have. She has seniority over all other women in my life at 3.3 years. 90% of the time I have spent with her in the past year was platonic activities, including a trip to Maine after Covid tests which featured kissing but no sex due to the monthly visit.

 

[CoolSin000]

I totally disagree.
The relationships I have had didn’t take anything from me quite the opposite
It provided me with a lifetime partner, a family, children, grandchildren, a lifetime of memories that are worth more than any amount of money. How do you measure being in love with money, better still why do you.
Even now the ladies I am seeing, one in particular, yes I am a paying customer but in return I am seeing totally gorgeous young women who go out of their way to please me some of them have become friends, these things really cannot be measured in $$ at least I don’t look at it that way.
What good is money to you anyway if you don’t use it to enjoy life and all its pleasures, and the SP that I see certainly fit well into that.

Firstly, I'm glad you had a wonderful partner, a family, children and grandchildren because not many people had the opportunity/lucky to find the right partner to create something special.

Indeed, there is an old saying, "If you enjoy your work, you won't consider it as work"; which it is similar to having family - if you enjoy the family life - it won't be consider a punishment while you are sacrificing time, creating memories, controlling your temperament, and spending money on things that the family needs/wants. These are some of things that cannot be quantify. However, you are paying for it in a different way compare to seeing an SP, which they only charge you by the hour. Unless you are seeing an SB from SA - than that arrangement would be different since their service policy and restriction are different from the Agency/ Independent SP.

Overall, people like to spend their time or their money in a different way.

 

[luvdozer]

I had to think about this one for a bit because I did not really have some specific moment that got me into the hobby. I think for me it actually goes back to porn.

Of course I was always trying to date girls in real life, and I often would. But, I was also enjoying porn and looking at amazing chicks I could never get in real life. I could buy the experience of seeing them naked and watching them have sex. From there, I checked out strip clubs and it was basically the same thing - I could pay an amazingly hot girl to dance naked right in front of me and rub her naked body against me. These were girls who would never give me the time of day in my regular life. I preferred dating a girl and having sex with an emotional connection in addition to physical attraction, but sometimes that was not happening.

The more time I spent at strip clubs in the early 90s and the more their hands would roam, the more I came to realize that I could spend the same amount of money to have sex with a girl who is just as attractive. I just never felt the kind of moral obstacles that most people felt. For me, the morality was how I treated the girl, not the fact that money changed hands.

 

[Herman]

A friend of mine took me to a strip club an I liked it... for a year or two. At some point I felt I wanted more.
So after that, another friend of mine took me to a massage parlor and I liked it... for a year or two. But I felt I wanted more.
So I started (by myself ) to see SPs. It's been a year or two. Not sure what's next.

Looking back, I think the reason was the psychological need to have fun as much as possible and to feel I live life at max from this perspective too.

 

[Numerati]

Being in this hobby kept me from being into someone like this....

 

[chinavibez]

Hello people. I would like to ask you what leads you to pay for sex. It would be interesting to read your opinions. in my case I do it because it is my only option, I have to admit that I am very bad at seducing women. I have opportunities but.. that’s is another story. I have had very good experiences with escorts but at the end they are doing their job there is nothing genuine in the sex you have with them and if I were a person who is successful with women, I would never go to see an escort.
So, guys what lead to a successful, charming and handsome men like yourselves to hire escorts ?

Lack of time, the convenience of having an incredible selection of beautiful women a single text away. The ability to do certain things that you don’t necessarily want to, or can do with your significant other. The added bonus of no guilt after you’ve done the deed and being assured that you don’t have to let someone down gently, or deal with your phone blowing up with messages after the fact. The list is long and varied, I’m sure others can chime in.

 

[hungry101]

Osjavior - I don’t think that there are many of us that are content with the sex we have as a civilian. At any time have any of us had a hot girl pass us at work or in a restaurant and not have that little devil on our shoulder whisper in our ear “ wouldn’t you like to tap that?” Thank God the angel sits on the other shoulder to drown out the little Devil. But ultimately we all have to give into the little devil and get some.

I opened Pandora’s box a long time ago. I remember a colleague telling me about another colleague that called an escort on a business trip down to Houston. He described this hot model arriving and changing into red lingerie and the two of them having mind blowing sex. I thought and thought about this for a long time. Every time I checked into a hotel I would grab the yellow pages and look for escorts. Sometimes the prices were written in pencil beside the agency AAAAAbracadabra Escorts. Remember all the consecutive letters of “A” they would have in front of the agency name to get that first listing and you’d call several numbers and it sure seemed like the same person always answered the phone. I was generally disappointed until I discovered sites like MERB and Montreal. My batting average went up exponentially...like a pro athlete on steroids...like an Astro batting in his home ballpark. I liked the fact that I could shop online for pleasure and this hobby became my favorite one. I haven’t bought a stamp or coin in years!

 

[Bbw hunter]

Osjavior - I don’t think that there are many of us that are content with the sex we have as a civilian. At any time have any of us had a hot girl pass us at work or in a restaurant and not have that little devil on our shoulder whisper in our ear “ wouldn’t you like to tap that?” Thank God the angel sits on the other shoulder to drown out the little Devil. But ultimately we all have to give into the little devil and get some.

