Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

Do you feel any difference in the level of sexual excitement with new client versus regular returning client ?

I like repeat clients more than new ones. I tend to make it harder for new people to see me than people I have already met, and know I like my time with them.
I'm not as excited with new people ad nervous this will be an unpleasant experience, and thankfully am often pleaded and look forward to seeing them again.

 

[Rebaynia]

Hypothetically. If you had a discrete relationship with a regular client and client’s SO found out and confronted you. How would you handle this ?

Not my problem.
My SO knows what I am up to. Not my business if he is cheating on his SO. It is a job. I didn't go out seaking her partner, her partner was looking around and chose to spend time with me. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. It isn't free.
But that is where there is a line drawn. The relationships I have with those I see, will end if they bring drama to me. I have no time for it, and have better things to spend my energy on. For me this is a profession as much as relationship,

 

[Messigoat22]

What does pre-booking means? I see a lot of girls in Ottawa, Toronto asking for deposit when pre-booking. What if I want to book in the next 2 hours does it mean I’m pre-booking?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Not my problem.
My SO knows what I am up to. Not my business if he is cheating on his SO. It is a job. I didn't go out seaking her partner, her partner was looking around and chose to spend time with me. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else. It isn't free.
But that is where there is a line drawn. The relationships I have with those I see, will end if they bring drama to me. I have no time for it, and have better things to spend my energy on. For me this is a profession as much as relationship,

I was wondering if Nachoy meant agreeing on a financial arrangement after entering a borderline romantic type relationship with a client, and not just your average client provider relationship..

If he meant how will I react if someone's SO found out he is seeing me as a SP.. Obviously this would be upsetting. This may sound surprising but a lot of my clients are single, or don't disclose their relationship status to me. I've also had a lot of clients tell me that their wives or girlfriends are aware of what they are doing, and they have an agreement. (for example I've had 2 or 3 clients whose wives were asexual, and some are in open relationships)

However, I agree that it's not my problem. This is my profession, and discretion is extremely important. I would not respond if a client's SO reached out to me, but I would definitely not see this client anymore because it's risky for my safety at that point if an angry wife or girlfriend figures out her partner has been seeing me. The only time this happened was when someone's girlfriend reached out to me via his phone. I guess it could have been him pretending to be her, but why are you seeing SP's and giving your gf access to your phone???

It's complicated because I'm a monogamous person in my personal life, and I would not love finding out my SO saw a SP. It wouldn't be as bad as finding out they are having an affair or a one night stand with someone they have a crush on to me, because as a SP I understand that the dynamic is different. But as a companion I have to be non judgemental. There are reasons why certain married men seek services from SP's and I am not here to criticize.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

What does pre-booking means? I see a lot of girls in Ottawa, Toronto asking for deposit when pre-booking. What if I want to book in the next 2 hours does it mean I’m pre-booking?

Pre-booking I believe means booking ahead of time instead of last minute or same day. I think some SP's ask for deposits for pre-bookings specifically because so many clients end up cancelling. Thankfully this hasn't happened to me in a while, but sometimes it can be frustrating.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

What does pre-booking means? I see a lot of girls in Ottawa, Toronto asking for deposit when pre-booking. What if I want to book in the next 2 hours does it mean I’m pre-booking?

Prebooking is booking ~24 hours ahead of time, or more. Otherwise, it is same-day or last minute as Luna said, where the provider you wish to see is less likely to be available. They might still require a deposit for a same-day or last-minute booking, since it usually covers the location or the transportation, in case you bail 2h later.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

They might still require a deposit for a same-day or last-minute booking,

Some providers even ask extras for same day appointments! Personally I find it ridiculous, you are available or you are not. Getting ready for a meeting is both our responsibility lol.

 

[Fradi]

Some providers even ask extras for same day appointments! Personally I find it ridiculous, you are available or you are not. Getting ready for a meeting is both our responsibility lol.

I think they will be more than willing to wave that during the slow winter months.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Some providers even ask extras for same day appointments! Personally I find it ridiculous, you are available or you are not. Getting ready for a meeting is both our responsibility lol.

I don't ask for deposits for many reasons, but same day or last minute appointments can be stressful. It's a lot easier for indy's to be pre-booked because we can arrange our schedules accordingly. I take same day appointments, but it causes an extra layer of anxiety if I don't already know the client because suddenly my plans have to change to accommodate the client. That's not too hard to understand. If it's both our responsibility why not pre-book instead? I'm okay with people asking me for a last minute date but it's really rare that I'm able to see someone an hour after they texted me. I understand why some indy's ask for extras.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think they will be more than willing to wave that during the slow winter months.

