Ask us anything part 3

[kstanb]

To Pamela Lee69:
I guess every guy is different, but the most obvious driver is looks, followed by "can I pay the rates", these 2 are mandatory "check boxes"

But after that, having a good website that hints on what you offer and that shows you are serious (and not a scammer) is good. social media presence can also be a big differentiator, because it opens a window to how you are, how you think, how you act, sense of humor, just to mention a few points, this is especially important if you are looking for longer dates

Reviews are less and less important now that there is social media (some older dudes might disagree)

"menus" can work (or not) depending on what you offer, I personally prefer hints on what can be expected, here social media can help too, because you can post pictures or write about some scenarios; this works well for kinky companions

 

[LC18]

"can I pay the rates"

This one is underrated in my opinion. Way too many men reach out to us knowing they can’t pay and try to haggle rates like they’re trying to buy fruits in a public market. So thank you for that

 

[LeDodo]

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

I would ask you the question: what clientele do you want to attract?

The range of client profile is wide and to each their own.

The deciding factors you mentioned are all taken into account at some point of time. It's just their importance and ponderation that change.

 

[Pamela Lee69]

I would ask you the question: what clientele do you want to attract?

The range of client profile is wide and to each their own.

The deciding factors you mentioned are all taken into account at some point of time. It's just their importance and ponderation that change.

Good Morning, that is a pretty hard question actually when I think about it. I am fairly new to this whole new aspect of my life. I do enjoy longer dates. I like men/ women/ couples for that matter that enjoy experiencing life. Exploring things. Trying a new restaurant, social event and fun intimacy,. I absolutely love a man (couple/ woman) who is confident in himself, willing to take a chance and is humble enough that we can have some fun witty banter. I like a client that responds well to my ad in the first contact message. I love the sex, but I also like getting to know my clients a little.

Most of my dates have included some aspect of social outing if only meeting for a glass of wine before we go off together discreetly. These are the type of clients I enjoy so far.

However, I'm still working out my profiles, photos and social media, tweaking it to find my niche. My experiences so far have been amazing. Thank you gentlemen.

 

[LeDodo]

Good Morning, that is a pretty hard question actually when I think about it. I am fairly new to this whole new aspect of my life. I do enjoy longer dates. I like men/ women/ couples for that matter that enjoy experiencing life. Exploring things. Trying a new restaurant, social event and fun intimacy,. I absolutely love a man (couple/ woman) who is confident in himself, willing to take a chance and is humble enough that we can have some fun witty banter. I like a client that responds well to my ad in the first contact message. I love the sex, but I also like getting to know my clients a little.

Most of my dates have included some aspect of social outing if only meeting for a glass of wine before we go off together discreetly. These are the type of clients I enjoy so far.

However, I'm still working out my profiles, photos and social media, tweaking it to find my niche. My experiences so far have been amazing. Thank you gentlemen.

From your early thoughts on it, you may think about:
- a pricing grid adapted for longer dates, for example the hourly rate is lower for such category, or your hourly rate is attractive for just a social date
- you might share either on your website, social media ideas or suggestions of activities or places you like or you'd like to try

In this regard you might want to put more emphasis and effort on website and social description/posts. As you'd like to have more emphasis on the social aspect with your clientele.

Photos are eventually important as the brain is one thing but let's not lie to ourselves a minimum (or specific in same cases) physical attraction is necessary as well.

Good luck !

 

[rgoaltar]

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

Hmmm, for sure Ill look at the pictures/physical first and rates first (sadly many wonderful SPs are just out of a price range I could justify to myself)...For me as a height challeneged man, I like to see how tall a girl is etc too.
But yes, i want to feel the general vibe of the person in what they wrote, obvously theres quite a lot of filtering 'sales speach' in SPs ads that you have to do..but still important. Generally Im tryign to see if what they wrote seems to match the pictures or gives me the feelign that we would click in person.
Then id check to see if there was any reviews

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Good Morning, that is a pretty hard question actually when I think about it. I am fairly new to this whole new aspect of my life. I do enjoy longer dates. I like men/ women/ couples for that matter that enjoy experiencing life. Exploring things. Trying a new restaurant, social event and fun intimacy,. I absolutely love a man (couple/ woman) who is confident in himself, willing to take a chance and is humble enough that we can have some fun witty banter. I like a client that responds well to my ad in the first contact message. I love the sex, but I also like getting to know my clients a little.

Most of my dates have included some aspect of social outing if only meeting for a glass of wine before we go off together discreetly. These are the type of clients I enjoy so far.

