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My wife and I have been fantasizing on having a threesome for some time now. I'm sure fantasizing and reality can be quite different. We always said if ever we would have a threesome, it would be with a professional. She is leaning towards having a guy, I of-course am leaning more towards having a lady, but at the end, I would be excited for both scenarios. I'm sure we would both be quite nervous about it when and if the first time happens. We have been to a couple of swingers club before, but only watched and be watched.
What would be your suggestions on how to go about it for the first time?
Tried to look back, but couldn't see if anyone asked already.
My wife and I have been fantasizing on having a threesome for some time now. I'm sure fantasizing and reality can be quite different. We always said if ever we would have a threesome, it would be with a professional. She is leaning towards having a guy, I of-course am leaning more towards having a lady, but at the end, I would be excited for both scenarios. I'm sure we would both be quite nervous about it when and if the first time happens. We have been to a couple of swingers club before, but only watched and be watched.
What would be your suggestions on how to go about it for the first time?
I would screen the escort, ask them how they handle couples... I have seen couples who complained that in the past having a woman she payed so much attention to the man that the wife was feeling left out... or I guess the same for the guy but I don't hear about that scenario..
Just be sure the lady you do invite to join is as excited to play with your wife as she is to play with you.. otherwise a 3some can quickly go from fantasy to nightmare... You want to come out of the expierience a stronger couple, both enjoying, not a weakened one feeling insecure from the expierience...
My personal philosophy is the more she enjoys the expierience the more likely it will be a reapeated occurrence. Both partners comfort levels should always be the goal... The invited girl is there to enhance your love, not get in the middle of it.
What would be your suggestions on how to go about it for the first time?
Find someone who offers couple sessions. Don’t be shy, tell the escort it’s your first time so that they can guide you and make it less stressful for you.
Maybe you could do a foursome, just throwing that idea. Everyone would be happy.
Personally I recommend incall so that it’s on a “neutral” territory. You won’t get weirded out after.
Thank you for your amazing suggestions. Yes, I actually would prefer to give most of the attention to my wife. Seeing her enjoying the moment would be the biggest turnon in itself.
Thanks for your suggestion. Was also thinking the best time to try is when we are out of town. Someowhat like your suggestion, and feel like "neutral" territory.
Lucius and I offer duos at a fair rate and we are also real life partners
But as my colleagues said, try to look for a companion that offer their services to couples and who clearly talk about it on their website. Hiring someone is usually less dramas and less stressful than doing it ''in the wild'' as you do not have the pressure of performance you could have with another couple or a third person.Has doing this job made you jaded toward men, relationships or faithfulness in a couple?
What, if not that, had it changed in you?
What, if not that, had it changed in you?
There's no such thing as a bad tip! Any amount is appreciated if it's your preferred way of saying thank you and showing gratitude. Even 10$ is fun since I'll think of you the next time I buy my latte with your 10 dollar bill.
I can only speak for myself, but unless you are a regular client, I find pre-tipping weird, or simply a way to manipulate me into giving a better service. I am always wary when this happens with a new client.
Tipping post service shows genuine gratitude for what happened between us and an authentic desire to tell me you loved your session since you are under no obligation to tip me. For these reasons, it feels more personal and is cherished.
I as said before, any physical gifts that I never talked about or are not on my wishlist are usually not wanted and, therefore, not as appreciated. Cash is always useful. Sending your monetary gift through my Wishtender is also quite fun since I have savings accounts dedicated specifically to my school fund and my wellness retreat. When you send it under one of those items, I can instantaneously redirect this money into said accounts and really (as opposed to virtually) see how close I am to achieving my financial goal!
A fun gift to be shipped is a bouquet de fleurs from "socialflowers". Other than that, offering your gift in person is much more enjoyable in my eyes.
in percent terms (tip/total session rate), at what point does a tip go from bad to okay, from okay to good, and from good to generous?
Like my dear friend Giselle said, there’s no bad tip. The fact that you gave me more than what I asked is already generous in my opinion.
are there other non-pecuniary factors that drive or shape this assessment, such as the client's wealth/class or your level of personal enjoyment from the session?
I have some wealthy clients that have tipped me 100% so they basically gave me double my rate and then some. Other clients might give me $10-50 extra
any thoughts on the effect or advantages/disadvantages of pre-tipping vs post-tipping (meaning clients who only pre-tip vs clients who only post-tip, not clients who do both, who I assume, all else being equal, are preferred)?
