What's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

[CoolSin000]

Hello Gentlemen,

I've been a member for MERB since Oct 2019 - I was curious to see what's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

For my story:
My ex-gf broke my heart on April 2018, we have been together for three years and three months. I've struggle to find another girlfriend for months, after several months without sexual intercourse - I've finally took the plunge to find a stripper to get a full service. After that experience, I learn to use Leolist, Discrete Connection and TERB.CC/MERB.CC/PERB.CC to find SPs.

 

[liloudallas]

In my twenty's I was fat, out of shape, with no self-esteem. Meeting women was a huge challenge. So I compensate with hobbying... a lot. Thousands and thousands and thousands of $$$. At 28 I start a therapy. Best decision of my life. Had my first real girlfriend at 33. 1st time in 14 years the I'm actually single. At 47 I still hobby time to time, but its quite rare. When I do its to fullfill very specific needs or fantasy. Never to fullfill emotionals needs. Even got the chance to date for 6 months a part-time provider. He He He best sex of my life!!!

 

[liloudallas]

I like the way it feels when my dick is in her vagina, mouth, hand and/or anus. Same with my fingers or tongue, though not quite as much.

I eat food that tastes good to me for similar reasons.

Y’all take it a bit more seriously than I do.

Thats exactly the point, you have to be able to practice the hobby by choice or just for the fun of it.

By reading some reviews, it is obvious that there some active members who are hobbying because they are unable to meet regular girls. And that is sad because its hidding a lot of suffering.

 

[Pogo]

The THING made me do it, He shows up at the most inopportune times. He shows up at night, he is there staring at me when I wake up in the morning.

 

[Anwar]

I do it to keep my libido in check lol

Hobbying allows me to think with my brain rather than my dick in civvie interactions. I like the simplicity of it all - we know what we want, and we part our separate ways without even an atom of a string attached. Seeing SPs have made me realize things about my sexuality that I wouldn't have been able to do with girlfriends. It has helped me adjust my expectations from real-life relationships, instead of having my partner bear the brunt of my oblivion of what I want in my sex life.

 

[SamAttak]

Never had a GF, was a massive nerd until I got lucky and got an online business going making good money. Then girls magically started hitting me up, inevitably got real hurt as we all do... Started seeing SPs to break the mental block and to gain some confidence with the ladies (Lost virginity to an SP lol). Quickly got addicted and I still have never had a GF and not looking for one anymore. Its nice when I get compliments from SPs but that's not the reason I see them now... Its just that I've realized every guy pays for sex one way or another and that SPs are a great deal! I consider myself very lucky to have been with so many beautiful women over the years and got many of my friends to try it out. As I always say, if I learn I'll die tomorrow I won't even be mad. (I'm in my mid 20s)

 

[Francoquart]

At first I was just curious to see how effortless sex tasted. Then i fell in love with how SP handles sessions. Now it is because of the diversity it offers. Having 1 or 2 FWB, and seing 2 or 3 SP per month is a step closer to full happiness. I do repeat with the ones i find amasing, but I am moslty looking for new ones.

 

[TheJames101]

Its just that I've realized every guy pays for sex one way or another

That's incorrect, but it's understandable you might think that never having been in a relationship.

 

[chowzilla]

started because I wanted to fulfill the fantasy of being with really beautiful women. It was too addictive to pass on. Learned how to interact with women. Learned that I didn't need to hobby to be with women that I liked. Got my heart broken, to the point im cynical. Came back to hobbying because I was afraid of relationships. Now I hobby for recreational purposes.

Never had a GF, was a massive nerd until I got lucky and got an online business going making good money. Then girls magically started hitting me up, inevitably got real hurt as we all do... Started seeing SPs to break the mental block and to gain some confidence with the ladies (Lost virginity to an SP lol). Quickly got addicted and I still have never had a GF and not looking for one anymore. Its nice when I get compliments from SPs but that's not the reason I see them now... Its just that I've realized every guy pays for sex one way or another and that SPs are a great deal! I consider myself very lucky to have been with so many beautiful women over the years and got many of my friends to try it out. As I always say, if I learn I'll die tomorrow I won't even be mad. (I'm in my mid 20s)

who was your first SP?

me too, I would die happy. I often imagine my tombstone to be filled with all the women I have been with.
In Loving Memory of chowzilla
In Hornor of all the women he banged

I want people who don't know me, to walk up to my tombstone, and say.... Bruh... Respect.

 

[Fradi]

It beats watching Judge Judy every time.
Which I do a lot because I take care of an elderly relative.

 

[minutemenX]

I look at it very pragmatically. If you are in an advanced age and for whatever reason became single but still have some libido left, getting the real sex even infrequently is a necessity for maintaining physical and mental health. As any romantic relationship with attractive younger women is out of question, SPs are the only practical and natural choice.

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[cricklewood]

Interesting thread,

I started the hobby pretty young, when I realized the kind of depraved beast resides in my depths. I've never had much trouble meeting or speaking to women, or going on dates in general although I dislike the mechanics of one night stands, I never felt them to be very satisfying although there are exceptions.