However, I'm still working out my profiles, photos and social media, tweaking it to find my niche. My experiences so far have been amazing. Thank you gentlemen.

I relate to everything you're saying! I'm looking for clients who are sensitive, smart, empathetic and curious. Intelligence and kindness are sexy to me. I also enjoy getting to know a gentleman around a glass of wine and a few snacks. Even if I'm open to simple hour long bookings, I find it very rewarding to develop an intellectual connection with someone.

 

[Pamela Lee69]

I relate to everything you're saying! I'm looking for clients who are sensitive, smart, empathetic and curious. Intelligence and kindness are sexy to me. I also enjoy getting to know a gentleman around a glass of wine and a few snacks. Even if I'm open to simple hour long bookings, I find it very rewarding to develop an intellectual connection with someone.

Very well said. I too like the connection. At home in Toronto once I have met a gentleman, I am open to the hour long incalls. When I tour, I am more open to the hour long experience.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

His stance and hand shake. For me that's a good indicator on how we'll handle eachother.

I don’t shake hands, I kiss!

 

[Julia Sky]

Another reason I've fired someone before :

A guy who has ED but insists on you working extremely hard to try and make him cum knowing it's never gonna happen. I don't mind ED as I personally think sex is more than just penetration and it's about the ride more than the destination. But I do not like when a man with ED has the expectation that you'll suck his dick like a maniac until he cums (which he never does) and then acts like you didn't deliver.

And if you know anything about me you know I have zero problem sucking dick like a maniac for an hour straight... in fact dick worshipping and edging a man are probably the things that get me the most wet at work lol. But the difference is I don't enjoy doing it for someone who shows disappointment instead of appreciation after the fact, lol

 

[Rebaynia]

Here's a question for clients. Aside from the obvious stuff like physical and verbal abuse, what would be a good reason for a provider not to want to see a client or for her to stop seeing him? What is a valid criticism you listened to, that made you change your behavior?

Question for providers : what are some problematic client behavior that aren't usually talked about or often not taken seriously? I have my own answers but I'm curious about yours

The reason why I'm asking is because sometimes I feel like clients are a bit clueless about how their own actions can be harmful, and it's good for them to be educated so they won't repeat the same mistakes

Since I started one of the issues I have had to fire clients for, were the ones who tried to push the client/relationship bounds. Like someone who wants daily attention, asking for personal information. When a client starts asking for the type of attention and conversations I have with my Master. I only have enough relationship social meter to entertain 1 person to a daily and intense degree. Otherwise I enjoy less intense temporary/momentary relationships with those I am in contact with.

 

[Vardhan945]

Why dont yall (canadian sps) tour to the US more?
You could charge way more and american clients would find the rates way better than local competition.

Win-win.

 

[LC18]

Why dont yall (canadian sps) tour to the US more?
You could charge way more and american clients would find the rates way better than local competition.

Win-win.

Read the room

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Why dont yall (canadian sps) tour to the US more?
You could charge way more and american clients would find the rates way better than local competition.

Win-win.

Right? Why don’t we? Being detained and questioned for hours by custom agents before being sent home with a 10-year ban is very « win win ».

 

[Vardhan945]

Read the room

I searched "usa" in this thread didnt see an explanation like Giselle just provided.
So its not really in the room, metaphorically speaking

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I went many times, but even if it was « smoother » back then, it was still very stressful. Now with the political situation, I won’t even try or even take a flight with a stop in the US.

We talked about it often on this board, but it’s probably mixed with other topics.

 

[Vardhan945]

I went many times, but even if it was « smoother » back then, it was still very stressful. Now with the political situation, I won’t even try or even take a flight with a stop in the US.

Fair im not trying to convince anyone to do anything they dont feel comfortable doing...but the political situation is overblown. Canadians come here millions of times a year.
My office has Canadians who fly back and forth regularly with 0 issues throughout 2025.

 

[rightime1]

its so hard to feel good about spending any non-essential time in the USA. for work yes, see family, ok, but other than that, seriously, FUCK OFF.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Fair im not trying to convince anyone to do anything they dont feel comfortable doing...but the political situation is overblown. Canadians come here millions of times a year.
My office has Canadians who fly back and forth regularly with 0 issues throughout 2025.

I think you forget we don’t work in offices? That we can’t work in the US especially not as a SP? My employer is not sending me to a conference in Las Vegas every three months darling.

 

[LC18]

I searched "usa" in this thread didnt see an explanation like Giselle just provided.
So its not really in the room, metaphorically speaking

Even without it being explicitly written here. You should know it’s illegal to do sex work in the US and you should know that the situation there right now is less than ideal