Ask us anything part 3

[homeosgm]

At first it was for guidance and reviews, obviously. But it became a hobby in itself! There are so many different topics and different minds, it can be fascinating.

It's funny, I joined here long after having experience in the matter, and I've of course fallen for every trick in the book and met all kinds of characters.

I think I occasionally come here for reviews, more specifically for dodging scams when I'm feeling really horny and less security-minded (I sometimes still do it, god dang risk-taking lol). But it's nice to speak openly without hiding what is a big facet of my life.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I didn’t know what I was getting into, I went to a very famous Massage Place at the time, and I got screwed!

But what made you choose to go to the massage parlor in the first place? And why massage instead of an agency or indy?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

1. 5 years after my wife passed away I felt that I needed to see if it would still feel great to be with a woman so I looked through hundreds of web sights and photographs and kept going back to the same one all the time. It took me about 6 months before I finally contacted her. She has been my ATF ever since.
2. I don’t consider it a hobby sports and chess are a hobby. The 2 ladies I see most often have become friends and I enjoy their company. Sex I consider to be an essential part to keep a man healthy both physically and mentally.
3. I am retired, my children work during the day and grandchildren are in daycare and school so I have a lot of time on my hands. It is just a form of entertainment, I can take it or leave it. I don’t take it seriously. Reviews don’t really interest me much I am quite capable to do my own research and I can always ask the 2 ladies I see to recommend one of their friends if I want a bit of variety or something different.

I like these answers!

1- Wanting a foot job really badly, but the girlfriend at the time not really being good at giving them. It's hard to say if all men, or even most men have seen them, it's not really something I would mention to my friends. But there are those who openly mention, discuss it and hire together, so... I'm sure some haven't.

2- For me it's not a hobby, it's literally a sexual addiction -- same as how I flirt and go out to meet women. With escorts, though, I can essentially decide on the activity and the escort decides on the price. It's less fun than chasing, going out, having one night stands or hook ups through dating and all, but I like explaining what I'm into and getting that rather than romantically, organically building up to it.

I'd simply say I can be more honest with escorts because the fear of rejection isn't as important, it's essentially a business deal that is either accepted by both parties, or null and void. With seduction and all that, it's significantly more time consuming to "open up". For me, at least. Some people are probably much more straightforward, but my interests are far more kinky overall, but I still prefer seduction vs. the BDSM crew.

3- Since I don't talk about this to anyone, it's nice to see people who understand a part of my world that will probably stay forever hidden to my family and friends, etc... Obviously plenty of guys hire escorts and are aware of this world, but I've been doing it a long time, probably addicted at this point.

All of this makes a lot of sense.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

But what made you choose to go to the massage parlor in the first place? And why massage instead of an agency or indy?

I wasn’t looking to get laid, so escorts agencies and/or indies were absolutely not on my radar. I was just curious to experiment with erotic massage, so I started with a well known independent masseuse, she was incredible and I saw her a few times, no fs or bj or anything like that.

One day, while chatting, she mentioned this massage parlor, saying that I might like it. Worth mentioning is also the fact that she was retiring soon.

 

[homeosgm]

I wasn’t looking to get laid, so escorts agencies and/or indies were absolutely not on my radar. I was just curious to experiment with erotic massage, so I started with a well known independent masseuse, she was incredible and I saw her a few times, no fs or bj or anything like that.

One day, while chatting, she mentioned this massage parlor, saying that I might like it. Worth mentioning is also the fact that she was retiring soon.

LOL I went to a massage parlor in the middle of night in St Henri around 2010 when I was totally fiending and pretty inexperienced.

The poor lady was like, tapping me to turn me over, but I was unsure about the protocol, so I didn't turn over or anything. It was basically just a normal massage at 3 AM.

 

[Johnny test]

Okay here are a few questions for clients.

1- What made you decide to take the plunge and see a SP for the first time? Some friends of mine think all men have seen a SP once in their lives at least, but I'm not sure how true that is.
2- Why do you consider seeing escorts a hobby? What makes it comparable to other hobbies of yours? It's something I've always wondered since I joined the industry
3- What makes you enjoy participating in this forum aside from reading reviews?

