Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

I’m not assuming. That what I was told by a few SPs, that the clients that see them are mostly older and attached
Sure there are young dudes too and unmarried but I don’t think that’s the majority

A lot of men nowadays are in their 30's and 40's and unmarried and not in a relationship.. Also a lot of men in their 40's and 50's and 60's are divorced. I think it's a cliche that only older married men hire sex workers.. No, I don't prefer older married men. If I wasn't a sex worker, I would be having sex with very few people, and the people I would date would definitely NOT be older married men.

We don't choose our clientele even if we create our branding to attract a certain type of person, meaning it's not our decision to be picked by married guys. A lot of men choose us because of our body type, or because we are the type of girl they would like to date for real. At least that's what I am usually told by my clients.. Obviously most clients are over 30 for financial reasons but I don't consider 30-40 year old men ''older gentlemen''...

And I'm not saying that because I judge married men for hiring sex workers or because I don't find older men attractive.. It's not my place to judge. But due to my branding and the way I present myself I mostly attract very similar types of men as I do in my personal life.. nerdy or artsy men, and bisexual men lol usually the much older men, and the guys who are in a relationship pick me more because of my rates, services and body type, and it's a completely different type of dynamic.

Some colleagues have told me they prefer seeing married men because they are less demanding emotionally and there's less talking, it's less work for them. Personally I like the relational aspect of being a SP and I like conversations..

 

[Rebaynia]

If exchange of money wasn't an option, who would be your prefer demographic population to engage in sex with
Would it still be with attached older gentlemen?

Hmmm, if I stop to think about it, would the demographic change? Not likely. I only accept the visits I agree to having. It isn't a guarantee just because someone reaches out, that i get to see them.

I have my comparison to go by though.
In 'exchange of money', his pleasure matters more than before I was compensated.

In my single days, when I wasn't an SP, , dudes job being invited into my bed was, make it worth my while. If his goal wasn't my pleasure above his own, he was easily ghosted and never reinvited back.

And for those who did a good job, they were issued a day of the week they could expect me to reserve for them. My guys all knew I had other guys, some even got excited about hearing what I did, with say the one from yesterday, or earlier on in the week. They knew their place was to be used as my toy to get off, otherwise they wouldn't be there.

There is a reason I fantasized this kind of relationship I am in now. I just needed to find the relationship, before I could enjoy being the taboo who got paid for it. (I needed the relationship more than the sex, but also feared if I was charging for the sex I needed, I would never find the relationship willing to be part of that. In my twisted brain, there is romance in waiting for things to align, and if we never found eachother, I never would have let him or anyone know, it was something I was ashamed to desire.)

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Hmmm, if I stop to think about it, would the demographic change? Not likely. I only accept the visits I agree to having. It isn't a guarantee just because someone reaches out, that i get to see them.

I have my comparison to go by though.
In 'exchange of money', his pleasure matters more than before I was compensated.

In my single days, when I wasn't an SP, , dudes job being invited into my bed was, make it worth my while. If his goal wasn't my pleasure above his own, he was easily ghosted and never reinvited back.

And for those who did a good job, they were issued a day of the week they could expect me to reserve for them. My guys all knew I had other guys, some even got excited about hearing what I did, with say the one from yesterday, or earlier on in the week. They knew their place was to be used as my toy to get off, otherwise they wouldn't be there.

There is a reason I fantasized this kind of relationship I am in now. I just needed to find the relationship, before I could enjoy being the taboo who got paid for it. (I needed the relationship more than the sex, but also feared if I was charging for the sex I needed, I would never find the relationship willing to be part of that. In my twisted brain, there is romance in waiting for things to align, and if we never found eachother, I never would have let him or anyone know, it was something I was ashamed to desire.)

I don't accept seeing all the clients who reach out. They have to be polite, follow requirements and respect my boundaries. But I'm here to provide a service.. If I refused to see a client just because he's not my type or we have nothing in common, that wouldn't be professional of me, and I'd have a lot less business. Sometimes clients do happen to be my type or to be people I have a lot in common with and a connection, tho! And the more I work on my branding, the more I attract the right people.. I'm also the kind of person to find something wonderful and beautiful about everyone I meet. (as long as they are not an asshole)

But yeah, in my personal life, I'm not someone who likes to have many different lovers. So if you're my client, you are lucky I'm in this industry and you get to know this side of my personality I'm a very private person and I'm not someone who is ''easily accessible'' outside of this.

