Don’t send messages wait till you get messages show your worth! Stop chasing!Indeed. What I meant with statistics is that you need large numbers. 2 dates out of 20 messages is great but 10 dates out of 200 messages is even better
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I honestly don’t even chat for days on end anymore. I set up a meet. We see if we connect and take it from there. Phones are annoying. It’s better to cut the crap in its tracks before investing countless of hours into a virtual exchange.
I get what you are saying now, but love addiction has its downside too, I tend to overlook the negatives and give magical qualities that dont exist in that person
What happens when the love is not reciprocated? Nasty withdraws
Absolutely.
My breakups rendered me inept when I went through them years ago. My parents had to come to my rescue lol. No eating, no showering, extreme depression, oversleeping / waking up crying.
The physical pain & heart ache was the same as mourning a lost family member… yeah I’m intense. lol.
Hindsight is 20/20 though - doesn’t mean those relationships were good - which forms the learning experience of all this.
This is why I mention being healthily obsessed with one another. Love languages & communication styles come at play. Learning together, exploring, taking the time.
All this to say - I picked wrong. And that’s okay. I learned that I had expectations, put people on pedestals, invested wayyyyy too much and ended up being blinded by my love for them. I justified all their actions. Pretty pathetic.
In conclusion: The right person won’t allow these behaviours and won’t be afraid to healthily guide you and assure you within your relationship. Trust is another big one.
Ah! This game of love
For myself obsession is not healthy
Being obsessive towards anyone can lead to feelings of heart break I have felt in the past
Healthy Intrigue and Admiration for my ideal partners is the emotions I prefer to feel
If I get too much into love obsessive then I try to attached myself to other love interests that doesn t not lead to intimacy
You can say I might have an attachment avoidance style but withdraws are painful and I rather live within my realm of ups and downs that I can tolerate
Being obsessive towards anyone can lead to feelings of heart break I have felt in the past
Healthy Intrigue and Admiration for my ideal partners is the emotions I prefer to feel
If I get too much into love obsessive then I try to attached myself to other love interests that doesn t not lead to intimacy
You can say I might have an attachment avoidance style but withdraws are painful and I rather live within my realm of ups and downs that I can tolerate
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Very well said. I agree with you on many points you make here.
Yes!! Your attachment style. That’s another one that people can have issues with between themselves.
I’m literally ALL IN hahaha.. I guess the secure attachment type.
I just can’t avoid stuff - I can’t avoid my partner and make them feel unwanted or visa versa. Emotional connection is what makes me feel close and locked in. For me intimacy is emotional connection. Not sex.
I dont think all -in is that healthy
Do you have family/ friends/pets that you can care for or give you affection and love so you can balance the love addiction?
I don’t think there is an SP ever born that can compare to being with a partner that you are in love with and share your life with.
You cannot buy that with money.
All-in as in: I’m not avoidant. I am passionate in everything I do and it reflects in my relationship.
For me, admiration is going to an art gallery and admiring a painting from afar. Not touching it and forgetting about it when I get home.
I passionately love hard in a relationship. I can look at my partner with love as he’s doing the dishes or working on a car in the garage and tell him he’s hot, slap his butt then start sucking his cock LMFAO.
I also learned from previous mistakes. I learned to love myself a lot and became rather antisocial surprisingly. But yeah. It’s unexplainable. I think it’s an Italian thing? Idk.
Talking about kinky stuff not love! Sorry, but I have a very kinky side and it does not work with a regular partner! I’ve tried both and I feel truly myself and free with an sp! Go with how you feel!
With societal pressure to marry having greatly diminished, more women have made the choice to stay single, and many are faring just ok in life, as they rely on friends for activities and emotional support. It is also because these pressures have abated that we now have a larger pool of single men, especially "low quality" men, that would in the past have been paired up with women desperate for a boyfriend to avoid the stigma of being single. Single men, as opposed to women, tend to fare pretty badly in life. Many have no friends (including me... and I'm not low quality). When their friends marry and start a family, they lose touch with them. I am particularly lucky to have a job that I am passionnate about and also to have great colleagues at work. The fact of not having a girlfriend, whether by choice of because of serial rejection, is a significant contributor to poor mental health in men.