It’s just like everything else, I recommend you tip at the end because what if the service sucked and you already tipped?
I give the same service to everyone but I would lie if I said extra bills in the enveloppe don’t give me an extra motivation. The last person who sent me a gift before we met got quite the thank you in person
rank in order of preference (assume all are of the same monetary value, even if they vary in fungibility):
- gift card
- physical object delivered in-person
- physical object shipped
- cash
- wishtender purchase (almost the same as cash)
Cash
e-gift cards
Wishtender
Physical objects delivered in person are super cute not always practical if you’re touring
Physical objects shipped it really depends on the object and the country of origin. Also where is it shipped?
I haven't seen it that way, but I must agree!
The situation I talked about above is when a client, who never showed any more interest in me than others, put more money in the envelope at the beginning of the meeting.
But in the situation you mention Lena, indeed, it creates a build-up, a connection and shows that his interest in meeting me, personally, is real. I had clients whom I never met (yet) but sent me extra on the deposit as a gift, or gifts from my Wishtender, accompanying these with personal emails where they thanked me for accepting them as new clients or for the time I took to answer their questions, or simply because I said something on Twitter that touched them and they want to help. They tell me the reason behind their gift and feels less like a manipulation tactic for the "extras" they hope to get.
I don’t think most men, I certainly don’t expect anything extra because I tip someone either before or after it is just a way of being kind and trying to show that you are either happy to see them again if it is a repeat visit or that you appreciate that they agreed to see you for your first meeting.
Personally I guess I always remember my father who said that you always open the door with your elbow when you visit a lady you want to impress because your hand will be full, you should never visit a lady empty handed be it chocolates or wine or pastries, flowers or jewelry depending on the bond you have.
This advice has always served me well.
Personally I guess I always remember my father who said that you always open the door with your elbow when you visit a lady you want to impress because your hand will be full, you should never visit a lady empty handed be it chocolates or wine or pastries, flowers or jewelry depending on the bond you have.
This advice has always served me well.
Every tip is appreciated... only time it is bad, is when someone trys to undercut the price.
I don't see a difference between pre-tip vs post-tip... I appreciate either. And have been taken by surprised with post-tip added extra...
I don't have ways for electronic gifts. I don't even know how to set it up. only chance they have for tipping is in person. As for gifts, I have only really had tangible gifts from 1 client who every time i see him, even though it isn't expensive, it is touching and appreciated. A plastic flower, a tiny teddybear... ect.. just seeing how smitten he is, is such a pleasure to see him when he can afford to see me.
Because our bodies are all different and depending on the time on our menstrual cycle we might have more or less natural lubrification.
Why is it some girls can have sex without lube and some apply it even before you contact each other?
Everyone manages their vagina how they feel. Some feel like they might need more lube for comfort, some don’t. I always leave it out but I don’t always use it.
Also, me using lube doesn’t mean I’m not aroused or that I think you’re ugly. I once dated a man and needed to use lube EVERY single time. It was for comfort, his size was an issue.
Same answer as the other girls. Hormone levels threwout the month, size, age, the fact that condoms themselves can dry a girl out and make it uncomfortable. Oh and lack of foreplay or pleasure for her, your paying for your pleasure, but if your not trying to turn her on, then she's not magically just going to be there. there's also the precautionary of preventing a condom breaking.
A girls natural condition can sometimes not be enough for the amout of steady straight going at it some guys can do. Contrary to what guys might think, many girls get wet from forplay before generally, not the straight steady f***ing that can dry her out. Unless she is having orgasms along the way it isn't getting wetter.
Apply before you contact each other?
Personally the best application for lube for a girl is to use him as the applicator
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Not exactly... maybe your first time might be if you can get past her screening. If you really like her and aren't a gentleman, it might be the last time you get to see her too. Treat her like a gentleman would, you might be on her vip list without needing to tip her excessively. She may purposly bump your appointment to make room for him because she knows he will make her day brighter for sure, while ^^that attitude might worsen her day.
This is where you are totally wrong you always need to impress a woman be it with a gift, with kindness or with humour or all.
A lady that you are able to impress you will never have to write a negative review about.
Yes it is a sure thing but is that all you are looking for or an experience that you will remember.
I think some sp's do get naturally turned on from encounters which is why it's not needed. Anatomy is another factor as aforementioned. Nonetheless, it's for the best because there nothing for painful than trying to insert without lube for both parties.
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