Thanks so much. (Your past experiences would have never occurred to me.) Your thoughts are super helpful!
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Good to know. I don’t have a lot of experience booking independently (noob here) and so far I was only thinking about my experience with in-person conversations.
(with the Montreal Unicorn Healers as well, the initial exchange of checklists was just setting the stage for the following in-person conversation.)
In any case, what you say really reinforces my trust and fondness for repeat visits. In any relationship, for me, kink typically happens later after several dates. And with return-/repeat-bookings everything vanilla gets so much more intimate as two people learn about each other’s bodies, hearts and minds
Tough one bc he's clearly all tuckered out but I guess standard nap time (15-20 min) seems like a reasonable time to then gently rouse him. If he wants to keep sleeping after that, it's a conscious choice to spend the rest of the session like that.
I would also say 15 minutes ish would be enough and then he can décide how the end of the date will go, still sleepimg or moré actively cuddling ;-)
I have 1 sweety who books for 2-3 hrs when he books. He finishes his enjoyment within about 15 minutes, but likes to cuddle while he sleeps the rest of the time away.
Often the appointment is after he's pulled an all nighter, he cums, and likes the feeling of being held while he sleeps until my alarm sounds. If he wakes up before the alarm sounds he has dismissed me early, but I enjoy the sleepy time cuddles, so long as the tv is on to keep me entertained. It's not fun being alone with my thoughts otherwise.
Wow that is really kind and thoughtful, even in the way it is written. Talk about GFE, this is GFE ++
This story made my day
I don't get to see him often. But I adore when I do. There's something precious about someone feeling so comfortable with you, that they fall asleep so soundly, and he's so cuddly, it's almost a shame if I wake him before the time runs out.
How long do most SPs - specifically highly sought after Indys - work for ?
Is it decades? or just when theyre young and super hot to set themselves up for retirement ?
Is it decades? or just when theyre young and super hot to set themselves up for retirement ?
This question feels like it could be better answered by an industry-wide polling / statistic situation (would be cool to have that). But my personal experience in Montreal has been meeting a lot of indys who have been in it for a long time in one form or another. Also youth may be hot to some clients, but just as many clients I'm sure are into older providers.
Personally, I plan on doing it for as long as I enjoy it or until some other reason stops me.
Honestly I know people who have been escorts for 10 years or even 15-20.. but a lot of them changed the way they work over time, or they work on and off. Some of them worked for agencies or parlors at first and they got tired of it. Some others just decided to raise their rates significantly to have a much lower volume of clients.
I also know a lot of people who were escorts for a short period of time and moved on to other types of sex work they liked better and found less upsetting (like stripping or bdsm or porn).. or they left the industry entirely because it was too hard for them.
That's why so many people take breaks or change their rate structure over time. This is my 4th year and I really don't see myself being a full time escort for 4 more. This lifestyle isn't sustainable for most people..
Interesting. is it the prospect of running into psycho and dangerous clients that make it unsustainable? or just the social stigma ?
It's a bunch of different factors. When you're a reputable SP you're a lot less likely to have "psycho and dangerous clients" because you're not as vulnerable. If someone has bad reviews and her rates are low she's going to attract the worst types.. or if she just entered the industry. There's also "psycho client" and then there's a lot more clients who aren't technically dangerous but are really unpleasant to deal with for a lot of reasons and these are the ones who are most likely to cause problems for your business and leave bad reviews or shit talk about you or just drain you. It's not a prospect.. it's a reality. If a SP tells you she hasn't had a bad experience with a client she is lying either to you or to herself.
Seeing a high volume of clients is exhausting psychologically and physically, also not the safest thing over time. Being hyper visible as an individual and being constantly scrutinized is tough. There is a high pressure to be perfect all the time. Also yes the social stigma is hard to deal with. This is a very isolating jobs and SP are constantly being pitted against each other and prevented from being friends so it's easy to feel really alone and like your friendships in the industry aren't real.. The drama between providers is really exhausting.. SP judge each other and talk behind each other's backs all the time. Jealousy can be really intense to deal with as well... There are differences between us that are hard to ignore and it can lead to frustration, envy and other negative feelings
There's also a certain lifestyle that a lot of SP conduct that can end up being unhealthy.. like substances for some.. I think for indies it can be really hard to have a break from working too. I know for myself it was very hard to build a good reputation and I have to invest in my brand and advertise and hustle and reevaluate my way of working constantly.
Overall I think being a SP is a legit job and you can be happy being an escort for many many years, but doing it full time at a medium to high volume without ever taking breaks is not sustainable. That's the nuance I want to make.
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Oh lord, this question again
Three possibilities:
• racism/stereotypes
• someone from a community that doesn’t want to run into someone they know
• discrimination because they can
Because they're racist, unless they don't want to accidentally see a client from the same community. There are countless threads about this and multiple people will give you other explanations that are vague and suspicious.
One I often hear is "I or this SP I like have noticed a pattern of behavior related to clients of a certain cultural background"
as a half indian half iranian guy...I can understand why. There are certain tendencies in our community that can make interactions with Westerners...awkward to say the least. It is what it is.
I find it sad that you would talk about your people this way….
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