I opened Pandora’s box a long time ago. I remember a colleague telling me about another colleague that called an escort on a business trip down to Houston. He described this hot model arriving and changing into red lingerie and the two of them having mind blowing sex. I thought and thought about this for a long time. Every time I checked into a hotel I would grab the yellow pages and look for escorts. Sometimes the prices were written in pencil beside the agency AAAAAbracadabra Escorts. Remember all the consecutive letters of “A” they would have in front of the agency name to get that first listing and you’d call several numbers and it sure seemed like the same person always answered the phone. I was generally disappointed until I discovered sites like MERB and Montreal. My batting average went up exponentially...like a pro athlete on steroids...like an Astro batting in his home ballpark. I liked the fact that I could shop online for pleasure and this hobby became my favorite one. I haven’t bought a stamp or coin in years!

I think Hungry hit the nail on the head.
I collected stamps as kid. Great fun. Yet as a middle-aged man the hobby is way more fun for me now.
In my younger days I used to cruise girls in bars and other places. I didn't get lucky every time but the batting average was good enough to keep me coming back. Plus the thrill of the hunt in itself was half the fun.
However Mother Nature has a way of making sure you run out of time and road, while still not taking away the desire to seduce young attractive women. Ya, Mother Nature can be a real bitch that way.
So I guess for me Econolodge, XO et al are the new Crescent St.

 

[Numerati]

When in a relationship and in your typical civie relationship. Here are some examples with some past girlfriends.

Me: Would you wear this *insert blank* and *insert blank.* I find you very sexy in them.
Her: No. I don't want to wear them. Why?

-----She would wear them of course but it is a power game and a shit test.----- In the beginning of the relationship didn't have to ask.

Me: You tastes really yummy if you shaved. Love the feeling of your smooth skin if you shaved your legs.
Her: No. Takes too much time and work.

Lazy biatch. LOL.

After a while once the honeymoon phase goes out the door and complacency is set in things are going to go really meh. Also after a while the sex becomes quite vanilla and down the road the frequency really slows down. In many cases the BJ stops. LOL.

With an escort. She would more than happily to oblige with your requests (it is reasonable of course), come SHAVED and dress to the nines. Sex would be out of this world which is a guarantee. If you are into anal for instance she might be up for it. Or a threesome. Yeah try that with your civilian significant other. This hobby for some is to explore things that cannot be explored in a "real" relationship as you might be seen as a freak or something. I can say this hobby is many things for people who partake. Maybe it is to help you with a break up. Or you love your wife but say she has some medical condition where sex is next to impossible.

 

[whynot888]

I am ugly as fuck and the only way i can get pussy is by paying for it.

 

[Numerati]

I am ugly as fuck and the only way i can get pussy is by paying for it.

And for that you are more happy and free in all the ways many are not.

 

[testingsite]

I think I am seeing SPs because of my boredom and fear of missing out.

 

[The Nature Boy]

I am ugly as fuck and the only way i can get pussy is by paying for it.

Me too dude, either $$ or food. Buy a cook book, take classes. Might save you some $$

 

[spinner addict]

My story for seeing MP/SP's

My life with my wife was going downhill and boring

I started back then slowly with MP's ( once or twice a year ) because i was to chiken shit to go with SP's

So after a while and reading over and over here , took the plunge with SP's

My main reason for seeing SW is so i can get the exact girl of my fantasy's , with the body of my dreams , like i see on tv or porn.
As for what i like , i think my handle says it all, hahaha

Basiclly i am no brad pitt but still somewhat good looking, and could still get women if i would put some effort into it.

But that just it, i dont want anymore relationships , and/or girlfriends as it is to much demanding and commiting. Aspecially the flirting processus.

I am really happy with the whole concept of MP/SP's , you chose your dream girl, you go in for an hour or more, you satisfy your primal needs, and your out.

No strings attached and nobody to anwser to.

Cheers

 

[jmioffe]

Judging by the positive interactions I've gotten, I'm not ugly. But I am short and I have high standards.

So I don't have the goods to get the women I want. Kind of a "champagne tastes on a beer budget" situation.

I'm not "broke" -- I'm not ugly and poor.
I have a "budget" -- I'm personable and interesting, have money and decent looks.
But I don't have enough of a budget to afford "champagne" -- the 8s, 9s, and 10s.

I could probably "supplement" my budget with extra effort -- persistence, willingness to accept rejection, taking them on expensive dates, etc.

But I'm not interested in doing that. So P4P works for me.

I like the reaction to Fradi's praise of relationships. I'm not a family guy, so I think the below applies to me. But I also fear the day when I will want relationships and a family. I'm already in my 40s.

Indeed, there is an old saying, "If you enjoy your work, you won't consider it as work"; which it is similar to having family - if you enjoy the family life - it won't be consider a punishment while you are sacrificing time, creating memories, controlling your temperament, and spending money on things that the family needs/wants.

 

[sene5hos]

For 12 years that I have met beautiful women, yes that would have made me a good amount of money.

Did the money spent on this hobby make me bitter, on the contrary I have never been happier than at those times. It's not good to be sad and nostalgic.

To stay with a woman I don't like, as Linkin Park