Do bad reviews stop you from seeing a service provider, or are you still willing to give them a chance?

newguy39 said:

When she is very very hot, my second brain hard take control and I sometime decide to give it a shot to see by myself if service may be not that bad... hey man are man I guess

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I booked an extremely hot sp a long time ago back at xo when I was not aware of merb existence.

She did had a cold almost stand off ish attitude but I found her quite blunt and sarcastic it was refreshing and actually
Liked her quite a bit.

I much prefer an honest sp than someone who fakes it (talking about both during the act and her personality in general)

The last time I saw her, she had too much works done. She would be considered as an instagram hottie and many would love her looks but hot bimbo are not my preference and I don’t think I will ever see her again sadly

DetectiveBOOBS said:

I booked an extremely hot sp a long time ago back at xo when I was not aware of merb existence.

She did had a cold almost stand off ish attitude but I found her quite blunt and sarcastic it was refreshing and actually
Liked her quite a bit.

I much prefer an honest sp than someone who fakes it (talking about both during the act and her personality in general)

The last time I saw her, she had too much works done. She would be considered as an instagram hottie and many would love her looks but hot bimbo are not my preference and I don’t think I will ever see her again sadly

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I agree hot bimbo are a fantasm to try once or to enjoy for sex only... but not the one you repeat as regular most of the time a real good sexy gfe chemestry is better and my pref too

If bad reviews are from trusted member. I will avoid.

Anong said:

If bad reviews are from trusted member. I will avoid.

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How do you know that you can trust a member over another? I'm asking that question genuinely, because almost none of you have met in real life. I've met a good number of the men who post reviews on this forum personally. I am curious to hear how people can discern who is trustworthy or not.. That's something I've always wondered about, because you can basically say anything you want on here.

Personally I think after all the conversations that people have here about the power of reviews, I find it surprising that someone would avoid a provider for one single or a few bad reviews if most of them are good. I'm not saying all bad reviews are disingenuous but you never know the other side of the story..

I also think it's curious to think that men are less likely to leave a negative comment, because I don't think that's true on an anonymous forum at all, particularly for those who participate a lot. Aside maybe from the occasional session that didn't work out due to lack of chemistry, and the client understands that.. (cause not everyone does)

Lunaseraphim said:

How do you know that you can trust a member over another? I'm asking that question genuinely, because almost none of you have met in real life. I've met a good number of the men who post reviews on this forum personally. I am curious to hear how people can discern who is trustworthy or not.. That's something I've always wondered about, because you can basically say anything you want on here.

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You never really know, is the truth of it. There are a few ppl on here who speak level-headed enough and are consistent with their feedback on providers that I give them more credence than others, esp new accounts or guys that just come on here to talk shit and be negative.

Also, I'm not looking for anything off a checklist, only checking reviews to see if they're A) legit, and B) are generating mostly positive experiences, the rest I'll manage on my own. I know I can turn most encounters into good ones with a little patience and communication (and some good tongue and dick lmao j/k) so it's really just to see if there are any pitfalls I need to be aware of going in.

A review is just an opinion after all (even if it's a simple recounting of events it's skewed through a lens) and it works both ways. I've had people tell me that they didn't get the same level of service as I did and that they had high expectations after reading a good review of mine, like it's my fault they didn't have the same experience!? Reviews are tools you can use to make an educated guess, but it doesn't guarantee anything, esp if you don't think the person knows how to use that tool. That's why the only acronym I ever use in a review is YMMV.

Lunaseraphim said:

How do you know that you can trust a member over another? I'm asking that question genuinely, because almost none of you have met in real life. I've met a good number of the men who post reviews on this forum personally. I am curious to hear how people can discern who is trustworthy or not.. That's something I've always wondered about, because you can basically say anything you want on here.

Personally I think after all the conversations that people have here about the power of reviews, I find it surprising that someone would avoid a provider for one single or a few bad reviews if most of them are good. I'm not saying all bad reviews are disingenuous but you never know the other side of the story..