1.Novelty first i would said, i don't think humans are supposed to be monogamous. Probably the whole "things i don't do at home" part, so some kinky stuff, BDSM mostly. Exploring new stuff too, some of my best experiences were with transexuals for example, threesome etc. If i were to introspect i would probably say there are more intimate reasons but that's something i would share in a session not on a forum.
2.It's not a hobby, collecting stamps is a hobby. There are many different reasons to use the term, i would guess. i am at peace with what i do and don't feel the need to hide behind another word. I also dislike acronyms but that's another topic entirely
3.I've always loved forums more than social networks, i guess sharing experiences and opinions can be fun. I also appreciate having SW like yourself sharing stuff here, it's less impersonal

 

[themonk83]

Okay here are a few questions for clients.

1- What made you decide to take the plunge and see a SP for the first time? Some friends of mine think all men have seen a SP once in their lives at least, but I'm not sure how true that is.
2- Why do you consider seeing escorts a hobby? What makes it comparable to other hobbies of yours? It's something I've always wondered since I joined the industry
3- What makes you enjoy participating in this forum aside from reading reviews?

1. Let's see. I went to massage parlors during the 2007 recession. Was intrigued at first then it became regularly for like 2 years. I then stopped for many years. Once I turned 30, wanted to treat myself and explore further so went to see a SP through the Indy companion website. Couple years later I stopped only to go back to a MP exclusively (through Indy). And now, back to seeing SPs

2. I don't consider this a hobby. Don't like the word. I see it as companionship. Spending some time with someone and sharing an activity that I wouldn't be able in my personal life. Also, this kind of fits my vibe as in I have a hard time planning something with friends and seeing it through cause I don't feel like going meanwhile with SP, I can plan a whole evening weeks or months in advance and will be happy to go lol

3. Back in my MP days, it was to read and share and attend some events. Met some interesting folks and SPs that I later saw. A lot of them did retire so yeah. Still some familiar faces from like 10 years ago. Anyway. Tbh, I left this site many years ago, I don't know why I am even back. The vibe is definitely better than before. I also use the ignore function which is something I didn't previously. Probably because I don't have the patience anymore

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's honestly refreshing to read that many of you don't view this as a hobby. I find the term a bit dehumanizing but I also understand it's part of the lingo here

 

[Johnny test]

It's honestly refreshing to read that many of you don't view this as a hobby. I find the term a bit dehumanizing but I also understand it's part of the lingo here

First time i got here and saw the term hobby, i thought i was at the wrong place

 

[Giselle Montreal]

First time i got here and saw the term hobby, i thought i was at the wrong place

And when they "retire" from the "hobby"—icing on the cake.

 

[Johnny test]

And when they "retire" from the "hobby"—icing on the cake.

When "they retire" is when they start a real hobby like stamp collection right ?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

When "they retire" is when they start a real hobby like stamp collection right ?

They should do something creative or volunteer

 

[nicknickolas]

Okay here are a few questions for clients.

1- What made you decide to take the plunge and see a SP for the first time? Some friends of mine think all men have seen a SP once in their lives at least, but I'm not sure how true that is.
2- Why do you consider seeing escorts a hobby? What makes it comparable to other hobbies of yours? It's something I've always wondered since I joined the industry
3- What makes you enjoy participating in this forum aside from reading reviews?

Question 2
Its not a hobby, its a chase,theres something about meeting a stranger for a intimate encounter , and then just leaving that makes it addictive. And you want to repeat ,your looking for your unicorn. the one perfect women. Lets face it men can approach 30 women in a club and might get rejected 30 times. But sometimes,just sometimes, a sp or mp will make you feel good,special,sexy even when your at your lowest.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Question 2
Its not a hobby, its a chase,theres something about meeting a stranger for a intimate encounter , and then just leaving that makes it addictive. And you want to repeat ,your looking for your unicorn. the one perfect women. Lets face it men can approach 30 women in a club and might get rejected 30 times. But sometimes,just sometimes, a sp or mp will make you feel good,special,sexy even when your at your lowest.

That's different. I don't think there's a perfect woman or that women should be "perfect" but I get your point that a sp is there to make you feel welcome and appreciated.

 

[urquell]

Okay here are a few questions for clients.

