Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

[Everyone]

When you see someone interacting on the boards (merb, terb, perb), do you assume they’re acting/talking the same in person?

Providers, no. Providers I've met and see on here are much cooler in person and their personality really shines in real life and on their public social media. We have to be careful about what we say here and I think some of us are more reserved on this platform and over text. I think that's my case.
Clients.. not sure hehe. I do think some clients probably put on an act to joke with other men, but I wouldn't see certain clients just based on what they post on here, specially about other providers. Of course, one on one interactions are always different no matter what!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

[Providers]
Somewhat related question: When you observe how clients present themselves and behave in sessions, do you assume that reflects how/who they are outside of sessions?

No, not necessarily. Clients also don't treat all providers the same way. I think in some contexts, clients treat SP's better than women in their real life. I think for other clients, it's the other way around.

 

[RockytheSnail]

It satisfies all of my needs:
Sex
Money
Talking
Joking around
Sending nudes
Being called a good girl


I don’t need a boyfriend with this job
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Haha thanks LC and Luna Good to know that you guys get similar emotional fulfillment from this as we do. Will have to work in more dinner dates and calling providers "good girls" more often in my future visits

 

[LC18]

[Providers]
Somewhat related question: When you observe how clients present themselves and behave in sessions, do you assume that reflects how/who they are outside of sessions?

It might be silly but I don’t think or should I say I don’t try to imagine them in the “real world”. It might be why I look so surprised when I meet them on the street.

“Oh you actually exist outside of my bedroom?”

I’m kidding but I’m serious about the “I don’t try to imagine them in the real world” part

 

[Rebaynia]

I always do CBJ, but I'm getting tempted to go with BBBJ or CIM if it's offered. I know it's a YMMV thing, but I just wanted to ask because it seems like a good space here.

SPs, have you ever had someone skeptical about going for it? Did they cite health reasons, or playing it safe for a potential partner?

I mainly do cbj. Cum/precum makes me ill. I have seen enough clients who try to convince to go bbbj, but I have my very strict criteria for it, and honestly it's a worse bj without condom as I don't want to taste his excitement.

Yes I have had the rare case where they tried reciting minimal health risks for why I should let them go without, I recite health as a reason it is a must, for my life partner, and all the other clients I see. This 1 person's desire for bbbj is not more important than protecting everyone I see.

 

[Rebaynia]

Escorts that retire and return to civilian life....

I used to be for 20 years I lived a civi life after being an escort at 18.

For those that settle into normal long term relationships, how do they go about their past life intersecting with their new life?

It didn't intersect.

From a % standpoint, how many keep their escort life secret from their relationship forever, how many eventually tell their partner after a commitment and hope it doesnt blow things up and how many dont even enter a committed relationship until they have their past life out in the open and its accepted?

I can't speak for others, but it was one of those things I mentioned before it becomeing a relationship, because there are some civi men who view it as dirty, and are harsh when they find out your past. It was easier to weed out these people before becoming attached, than to have someone you care about belittle you for the secorite coming out.
And it was a good thing I did tell them, because even after faithfully being with someone for years, if we ended up at a party where there were people who knew about my past, even if I was nothing like it any more, they would feel compelled to tell my partner about my history.
Too many people when they have it rough, and see you good, will try and ruin what you have, just Because it makes them feel better about themselves to tear you down. And this is something you don't want someone else to tell your partner, they will feel betrayed if they didn't already know.

How many retired escorts enter LTRs with former clients?

? I didn't. I met my partner who understood I needed to make a living after I quit my job from burnout, and he suggested other types of SW when I suggested I was more comfortable with escorting than say being a dancer. (It was a fantasy of his that his parter was in SW. And was something I had considered many times over the years, but didn't feel I could have a relationship ever again if I got back into it.) Now when my emotions are down he is my rock and keeps me built up. Reminding me that SW doesn't devalue me like people in my past had drilled into me. And turns him on to hear about my encounters. It's actually a requirement I was given for his ok with it, I must tell him about all my encounters.

 

[Rebaynia]

Do you think escorting should be completely legalized and regulated?