I personally decided to allow 30 min and 45 min pre-bookings, which is something I didn't do in the past.. So yes, some will probably be more willing to accommodate clients in different ways during slower months, but I wouldn't count on everyone changing their policies. Last winter I had no problem finding clients, even if yes it was a bit slower.

 

[Skym]

Do you like coffee & donuts?

If yes, where do you go for coffee & donuts?

 

[themonk83]

I don't think it was mentioned but same day booking for indies can be problematic if they share an incall as it may be booked and they only have access to one so they can't turn around and reserve the incall. Some may have access to a 2nd location but that location may be pricier. For outcall, that doesn't pose a problem

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I don't think it was mentioned but same day booking for indies can be problematic if they share an incall as it may be booked and they only have access to one so they can't turn around and reserve the incall. Some may have access to a 2nd location but that location may be pricier. For outcall, that doesn't pose a problem

That's a big part of why it can be complicated. And for those of us who receive from home, a same day booking involves preparation and extra carefulness if we are meeting up with a new client. Outcalls require much less preparation, but it's still a change of schedule, going to a different part of town, etc.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I understand why some indy's ask for extras.

Good for you, but I don’t. Like I said, you are rather available or you are not. Keep it simple.

If it's both our responsibility why not pre-book instead?

Because I don’t know in advance if I will feel like seeing an escort. I don’t plan my desire. And so far, I am able to get satisfied without causing anxiety to anyone.

You always bring the anxiety issue in almost every situation, so my question is: why doing this kind of work if it brings you so much negative energy?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Good for you, but I don’t. Like I said, you are rather available or you are not. Keep it simple.


Because I don’t know in advance if I will feel like seeing an escort. I don’t plan my desire. And so far, I am able to get satisfied without causing anxiety to anyone.

You always bring the anxiety issue in almost every situation, so my question is: why doing this kind of work if it brings you so much negative energy?

I don't have negative energy. I'm just trying to explain to clients sometimes why this job can be stressful. It's not just me. There are many things I love about this work, I'm just trying to explain something from our perspective. I understand that you don't know in advance and that's totally fine. I'm not accusing you of causing anxiety, either. I'm just saying that it can be more complicated to receive someone at the last minute, that's all. But I do feel grateful when I have an appointment I wasn't expecting, particularly if it's a client I've already seen and get along with

Often when I'm trying to show what's happening on our side I'm defending other people. Like I said, I don't ask for deposits or extra cash for last minute appointments. I'm explaining why some SP's may be doing this. I see how it can be frustrating for some of you tho.

 

[Workingman]

I struggle with all kinds of making plans due to my schedule and being extremely exhausted when I'm free. Advanced booking is difficult for me cause work stuff always comes up, or when the time comes I feel like I wanna just climb in bed and nap and not feeling it.

Going places that are walk in or short notice SPs are often not good at all.

There are some SPs that only do short notice and pop up randomly asking for less than an hour notice. If you wanted to meet up with one of them specifically you'd need to watch for thier ads to pop up and jump on it.

There's no point complaining about what the SPs choice is, you have to respect thier individual process. There is a massive grey area in how things are done with booking and pricing.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

What I’m saying is, I do, most of the time, book same day appointments. I am not talking about texting a random provider, I mostly see regulars. Also, I am talking about planning a meeting hours ahead, not minutes. Most of the time it will go like texting in the morning to get to see her late afternoon or early evening.

I also can do 24 hours advance booking, especially with some specifically busy girls that I know very well. Beyond 24 hours? I’ve done it a few times and it wasn’t ideal. Won’t do it again.

 

[Workingman]

What I’m saying is, I do, most of the time, book same day appointments. I am not talking about texting a random provider, I mostly see regulars. Also, I am talking about planning a meeting hours ahead, not minutes. Most of the time it will go like texting in the morning to get to see her late afternoon or early evening.

I also can do 24 hours advance booking, especially with some specifically busy girls that I know very well. Beyond 24 hours? I’ve done it a few times and it wasn’t ideal. Won’t do it again.

The conversation wasn't geared towards seeing regulars. Obviously with a regular communication is going to be far less formal and you already know times that generally work and what is going to be acceptable.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

The conversation wasn't geared towards seeing regulars.

It was about pre-booking, I didn’t see any specific mention about being with a regular or not. When I see an escort mentioning on her website that same day appointment comes with a $100 over charge I don’t assume anything else but what I read.

 

[Fradi]

Because I don’t know in advance if I will feel like seeing an escort. I don’t plan my desire. And so far, I am able to get satisfied without causing anxiety to anyone.

I think it is called the spontaneous horniness tax and most guys will pay it, the little brain most often gets what it wants when it wants it bad enough.