Are You a Sex Addict or an Explorer in the Sex Industry?

[Obvio-0bvio]

I’m interested in hearing everyone's thoughts on whether you consider yourself a sex addict, someone who is simply exploring the sex industry, or perhaps just seeking a quick encounter.

As for me,this might come off as a bit unconventional, I certainly enjoy the thrill of sexual encounters. However, I’ve come to realize that a significant part of my motivation is boredom and the thrill of sharing my expérience with other members.

I genuinely appreciate the intimacy and connection with service providers; their bodies and the experiences we share are undeniably pleasurable. Yet, I often find myself engaging in these encounters more because I'm looking for something to do than out of a deep seated need for sex.

I sometimes wonder if I’m in denial about my own motivations. Could this be a sign of a deeper problem? The dating scene nowadays often feels like a farce, and I’ve concluded that it can actually be more economical and straightforward to reach out to a service provider than to pursue a traditional date.

I’m curious: do any of you relate to this? Are my feelings about boredom and escapism just a excuses that I might be a “degenerate ” in this hobby? I look forward to hearing your perspectives on this intriguing and complex issue.

 

[RickRoss88]

I share the same motivation with you about boredom. When I have some free time I got the reflex to book an SP out of habits.

Before I wanted a simple quick encounter. Then I passed that stage one or two years ago. I became a sex addict I think. Booking 5-6/week . And because it became an habit even after 5 or 6 times per week, sometimes you book because you get bored lol. But i see this as a lack of other hobby on my side… no good.

About the dating scene, I would say it would be much cheaper for me eventually, and I could find that more interesting after years of hobby because there is no much challenges left.

 

[AirBo]

I'm a bored sex addict exploring the sex industry looking for the thrill of quick encounters. I also happen to be a degenerate, but not a savage

 

[Sylar]

Definitely not a sex addict. I think explorer and thrill seeker would describe me well.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I share the same motivation with you about boredom. When I have some free time I got the reflex to book an SP out of habits.

Before I wanted a simple quick encounter. Then I passed that stage one or two years ago. I became a sex addict I think. Booking 5-6/week . And because it became an habit even after 5 or 6 times per week, sometimes you book because you get bored lol. But i see this as a lack of other hobby on my side… no good.

About the dating scene, I would say it would be much cheaper for me eventually, and I could find that more interesting after years of hobby because there is no much challenges left.

You've articulated that beautifully! I'm relieved to discover I'm not the only one feeling this way. Your post mirrors the narrative of my own life. The part that really tickled my funny bone was your final paragraph about the dating scene, where you noted that there's not much challenge left. It made me laugh because it sparked an idea: why not just go on dates and then offer to money for sex ... ? Admittedly, that's probably not the best approach. But you'd be astonished at how many might actually say yes!

 

[MCTJ]

I recommend reading this small book for those willing to explore (and answer) the question. It short, whether you are a sex addict or not depends on the intensity of your activities, whether they are kept secret and/or generate shame, and the financial and emotional impact they have on your life.

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction https://a.co/d/i7utQga

 

[Miller96]

I only got into this hobby because I randomly befriended a group of girls who were in the trade at a friend’s party in late 2020, before COVID (I only was told months after by one of them after I had started dating another one a couple month’s later), and this question is something I ponder to this day. I would count my experiences with that group as seeing an SP ,even though it was a FWB situation, due to I genuinely believing the only reason they were ok with such an arrangement is because of their line of work.

I think meeting that group and having access to the amounts of sex I had during that period (2020 to 2023) has made it a physical necessity or a fast way to fulfill boredom.
But now, I’m worrying if it hasn’t straight up rotted my brain.
About half of them also had OF accounts which made it even more addicting cus I got to rewatch myself for gratification whenever and wherever I wanted and that definitely affected the way I approach sex in my day to day life (I don’t consume OF content weirdly enough).
It sucks cus I’m barely mid-20s and I wasn’t really sexually active until my late teens because I hit puberty super late. I was fit, popular and did well in school but I just didn’t really have any sexual desires so I definitely didn’t see my life turning up this way.