The main argument I hear against this is from women that say sex work is exploitative and no women do it of their own free will and that legalizing it will only help sex traffickers. I asked this on another forum and I got some pretty angry responses. I would like to hear your opinions on this.

If it were legalized and regulated it wouldn't be appealing. And many more people would be forced into it against their will. The way it is now, it is designed for the provider to be in charge of themselves, if it were legalized pimps and providers forced into this work would become the norm. It is something society wants to avoid.

 

[Rebaynia]

Indies.
Would you work with agencies again ? Or you prefer to be independent?

I would not work with an agency again. To me it is almost akin to having a pimp. They take so much off the top that you make much less than the client actually thinks, and the clientel there is, you get what you are given, and it can lead to some pretty bad expieriences.
Besides you have a boss; working for someone else, is being over worked, under appreciated, and under paid for the work you put in. To me an agency is exactly the same thing. You aren't a person, but an item for them to profit off of.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Indies.
Would you work with agencies again ? Or you prefer to be independent?

I never worked for an agency and never will!

 

[Rebaynia]

I think attractive people always have an advantage in everything be it job interviews, or service.
Of course later on they have to be able prove their capability but even then they are given more leeway to do so.
All they have to do is smile and they receive more attention, the person giving it is usually unaware they are giving preferential treatment.
It is just the way life is.
Same in escorting the really attractive ladies get booked more often and are more popular, they will always find clients even if their service is mediocre unfortunately, you just need to go to the reviews even after many negative reviews guys still think with their little brain.

Not necessarily... what is traditionally good looking, can also often be more entitled attitudes, narcissistic, and have little regard for the person serving them. Serving traditionally good looking people can also be draining because they are demanding, and someone who rides threw life on their looks, and has it easy, often has no reguard to others difficulties and struggles.
Personality matters so much more than looks when it comes to being able to give good service.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Not necessarily... what is traditionally good looking, can also often be more entitled attitudes, narcissistic, and have little regard for the person serving them. Serving traditionally good looking people can also be draining because they are demanding, and someone who rides threw life on their looks, and has it easy, often has no reguard to others difficulties and struggles.
Personality matters so much more than looks when it comes to being able to give good service.

Indeed, the conventionally good-looking guys who booked me have never been my best clients!

 

[Rebaynia]

Not sure this has been asked before on the thread but- to the providers out there what is it that you love the most about your job? Obv besides the $$$
Some women I've talked to say that they have a high sex drive and love the thrill of doing it with strangers, but is there any part of you that likes the other things like getting to know new people, dining out, etc? I've been with mostly agency and spa girls and they usually turn down my offers to take them out for (non sexual) social time even with offers to compensate- seem to me that they are more purely in this for the $ and not the sexual/social enjoyment. But could be wrong!

Are you a validation addict?

For me there is high sex drive, but if a visit is only sex, I don't enjoy it. I like feeling connected to people, and enjoy the validation from people that they enjoy time with me.
When I am not around others I am very introverted, and I enjoy the feeling of the extrovert who comes out of me when I am in the company of others. At home I am quiet and anti-social, so it is nice to be out and talk with people and get to know how others live and survive. I like finding out how other people think, as it has become apparent over the years my mind really doesn't work the same as everyone else. I tend to view the world how I imagine AI would learn to understand the world if it was made into a robot and set out to pretend to be a person. So I enjoy accumulating data from all places to get a better understanding of humanity and spirituality from other people.

 

[Rebaynia]

[Everyone]

When you see someone interacting on the boards (merb, terb, perb), do you assume they’re acting/talking the same in person?

I tend to think so. Who someone is under anonymity is often more their true self than someone who is face out and can be called on their actions. I think people are often presenting the sides of themselves they hide from others in their living life when they show these parts of themselves.
I just assume who someone is in person, is the character they pretend to be, to be accepted by those around them.

 

[OverIce]

Yes some. I feel like it's not a super relevant question to ask, tho. I don't give special favours to clients I think are cute.

Are there times where you give special favours? Apart from tip$?

 

[Fradi]

Not necessarily... what is traditionally good looking, can also often be more entitled attitudes, narcissistic, and have little regard for the person serving them. Serving traditionally good looking people can also be draining because they are demanding, and someone who rides threw life on their looks, and has it easy, often has no reguard to others difficulties and struggles.
Personality matters so much more than looks when it comes to being able to give good service.

