Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?

(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)

It depends of the context.. but generally I think it's a red flag specially if he names people. Sometimes I can also tell that what I'm being told isn't exactly the truth too. It's happened that a client wanted insight on a past situation involving a provider he didn't name but generally it feels like some clients do this to spread gossip or pit us against each other. I've had really bad experiences involving clients doing this...

 

[Fradi]

It’s gauche. Don’t do it, it’s on the “gossiping” territory

Edit: you can talk about the experience without naming the other person but name dropping in a session is a red flag for most of us

That is actually really funny because escorts gossip about each other way more than any client does about them.
It takes about 5 minutes of reading on X lol.
The competitiveness and the pettiness is sometimes unbelievable.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

That is actually really funny because escorts gossip about each other way more than any client does about them.
It takes about 5 minutes of reading on X lol.
The competitiveness and the pettiness is sometimes unbelievable.

yes it's true, some escorts do gossip about each other, that's why you shouldn't be fueling it. that's the whole point. don't encourage it. when clients talk to me about other escorts i usually change the subject or tell them i don't want to hear it. you shouldn't be helping someone try to take somebody else down. also a lot of this "gossip" that is spread by clients or providers is often false or information that has been distorted or blown out of proportion. one example is someone confusing a very similar sounding name with someone else's. the competitiveness that escorts entertain with each other is directly linked to client demands and the industry itself, not because "women are just petty"

 

[CenterofNH]

If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?

(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)Wouldn't

If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?

(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)

Would't it be a violation of trust? I expect a provider to protect my privacy; should she expect the same?

 

[Fradi]

yes it's true, some escorts do gossip about each other, that's why you shouldn't be fueling it. that's the whole point. don't encourage it. when clients talk to me about other escorts i usually change the subject or tell them i don't want to hear it. you shouldn't be helping someone try to take somebody else down. also a lot of this "gossip" that is spread by clients or providers is often false or information that has been distorted or blown out of proportion. one example is someone confusing a very similar sounding name with someone else's. the competitiveness that escorts entertain with each other is directly linked to client demands and the industry itself, not because "women are just petty"

It is like everything else not applicable to everyone.
The ladies I see are not jealous of other providers and you can easily approach them to even recommend their friends or colleagues, this is actually really nice to see.
I will disagree with you however, there are many women that are petty, catty and love to gossip this is not restricted to escorts and there are men who fall into that category as well.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is like everything else not applicable to everyone.
The ladies I see are not jealous of other providers and you can easily approach them to even recommend their friends or colleagues, this is actually really nice to see.
I will disagree with you however, there are many women that are petty, catty and love to gossip this is not restricted to escorts and there are men who fall into that category as well.

I never said that there are no women who are petty and catty and love to gossip, a lot of women and men do. I just said that this isn't always the case. Your comment was "lol it's so funny that you guys think clients shouldn't gossip because sex workers gossip all the time".. it's irrelevant. I don't think escorts should be gossiping and talking shit just for the hell of it, either. The question was about clients talking about their experiences with other providers, we all answered the question

Its honestly in human nature to talk about other people from time to time, but where I personally draw the line is how a certain type of information could be harming somebody else who did nothing wrong..

 

[Pamela Lee69]

My answers to some of the questions,

I would appreciate clients not talking about other SP to me. None of my business. I hope that the discretion I provide others would also be reciprocated.

I can usually read someone coming in the door. My first impressions are about how they carry themselves. Do they smell, how is their grooming. Tells me a lot about a client. All my outcalls have been to nice hotels, so they are on point for presentation.

I too would not see someone that reminds me of my father. Would be weird.

When I ask for a name, it would be beneficial if the name provided is real, since I do ask for ID of some sort. Saying your name is Mark and then showing an ID of David (for example) does not bode well for trust.

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

 

[Vardhan945]

My answers to some of the questions,

I would appreciate clients not talking about other SP to me. None of my business. I hope that the discretion I provide others would also be reciprocated.

I can usually read someone coming in the door. My first impressions are about how they carry themselves. Do they smell, how is their grooming. Tells me a lot about a client. All my outcalls have been to nice hotels, so they are on point for presentation.

I too would not see someone that reminds me of my father. Would be weird.

When I ask for a name, it would be beneficial if the name provided is real, since I do ask for ID of some sort. Saying your name is Mark and then showing an ID of David (for example) does not bode well for trust.

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

Pics and reviews. what they say and their choice of words has never been a deciding factor
Edit: what they say in their ad**

 

[kstanb]

To Pamela Lee69:
I guess every guy is different, but the most obvious driver is looks, followed by "can I pay the rates", these 2 are mandatory "check boxes"

But after that, having a good website that hints on what you offer and that shows you are serious (and not a scammer) is good. social media presence can also be a big differentiator, because it opens a window to how you are, how you think, how you act, sense of humor, just to mention a few points, this is especially important if you are looking for longer dates

Reviews are less and less important now that there is social media (some older dudes might disagree)

"menus" can work (or not) depending on what you offer, I personally prefer hints on what can be expected, here social media can help too, because you can post pictures or write about some scenarios; this works well for kinky companions

 

[LC18]

"can I pay the rates"

This one is underrated in my opinion. Way too many men reach out to us knowing they can’t pay and try to haggle rates like they’re trying to buy fruits in a public market. So thank you for that

 

[LeDodo]

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

I would ask you the question: what clientele do you want to attract?

