Ask us anything part 2

[Julia Sky]

Personne n'a parlé de te dévêtir. Je parle de fausses photos et du règlement de ce forum.

Mes clientes peuvent tout aussi bien être les tiennes, car les gens ont des goûts et envies qui varient même chez un même individu; mais là n'est pas le point.

Utiliser de fausses photos, qui ne te ressemblent même pas, ce n'est pas permis. C'est tout ce que je dis. Que tu le mentionnes dans le pied de page ne change rien. "Disclaimer : les règlements du forum ne sont pas respectés" ça ne passe pas vraiment lol.

Perdre son temps avec des textos de gens qui ne lisent pas, I'll be honest with you here, c'est genre 50% du travail en tant que sex worker. Nous aussi, on a des centaines de messages qui ne mènent à rien et ne respectent aucune case. Ça fait partie du jeu quand on veut être travailleur.se du sexe. Si tu veux seulement la partie amusante, tu peux t'en tenir à être un client !

Je pense qu'il vaudrait mieux clore ce sujet car ça n'a rien à voir avec le sujet d'origine du thread.

 

[LC18]

A question that I’ve received many times is “how come there aren’t many men on Indy?”

The answer is simple: We want to offer a safe space for our members and straight men cosplaying as sex workers often disrupt that by their presence.

 

[LC18]

Another interesting question I’ve seen on here is “Do you ever get book by a fellow SW?”

Yes we do. We can be professional with our peers and wear two hats. Client and sex worker.

What is weird however is a client suddenly becoming a SW. This puts us at great risk if the person tries to gain access to black lists and whatnot. I am sure the group chats of clients and SWERS are quite different. Being both is a red flag for me and many others.

 

[LC18]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

 

[AirBo]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

99% of the time, I'm not nervous at all... just excited

But as I candidly admitted, I was a bit nervous meeting you, because of all the firsts that were involved (1st ebony, 1st indy, 1st Incall) and because of the hype I created.

In the end though, I think I managed the situation pretty well

I really want to see you again, because I think I can do much better than I did the first time... lots of room for improvement on my part!

 

[LC18]

In the end though, I think I managed the situation pretty well

Oh yes

 

[bodick7]

99% of the time, I'm not nervous at all... just excited

From my POV, It’s a mix of excitement with a bit of nervousness 99% percent of the time.
The thing is, I tend to repeat a lot.
So when there is a need for change, I can search a lot to find somebody who has the potential to be a good match.
At some point, if expectation is high, so is my excitment.

 

[CuriousGent]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

It is a mixture of nervous and excitement. When I get to the incall I try not to overthink it because I get performance anxiety and when that happens it takes me a while to relax and enjoy myself. Which is why I usually book 1h30 and repeat with women I felt at ease with.

 

[bodick7]

and repeat with women I felt at ease with.

If I loose my brain when door is opening, there are good chances I repeat.
I warned the girl (that I will loose my brain) before I get in to loose some "tension" especially if I meet a firecracker and It works.
I remember doing it with Nathalie Summer. She was such a beautiful woman. She instantly replied to make me feel comfortable so it was a wonderful encounter.

 

[Sylar]

il y a un bon nombre d’escortes hommes offrants leurs services sexuels gratuitement.

I think that's just called Tinder...

 

[Sylar]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

Not when going to a massage place. I also do not feel much pressure or nervousness booking with an agency. I rarely book with Indys so there is more anticipation / tension (in a good way) involved.

 

[LC18]

Which is why I usually book 1h30 and repeat with women I felt at ease with.

90 mins is the best, you don’t feel pressure and you have time to talk a little bit to make the nervousness go away

 

[Julia Sky]

Sérieusement ici en Estrie une dizaine d’hommes annonces leurs services gratuitement sur les sites d’escortes

ils sont créatifs

il y a des bons côtés!

les hommes gays ne me sollicitent pas comme avant

Ben ce sont pas des services, car un service dans ce contexte implique un paiement. Il y en a trois tonnes à Montréal aussi de ces annonces haha. Ce sont des hommes horny qui s'annoncent en espérant baiser sans passer par la case "flirting". Ce ne sont pas des travailleurs du sexe.

 

[Nachoy]

Do you ever cold call clients?
if so when and who do you choose to call ?

 

[LC18]

Do you ever cold call clients?
if so when and who do you choose to call ?

No, why would I? I don’t even answer calls.

Do I text clients? Those who have given me permission to text them whenever I want or to send photos whenever I want, yes.

Others no but if I need to text someone to confirm something I send a “.” (simple dot) and wait for them to reply. That gives them the opportunity to say “oh it must be spam” if their partner picks up their phone.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Do you ever cold call clients?
if so when and who do you choose to call ?

I will never harrass my clients or reach out if they did not give me the permission beforehand

 

[marky mark]

Gotta say I'd be happy to get an out-of--the-blue text from an SP I've previously been in touch with. Even one I've texted with but haven't yet set a date.
In the past I've had some indies who have texted me to update on any changes to their incall location etc.and one who I had very regular arrangement with would frequently send me sexy (but discreet) pix just to make my day. Damn I miss that girl!

 

[lovethaifood]

My question for clients:

Do you get nervous on a first date with a SP

I will let you know after I meet you. I have never booked an appointment so far in advance before so the anticipation is interesting to me. Usually don't get nervous but, usually it is a same day appointment or text the night before with an agency I have experienced before. Chemistry, is what it is but, if you do a lot of research before you can kind of temper expectations. I think it depends more on if it is a new person or agency that I have no experience with. Then, I have to figure out if am driving or public transportation. What is parking situation, is the area discreet, part of a business district or residential. Can I just blend in. What is access to the building like. A variety of factors go into it. Familiarity breeds comfort. One thing I will say about you is that your ubiquitous presence on this board and all your posts and replies are so thoughtful, that as far as booking my second indy ever in a city I haven't been to in a long time, I feel very comfortable with my decision to contact you.

edit: Also a little butterflies on a first date with an SP I think would be normal though. Just can't let it be distracting or take away from the moment between two people.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

When I have not had a client in a few weeks, as it often happen in february, I get so nervous to see my next client. I fear I'd get too dorky and nervous and talk too much about dnd or something and kill the mood haha but usually it goes away after five minutes! I guess its like riding a bycile you never forget how to do it really

 

[LC18]

I will let you know after I meet you. I have never booked an appointment so far in advance before so the anticipation is interesting to me. Usually don't get nervous but, usually it is a same day appointment or text the night before with an agency I have experienced before. Chemistry, is what it is but, if you do a lot of research before you can kind of temper expectations. I think it depends more on if it is a new person or agency that I have no experience with. Then, I have to figure out if am driving or public transportation. What is parking situation, is the area discreet, part of a business district or residential. Can I just blend in. What is access to the building like. A variety of factors go into it. Familiarity breeds comfort. One thing I will say about you is that your ubiquitous presence on this board and all your posts and replies are so thoughtful, that as far as booking my second indy ever in a city I haven't been to in a long time, I feel very comfortable with my decision to contact you.

edit: Also a little butterflies on a first date with an SP I think would be normal though. Just can't let it be distracting or take away from the moment between two people.

You’re right, a lot of things can make us nervous and not just the date itself.

P.S: I’ll try my best to turn the nervousness into excitement