Same reason you choose to create threads about asking client’s preferences
You can easily ask them in person but you choose to ask here
Get different opinions and I’m sure it’s help you understand your clients better
Why you denied my curiosity?
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You can easily ask them in person but you choose to ask here
Get different opinions and I’m sure it’s help you understand your clients better
Why you denied my curiosity?
Do you ever actually meet SPs?
Every SP has different boundaries and preferences. SP is also really a general term. What you experience at a MP vs with an indy or someone who works for an agency won't be the same. The SP's who contribute to discussions like the one we're having now in this forum are indies. And we all offer very different services.
It's actually not the same because often clients don't say their desires and preferences and come complain here about how we didn't fulfill their expectations. For example 2 clients complained that I didn't DT them on 2 different review boards, but they never asked for it, before or during the appointment, and it's not something I ever said I offered. (not that I never do it, cause I do) I ask questions to clients out of curiosity but I know their answers will always vary anyways, just like ours. We're the ones providing the service. Your questions are just very very specific and that one is graphic. I'd never ask ''how do you like to cum with SP's'' here.
I ask very general questions that can help my peers and myself.
Have you ever seen me ask clients if they prefer to cum in someone’s a** or in their kitty? That’s very specific and should only be asked to your date.
Merb is full of threads of graphic details of how guys like to cum
But it’s usually guys to like to boast graphic details to other guys
I was looking for responses from the other side like
“I don’t like when guy cums on my face cause it might mess my hair or makeup or it gets my eye ” so it helps me and my peers when they want it but not sure how to approach that subject
Some guys are to shy to ask straight up when meeting.
My last reply because I hate derailing.
So you really don’t see the difference.
They are self posting, they are sharing their own opinion and preferences. You are asking very detailed and graphic questions.
Of course I’m going to assume that you’re asking to jerk off at night…
Probably me but I'm seeing warning signs of predatory behavior and have to say, it is off putting
Sorry, didn't want to derail
Sorry, didn't want to derail
Honestly I think this is manipulative LOL a lot of SP's wouldn't allow a guy to cum on their face. And you already answered your own question. Some SP's indeed do not want cum on their face and hair because it will mess up their makeup. You're shooting yourself in the foot.
We agreed not to talk about last night... boundaries, boundaries....
There’s ad of a SP that allows it but has to be the last client of the day. I suppose that is when the make up and hair and cum can be washed off.
His/her argument is not wrong in that it doesn't violate any rules and considering the graphic details people share, not anything new either.
The spirit in which the questions are asked can be off putting to some. Although I suspect you're asking these things tongue and cheek, and in a humoristic intent.
Not sure how any answers here would actually benefit you. Everyone is different.
Sounds like you need to over come your fears. Your question would be best served with the actual person you're meeting.
Use your brain. You've already answered your own question. Also some SP's don't allow COF at all. Some don't like it.
It doesn't violate rules and yes people share graphic details but the vast majority of SP's aren't huge fans of having graphic details shared in reviews. I don't totally understand who these answers are benefiting either. A lot of clients who interact in these threads don't even book indy's. I would say that personally I prefer it when somebody asks if I am okay with something during the booking process. It's also generally not that hard to decypher what a specific SP's style is, and what they allow and don't allow, that's why we have acronyms like GFE and PSE.
I’m not asking for any graphic details and It doesn’t get me off
Looking for a response like “I prefer nothing anal” and leave it that.
Will you lose clients ? Maybe. But maybe you gain clients who respect your boundaries and prefer to stay safe sexually with a SP who is on the same page as them
Looking for a response like “I prefer nothing anal” and leave it that.
Will you lose clients ? Maybe. But maybe you gain clients who respect your boundaries and prefer to stay safe sexually with a SP who is on the same page as them
Dude clients already know our boundaries, they are stated in our ads, and they are allowed to ask us. Also, it's just the way you ask questions and how you formulate them that is rubbing people the wrong way. Your question wasn't : ''do some SP's not allow x for y reason'' it was ''where do you prefer your client to cum''.
Me: I don't do anal. I allow cof and cob and cim. Do I have a preference? No. Will stating this here get me clients? Maybe, but it's already in my ad, and people already ask during the booking process. Also, no matter how often I say that I don't do anal, I still get asked for it by guys who found me on this forum. And even if I offer cof, cob and cim, believe it or not, people rarely ask for it, or it isn't why people booked me to begin with.
I fully agree with you and it is outright shocking. In my opinion we are witnessing not only predatory behavior in prose but even more disturbingly what our ladies face more often than enough in their everyday encounters and screening.
By the way a sign of predatory behavior is ALWAYS having an argument or response for EVERYTHING and not realizing the path we are on.
As a SP (and as a woman over the age of 25 years old) I'm well aware of predatory behavior and manipulation tactics and they are shared as ''secrets'' as if we aren't aware of them. Having my intelligence insulted on a regular basis gets old but at least I know I'm not stupid and anyone who thinks I am lacks insight in my opinion.
The same thing applies to most SP's, because you constantly have to outsmart people and reinvent yourself in this industry.Similar threads