The hobby is many things...

It's a means to an end, sometimes you just have to scratch that itch and this makes it easier.
It's the thrill of the hunt, you never quite know how it will turn out
It's variety, you can meet any type of girl/guy/non-binary pal , keeps life interesting
It's fulfilling your fantasies, the right SP can take you outside yourself on a journey to carnal madness, this is especially true on repeat visits.
It's building up your skills, I have learned a lot from this hobby and from meeting all kinds of folks, many a girlfriend/partner has told me they have never been fucked/touched this way before.

SP's to me are a noble profession, I will also die a satisfied man, never to have pent up sexual frustration ruin my life.

It is not without it's caveats

It can make you cynical, it is financially taxing, it can be dangerous if you get careless and it can become addicting, you'll find yourself chasing a feeling that you'll never really get again.

 

[bamjay]

It was kind of an evolution over time with me.

Initially I got into it because of heartbreak. I wanted to clear my head, change thought patterns, that sort of thing. Made a decision for myself to stay away from dating for the foreseeable future. It's interesting to see that I am not alone in this.

Then I kind of got addicted to the fun of it all, easy access to great sex, exploring certain things that might otherwise be more difficult to experience, the thrill of potentially discovering a hidden gem (or the opposite ) somewhere and sharing info about that here.

Eventually I started to realize that a lot of SPs in both massage parlors and escort agencies can be fairly liberal with interpreting rules against giving their phone numbers to customers.. especially when those customers are very attractive, maybe low-key show them some posts from their Instagram and what kind of lifestyle they have, and are having amazing sex with them. (Don't ask! Not getting anyone into trouble) This resulted in some new friendships and such. Also introduced some of my existing friends and business partners to Montreal, the local nightlife and the hobby along the way and over the last 2 years or so.

Then COVID happened.

Right now I don't really have anything better to do.

 

[Joe.t]

Hello Gentlemen,

I've been a member for MERB since Oct 2019 - I was curious to see what's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

For my story:
My ex-gf broke my heart on April 2018, we have been together for three years and three months. I've struggle to find another girlfriend for months, after several months without sexual intercourse - I've finally took the plunge to find a stripper to get a full service. After that experience, I learn to use Leolist, Discrete Connection and TERB.CC/MERB.CC/PERB.CC to find SPs.

Because we(meaning all of us) couldn't score with these "Hot Girls" in the real world without paying for it and we(especially I) don't like the alternative, a few years ago I attended the Montreal Harley Davidson Show with an SP who came with me as my date and was dressed to kill, as soon we entered the building I noticed how guys were ogling her, I can just imagine what they were saying to themselves when they saw us "What the hell is she doing with that loser schmuck!! , man did it ever feel good when I started to notice all the stares that she was getting.

BTW- Montreal Harley Davidson show, great place to be seen with hot biker chicks.

https://www.showharley.com/info-show
https://www.showharley.com/

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I like the way it feels when my dick is in her vagina, mouth, hand and/or anus. Same with my fingers or tongue, though not quite as much.

I eat food that tastes good to me for similar reasons.

Y’all take it a bit more seriously than I do.

I just love your answer and yes, have to agree here, some take it way too seriously !

 

[The Nature Boy]

Curiosity is what brought me to you fuckers. They say curiosity killed the cat(pussy). Not this time, curiosity improved his DATY game, maybe a little....maybe not???

I love women. I really, really love women. Especially beautiful women. Even more, women who are beautiful inside and out.

I don’t agree with the “ur paying for it one way or another” bullshit, but I digress.....

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Personnaly I always had a strong and obsessive libido, in my real life I've had several girlfriends, lovers , mistresses, etc. I mean like, probably hundreds. As a confident, handsome and tall young man, I never had any problems picking up women.

Then one day I woke up and all of a sudden I found myself in my late forties and no more real motivation to get out there and play the big seduction game. Takes too much time and energy. But my dick thought otherwise so he booked a masseuse for its own need. Thats when it all started.

 

[GaryH]

So you say there is a board called MERB for Montreal? I'll have to look into it.

 

[Fradi]

Pretty much it is what suits me now.
I lived the story book romance and life with the woman of my dreams for a lifetime and will always have the family and the memories.
I know for a fact that you don’t always pay for it and there are gorgeous women who can be an equal partner and enjoy sex as much as you do, you just need to find the right one.

The problem is when you get older and you still want to be with gorgeous young women then you don’t have a choice but to pay for it.
I am like TNB, I adore women they have always been good to me and still are.
I have no complaints I have been seeing a couple of SP that are totally gorgeous and kind who are worth every penny.

 

[TheJames101]

When people are younger, time and familiarity are bigger components of that basket. It is wonderful and heartwarming. Plus time and “having things in common that both enjoy” is easier to come by when younger.

Most of what you wrote implies that the man will be responsible for the woman - and thus the idea of "paying" for sex is somehow part of the deal. That is certainly the case sometimes. However, definitely not always. Though if you want, we pay for everything... one way or another. You can just as easily say we pay for love, if we apply a similar theory to yours.