Ask us anything part 2

[bodick7]

99% of the time, I'm not nervous at all... just excited

From my POV, It’s a mix of excitement with a bit of nervousness 99% percent of the time.
The thing is, I tend to repeat a lot.
So when there is a need for change, I can search a lot to find somebody who has the potential to be a good match.
At some point, if expectation is high, so is my excitment.

 

[CuriousGent]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

It is a mixture of nervous and excitement. When I get to the incall I try not to overthink it because I get performance anxiety and when that happens it takes me a while to relax and enjoy myself. Which is why I usually book 1h30 and repeat with women I felt at ease with.

 

[bodick7]

and repeat with women I felt at ease with.

If I loose my brain when door is opening, there are good chances I repeat.
I warned the girl (that I will loose my brain) before I get in to loose some "tension" especially if I meet a firecracker and It works.
I remember doing it with Nathalie Summer. She was such a beautiful woman. She instantly replied to make me feel comfortable so it was a wonderful encounter.

 

[Sylar]

il y a un bon nombre d’escortes hommes offrants leurs services sexuels gratuitement.

I think that's just called Tinder...

 

[Sylar]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

Not when going to a massage place. I also do not feel much pressure or nervousness booking with an agency. I rarely book with Indys so there is more anticipation / tension (in a good way) involved.

 

[LC18]

Which is why I usually book 1h30 and repeat with women I felt at ease with.

90 mins is the best, you don’t feel pressure and you have time to talk a little bit to make the nervousness go away

 

[Julia Sky]

Sérieusement ici en Estrie une dizaine d’hommes annonces leurs services gratuitement sur les sites d’escortes

ils sont créatifs

il y a des bons côtés!

les hommes gays ne me sollicitent pas comme avant

Ben ce sont pas des services, car un service dans ce contexte implique un paiement. Il y en a trois tonnes à Montréal aussi de ces annonces haha. Ce sont des hommes horny qui s'annoncent en espérant baiser sans passer par la case "flirting". Ce ne sont pas des travailleurs du sexe.

 

[Nachoy]

Do you ever cold call clients?
if so when and who do you choose to call ?

 

[LC18]

Do you ever cold call clients?
if so when and who do you choose to call ?

No, why would I? I don’t even answer calls.

Do I text clients? Those who have given me permission to text them whenever I want or to send photos whenever I want, yes.

Others no but if I need to text someone to confirm something I send a “.” (simple dot) and wait for them to reply. That gives them the opportunity to say “oh it must be spam” if their partner picks up their phone.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Do you ever cold call clients?
if so when and who do you choose to call ?

I will never harrass my clients or reach out if they did not give me the permission beforehand

 

[marky mark]

Gotta say I'd be happy to get an out-of--the-blue text from an SP I've previously been in touch with. Even one I've texted with but haven't yet set a date.
In the past I've had some indies who have texted me to update on any changes to their incall location etc.and one who I had very regular arrangement with would frequently send me sexy (but discreet) pix just to make my day. Damn I miss that girl!

 

[lovethaifood]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

I will let you know after I meet you. I have never booked an appointment so far in advance before so the anticipation is interesting to me. Usually don't get nervous but, usually it is a same day appointment or text the night before with an agency I have experienced before. Chemistry, is what it is but, if you do a lot of research before you can kind of temper expectations. I think it depends more on if it is a new person or agency that I have no experience with. Then, I have to figure out if am driving or public transportation. What is parking situation, is the area discreet, part of a business district or residential. Can I just blend in. What is access to the building like. A variety of factors go into it. Familiarity breeds comfort. One thing I will say about you is that your ubiquitous presence on this board and all your posts and replies are so thoughtful, that as far as booking my second indy ever in a city I haven't been to in a long time, I feel very comfortable with my decision to contact you.

edit: Also a little butterflies on a first date with an SP I think would be normal though. Just can't let it be distracting or take away from the moment between two people.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

When I have not had a client in a few weeks, as it often happen in february, I get so nervous to see my next client. I fear I'd get too dorky and nervous and talk too much about dnd or something and kill the mood haha but usually it goes away after five minutes! I guess its like riding a bycile you never forget how to do it really

 

[LC18]

I will let you know after I meet you. I have never booked an appointment so far in advance before so the anticipation is interesting to me. Usually don't get nervous but, usually it is a same day appointment or text the night before with an agency I have experienced before. Chemistry, is what it is but, if you do a lot of research before you can kind of temper expectations. I think it depends more on if it is a new person or agency that I have no experience with. Then, I have to figure out if am driving or public transportation. What is parking situation, is the area discreet, part of a business district or residential. Can I just blend in. What is access to the building like. A variety of factors go into it. Familiarity breeds comfort. One thing I will say about you is that your ubiquitous presence on this board and all your posts and replies are so thoughtful, that as far as booking my second indy ever in a city I haven't been to in a long time, I feel very comfortable with my decision to contact you.

edit: Also a little butterflies on a first date with an SP I think would be normal though. Just can't let it be distracting or take away from the moment between two people.

You’re right, a lot of things can make us nervous and not just the date itself.

P.S: I’ll try my best to turn the nervousness into excitement

 

[lovethaifood]

You’re right, a lot of things can make us nervous and not just the date itself.

P.S: I’ll try my best to turn the nervousness into excitement

I am sure excitement will not be a problem when I see you.

 

[Daffy]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

With an SP, every single time. When I go to a massage parlor the experience goes better on my end.

I feel a lot of pressure with an SP because I feel the need "to be liked or desired" before having sex. I know it's tall in my head.

For me it's always awkward the first minutes before the act, when trying to chit chat.

I'm still getting used to the experience of meeting a SP.

Now, when I go to a massage parlor, I'm already naked, we do some effortless chit chat, lol she's already been playing with my member for a while, the rest comes seamless.

I would like to develop the same attitude with a SP.

 

[Jaxan]

Now, when I go to a massage parlor, I'm already naked, we do some effortless chit chat, lol she's already been playing with my member for a while, the rest comes seamless.

I would like to develop the same attitude with a SP.

Maybe you could ask for a massage to start your sessions with SP's, and that could help you get into the flow, similar to your massage parlor experiences.

 

[LC18]

For me it's always awkward the first minutes before the act, when trying to chit chat.

It can feel like speed dating as you’re trying to see if you’re compatible in a very short time. If you meet the right person it will flow naturally.

 

[LC18]

Maybe you could ask for a massage to start your sessions with SP's, and that could help you get into the flow, similar to your massage parlor experiences.

I’ve definitely offered that to gentlemen I sensed were nervous. You can relax for a few minutes and then slowly start talking.

Since you’ll be laying on your stomach to start, you don’t have to look at the SP in the eyes, it’s sometimes easier.

 

[Sylar]

When I have not had a client in a few weeks, as it often happen in February

This leads me to another question.
Is there a high and low season when it comes to clients? Does that differ from SP to SP depending on the clientele or is it mostly the same for all SPs?