As the years went by, most of them also moved on with their lives so I didn’t get to see them IRL and that made my consumption of SPs skyrocket in an inversely proportional way.

In the last year I’ve had some events in my life that have cut into my budget and time so I’ve only been like once every 4 months or so when it used to be 3-4 times a month when I did see SPs and when I was FWB with that group of girls I’d see one of them every 2-3 days in average.

The money aspect doesn’t really matter to me as I’m entering a period of my life where I’ll be making enough to fill any need or gap that I’ve created up to this point. What I’m scared of is that if my I’m actually addicted, I won’t be able to have the self control I’ve had to show in this past year or so and that there’s also the possibility I don’t have any self-control and that was just the circumstances dictating my actions.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I only got into this hobby because I randomly befriended a group of girls who were in the trade at a friend’s party in late 2020, before COVID (I only was told months after by one of them after I had started dating another one a couple month’s later), and this question is something I ponder to this day. I would count my experiences with that group as seeing an SP ,even though it was a FWB situation, due to I genuinely believing the only reason they were ok with such an arrangement is because of their line of work.

I think meeting that group and having access to the amounts of sex I had during that period (2020 to 2023) has made it a physical necessity or a fast way to fulfill boredom.
But now, I’m worrying if it hasn’t straight up rotted my brain.
About half of them also had OF accounts which made it even more addicting cus I got to rewatch myself for gratification whenever and wherever I wanted and that definitely affected the way I approach sex in my day to day life (I don’t consume OF content weirdly enough).
It sucks cus I’m barely mid-20s and I wasn’t really sexually active until my late teens because I hit puberty super late. I was fit, popular and did well in school but I just didn’t really have any sexual desires so I definitely didn’t see my life turning up this way.

As the years went by, most of them also moved on with their lives so I didn’t get to see them IRL and that made my consumption of SPs skyrocket in an inversely proportional way.

In the last year I’ve had some events in my life that have cut into my budget and time so I’ve only been like once every 4 months or so when it used to be 3-4 times a month when I did see SPs and when I was FWB with that group of girls I’d see one of them every 2-3 days in average.

The money aspect doesn’t really matter to me as I’m entering a period of my life where I’ll be making enough to fill any need or gap that I’ve created up to this point. What I’m scared of is that if my I’m actually addicted, I won’t be able to have the self control I’ve had to show in this past year or so and that there’s also the possibility I don’t have any self-control and that was just the circumstances dictating my actions.

Hey buddy! Thanks for sharing your experience and insights. I really appreciate the effort you put into your post. You've captured a nuanced blend of self-discovery, concerns about possible addiction to sexual experiences, and how your relationships with these women have shaped your views on sex and your life path. I also noticed your reflections on navigating your feelings about these encounters and their potential long-term implications for mental and emotional health. You brought up some really important points!

 

[curly]

I'm a recovering traumatized teenager. I really wanted to have sex then, but always got rejected!

Aren't we all...

 

[Sylar]

I only got into this hobby because I randomly befriended a group of girls who were in the trade at a friend’s party in late 2020, before COVID (I only was told months after by one of them after I had started dating another one a couple month’s later), and this question is something I ponder to this day. I would count my experiences with that group as seeing an SP ,even though it was a FWB situation, due to I genuinely believing the only reason they were ok with such an arrangement is because of their line of work.

I think meeting that group and having access to the amounts of sex I had during that period (2020 to 2023) has made it a physical necessity or a fast way to fulfill boredom.
But now, I’m worrying if it hasn’t straight up rotted my brain.
About half of them also had OF accounts which made it even more addicting cus I got to rewatch myself for gratification whenever and wherever I wanted and that definitely affected the way I approach sex in my day to day life (I don’t consume OF content weirdly enough).
It sucks cus I’m barely mid-20s and I wasn’t really sexually active until my late teens because I hit puberty super late. I was fit, popular and did well in school but I just didn’t really have any sexual desires so I definitely didn’t see my life turning up this way.

As the years went by, most of them also moved on with their lives so I didn’t get to see them IRL and that made my consumption of SPs skyrocket in an inversely proportional way.