I agree with what you are saying but that wasn’t my point.
Good looking people have an advantage everywhere, they get noticed, they get preferential treatment they have it easier in life.
Yes they are often ruin it completely by being entitled, have lousy attitudes and think they are owed to be served because of their looks.
Good looking people don’t necessarily have to have lousy attitudes. I have met some amazingly gorgeous young ladies who are down to earth total sweethearts and are a pleasure to be with anywhere you go with them.

 

[Fradi]

Indeed, the conventionally good-looking guys who booked me have never been my best clients!

Pretty sure you are getting booked because of your looks quite an advantage lol.
This was my point.
Repeats will obviously only happen if the attitude matches the looks.

 

[Rebaynia]

I agree with what you are saying but that wasn’t my point.
Good looking people have an advantage everywhere, they get noticed, they get preferential treatment they have it easier in life.
Yes they are often ruin it completely by being entitled, have lousy attitudes and think they are owed to be served because of their looks.
Good looking people don’t necessarily have to have lousy attitudes. I have met some amazingly gorgeous young ladies who are down to earth total sweethearts and are a pleasure to be with anywhere you go with them.

No stereotype, or generalization goes for everyone. It is why I don't make my point out to say "all" of them. It is very much a case by case situation. I have met some good looking sweeties too, but the majority of good looking clients I have seen had poor personalities. Not all of course, thankfully. And I can attest to someone with a poor personality does not get better service, in fact they get reduced service and I avoid rewarding bad behavior.
But my good looking sweeties get the same treatment that my non-traditionally attractive sweeties get. It is who they are, and how they treat me that will dictate how well a visit goes. Not how good they look. I have my man, I'm not looking to fill that void, and have lived long enough, and been threw enough crap in my life as an SP, and a civi woman, to tell you never judge a book by it's cover.
My master will let me call him sexy, because he is to me. But if I try to tell him he is handsome, he is to me, but he knows he isn't traditionally handsome, so will stop me and deny the compliment. (LoL, and yet I get in trouble when he tells me I am beautiful and I sneer at the compliment, but I digress.) And he gets better, and more of me than any client ever will, reguardless of looks.

 

[Fradi]

No stereotype, or generalization goes for everyone. It is why I don't make my point out to say "all" of them. It is very much a case by case situation. I have met some good looking sweeties too, but the majority of good looking clients I have seen had poor personalities. Not all of course, thankfully. And I can attest to someone with a poor personality does not get better service, in fact they get reduced service and I avoid rewarding bad behavior.
But my good looking sweeties get the same treatment that my non-traditionally attractive sweeties get. It is who they are, and how they treat me that will dictate how well a visit goes. Not how good they look. I have my man, I'm not looking to fill that void, and have lived long enough, and been threw enough crap in my life as an SP, and a civi woman, to tell you never judge a book by it's cover.
My master will let me call him sexy, because he is to me. But if I try to tell him he is handsome, he is to me, but he knows he isn't traditionally handsome, so will stop me and deny the compliment. (LoL, and yet I get in trouble when he tells me I am beautiful and I sneer at the compliment, but I digress.) And he gets better, and more of me than any client ever will, reguardless of looks.

This is not about attitudes and personalities, obviously someone with a bad attitude who is rude etc.. it will overshadow his looks.
My point is simply that good looking people have an advantage.
Pretty sure most escorts get booked for their looks and the most popular ones are the ones that are drop dead gorgeous and have a good personality.

It happens in job interviews as well men being men they will subconsciously always look preferentially on an attractive lady, unless of course he is married and hiring a personal assistant in those rare cases his life expectancy and survival instinct might overrule his little brain.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Are there times where you give special favours? Apart from tip$?

What do you even mean by special favours? lol

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Also, generalizations are pointless. I don't give a discount to attractive clients, I'm not the one booking them, they're booking me. Some clients I think are attractive have had a good attitude and are sweet, some think they can get away with certain things because they are attractive, and I'm not cool with that.

Yes, we know that clients book us for our looks. It's not news to anybody here.