 

[LeDodo]

Why do you assume that clients are all ''older gentlemen''? There are literally 21 year olds reaching out to book me. I saw a 26 year old guy yesterday. By ''exchange of money'' you mean it's our job.
Also, most of my clients are not married or in a relationship.

Asking for a "friend" question

 

[DouMan]

... and I'm not someone who is ''easily accessible'' outside of this.

This is a very interesting point and surprisingly seems to be quite common, at least for those that I have come to know more on a personal side over the years. In the beginning, as many dudes, the impression was that sexual availability was omnipresent with libido always in the roof and cloths easily optional. In reality it seems often to be the total opposite. The faster we get to understand this the better it allows us guys to better comprehend, enjoy and respect sex-WORK. We too often focus on the image and tend to forget the woman.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Asking for a "friend" question

I mean to be fair a lot of women in their 20's and 30's prefer older men, but I don't think it's something that is particular to providers, and I doubt most girls join the industry because they want to date & have sex with older men.. We're also not a monolith. That is also not my case. SW made me appreciate older men more and find them attractive tho. There are some hot 60 year olds out there.

This is a very interesting point and surprisingly seems to be quite common, at least for those that I have come to know more on a personal side over the years. In the beginning, as many dudes, the impression was that sexual availability was omnipresent with libido always in the roof and cloths easily optional. In reality it seems often to be the total opposite. The faster we get to understand this the better it allows us guys to better comprehend, enjoy and respect sex-WORK. We too often focus on the image and tend to forget the woman.

There are definitely sex workers who love sex with a wide variety of people, and that's really cool they can explore their sexuality that way. But yeah, what I have to offer is not a wild porn star experience, even if I'm pretty confident that most of my lovers leave very satisfied I just feel like sometimes expectations and stereotypes put us in a weird position.. We are supposed to be genuine and offer an experience that doesn't ''feel transactional'', but we are also supposed to conform to a certain image and offer everyone the same service..

 

[Skym]

How do you like your eggs cooked in the morning?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Question for clients : i try to avoid it, but sometimes I look at the review section, and I often see negative comments about provider's body types.. why would someone go see an escort whose physical attributes are clearly described and shown on her ads, only to complain about it in a review? this leaves me a bit puzzled.

 

[LC18]

Question for clients : i try to avoid it, but sometimes I look at the review section, and I often see negative comments about provider's body types.. why would someone go see an escort whose physical attributes are clearly described and shown on her ads, only to complain about it in a review? this leaves me a bit puzzled.

It could be that the person doesn’t look like their photos or that the clients have a hard time understanding how bra sizes and dress sizes work

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It could be that the person doesn’t look like their photos or that the clients have a hard time understanding how bra sizes and dress sizes work

Well, I'm specifically thinking about reviews in which the provider looks like her photos.. Like for instance if someone is not curvy and doesn't have big boobs or a big butt, that's pretty easy to see. Why complain about it in a review?

 

[LC18]

Well, I'm specifically thinking about reviews in which the provider looks like her photos.. Like for instance if someone is not curvy and doesn't have big boobs or a big butt, that's pretty easy to see. Why complain about it in a review?

Then the second part would apply. My duo partner and I are both a B cup but men have a hard time believing us because our bodies are different. I’m thinking a man could say that a provider is lying about her cup size simply because he doesn’t know how it works. Same goes for other details

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Then the second part would apply. My duo partner and I are both a B cup but men have a hard time believing us because our bodies are different. I’m thinking a man could say that a provider is lying about her cup size simply because he doesn’t know how it works. Same goes for other details

That makes sense.. But in many cases I just feel like there's no excuse. I know what you mean tho.

 

[LeDodo]

Well, I'm specifically thinking about reviews in which the provider looks like her photos.. Like for instance if someone is not curvy and doesn't have big boobs or a big butt, that's pretty easy to see. Why complain about it in a review?

I guess that's the difference between seeing in 2d (pictures) and 3d (in person). Shared pictures are supposed to be flattering. Then you have that "picture" in mind and have high hope/expectation when meeting.
Or maybe just simply an encounter that didn't went well and just giving a bad review ...