In the last year I’ve had some events in my life that have cut into my budget and time so I’ve only been like once every 4 months or so when it used to be 3-4 times a month when I did see SPs and when I was FWB with that group of girls I’d see one of them every 2-3 days in average.

The money aspect doesn’t really matter to me as I’m entering a period of my life where I’ll be making enough to fill any need or gap that I’ve created up to this point. What I’m scared of is that if my I’m actually addicted, I won’t be able to have the self control I’ve had to show in this past year or so and that there’s also the possibility I don’t have any self-control and that was just the circumstances dictating my actions.

This sounds like you are already on the way of recovery from a serious addiction. Maybe just stay on this path instead of going back to old habits.

 

[ThunderLipps]

I just like seeing naked ladies and BBBJ's.

 

[masterfreak]

Dsl mes amis merbistes mais je ne crois pas qu'on peut être un ou l'autre
On a un addiction et on aime explorer les possibilités que l'industrie du sexe nous permet
Peut importe la façon que tu as commencé dans ce domaine, tu seras toujours un client qui a payé pour avoir du sexe
C'est un cercle vicieux qui laisse des séquelles

 

[jmioffe]

I'm a recovering traumatized teenager. I really wanted to have sex then, but always got rejected!

Aren't we all...

Surprised but not surprised this has the most reactions/likes.

Me too. Trying to make up for lost time as an undesirable youth.

I don't think it can be done though. At this point, my numbers are higher than any of my rivals in my youth.

But they got the girls at the right time. Getting girls later means less.

It's like getting to be a party animal for a decade when you're 80 years old. Better that you were one in four years of college.

 

[envelopes]

I was never here for the fantasy. I know it’s a big thing for many clients to explore all sorts of fantasies, but that was never a point for me.

I started hobbying I was lonely and over dating.

I’ve been divorced twice by 28 lol. Getting back into dating just felt like a chore.

Then by chance, I was very straight edge and got dragged down by some animal friends of mine to a stag party where I did a ton of drugs and saw escorts.

I wanted to fuck more hot girls without it feeling like a chore to date.

So I was a sex addict for 3 years. This hobby just takes away the stressful part of it. I was completely addicted.

Then after 2020 I stopped for 1.5 years.

Afterwards, I was going to take it slow to not get addicted again. That didn’t last long.

But in the past 6 months, I’ve only been repeating with 4 SPs. With 1 being 90% of the time. So I don’t think I’m addicted anymore due to A) finding a good regular B) difficulty in finding hot new SPs.

So now I think I’m in a phase where I’m just lonely again and this SP regular is starting to become more of a relationship than SP-client.

I need to break away from this completely and start dating for real again though. I want to have a family by my 40s

So to summarize. First it was loneliness from divorces. Then addiction. Then back to loneliness.

 

[Miller96]

I was never here for the fantasy. I know it’s a big thing for many clients to explore all sorts of fantasies, but that was never a point for me.

I started hobbying I was lonely and over dating.

I’ve been divorced twice by 28 lol. Getting back into dating just felt like a chore.

Then by chance, I was very straight edge and got dragged down by some animal friends of mine to a stag party where I did a ton of drugs and saw escorts.

I wanted to fuck more hot girls without it feeling like a chore to date.

So I was a sex addict for 3 years. This hobby just takes away the stressful part of it. I was completely addicted.

Then after 2020 I stopped for 1.5 years.

Afterwards, I was going to take it slow to not get addicted again. That didn’t last long.

But in the past 6 months, I’ve only been repeating with 4 SPs. With 1 being 90% of the time. So I don’t think I’m addicted anymore due to A) finding a good regular B) difficulty in finding hot new SPs.

So now I think I’m in a phase where I’m just lonely again and this SP regular is starting to become more of a relationship than SP-client.

I need to break away from this completely and start dating for real again though. I want to have a family by my 40s

So to summarize. First it was loneliness from divorces. Then addiction. Then back to loneliness.

I was never here for the fantasy. I know it’s a big thing for many clients to explore all sorts of fantasies, but that was never a point for me.

