Ask us anything part 3

[MCTJ]

but I prefer an actual explanation of what you mean.

See Post # 2,906. The trick with them is that they make everything (on purpose!) hard to define! To find them in universities, look for departments that end in "studies".

We've strayed far from the original question and of the purpose of this thread, so I'll go read a book. Good night!

 

[Zero_Six]

See Post # 2,906. The trick with them is that they make everything (on purpose!) hard to define! To find them in universities, look for departments that end in "studies".

We've strayed far from the original question and of the purpose of this thread, so I'll go read a book. Good night!

Cool, so no clarification about what you meant. Still don't know what aspect of this "woke crowd" it is that you consider to be the problem. I guess that's kind of the point though. Like you said...

"The trick with them is that they make everything (on purpose!) hard to define". Why bother going into details and expressing yourself properly when you can just say woke and have the people that already agree with you give the thumbs up.

 

[LeDodo]

I am sorry that you are offended. I came in with a provocative question, but Luna offered interesting personal insights than led me to refine my thoughts and to integrate psychological aspects as well. Contrary to the woke crowd that dominate universities in social science and pseudo-science, I am open to changing my mind based on information or opinions that are presented to me.

I think your hypothesises are based on societal codes and stereotypes which is already orienting the "answers". Fortunately the sex industry is a safer "society" or safe space where your desires, thoughts are less prone to those judgements. And that's maybe why client base comes from a wide variety of walk of life.
That's also maybe a cue explaining that not only "ugly" clients are paying for SP's services. Obviously one good point @Lunaseraphim mentioned is about the affordability. You might have clients who are paying and/or savingfor special occasions. But for most of us it's because we can afford this luxury.

Actually reading the comments on this topic made me think and create the thread regarding the Chinese scandal about sister Hong here.
In short the scandal is about a man disguising as a woman and recording their encounters. Honestly looking at the "disguise" I can't imagine anyone really thinking she is a lady ...

 

[Rebaynia]

Cool, so no clarification about what you meant. Still don't know what aspect of this "woke crowd" it is that you consider to be the problem. I guess that's kind of the point though. Like you said...

"The trick with them is that they make everything (on purpose!) hard to define". Why bother going into details and expressing yourself properly when you can just say woke and have the people that already agree with you give the thumbs up.

Save it, we don't want the thread getting blocked.

He just got his definition out of the same encyclopedia that boasts the earth is flat. While talking about woke not believing in sciences...

Anyways, this felt more like someone looking for points to add to why SW should be something to be ashamed of useing. It is a valuable service to those who enjoy it, for whatever their reason to seek it out.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I feel like a big issue here is that people use buzz words like "woke" or "pick me" or "white knight" to shut others down instead of trying to see the other's perspective and having respectful conversations. It's also because we're online and we don't have the other person/people in front of us.

I also think Merb is somewhat "safe" in the sense that normally no one disturbs the status quo, which is why I'm going to go back to reading books, listening to music, drawing, watching movies, talking to my friends and being pretty

 

[Rebaynia]

I would not wish to be talked about in this way, and I wouldn't want those I see to be disrespected either.
contrary to what point was being made, I would say I have been fortunate enough to enjoy time in this, with some men I wouldn't have even attempted to catch eyes with in public, and some quality blessings I might not have given them the time they deserved.

So, question.

For the gents,
We are in a field that your attraction to us is important, not ours to you.

What catches your eye first to book? Legs, waist, breast, butt, lingerie... ect.
And do you book primarily on looks? (Like those who see a picture, number, and don't read anything further) Or does the bio/ad play much importance?

 

[LeDodo]

For the gents,
We are in a field that your attraction to us is important, not ours to you.

What catches your eye first to book? Legs, waist, breast, butt, lingerie... ect.
And do you book primarily on looks? (Like those who see a picture, number, and don't read anything further) Or does the bio/ad play much importance?

Some answers from this post to your question: The first part of the body you are looking first
For it's a bit special as it's the hands ... Lol

Otherwise for booking the bio/as play play a big importance but to be honest you need to meet the SP to confirm it as usually it's well written but in reality it can be just on paper.