I also think it's curious to think that men are less likely to leave a negative comment, because I don't think that's true on an anonymous forum at all, particularly for those who participate a lot. Aside maybe from the occasional session that didn't work out due to lack of chemistry, and the client understands that.. (cause not everyone does)

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First I look at how long the account has been active. A brand new account I would take with a grain of salt. An account with a long posting history I will trust more, I will read his posting history to get a feel of the reviews and how they are written. I also see if the reviewer seeks the same thing I do. For example some guys do not care for DFK, for me it is the most important part of the session. So reviewers that never do DFK I skip, I look at ones that do. I look at a certain SP, if she has a pattern of bad reviews it means there is a reason for that. One or two can happen and it also depends what was the cause of the bad review. I took my chance with a SP that had two very bad reviews, I messaged these guys in private to understand better based on that I took my chance and it was good for me.

twenty4seven said:

You never really know, is the truth of it. There are a few ppl on here who speak level-headed enough and are consistent with their feedback on providers that I give them more credence than others, esp new accounts or guys that just come on here to talk shit and be negative.

Also, I'm not looking for anything off a checklist, only checking reviews to see if they're A) legit, and B) are generating mostly positive experiences, the rest I'll manage on my own. I know I can turn most encounters into good ones with a little patience and communication (and some good tongue and dick lmao j/k) so it's really just to see if there are any pitfalls I need to be aware of going in.

A review is just an opinion after all (even if it's a simple recounting of events it's skewed through a lens) and it works both ways. I've had people tell me that they didn't get the same level of service as I did and that they had high expectations after reading a good review of mine, like it's my fault they didn't have the same experience!? Reviews are tools you can use to make an educated guess, but it doesn't guarantee anything, esp if you don't think the person knows how to use that tool. That's why the only acronym I ever use in a review is YMMV.

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But it's also because you bring good energy, you're enthusiastic and you have a sense of humor. Not everyone is like this and once again I will say it. Yes you are paying for a service but you have to be positive and happy about meeting the person... I think this is why people don't always have the same experience.

CLOUD 500 said:

First I look at how long the account has been active. A brand new account I would take with a grain of salt. An account with a long posting history I will trust more, I will read his posting history to get a feel of the reviews and how they are written. I also see if the reviewer seeks the same thing I do. For example some guys do not care for DFK, for me it is the most important part of the session. So reviewers that never do DFK I skip, I look at ones that do. I look at a certain SP, if she has a pattern of bad reviews it means there is a reason for that. One or two can happen and it also depends what was the cause of the bad review. I took my chance with a SP that had two very bad reviews, I messaged these guys in private to understand better based on that I took my chance and it was good for me.

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I understand what you're saying. If you're looking for a service you want to make sure the person is providing it and sometimes it's not in the ad. That's something pretty objective compared to some other types of reviews in my opinion

Lunaseraphim said:

But it's also because you bring good energy, you're enthusiastic and you have a sense of humor. Not everyone is like this and once again I will say it. Yes you are paying for a service but you have to be positive and happy about meeting the person... I think this is why people don't always have the same experience.

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The girl also has to have a positive energy. Lots of reports of girls being nonchalant, aloof which to me is the biggest turn off. I almost always give back to the same energy. A girl who is negative and disinterested will make me also negative. So my attitude will depend on the SP.

Lunaseraphim said:

I understand what you're saying. If you're looking for a service you want to make sure the person is providing it and sometimes it's not in the ad. That's something pretty objective compared to some other types of reviews in my opinion

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Exactly. But like I said there are other things too. I will send a private message to get more details to understand more the nature of the bad review. Posting history is very important to me.

CLOUD 500 said:

Exactly. But like I said there are other things too. I will send a private message to get more details to understand more the nature of the bad review. Posting history is very important to me.