1- What made you decide to take the plunge and see a SP for the first time? Some friends of mine think all men have seen a SP once in their lives at least, but I'm not sure how true that is.
2- Why do you consider seeing escorts a hobby? What makes it comparable to other hobbies of yours? It's something I've always wondered since I joined the industry
3- What makes you enjoy participating in this forum aside from reading reviews?

1- The first time I saw an SP it was actually an SW. I lived close to a working section, was drunk enough to overcome my terror of approaching a girl, and horny. I was very young and inexperienced and while it was fun in retrospect I know that I got screwed in a variety of ways which weren't all sexual and I've continued learning ever since.
2 - I've never considered it to be a hobby. I still find calling it a hobby weird, and generally don't use the term myself. Almost all of my experience has been in calling it mongering rather than hobbying, and I still think that's a better term, if less PC. It's what the entire international community calls it, generally speaking, and that's what I gravitate towards, so maybe it's habit, but I 've never really adapted to local usage. Since I've never considered it a "hobby" then I don't equate it with other hobbies. Honestly I just look at it as human relationships that involve sex, with some people that I've seen and immediately forgotten, and with some that I've maintained long term friendships or more with. It's in some aspects at a personal level a reflection of "normal" life. i just like people that I like. I really don't care what kind of work they do.
3 - This forum is extremely limited, so I participate less in it than I do in other ones that offer more and with less stringent over-moderation. The scope of discussion is less, and the volume of information is less, so the main drivers are less as well. Having said that, there's some very nice people here and I enjoy talking to them. I come mostly for the reviews, but I limit the reviews I make to MPS and not to SPs for site specific reasons. There's a certain flavour to Quebec though, and I do enjoy how that filters out through the site. I think this is coming off sounding more negative than I mean it to be, and I'll probably come back to edit it later once I've gotten past cocktail-brain. lol

 

[Nachoy]

But what made you choose to go to the massage parlor in the first place? And why massage instead of an agency or indy?

First time. I don’t think I was brave enough to be alone in condo suite/hotel room with someone I don’t know.
MP were easier options for the spur of the moment feeling
Being young and naive and inexperienced my buddy brought me to a MP to ease me into this “hobby” We went together and we saw separate SPs during our time there and compare our experiences afterwards
I was still extremely nervous for my first time.
In those days there was no Indy or agency reviews.

 

[homeosgm]

My questions for SPs are ->

1. Did you know how big this industry was before getting into it?
2. Did you ever think you would get into this business before you got into it?
3. Was there someone who introduced you to it, or did you find it on your own?


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I just remembered how I got into this, actually, by total accident.

I was addicted to porn (still am, damn it, lol) and was starting to get turned on by the concept of "reality" in my sexual fantasies, and I remembered that a certain porn actress from Poland did meet ups there in Warsaw to film videos. Anyway, this got me thinking that I should look into porn actresses in Montreal and contact them so that I could have like a more desired / selected experience rather than take my chances at a bar or party.

At any rate, I somehow found Craigslist Massage Therapy (or whatever it was called) and the rest is history. Was using quarters and calling apps and all that.

I was completely clueless to how much escorting content and how many ad sites there were online. I've seen so many of them come and go since then. Same with service providers. Some of their ads and faces are embedded into my consciousness.

 

[themonk83]

Don't know if it was asked.

What do you think of clients following you on social media and do you expect them to send gifts and tips to interact with or just having the privilege to follow you?

 

[T'storm]

On the topic of "Hobby", it could be called this if you participate once or twice a year. But if you participate everyday, week, months or often then we should call it a "Lifestyle" because that's what it is.
Someone who plants a garden that's a hobby. I used to ride my Harley every weekend and take it to Florida every spring, that was a lifestyle, now I only take it out 7-8 times a season, so it became a hobby.
Just saying...

 

[LC18]

Don't know if it was asked.

What do you think of clients following you on social media and do you expect them to send gifts and tips to interact with or just having the privilege to follow you?

I’m happy they follow me on my professional social media because they’ll fall in love with me. Just kidding! I mean good for them they get to see my selfies almost everyday. When I’m home and watching tv, I reply to every single tweets under my photos. I don’t expect gifts for that.

I do share my wishlist from time to time but rarely directly ask for anything.