 

[Michelle Gunn]

This will do nothing in answering my original question, but I will make a poll asking merb clients to self-rate their physical attractiveness, once my current poll on friendship ends. Should be interesting.

I'm glad that Luna and Rebaynia were here to do all of the heavy lifting on this topic (per usual), but if I've learned anything by being an SP, it's that you are your own worst critic as much as I am mine.
I had an argument relatively recently with a man who, when he opened the door to greet me my first thoughts were literally "wooooh, I'm so lucky, this guy is fucking hot". He then tried to explain to me how unattractive he is, because of this thing or the other that were imperfect in his eyes... anyway, if you're reading this, you're still wrong and I'm still right (obviously).

 

[Enjoying life]

Exactly. I had a friend that was never single for more than a week at a time in his life. Even he saw a few escorts. Not because he couldn't get laid otherwise but because he chose to. Maybe he had a certain kink, maybe he wanted to experience hiring an SP, maybe because he just didn't want to deal with all the games that are often associated with dating or even just hooking up. Everyone has their own reason for seeing an SP.

I see a lot of unappealing looking guys with wives and kids as they probably have money

 

[philonius]

For the gents,
We are in a field that your attraction to us is important, not ours to you.

What catches your eye first to book? Legs, waist, breast, butt, lingerie... ect.
And do you book primarily on looks? (Like those who see a picture, number, and don't read anything further) Or does the bio/ad play much importance?

I'm starting to realize I have a 'type' that I'm looking for but it isn't any one body part or anything specific, more like I'm trying to get a read on their vibe, which comes as a combination of photos, bio and, oddly enough, sometimes their wishlist/gift recommendations.

 

[LeDodo]

Speaking of which I just woke up but can't remember of my dream ... I think it was something going with my ATF

 

[MCTJ]

Cool, so no clarification about what you meant. Still don't know what aspect of this "woke crowd" it is that you consider to be the problem

Like I said, it's right there in post 2,906! See below:

A belief that all differences in outcomes between identifiable groups (based on race, gender, sexual orientation or ability) and the general population must be due to racism, sexism or ableism. Decades of psychological research has proven that this is not the case.

Here's an example: there are very few women who study Physics. Why? A student of Gender Studies would say: "That must be because male scientists who have dominated the field since the beginning are sexists!" The reality is more complicated than that. Decades of psychological research have shown that personality traits and certain innate abilities that vary between men and women influence career choices. That's not to say that there are no talented female physicists–there certainly are many! But to answer these types of question, we have to look at group averages. To further illustrate my point: does anyone think that the fact that 80% of clinical psychologists are women is caused by an anti-men bias in the field? Probably not. In fact, numerous studies have shown that women are, on average, more empathetic than men. Empathy is a very important trait to successfully practice psychotherapy in the 21st century. I also don't believe that psychologists are underpaid (current hourly rate of $140-250 (minus expenses, of course))

This should be nothing new. This debate played out in the media and on social media over the past 10 years. The "woke" crowd were excellent at creating a climate of fear and intimidation, and among the very few who dared telling the truth, based on rigorous scientific research, some lost their job (see the "Google letter" for example). Fortunately, the primacy of rational scientific inquiry is being restored.

 

[MCTJ]

where's your friendship poll?

Here:

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/poll-how-many-friends-do-you-have.246706/

 

[urquell]

"the primacy of rational scientific inquiry is being restored." - RFK Jr.

 

[sin]

So, question.

For the gents,
We are in a field that your attraction to us is important, not ours to you.

What catches your eye first to book? Legs, waist, breast, butt, lingerie... ect.
And do you book primarily on looks? (Like those who see a picture, number, and don't read anything further) Or does the bio/ad play much importance?