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Yeah posting history gives clues, but I still think other things are subjective, and you don't actually know the person. There are 2 sides to every story...

But I don't know every single girl in the industry. I know there are different "classes" of escorts unfortunately and often people in the supposedly "lower classes" get judged more harshly due to survival...

Personally I've often seen guys book SWrs who are not their type and don't give the type of service they want, then they complain about it in a review. It's kinda weird, no?

That's why personally at this point I always ask the client what his expectations are because I want us to be on the same page. Sometimes people don't really investigate.

Lunaseraphim said:

Yeah posting history gives clues, but I still think other things are subjective, and you don't actually know the person. There are 2 sides to every story...

But I don't know every single girl in the industry. I know there are different "classes" of escorts unfortunately and often people in the supposedly "lower classes" get judged more harshly due to survival...

Personally I've often seen guys book SWrs who are not their type and don't give the type of service they want, then they complain about it in a review. It's kinda weird, no?

That's why personally at this point I always ask the client what his expectations are because I want us to be on the same page. Sometimes people don't really investigate.

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When booking Indys (I only did a very few) I always tell what I am seeking in terms of services as I do not know her and reviews can tell what kind of experience to expect. I am very direct like that.

CLOUD 500 said:

The girl also has to have a positive energy. Lots of reports of girls being nonchalant, aloof which to me is the biggest turn off. I almost always give back to the same energy. A girl who is negative and disinterested will make me also negative. So my attitude will depend on the SP.

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I'm totally wired oppositely, oddly enough, I think their attitude depends on me. Yeah it's fun when they're total horndogs right out the gate and can't wait to get their hands on me but I don't think that's realistic, nor do I find it attractive. We build attraction, it's not a given (paid or not), so I lead with intent but try to bridge the gap between my horniness and theirs, until we're on the same page.

Lunaseraphim said:

Yeah posting history gives clues, but I still think other things are subjective, and you don't actually know the person. There are 2 sides to every story...

But I don't know every single girl in the industry. I know there are different "classes" of escorts unfortunately and often people in the supposedly "lower classes" get judged more harshly due to survival...

Personally I've often seen guys book SWrs who are not their type and don't give the type of service they want, then they complain about it in a review. It's kinda weird, no?

That's why personally at this point I always ask the client what his expectations are because I want us to be on the same page. Sometimes people don't really investigate.

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I use to not use reviews .. didn't know about the boards and saw Indies through LL when first starting the hobby about 3 years ago. First couple of SPs I saw were legit and the experience was good. But after that was hit or miss mostly scamming. One SP said she hated what was happening on LL as it affected her business in a negative way.

Then stumbled across agencies and had a wonderful year last year. I did have a TERB account but hadn't used up until December. Just selected my SP from info from the site for preferences. Sampled the lower tier up to the top tier. Mostly had good experiences and never a really bad one.

I started posting positive reviews on my favs and you get some agreeable posts and you get some posters saying their negative experiences like DFK not good enough or something.

The last two I went to was nothing like I read about and had a subpar experience. I feel it's the code on the board to report bad experiences not just the good ones. But rather than post negative comments about the SP I try to express the good points and maybe what was lacking for me and certainly YMMV. We just didn't click.

And if I avoided an SP do to a bad review or mixed reviews. I would have missed out on some of my favs today.

I'll also say that I'm not a fan of tats especially alot of them. But went to see one due to my quest to try some of the top SP awards finishers to see what I was missing out on. If I didn't see her I would not have met my ATF to date.

Great GFE with awesome personalities, fireworks and our parts are compatible is what I like. And all of my SPs I repeat with are just plain good GFs to me in our hr or 2 together.

Having said that there are plenty of John's that might disagree with me cause they gotta have a specific acronym. I guess I'm lucky that I like to just have playtime fun and a mutual good time.

So I'm almost now back to where I started and not paying to much attention to reviews. Just getting the info advertised and maybe additional info from a reviewer.