The range of client profile is wide and to each their own.

The deciding factors you mentioned are all taken into account at some point of time. It's just their importance and ponderation that change.

 

[Pamela Lee69]

I would ask you the question: what clientele do you want to attract?

The range of client profile is wide and to each their own.

The deciding factors you mentioned are all taken into account at some point of time. It's just their importance and ponderation that change.

Good Morning, that is a pretty hard question actually when I think about it. I am fairly new to this whole new aspect of my life. I do enjoy longer dates. I like men/ women/ couples for that matter that enjoy experiencing life. Exploring things. Trying a new restaurant, social event and fun intimacy,. I absolutely love a man (couple/ woman) who is confident in himself, willing to take a chance and is humble enough that we can have some fun witty banter. I like a client that responds well to my ad in the first contact message. I love the sex, but I also like getting to know my clients a little.

Most of my dates have included some aspect of social outing if only meeting for a glass of wine before we go off together discreetly. These are the type of clients I enjoy so far.

However, I'm still working out my profiles, photos and social media, tweaking it to find my niche. My experiences so far have been amazing. Thank you gentlemen.

 

[LeDodo]

Good Morning, that is a pretty hard question actually when I think about it. I am fairly new to this whole new aspect of my life. I do enjoy longer dates. I like men/ women/ couples for that matter that enjoy experiencing life. Exploring things. Trying a new restaurant, social event and fun intimacy,. I absolutely love a man (couple/ woman) who is confident in himself, willing to take a chance and is humble enough that we can have some fun witty banter. I like a client that responds well to my ad in the first contact message. I love the sex, but I also like getting to know my clients a little.

Most of my dates have included some aspect of social outing if only meeting for a glass of wine before we go off together discreetly. These are the type of clients I enjoy so far.

However, I'm still working out my profiles, photos and social media, tweaking it to find my niche. My experiences so far have been amazing. Thank you gentlemen.

From your early thoughts on it, you may think about:
- a pricing grid adapted for longer dates, for example the hourly rate is lower for such category, or your hourly rate is attractive for just a social date
- you might share either on your website, social media ideas or suggestions of activities or places you like or you'd like to try

In this regard you might want to put more emphasis and effort on website and social description/posts. As you'd like to have more emphasis on the social aspect with your clientele.

Photos are eventually important as the brain is one thing but let's not lie to ourselves a minimum (or specific in same cases) physical attraction is necessary as well.

Good luck !

 

[rgoaltar]

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

Hmmm, for sure Ill look at the pictures/physical first and rates first (sadly many wonderful SPs are just out of a price range I could justify to myself)...For me as a height challeneged man, I like to see how tall a girl is etc too.
But yes, i want to feel the general vibe of the person in what they wrote, obvously theres quite a lot of filtering 'sales speach' in SPs ads that you have to do..but still important. Generally Im tryign to see if what they wrote seems to match the pictures or gives me the feelign that we would click in person.
Then id check to see if there was any reviews

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Good Morning, that is a pretty hard question actually when I think about it. I am fairly new to this whole new aspect of my life. I do enjoy longer dates. I like men/ women/ couples for that matter that enjoy experiencing life. Exploring things. Trying a new restaurant, social event and fun intimacy,. I absolutely love a man (couple/ woman) who is confident in himself, willing to take a chance and is humble enough that we can have some fun witty banter. I like a client that responds well to my ad in the first contact message. I love the sex, but I also like getting to know my clients a little.

Most of my dates have included some aspect of social outing if only meeting for a glass of wine before we go off together discreetly. These are the type of clients I enjoy so far.

However, I'm still working out my profiles, photos and social media, tweaking it to find my niche. My experiences so far have been amazing. Thank you gentlemen.

I relate to everything you're saying! I'm looking for clients who are sensitive, smart, empathetic and curious. Intelligence and kindness are sexy to me. I also enjoy getting to know a gentleman around a glass of wine and a few snacks. Even if I'm open to simple hour long bookings, I find it very rewarding to develop an intellectual connection with someone.

 

[Pamela Lee69]

I relate to everything you're saying! I'm looking for clients who are sensitive, smart, empathetic and curious. Intelligence and kindness are sexy to me. I also enjoy getting to know a gentleman around a glass of wine and a few snacks. Even if I'm open to simple hour long bookings, I find it very rewarding to develop an intellectual connection with someone.

Very well said. I too like the connection. At home in Toronto once I have met a gentleman, I am open to the hour long incalls. When I tour, I am more open to the hour long experience.

 

[Franky Mage]

What could be the first few things you make mental notice of the moment a client walks in your door.

His stance and hand shake. For me that's a good indicator on how we'll handle eachother.

 

[Franky Mage]

When clients ask more and more questions and ask « why, why, why » about my dislikes and boundaries.

Agreed. When having boundaries and someone keeps asking me why hoping I'll get annoyed enough to change my mind is a no go.