Ask us anything part 2

[lovethaifood]

What do you think is the ideal number of hours for a date?

Is it dependent on familiarity with the client?

Also do you limit the number of clients you see in a day or week and do you like to have a period of rest in between appointments? I think this is probably different for agency girls incall versus outcall and completely different for Indys although maybe not. Maybe there are some Indys that do a high volume if they have an assistant handling calls and flow.

 

[Julia Sky]

What do you think is the ideal number of hours for a date?

Is it dependent on familiarity with the client?

Also do you limit the number of clients you see in a day or week and do you like to have a period of rest in between appointments? I think this is probably different for agency girls incall versus outcall and completely different for Indys although maybe not. Maybe there are some Indys that do a high volume if they have an assistant handling calls and flow.

The ideal duration really depends on the type of date for me. First date with a client? My ideal would be 90mins to 2hrs. Dinner date? 4hrs minimum is best. BJ only, more than an hour might feel repetitive or end up being 80% social as most guys aren't going to cum 4-5 times regardless of the duration or how much I want to keep going haha. People only have so much cum in them

I definitely have some favorite clients I'd spend 12-24 hours with if the choice was mine, it depends on many factors but they all involve at least one of four things : good food, good sex, good vibes, or foot rubs haha

Volume is a pretty personal thing but personally it's fluctuated over the course of my career and even within the same year I'll have times I see more people and times I see 2 guys a week. I only work when I feel like it and it's a privilege I cherish. I also don't like last minute appointments much, and love having a lot of time to myself, so if I don't see many people it's mainly for my mental health, honestly. I don't think there's any shame in doing higher volume, in fact I've had sex with 5+ men in a day quite a few times over the last 8 years, it's just not/no longer something I can see myself doing often without facing burnout. This is half the reason I've increased my rates, the rest is 25% inflation and 25% throat skills haha.

 

[lovethaifood]

The ideal duration really depends on the type of date for me. First date with a client? My ideal would be 90mins to 2hrs. Dinner date? 4hrs minimum is best. BJ only, more than an hour might feel repetitive or end up being 80% social as most guys aren't going to cum 4-5 times regardless of the duration or how much I want to keep going haha. People only have so much cum in them

I definitely have some favorite clients I'd spend 12-24 hours with if the choice was mine, it depends on many factors but they all involve at least one of four things : good food, good sex, good vibes, or foot rubs haha

Volume is a pretty personal thing but personally it's fluctuated over the course of my career and even within the same year I'll have times I see more people and times I see 2 guys a week. I only work when I feel like it and it's a privilege I cherish. I also don't like last minute appointments much, and love having a lot of time to myself, so if I don't see many people it's mainly for my mental health, honestly. I don't think there's any shame in doing higher volume, in fact I've had sex with 5+ men in a day quite a few times over the last 8 years, it's just not/no longer something I can see myself doing often without facing burnout. This is half the reason I've increased my rates, the rest is 25% inflation and 25% throat skills haha.

Thank you for sharing.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

What do you think is the ideal number of hours for a date?

Is it dependent on familiarity with the client?

I never can answer to this question, because I've had hours that were very average with some clients, while I had weekends with clients I never met before that went extremely well! So no, familiarity is not a primary reason, a relationship is made to be developed. I would say any duration that allows no rush, that allows said connection to happen is ideal. Two hours, but a dinner date to a whole evening is my preference. Or longer.

 

[lovethaifood]

I never can answer to this question, because I've had hours that were very average with some clients, while I had weekends with clients I never met before that went extremely well! So no, familiarity is not a primary reason, a relationship is made to be developed. I would say any duration that allows no rush, that allows said connection to happen is ideal. Two hours, but a dinner date to a whole evening is my preference. Or longer.

Thankyou. I am asking because from a client point of view there is this debate between quantity versus quality. I lean towards seeing one or two providers with each visit being multiple hours then other people I have talked to believe that variety is the spice of life, so if you are up for it, you go see like 2 to 3 women a day or whatever number. I personally lean towards I would rather see less people more hours but, then again sometimes.a one hour quickie with a new SP you've never met can be very invigorating.

 

[LC18]

I have talked to believe that variety is the spice of life, so if you are up for it, you go see like 2 to 3 women a day or whatever number.

It depends on what your goal is. Dates in that context are very particular, you need to connect in a very short period of time. If you meet 2-3 people during your stay, you’ll have to start all over again 2-3 times.

If you meet one person and it clicks, you’ll be happy that you get to spend more time with that person.

 

[lovethaifood]

If you meet one person and it clicks, you’ll be happy that you get to spend more time with that person.

Well looking forward to clicking with you!

 

[OHenry]

Have you ever heard of the pair-bonding statement that if a woman has more than 5 -8 sexual encounters/partners , it erodes her chances of pair bonding successfully with a serious partner long term?
Also , in certain spirituality there is talk of a supposed “ energy field “ ( considering atoms are mostly empty space ) surrounding each of us and that with each sexual encounter , we exchange part of that energy with our sexual partner. Does any of this have any significance for you? Do you have any type of spirituality and does it conflict with your profession? Or how do you make it work?

 

[Julia Sky]

As a very spiritual person, I still think this soul tie thing is BS haha.... plenty of sex workers have loving partners. Having multiple sex partners doesn't stain our soul, if it did what would that say about the people we have all this sex with? Do you think people (especially men because this theory is almost always only aimed at women who have sex with men) are so rotten that sleeping with them tarnishes our soul forever?