 

[Michelle Gunn]

If exchange of money wasn't an option, who would be your prefer demographic population to engage in sex with
Would it still be with attached older gentlemen?

In fact, "attached older gentlemen" would describe a large percentage of who I was having sex with before I jumped into being an SP... but also their wives/girlfriends.
I think my definition of "older gentlemen" has also changed by a decade or more lol

 

[Alucard87]

Sooooo....I'm new to the scene. Only have been with one SP and for now I want to be her regular and that's it. BUT... I've seen some tempting ads for girls at various massage parlors. I'm really into DATY and DATO or whatever it's called....pussy and ass eating. My question is, if I'm not the first of her shift, is it certain the girl washed herself since the last guy? I do NOT want to eat left over condoms or worse. What's common practice?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Sooooo....I'm new to the scene. Only have been with one SP and for now I want to be her regular and that's it. BUT... I've seen some tempting ads for girls at various massage parlors. I'm really into DATY and DATO or whatever it's called....pussy and ass eating. My question is, if I'm not the first of her shift, is it certain the girl washed herself since the last guy? I do NOT want to eat left over condoms or worse. What's common practice?

At massage parlours you can't be sure that girls will offer these services first of all. You might be really disappointed if you assume this. A lot of girls I worked with at MP didn't offer these, and for me I charged extra because sometimes I had a high volume of clients..

Yes it's common practice to take showers between clients or several times during the day.. but obviously sometimes girls are rushed between clients. Reality is at MP sometimes providers see several clients in a row, unlike a lot of indies.

 

[Alucard87]

At massage parlours you can't be sure that girls will offer these services first of all. You might be really disappointed if you assume this. A lot of girls I worked with at MP didn't offer these, and for me I charged extra because sometimes I had a high volume of clients..

Yes it's common practice to take showers between clients or several times during the day.. but obviously sometimes girls are rushed between clients. Reality is at MP sometimes providers see several clients in a row, unlike a lot of indies.

True that not all providers offer it.

Think I'll stick to indies all the same when and if I branch out. Even though they too may have more than one client in a row, I'm just more comfortable with what I've experienced so far. But....

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I guess that's the difference between seeing in 2d (pictures) and 3d (in person). Shared pictures are supposed to be flattering. Then you have that "picture" in mind and have high hope/expectation when meeting.
Or maybe just simply an encounter that didn't went well and just giving a bad review ...

Yes but that's still not what I'm talking about. If someone has small breasts that's usually clear on photos so why complain about it in reviews? I see such comments as "you can see in photos, she has x body type, 0/10" ...

Why did he go see her if he doesn't like her body type? If you don't like older women why did you see someone who says she's 45 in her ad and complain "she looks her age"?

That's what my question is about. If a SP isn't your type there's no point in seeing her, unless you're ready to have an open mind.

I also think it's weird that if a booking didn't go well due to various factors the reviewer would go out of his way to insult the SP.. it's cruel and weird..

 

[Lunaseraphim]

True that not all providers offer it.

Think I'll stick to indies all the same when and if I branch out. Even though they too may have more than one client in a row, I'm just more comfortable with what I've experienced so far. But....

Aside from certain SP who charge low and choose to see several clients in a row like a few LL and EI girls (and I know this because I've had friends who did it for various reasons), most indies from what I've noticed rarely see more than 2 or 3 clients a day, and we have plenty of time to shower in between. Most of the time I just have one client in a day, sometimes 2, rarely 3. I always take a shower before and after seeing a client to refresh myself.

All I can say is you can't expect GFE services at MP's.. I know there's one or two places where it's offered but that's far from being the norm based on what I've been told. That's even why some providers choose to work at parlours. They don't want to offer GFE. Just be prepared to pay extra or have this service refused to you. Even if a client tells you he received xyz service at an establishment like this, it's very YMMV in my experience.

 

[LC18]

My question is, if I'm not the first of her shift, is it certain the girl washed herself since the last guy? I do NOT want to eat left over condoms or worse. What's common practice?

*big sigh*

What makes you think she didn’t let her boyfriend creampie her before her first shift?


That first shift, last shift thing is always so…being the first of her shift doesn’t mean she showered before and being the last doesn’t mean she DIDN’T shower before