As I wrote elsewhere, for me, seeing escorts on a regular basis was a catalyst of poor mental health. I actually became attached to an escort, which turned out to be a source of considerable anxiety and worry. Attachment styles were mentioned above... mine is anxious.
One thing you will notice is that virtually everyone who reports relationship struggles has divorced parents. Food for thought.
This my definition too. This is the best feeling ever. Just looking at someone and smile without even noticing or thinking about it.
Annoyances that become quirk, that's the way to do it. In a healthy relation, there is space to make fun (in a good way) of your partner ans space for your partner to make fun of you. It's called absolute confidence in each other!
It's the best.
On point. Sex just for the sake of it is fun and all. But when you connect with someone on a certain level, everything is better. I work the same way. Passion, empathy, respect, communication
I used to chat for days with those dating apps. A connection can be formed but so are irrealistic expectations. Most of the time, the hype is so high that it can't be matched and it doesn't work!
Best encounters are the ones that happened fast. That tells a lot.
Let's meet and let's see if there is a connection. If yes, awesome. If not, still let's have fun talking over a couple of drinks.
I got a very classy SP (Nathalie Summer) who once done it to me while I was making my way to the shower.
I was very surprised and at same time I found it funny. I guess it was her way to say I have a nice butt. Ha!Ha!
Ok for me if you pay the vet, nourish them, clean litter and floor.
Also sleep with door close (no cat). There’s always a bandit to torture me by awaking me in the middle of the night.
Luckily, I got 2 generations of these bandits…
When I awake in the morning and the bandit is outside, he can hear my breathing change and immediately start requesting for fresh food.
This little bastard is always on my knees while I’m working or watching tv.
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Farting * Lolol
agreed! I don’t rely on others but I know exactly what you’re saying here! Hahaha
but I don’t take them for granted and DUMP my emotions onto them 24/8. I have no emotions muhahahaha As for the activities, I can pretty much do wtv I want without pressuring my loved ones to bend over backwards for me. Again, I really enjoy my solitude even in a relationship. If ever I settle down with someone I want my own bedroom. I can’t stand sleeping next to someone! I want my own privacy and my me-time!!! I think it’s beneficial for every couple to have their private little garden and spend time away from the couple.
My grandmother and grandfather had their own bedrooms. They were head over heels for each other - sometimes our family would tell them to get a room because they just were so passionate at family events HAHAHA
There’s many low quality women, too. Lots can’t do the work on themselves and often blame men for everything. They then generalize all their future experiences based off their bad memories from the past. Especially overuse the word “trauma” and confound it as a bad memory. They are very distinct from one another. Not to mention how many women like to use new age psychological mumbo jumbo crap to justify their feelings… like girl… you’re describing everyone else as a narcissist and was “gaslit” by him… but yet you’re gaslighting everyone else to feel pity for you. They discredit actual traumas that some went through with their victimhood perception. Mental illness is on the rise. For both men and women. But women tend to over complicate things a lot hahah.
Many hold themselves in a high regard and think they have zero flaws. When it’s this exact attitude that persists toxic exchanges & experiences for both, men & women in the dating pool. People need to not be afraid of being alone before bouncing from one relationship to another.
You can’t show up for others if you don’t show up for yourself first!
I’m with you men on this topic - men’s mental health awareness is almost nonexistent
they use Movember to parade it for a cause, when women have a plethora of causes every other day to virtue signal and have movements to “fight the patriarchy”. It’s fkn sad. And it’s a way to throw y'all under the bus… then they cry that men are scum / don’t need a man LMAO. Like honey, you’re the problem - start doing the work on yourself!
The best thing is to be aware of what’s happening - you did good to back away. Feelings are not controllable - so don’t feel bad / add pressure onto yourself.
I mean. Have you seen your butt?
It’s glorious!
(She texted me a pic of you entering the shower ^)
Your leaks have surfaced!
I FUCKING adore these furry alarm clock aliens ♥️Ok for me if you pay the vet, nourish them, clean litter and floor.
Also sleep with door close (no cat). There’s always a bandit to torture me by awaking me in the middle of the night.
Luckily, I got 2 generations of these bandits…
When I awake in the morning and the bandit is outside, he can hear my breathing change and immediately start requesting for fresh food.
This little bastard is always on my knees while I’m working or watching tv.
This is not the political section. please stay on topic.
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