Now yes I do believe sex is an energy exchange, but not in a bad sense at all! I think it's a beautiful thing actually

 

[Jaxan]

Did a quick google search on "pair bonding", and if it does exist, it would equally be relevant for men also. But as humans, I don't believe we have a finite limit in our capacity to connect with others, regardless of body count, or whatever you may want to call it. In fact, it's probably the opposite, the more times you can bond emotionally and physically with another human being, the more capable you will be able to bond with others in the future.

 

[OHenry]

As a very spiritual person, I still think this soul tie thing is BS haha.... plenty of sex workers have loving partners. Having multiple sex partners doesn't stain our soul, if it did what would that say about the people we have all this sex with? Do you think people (especially men because this theory is almost always only aimed at women who have sex with men) are so rotten that sleeping with them tarnishes our soul forever?

Now yes I do believe sex is an energy exchange, but not in a bad sense at all! I think it's a beautiful thing actually

Thank you for you reply, I’m just trying to find out what’s reality compared to theory when it comes to pair bonding.
Supposedly with men , they are designed to spread the seed and can have sex without needing intimacy, while most women seek an intimate connection. While men contain the seed of life , women are the ones charged with bringing the spirit into matter through her womb , so it’s a more sacred space. Most guys are horn dogs , while the majority of women are discerning about who they sleep with ( considering they are the ones who’ll have to deal with pregnancy).
Most highly developed spiritual practices demand celibacy so I’m curious how escorts achieve a balance between an act as a job as opposed to a sacred union between a man and woman in an exclusive relationship.
I find the “ hobby “ is exhilarating for 45-60 minutes but lately I have an” empty “ feeling afterwards.
So you can just deal with the act as a job and then as something special with your partner afterwards?

 

[OHenry]

Did a quick google search on "pair bonding", and if it does exist, it would equally be relevant for men also. But as humans, I don't believe we have a finite limit in our capacity to connect with others, regardless of body count, or whatever you may want to call it. In fact, it's probably the opposite, the more times you can bond emotionally and physically with another human being, the more capable you will be able to bond with others in the future.

I’ll check into it a bit deeper. It’s presented as more a female thing because males can just have sex without intimacy whereas the majority of females seek intimacy in a relationship ( because of emotional attachment/investment). But I guess guys can get deep into it as well…

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I find the “ hobby “ is exhilarating for 45-60 minutes but lately I have an” empty “ feeling afterwards.

We get used to everything. What is new one day becomes old, what brings us joy and fulfills us one day becomes routine. Variety in life, and especially novelty at crucial times, is what allows us to keep enjoying activities, and jobs, and everything, longer. Just do something else for a while; seeing providers is not your job, you can return to your activities at any time when you're feeling drawn to it again. It has nothing to do with your sperm spreading.

 

[Julia Sky]

It’s presented as more a female thing because males can just have sex without intimacy whereas the majority of females seek intimacy in a relationship

I mean, people are not a monolith. Plenty of demisexual men and plenty of women who don't need an emotional connection to enjoy sex with someone...

Honestly this theory is always a little insulting and I don't think it's a discussion that has its place on an escort review board. It's in bad taste. It's like you came here to imply that escorts have tarnished souls.

I genuinely believe this theory was made up by men who wanted to justify having a bunch of sex and cheating on their partners while making sure she would stay faithful.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Raise your hand if you're a dirty dirty girl

 

[OHenry]

I mean, people are not a monolith. Plenty of demisexual men and plenty of women who don't need an emotional connection to enjoy sex with someone...

Honestly this theory is always a little insulting and I don't think it's a discussion that has its place on an escort review board. It's in bad taste. It's like you came here to imply that escorts have tarnished souls.

I genuinely believe this theory was made up by men who wanted to justify having a bunch of sex and cheating on their partners while making sure she would stay faithful.

I don’t know who made this up and I’m just curious that’s all. It’s just a theory and from the information I’ve heard from SPs , it doesn’t necessarily apply to reality so I’m ready to disregard the premise. I mean this may also affect men as well negatively or beneficially. Just looking for evidence to find out what’s reality.
I’m free to bring up a topic that interests me and you are free to express your opinions, which I appreciate. Thank you.

 

[OHenry]

We get used to everything. What is new one day becomes old, what brings us joy and fulfills us one day becomes routine. Variety in life, and especially novelty at crucial times, is what allows us to keep enjoying activities, and jobs, and everything, longer. Just do something else for a while; seeing providers is not your job, you can return to your activities at any time when you're feeling drawn to it again. It has nothing to do with your sperm spreading.

We get used to everything. What is new one day becomes old, what brings us joy and fulfills us one day becomes routine. Variety in life, and especially novelty at crucial times, is what allows us to keep enjoying activities, and jobs, and everything, longer. Just do something else for a while; seeing providers is not your job, you can return to your activities at any time when you're feeling drawn to it again. It has nothing to do with your sperm spreading.

Actually, biologically it does, as in nature most males seek many partners to assure the continuation of their genes. Take out societal pressures, most males would not be monogamous. Thanks for your input…

 

[Jaxan]

Humans are one of the few species that can have sex for recreational and not reproductive purposes. I think sometimes we confuse the two, as sex can be for fun or a means to an end, without inferring anything else.

 

[bodick7]

Qu’est-ce qui vous apporte le plus de plaisir sexuel.

L’intensité de la pénétration, la précision et la technique du doigté ou la douceur et la volupté d’une langue bien placée?

Je sais que toutes ces réponses peuvent être bonnes mais ce serait bien d’ en démarquer une.
Note: je sais que ça peut déborder ailleurs genre « le bon partenaire ». C’est une question à choix de réponse et il n’y a pas de « Autre »…

 

[lovethaifood]

What is the proper way to tip housekeeping in a hotel in Montreal. I do not know wages, do you tip daily or at end of stay? What is an appropriate amount?