I started hobbying I was lonely and over dating.

I’ve been divorced twice by 28 lol. Getting back into dating just felt like a chore.

Then by chance, I was very straight edge and got dragged down by some animal friends of mine to a stag party where I did a ton of drugs and saw escorts.

I wanted to fuck more hot girls without it feeling like a chore to date.

So I was a sex addict for 3 years. This hobby just takes away the stressful part of it. I was completely addicted.

Then after 2020 I stopped for 1.5 years.

Afterwards, I was going to take it slow to not get addicted again. That didn’t last long.

But in the past 6 months, I’ve only been repeating with 4 SPs. With 1 being 90% of the time. So I don’t think I’m addicted anymore due to A) finding a good regular B) difficulty in finding hot new SPs.

So now I think I’m in a phase where I’m just lonely again and this SP regular is starting to become more of a relationship than SP-client.

I need to break away from this completely and start dating for real again though. I want to have a family by my 40s

So to summarize. First it was loneliness from divorces. Then addiction. Then back to loneliness.

This might be too personal but do you think there are real feelings involved with the one you see 90% of the time?
I wouldn’t dream of thinking I know you or anything but isn’t there a possibility that she could become a genuine friend even after you stop indulging in the hobby or is it a purely pragmatic relationship?

 

[T'storm]

I might consider myself a sex addict if you look at my lifestyle. But I think that I do this simply because I need a sexual connection with the opposite sex. I am a married man with a sexless life, don't get me wrong I love my wife and I'm sure she loves me too but when it comes to the bedroom (1-3 times a year) it's only missionary and try not to last too long. It was not like that 25 years ago when we got married...she used to be very wild and tried every position in the books more then once. It was on average 1-2 times a day but now almost never.
The only lady that I see right now gives me everything that I need, yes sex mainly but the cuddling with the sensual rubbing and teasing, we fall asleep in each others arms etc...
Since I'm no longer exploring then I must be a sex addict. just saying.

 

[Sylar]

I might consider myself a sex addict if you look at my lifestyle. But I think that I do this simply because I need a sexual connection with the opposite sex. I am a married man with a sexless life, don't get me wrong I love my wife and I'm sure she loves me too but when it comes to the bedroom (1-3 times a year) it's only missionary and try not to last too long. It was not like that 25 years ago when we got married...she used to be very wild and tried every position in the books more then once. It was on average 1-2 times a day but now almost never.
The only lady that I see right now gives me everything that I need, yes sex mainly but the cuddling with the sensual rubbing and teasing, we fall asleep in each others arms etc...
Since I'm no longer exploring then I must be a sex addict. just saying.

I disagree completely. Just because you need more sex than 1-3 a year, doesn't make you an addict. It depends on the amount. And since you only see one SP, I really don't think you fall into that category.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I disagree completely. Just because you need more sex than 1-3 a year, doesn't make you an addict. It depends on the amount. And since you only see one SP, I really don't think you fall into that category.

It's essential to acknowledge an uncomfortable truth without sugarcoating it: if you find yourself going out of your way to create an account on a service provider's platform, it may indicate an underlying addiction. Let's approach this situation with honesty. The average person does not log in daily to forums dedicated to sharing and discussing sexual experiences. This behavior suggests a deeper engagement that could reflect dependency, rather than simply a casual interest.

 

[Sylar]

It's essential to acknowledge an uncomfortable truth without sugarcoating it: if you find yourself going out of your way to create an account on a service provider's platform, it may indicate an underlying addiction. Let's approach this situation with honesty. The average person does not log in daily to forums dedicated to sharing and discussing sexual experiences. This behavior suggests a deeper engagement that could reflect dependency, rather than simply a casual interest.

That's a fair point Obvio, but I sometimes log in here just to find entertainment. There is no correlation of my activity on the board and the amount of SPs I visit.

 

[TheJames101]

That's a fair point Obvio, but I sometimes log in here just to find entertainment. There is no correlation of my activity on the board and the amount of SPs I visit.

Same. I come here for the entertainment, and occasionally the stuff about sex.