I look at the breasts. Are they natural (I don't like fake breasts as much)? If they sag a little, that's a bonus. I examine the poses in the photos, considering whether they seem too heavily edited or filtered. Photos that look natural appeal to me more. Sacroiliac dimples and a little extra padding on the stomach (forming a small bump between the navel and the pubis) really turn me on. A photo dressed in a sundress or little black dress and another in beautiful lingerie (lace) where you can see a bit of a nipple... In short, a natural look is what turns me on.

I read the description/ad to get an idea of whether there would be any affinity, but it often doesn't tell me much. I like mentions of what the SP likes, such as: I really like my ass or my breasts, I love feeling a cock grow in my mouth, or I'm the type to take charge. Descriptions are often a list of what the SP does or doesn't do, rather than a description of what she likes most.

I book on the whole package, trying to see if there will be a fit.

 

[Julien6111]

I would not wish to be talked about in this way, and I wouldn't want those I see to be disrespected either.
contrary to what point was being made, I would say I have been fortunate enough to enjoy time in this, with some men I wouldn't have even attempted to catch eyes with in public, and some quality blessings I might not have given them the time they deserved.

So, question.

For the gents,
We are in a field that your attraction to us is important, not ours to you.

What catches your eye first to book? Legs, waist, breast, butt, lingerie... ect.
And do you book primarily on looks? (Like those who see a picture, number, and don't read anything further) Or does the bio/ad play much importance?

Someone that is sexy and classy, and looks healthy. Also a smile is always preferred, as shows you are someone that has fun. Looking fit and trim is also a bonus to me. Tatoos are neither good nor bad.

 

[LC18]

“I should have booked you instead of spending money on another person”

“I want to book you but you’re out of my budget so I will book this person instead”

“I am planning on seeing this person and maybe you”

“I wish your rates were the same as this person”


Do you read yourself before you press send?
Do you think it gives us a good impression?
Why did you think it was a good idea to send that?

 

[PatHibulaire]

I'm a fairly new member of MERB and I just finished reading this long, very informative and addictive thread. Thank you Lena for starting it. Often in life, there is more to be learned about the person who is asking the question than about the answer itself!.

My first question for the lady's is as follows :

If a regular client that you appreciate and see for 2 hrs dates and 4 hrs dinnerdates regularly asked you if you would consider accompanying him to watch a movie or a show free of charge following one of your regular 4 hrs dinnerdate at regular price, how would you feel?

I'm asking because I respect what SW's do for society and for me in particular and would never want to offend a person I truly appreciate by asking her a freebie either for an intimate date or a social date in a bar or restaurant. That said, I would never pay hundreds of dollars just to have a person to sit next to me during a show knowing full well that nothing will happen except maybe holding hands.

Thank you ladies for taking time to answer this question.

 

[philonius]

I'm a fairly new member of MERB and I just finished reading this long, very informative and addictive thread. Thank you Lena for starting it. Often in life, there is more to be learned about the person who is asking the question than about the answer itself!.

My first question for the lady's is as follows :

If a regular client that you appreciate and see for 2 hrs dates and 4 hrs dinnerdates regularly asked you if you would consider accompanying him to watch a movie or a show free of charge following one of your regular 4 hrs dinnerdate at regular price, how would you feel?

I'm asking because I respect what SW's do for society and for me in particular and would never want to offend a person I truly appreciate by asking her a freebie either for an intimate date or a social date in a bar or restaurant. That said, I would never pay hundreds of dollars just to have a person to sit next to me during a show knowing full well that nothing will happen except maybe holding hands.

Thank you ladies for taking time to answer this question.

I thought this has been answered here multiple times but maybe it’s in a different thread. Either way, they’ll chime in if they feel it’s necessary but the consensus is that most would not participate in free time outside of a booking. This is their business and asking them to offer their time out for free (even if it is just watching a movie) is disrespectful.

 

[LC18]

If a regular client that you appreciate and see for 2 hrs dates and 4 hrs dinnerdates regularly asked you if you would consider accompanying him to watch a movie or a show free of charge following one of your regular 4 hrs dinnerdate at regular price, how would you feel?

How would you feel if your boss asked you to come in on a Saturday but wouldn’t pay you? You’ve been working there for years so surely you would say yes, right?